Wrong feeling about inviting girls over that aren't my fwb

deeznutsbeswingin · 2020-04-14T14:51:54+00:00

You need to decide that you’re worthy of multiple women. Your fwb doesn’t own exclusive rights to your dick, you do. So you can do whatever you want with it and she’ll have to be ok with that. It’ll make her want you more anyway

redhawkes · 2020-04-14T15:02:27+00:00

It gives me a wierd feeling, and even feels a bit wrong to invite another girl over,

Yea, it's called oneitis. Spin more plates until the bloop bitch in you dies. You're not exclusive with her, she's probably doing the same.

ThrowawayYAYAY2002 · 2020-04-14T17:33:17+00:00

Congratulations! You've fell for your FWB.

May as well make it official with her now, OP.

i-am-the-prize · 2020-04-14T18:30:51+00:00

just posted this on another thread, but you need to read it...

source: http://archive.is/CJqt5 and note:

"What Plate Theory is not

My critics will often take a binary stance in their arguments with this idea citing that “they could never be with more than one woman at a time out of respect for her” or “so I should just lie to her and see other girls on the side?” To which I’d argue that these are feminized social conventions that attempt to thwart a man’s options in order to establish women as the prime selectors in intersexual relations. If it can be conditioned into a boy/man to ‘feel bad’ about seeing more than one woman at a time, it only better serves the female-as-chooser dynamic*. To be sure, women are naturally the ﬁlters for their own intimacies, but it is essentially men who do the sexual selection. These convention’s latent purpose are designed to put selection of intimacy on a conditional basis that favors women, and as long as men will internalize this women will have a pre-constructed social high-ground.*

The way to circumvent this dynamic is brutal honesty and a commitment to truthful, nonexclusivity with the plates you’re spinning. If you keep your options above board and are honest with any one girl and yourself about your choice to be non-exclusive, you not only remove the teeth from this convention, but you also reinforce yourself as a man with options (or at least perceived options). Further, critics will oﬀer “well gee, if I did that with any woman she’d push oﬀ and dump me” to which I’ll refute – not if you establish this honestly from the outset. Most guys who’ve swallowed the ‘female power’ convention are too afraid or to preconditioned to even consider this as an option for seeing women. Letting a woman know, or covertly perceive, that you wont be exclusive to her pushes your commodity level up and implies options and potential success she’ll compete with other women to be associated with."

Domebeers · 2020-04-14T23:15:38+00:00

lol ok sally

Title	Wrong feeling about inviting girls over that aren't my fwb
Author	SauvageA
Upvotes	0
Comments	7
Date	April 14, 2020 2:46 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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