Hello ASKTrp,

Though since I have been following TRP (for over two years now) and have made substantial progress. I still struggle with three addictions.

There have been times when I was able to eliminate one of the three, two of the three or for very small time due to circumstances, the three out of the three.

These three addictions ares:

Weed — a few times a week (sometimes many times a day)

Porn — a few times a week (sometimes daily, multiple times)

Cigarettes — (1 to 5 times a day)

It is difficult for me to quit all three addictions and stick with it because it is as though I am eliminating fun out of my life. I am a social person, I am physically active as well, I have a good group of friends, a good job, a good family and I am serial monogamist (plate management does not match my life goals).

The women I am with do not mind my addictions, I am only mentioning this because it is a sexual strategy forum, but otherwise, I do not care about women (because I have options thankfully).

Weed for me is a drug that I tend to easily abuse. When I get back into smoking after swearing it off forever, I enjoy the first few days, however afterwards it starts becoming an hindrance in my goals. Weed affects me socially as well, because it makes me avoid my friends that do not smoke.

Porn is easy for me to abstain from, however, after a week of abstaining I feel like jerking it and sometimes I won’t come back to it, but it is a slippery slope. It can easily go to daily a day. Something to note, when I am high it is very difficult for me to abstain from open and I jerk off just so I can sleep in peace.

Cigarettes is fine to me, because it doesn’t affect me mentally as much. The only worry for me is my health. I have good health, however, if I smoke too much I feel like I am hurting myself and then obviously that is not good for my mental health.

I can choose one addiction out of the three, because I would need something to manage the disconnect. My question to you is, which addiction would you choose?

Thank you