Why am I always thinking about my ex?

FearGarbhArMait · 2018-07-08T01:02:31+00:00

Aggressively persue other women.

Michael_D_Ward · 2018-07-08T01:02:03+00:00

Time. Your brain has become wired to think about her, and thinking about her now is only making it worse. It's a viciously cycle.

Even if you come to have no feelings for her at all, you may still think about her because you are in the habit of thinking about her. There is no easy fix. Keep busy and have new experiences without her to wire your brain differently. It takes time.

Moetheoneandonly · 2018-07-08T01:43:42+00:00

Hey man, you’re not alone. Most of us have been in that boat and some of us still are.

I’m no “Mr. have it all figured out” but I can confidently tell you that Oneitis is not good for you. Oneitis is a disease and that’s what you’re currently dealing with. Judging from your situation, there doesn’t seem to be light at the end of the tunnel. You’ll only keep walking in the dark while there’s many more better options out there for you.

My LTR cheating girlfriend left me for someone who owned a Corvette 20something new at that time and she said to me “Look Moe, he understands me better, he supports my every decision” and I failed to hold frame and acted like a commonly known beta puss and she left. It made me feel terrible, shitty. It put me in a situation filled with self doubt. I started to question my actions, I started looking at myself more in the mirror and noticed that maybe if I kept myself maintained she wouldn’t have left me. That’s where regret came in. Soon all that changed into motivation and that lead to discipline and guess what, she called me a while back stating how she made a bad decision about leaving me for that dude and how he doesn’t treat her right anymore. The funny think is I’m still not even “Alpha male” I’m pretty close to that state of mind but the work I put in this aspect shows and she saw it. After hearing her out, I just hung up the phone b/c I just didn’t want to put myself in a risky messed up spot again.

Btw, don’t rely on motivation to keep you going to the gym, motivation fades away with time but discipline stays with you. Focus on that. In fact focus on yourself. Soon confidence will take its place within and trust me it shows. Girls will notice it, they’ll start eye fucking you. Etc etc..

For now, keep doing what you’re doing in regards to lifting and focus on improvement. I bet that she’ll text you one day saying she wants to hangout again and by that time you’ll give 0 fucks about her. On the contrary, it’s totally upto you if you wana get down with her lol.

Stay strong bud!

SirKolbath · 2018-07-08T01:44:12+00:00

It's dangerous to go alone. Here, take this.

Agardek · 2018-07-08T01:03:00+00:00

Read the sidebar. Fuck 10 chicks. I doubt your oneitis will be that special after that.

Title	Why am I always thinking about my ex?
Author	Agardek
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	July 8, 2018 12:56 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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