What to talk about on dates?

UHM-7 · 2021-04-04T12:12:26+00:00

You shouldn't be constantly starting conversations on new topics. This is the mistake guys make when they try to talk to girls, or in fact when they try to talk to anyone.

Normal conversations follow threads. The conversation will start, however it does, and then the person listening picks up on something that the person talking said, and they follow that thread - either with a question or with something of their own. This takes the conversation over loads of topics. On dates, it's usually better to err on the side of letting the girl talk i.e. ask questions to get onto new topics.

As you get more 'socially intelligent' this will become easier. One of my favourite ways to thread conversations is to listen or watch for the smallest indication that the other person isn't saying everything they want to, like a certain facial expression, an emphasised word or adjective, or something in the tone of their voice.

It's like that Wikipedia game where you start on a random page and have to get to the article on Hitler with the least jumps.

michael1962-01 · 2021-04-04T12:57:38+00:00

Give them a word.

Listen to them blabbering.

Give another word.

Nodd sometimes, sometimes look astonished.

Tease and escalate.

She "what is your opinion (stupid subject)"

You "i think the match of your lipstick and shirt could be better" .....

benhurensohn · 2021-04-04T10:54:31+00:00

It's not the "what", but the "how". Those are all good and interesting things to talk about. Girls like if guys are passionate about things, so own it and try to transmit your interest in these things to her. Check out popular Ted Talks and learn how the speakers make the audience excited about their (often very mundane) topics

pyth0ns · 2021-04-04T11:29:54+00:00

You trying to fuck after the date?

Let her yap, yap, yap - showcase you want to fuck her via your body language and make quips/inuendos about letting her know you want to fuck her.

Save the talking for your bros... Your views on the moon is made out of cheese conspiracy theory will be drying her up :)

AuberyBitoni · 2021-04-04T12:04:56+00:00

Hobbies, how long she has been single for, trips she made, how she likes to spend her free time, her studies, ... anything where she can talk about herself. Just listen, make her laugh and escalate

Title	What to talk about on dates?
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Date	April 4, 2021 10:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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