Hello my fellow TRP's I just discovered TRP a few months ago and i thought what better place to ask "the next move" then this subreddit. I recently had an date with a girl i've been intimate with (we slept together, just an one night stand and then a year later i finally landed a dinnerdate with her) Well i think the date went splenditely. We talked and had some laughs and had many drinks and good food. Then we went out and party'd a little bit but mostly at bars where we talked more. In the end I tested her if she would be likely to go home with me and that was not the case. But i already knew that it wasn't going to happen but you can't blame me for not trying. Right? As we departed i told her to let me know if she was interested in a second date. She replied that she wanted to do something herself. "Let the ball roll between us" is a saying in my country. Few days later i told her that she should let me know if she wanted to have an casual coffee at a café place. Very well, she replied that she would let me know, but that she was very calm about everything and that it is more comfortable that way for her. Now what is my next move? Should i just take a chill pill and let her be calm and let her come to me or should i be more aggressive and less "nice". Because i was an actual gentleman on this date. I never buy women drinks and stuff but i thought to myself i should do it with this girl. NOTE: This was my first "real" date and in my country it´s usually "Sex first and then we could maybe go out on a date" I have no problems picking up girls at a bar and i'm very confident of myself. I just have no idea how to procede at this point. Any pointers would be nice. Hope you understood my english well enough, i´m not from an english spoken country.