So first for the sob story (so you guys understand where i am at). If you don't care for it read from /readfromhere I have been a major beta for most of my life. Always have been a bit akward (genius level iq will apperantly do that to you) and have been battling depression through most of my university days. At some point i discovered girls writes what, which lead me into mensrights which lead me to discover the gem that is TRP (read up on PUA in the past but that stuff never klicked because it felt fake).

So now i have been officially fired from my therapy, have a job i love, lost 25 pounds and went from "but your not fat" to "in shape" (by European standards not American standards) and after reading TRP i am starting to take my first steps into actually putting this stuff in practice. (/endsobstory)

So last night was a black tie event of my old (debating) fraternity. The room is pretty much filled with betas and 1 or 2 guys that have some game (the best of which is my room mate) and girls in evening wear. So i go around the room having fun. Talking to a few of the +1 girls that where there i am noticing my "new found powers". Without really trying i am getting some real Kino going by some of them. So far so good (i don't really care i am not stealing dates of my fraternity mates so it's all fun and games) and the music starts.

Now i am by far the best dancer in the room (learned Salsa during the last 2 years, dancing some Kizomba and always had a thing for clubbing (not the picking up girls kind but the actual dancing kind)) even in my most beta days girls would come up and tell me i am a good dancer. So i am the light of the party and loving it.

(and finally he is starting to get somewhere with this story). /readfromhere So these two girls are on the dancefloor. I have known them both for years and i have had some run ins mostly ending exactly the way the ended last night. The one is quite hot (best looking girl in the debating fraternity) but has a boyfriend who is a good friend of mine. The other is cute, and i had something of a crush on her a couple of years ago. The hot one and me flirt all the time but it's really clear where the line is and as i am the most fun on the dancefloor she starts to gravitate towards me. I dance with the two for a while and then switch to other people or go outside for a break etc etc. at some point the dancing starts to evolve into grinding by both of the girls and since i am not going after the hot one i decide to see how far i can go with the other one.

What happens is the same thing that has happened a couple of times before (with the exception that this time i didn't care (i am writing this epistel to understand what happened not because i am buthurt)). Things progress, dancing gets closer and closer. The hot friend clearly leaves us alone on purpose giving me a look like "go for it" and then all of a sudden the girl gets spooked and rushes to her girlfriend (subsequently leaving the room). Because i knew this was likely to happen i kept the first two times the hot girl left us alone short and moved on but even so the familiar thing happened at some point.

So what is this behavior? What would be a good way to deal with it? Also any glaring "dude you really shouldn't do this" advice is always welcome. It's a learning process so i need some feedback on that aswell.

Thanks, and sorry for the wall of text.