English isnt my first language, so hopefully im able to string together my ideas and what i mean and form a comprehensible wall of text. This isnt solely focused on sexual/romantic relationships but rather on all relationships you have with other humans and where you draw the line. I was/still am a bit of a nice guy and someone who you could stomp all over for most of my life but now im pursuing change, so please excuse the extremely stupid situation-handling because im trying to calibrate how to deal with people and im trying to figure out when someone crosses lines that I draw.

I started wondering about this today, when my friend who we agreed we would meet at a specific time but for the millionth time shows up after 30mins and keeps me waiting forever. Its starting to get to me and ive told him before that he needs to stop this shit and be on time, but alas he never is, which got me wondering. Whats worth damaging a relationship for? Now old me would obviously not escalate this problem and just ignore the problem. But now, i feel like i need to do something about it and its just not acceptable, however i currently dont have the social skills to know when im going overboard with something and when im not. I can judge situations on the extreme ends, sleeping with a girlfriend, being an asshole to someone, or a person being a cunt in general, i know that i need to end shit with him/her. but for stuff in the middle, where personal lines and convictions start playing a huge role, i dont know if im being petty, or if being too nice. Now, dont get me wrong i realise this is an extremely vague question, but i do hope theres some sort of guideline to follow. Another example is gossip, people from my country fucking adore gossip. I hate to say it but sometimes i gossip too, however i actively try to stop myself. I think you shouldnt say shit about other people behind their backs and i think most of you would agree with it and some of you would end relationships with people because of it. Now for me, im not sure what to do, because literally everyone i know gossips. It would suck to ditch all of them. But would you do it?