What should I do about my friend's behaviour?

redhazardlights · 2016-11-15T18:42:04+00:00

You can be an alpha and believe in those things, I hate to break it to you. If, in your social circle, those values are more acceptable, then the dude who holds them while still being better on all other fronts (looks, money, physique) will come out on top. Here's a hint: if you're good at life, you will sense what you should and shouldn't say to the people around you. So in a sense, your friend is the alpha because he knows what to say to your other friends and you, clearly, do not. What's more, he knows that he should shame you in front of them for even more points.

TLDR; Don't get mad at him, figure out how to present yourself in public.

RedSkeller · 2016-11-15T21:15:37+00:00

Take a hiatus from that group and invest in another

SexySmexxy · 2016-11-16T06:11:27+00:00

Probably find friends that agree with your bigoted viewpoints?

there's a reason when trump supporters and Hilary supporters get together as friends they probably don't talk politics for the sake of the friendship.

Either keep your bigoted (different) views to yourself or expect this guy to sell you down the river at any given opportunity

tylertgbh · 2016-11-16T06:30:10+00:00

That's a douche move on his part. Especially if he's never made the accusations to you to your face. First make sure he was talking about you, then you may have to re-evaluate your friendship. If you're that close with him it doesn't make much sense he would think those things (why is he such good friends with a racist sexist homophobe?)

Also reference the Laws of Power. I forget which one mentions it, but it says something like: You can think how you'd like in private but you should be seen to go with the crowd.

I would find it weird if gay people were suddenly allowed to get married

Lol, holy crap. I thought even rural america got over that by now. As a Canadian I have to say you'd be laughed out of a room for saying something like that here(mostly because why do you give a shit enough to be weirded out, and you must be really sheltered).

It's one thing to be conservative, but try actually fleshing out a political ideology or set of values. That could help you get some solid beliefs that you can then defend. Ie: it's one thing to say men and women are different and not agree with all of what feminism argues, but to translate that into saying unequal is a big step and I can see how it could easily be interpreted as sexism. Men and women may be different, but should they receive equal treatment before and under the law? Should the government ensure they have equal opportunities? etc. These are complicated issues and if you're going to take positions that are against the social-norm, then you ought to be able to defend your views logically and with principles.

LordThunderbolt · 2016-11-16T20:01:45+00:00

One thing that used to be preached a lot in TRP is understanding that beta male friends are a huge liability. They won't hesutate to throw you under the bus to win girl points. It used to be preached heavily around here that if your friend is extremely beta, it's best to just drop him because his world view will get u in hot shit.

You have now learned your lesson. Take the high road and approach him like a man and say " I saw a recent snap of you talking about me while I wasn't there. I never thought you could be like that man." then soft next him as a friend.

Title	What should I do about my friend's behaviour?
Author	UziNidalee
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	November 15, 2016 6:36 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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