Why I no longer Approach

herpes_delivery_man · Sun Apr 12 9:33:45 2015 UTC

Shit tests and maintaining is something you have to do the rest of your life. However once you really become alpha, it becomes second nature and you wouldn't have to consciously think about doing it. You will just do it. Naturally alpha guys who never needed the red pill do it all the time without thinking. It's actually just called being "masculine".

Morever, I used to have a girlfriend whose personality meshed very well with. Almost perfect, actually. We had a lot of common interests too, and we respected each other.

Long story short, the moment I started failing her shit tests and lost frame, the relationship began its downfall.

You can't look at women as your "equal". A man needs to lead. If you don't want to accept the truth then I guess maybe TRP isn't for you.

throwaway-aa2 · 2015-04-12T12:07:02+00:00

I wouldn't be able to have feelings for a girl I pick up off the street

it wouldn't be possible.

Looking at girls thru a TRP mentality I wouldn't be able to get that

You're allowing your emotions to get in the way of logic and then trying to represent your point logically. This is a really poor argument, and no different than a kid in 3rd grade saying he wouldn't ever get addition / multiplication. The only reason you "wouldn't", is that you have made a choice not to, not that you CAN'T, the same way a 3rd grader probably CAN get addition / multiplication, he's just is either frustrated or just doesn't want to. If you were being rational, then the proper thing to say would be "is there anyway to have feelings for a girl you pick off the street"? But you don't even care to challenge your own beliefs and pose it as a question.

Don't conflate your emotions with your rationale, EVER. If you want to swallow the blue pill, that's totally fine, you're a man and you make your own decisions ultimately. But don't sit there and try to logically justify your actions in a shitty way. Saying "I don't approach because I won't" (what your argument boils down to) is a really close minded way of going about things, because we evaluate the legitimacy of a argument by trying to use it on other logically unsound topics. "Well I can't see black people as humans because I just won't". It's the "because I said so" logic and it can be used on anything.

It's possible for me to respect a girl and have feelings for her even in RedPill. So what makes me different from you? Do you care to understand that rationally / logically, or are you just putting your fingers in your ears and going "la la la la"?

What separates me from you, is I understand one important thing: we are animals. You have requirements & expectations on you from girls, and you on them. It's a HARD HARD truth of life. The girl you have feelings for? She needs to meet your bare minimum requirements for attraction.

I've been in love before, so I know what that feels like. Have you? A woman I know was in love with me, and I loved her.

I used to always tell her.. "If I wasn't attractive to you (or I just randomly had pig tails as a hair style, haha), you would have never entertained me as a boyfriend, and if you weren't decently cute, you wouldn't be my girlfriend. Our love is based on that". And she knows that's true and admits it reluctantly (emphasis on reluctant... that is a very important part). Love has been and always will be conditional. Chemicals build up from bonding physically. So when you say you need "to have feelings for a girl", it's clear to me that you don't get it. If love is conditional, then instead of wishing it was some magical prospect, why not approach on the street and recreate it due to your own direct doing? The feelings you have for a girl that you connect with through some other medium is no more superior than a girl off of the street. You both still have requirements based on looks or whatever other arbitrary stuff. It's no different, as the other commenter on this post pointed out. You'll still deal with shit tests, etc.

2 more points.

It's not that you can't argue RedPill truths (I think thoughts & beliefs MUST be challenged if we're to be our best selves) however you need to come correct. Your argument is emotion masquerading as a coherent rational rebuttal, when it's not. Please don't mix up the two.

Lastly, don't debate RP truths in this subreddit. Go to /r/PurplePillDebate if you want to have these types of discussions (because anyone RP here is obviously in disagreement of this). This is asktrp and this isn't even close to a question or something where you're asking for other people's input. IMO this post is a close to "I disagree with RedPill" without actually coming out and saying it.

intelcorei5 · 2015-04-12T20:02:21+00:00

You'll find the girl you're looking for by continuing to date women and learn their tricks. Not by giving up on dating and hoping to trip over the perfect one.

Title	Why I no longer Approach
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Date	April 12, 2015 9:10 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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