I'm curious what the difference is between being a) "pushy" and b) holding frame, simply being a leader and assertive. Could you give specific scenarios or language that would be (a) "pushy" versus (b) assertive?

obviously (or wtf do I know, new to this stuff maybe this isn't true) women are turned on by assertive men who hold frame - but turned off and actively avoid trying to get involved with someone pushy.