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Here's an example without it: Relationship: I lead. Its natural at this point. I find her calling me randomly to get my opinion on things. Whether she's ensuring I know how busy she is making our home/house/life better - fine. Or she's awaiting my input knowing it will be a better outcome... either is better than in years past: a power play where she'd hide purchases, or make decisions which would be specifically counter to previous discussions. (what's interesting is: a year ago, my ego would h…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 02:30 PM
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I never read your reply from 13 days ago. I read it now. you stated: "I wanted an open door policy and didn't want to just spring it out of nowhere with no heads up and fuck up my living situation." maybe when you say: "open door policy" you meant "so i could keep fucking her" (?) but that's not what I got the first time from your OYS, nor on your reply ("fuck up my living situ"). if you were being transactional, say so. own it. why pussy foot around some pussy? but yes, it was a covert contract…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:28 PM
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unapologetic authenticity yes. driven from a place of true desire - not ego driven "filling a hole left by mommy" but from conscious choice derived priorities, it's an odd sense of both "letting go" and "extreme ownership" at the same time... Letting go of others opinions. Owning and caring for one's own, instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 06:38 PM
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I gave her a say on whether or not I bring over women over because I expected to keep having sex with her LOL I think you replied to me b/c it was to support her... I am not sure how a guy goes from sex-with-LTR to treating an EX-LTR as a plate. I haven't tried that in > 20 yrs. but the 'old me' of then couldn't do it. I was always a cut-ties guy. GL.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 05:58 PM
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Why is this a primary goal, why are you worried about changing other people good call. his primary goal should be modulating his emotions, be it through stoicism or meditation or CBT or mindfulness or some 'meta' breaking of his fight-flight reaction. being only reactionary is the sign of a low life form, destined to do nothing but blow the wind, sway in the current, bend under load. ​ OP, instead of "be(ing) mad at myself for unwanted behavior" - obeserve it, note it (literally in a journal) th…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 05:44 PM
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OYS #26 Stats: me: and wife late 40's, together >20yrs. 4 kids 12-17, I lift 4x a week and cardio the other 3 days. 5'11" 222~ 15% BF per dexascan, 1200# club. Sidebar: - Started implementing the new Meditation texts, audiobooking sidebar classics while doing cardio. Business: solid. working on new product launch. Health: The cardio is getting nearly comfortable, on a 'plan' to increase ability timed with a competition in early next year. Making progress. Haven't missed a day/workout yet. Stayin…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 02:13 PM
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people overestimate what they can do in one year, but underestimate what they can do in ten.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/21 02:55 PM
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Tell me whose this pussy is this I like it. Not a question, it's a command, and still gets her involved by requiring a response. I did a few of my own since Tuesday's post and had fun with them. Beyond doing them for myself, I've found that there's a distinction between doing them and seeing a real effect vs. validation seeking. When I ramp it up verbally, she responds both physically (intensity, clamping on my junk) and verbally in return- both of which turns me on - so it's a positive feedback…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 06:13 PM
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and while doing all of this wear a camo bandana, tank top and hold an M60.
/r/askMRP13/10/21 08:19 PM
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Yes, one of Rollo's Iron Rules. And indifference game works very well in early/casual relationships. But being only indifferent when in an LTR comes off as weak; ie: you're afraid to anger your wife? you avoid her? you walk on eggshells? you pretend to not care? "i'm not pretending to not care!" oh really, you don't mind being a sexless man in an LTR? Control Game is what works for LTRs, not flat out indifference only. from: https://archive.is/cwE1H "..Chad doesn't have clever techniques for mak…
/r/askMRP13/10/21 07:26 PM
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the problem is you went from dating/non-commital to LTR and emotional investment 'too soon' and that has nothing to do with the amount of time. "too soon" = any amount of time before you value yourself fully any amount of time before you understand your value will increase while hers will decrease any amount of time without ensuring you do not NEED her and only want her in your life any amount of time before you understand: aloof game (ngaf) works well for casual level things, but is incomplete …
/r/askMRP13/10/21 07:08 PM
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the key is 'almost' ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 02:58 PM
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the last time I got a non logistics justified 'no' (honestly maybe in early '20?) I simply said: "ok" and texted a friend and went out for a beer. (her: wut? me: not tired, see you in the morning) Consider that instead of doing what you did. Your ability to delay gratification, for your own benefit, and let her hamster understand she is not your only option (even if not true yet) for smiles, is a better use of your time and hand (holding a beer). do you have male friends whom you can text at a m…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 02:16 PM
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OYS #25 Stats: me: and wife late 40's, together >20yrs. 4 kids 12-17, I lift 4x a week and cardio the other 3 days. 5'11" 224~ 15% BF per dexascan, 1200# club. (updated my stats - been on a caloric surplus for 2 months and gained lean and adipose tissue; been doing much more lifting volume of lower weights, aimed at hypertrophy, so lowered my big-3 estimate as well) Sidebar: - Still reading some Meditation texts and going back to old school Napoleon Hill Business: Added another hire this month, …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 02:09 PM
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Just lost weight, yup. every angry incel who's overweight: jawline.... whah!!!! dicksize... whaaa!!!! if you got to 12% BF both would change for the better. multiple chins and a male fupas does nothing to get you laid or show off your assets. get off your fat asses losers. congrats OP!
/r/TheRedPill11/10/21 04:01 PM
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"It's simple, but it's not easy" I've lost a lot of fat in the last few years (ie: more than a russian gynmast) and put on >25# of muscle. So when people see me anew and ask: "WTF, how did you do it?!?" "It's simple, but it's not easy" Actions, effort, habits, priorities, discipline, and behaving differently than the person who got into that sorry state is all it took. Simple, right? Easy vs. hard doesn't matter in the end. Results do. Be kinetic. It's what works, provides for feedback loops, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/21 01:54 PM
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Yes. And there is a fine line between "living to not lose" and "living to win" But it's a critical distinction.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/21 01:15 PM
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I would then get resentful the effort wasn't rewarded. one of the last things for me to put down, was the resentment of being a high earner in a marriage that led me here (high earner, solid dad, 1x a week sex, some choreplay, some disrespect, zero actual Respect and Admiration, blah blah, usual story). Yes, yes, relationship equity. Yes, Briffaults Law.... But my resentment was seething.... until it wasn't. ​ Context: I have lost 120# in 4 years. I have gained > 25# of muscle in 3 years. It is …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 06:23 PM
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thank you for sharing your post from March 2021. My Nuggets: anthropomorphizing helps 'address' the demon negative feedback isn't negative it's natural corrective input self control, is primary, and unlike controlling nature, is possible things get interesting when another's nature and your own interests conflict (riverbank redirecting) here is where adherence to your worldview and agency, by also respecting your nature and reality, translates into RP's Frame learn to separate the nature and rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 06:00 PM
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Stop trying to tend to my partners every need, do the things I want to do, because I want to do them. Not because I want to keep her 'happy' - she will be fine without me constantly asking if she needs anything. even that isn't fully right. the strikethrough needs to be well understood for you to fully committed to yourself. You need to do what you need to do, for you, even if she wouldn't be fine. I'm not saying rambo, but mentally the priority needs to be you right now. (secret benefit: when y…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 04:42 PM
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Who knew all you needed to do was to compare your self to others to to establish your own self worth I disagree. The key is: he's secure enough being around guys who are 'better than him' in some things some dudes truly aren't he's humble enough to identify when he's not the best at something he's not so self-deprecating to know when he is actually the apex at the time (big fish in small pond) aka: a situational alpha it's not the end-all state of being, but it shows self awareness, lack of inse…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 08:12 PM
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congrats on the freedom. not sure why you asked her permission about bringing chicks over. personally I liekly wouldn't bring them when she's around for the sake of not setting off an 'ex' with trashing the joint (i assume shared interest in equity if not just the security deposit)- it' not like gas station girl or her ilk don't have a pad, too. that was an odd stand out in your post. breakfast, fine. cordial, fine. "I decided to give XW a say in whether or not I bring other women over" wut? did…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 07:55 PM
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good stuff. and the key is not reactionary ultimatums. rather: earn your own self respect first know that what you want is valuable on its own, because you are valuable on your own actually know what you want articulate what you want, your vision, your: "I'm headed that way, get on broad if you want to come with" there is no need for "or else" statements, that is implied and inconsequential to both why you're going that way or (gasp) still going if she's not coming do not DEER why you want this …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 07:48 PM
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"there’s no such thing as something negative a woman can do that is neither my fault nor divorce-worthy?" that's not what you asked/wrote. clearly there is behavior which disqualifies a woman for any type of LTR commitment. you said: "At what point is it ok to simply expect better of my wife" this reeks of covert contracts, have you read NMMNG? I answered that question, when you deserve better by earning it - independent of her. and further below about Boundaries and clearly stating the terms of…
/r/askMRP05/10/21 01:34 PM
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"All I know is that it’s my problem, something I'm struggling greatly with, and a problem I need to overcome for the sake of my relationship." no. I stopped reading there. Here is what you need to internalize: "All I know is that it’s my problem, something I'm struggling greatly with, and a problem I need to overcome for the sake of my own well being" Start on the sidebar.
/r/askMRP04/10/21 08:09 PM
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You state boundaries. The carrot/stick here is: your affection, attention, time and resources - their sharing or withdrawal So, if you are a high value (attractive) man, the first 3 have weight - she would miss them and you. If you are low value (not attractive, needy, mentally-weak/no-frame, not sexy, physically weak) she may be actually relieved not have your 'affection/attention/time' around her. You decide the life you want. You decide the treatment in your life from those around you, the pe…
/r/askMRP04/10/21 08:00 PM
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https://therationalmale.com/2014/11/14/mental-point-of-origin/
/r/askMRP04/10/21 07:49 PM
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my wife suggested "couples therapy" around the same time I found TRP/MRP. My BP mind thought: Although it would've been 'cool' to be proven right, or so I thought at the time. (ICM's point above) I had done enough reading and reflecting to know she was dealing with long hidden baggage that needed addressing.... Thankfully, I countered with: go see a therapist on your own, first, to deal with your shit - b/c I'm dealing with mine; after that if you still want couples therapy, I'll consider it. Di…
/r/askMRP04/10/21 07:44 PM
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Thanks for providing the links. Maybe she’ll read them and stop conflating her personal preferences, with those of many which are well known and observed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:10 AM
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“ What are standards you have for men” It’s still a question for women of their standards for men. Regardless of trying to rationalize it because the original OP asked for salacious examples, the bottom line it was still women answering. So none of your rationalization is gonna take away the fact that women feel like this and are willing to put it in writing thanks to anonymity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:32 AM
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srsly, why were you changing your underwear? WHY?!?
/r/askMRP30/09/21 02:27 PM
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you're so needy i just lost my post-workout chubbie reading your post. "women want to fuck a guy who other guys wanna be and who other women want to fuck" nobody here wishes they were you how many other women want to fuck you, bonus: the she sees them wanting to fuck you? likely also none
/r/askMRP30/09/21 02:24 PM
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Resist the urge to white knight, and Careteke In general: I do not comfort self-induced wounds She’s got some built in routines: 1- lecturing “see why that was stupid?” Will be blocked by her ego, 2- the “tantrum child” seems to find less utility in their tantrums when there is no audience participation. (Arguing back or Comfort to their own tantrum, etc)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 04:18 AM
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good post. and yes to Charles Duhigg, his Habits book is rock solid. compounding interest works in more than just monetary tools. Adherence to a plan or program is critical for intended outcomes. [so those who secretly want/need to fail will find themselves not adhering, by design, to protect their egos' from the risk of failure] those that want to win, will be consistent in their adherence
/r/TheRedPill28/09/21 06:51 PM
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I spat my drink when i saw 19.9% and thought of kmart blue light special. ngl. "Stop worrying about your wife's hairy snatch. You don't deserve shaved pussies, that's why you don't get them." Truth. And when I decided I wanted my LTR this way, I tied her up and shaved her. She squealed and claimed it was 'not nice' trying to suppress giggles... not a shock, guess who brings it up as a fond memory? Guess who does it herself, without being asked to? OP, you must be a man worthy of the bene's, only…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 06:27 PM
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nice job. mindfulness/awareness/observing - without anger and judgement is a great foundation then it grows from there, as you note. we've been programmed, wrongly. observing your actions/thoughts and their focus, allows your front brain to insert itself and steer things toward what you want, not just what groves you've worn over your years of shit self-training. build new groves, thoughtfully, with yourself as your point of origin, and your own outcome as the priority - and life is completely d…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 02:30 PM
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I find it really hard to provide comfort when she's acting like a bitch why do you feel the need to comfort a woman acting bitch(y) towards you? do you think that by comforting her, she'll love you? how many times have you read NMMNG? read it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 01:41 PM
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keep going. the headspace work and soccer mom validation are established landmarks on the path. just know it gets even better.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 01:34 PM
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OYS #24 Stats: me: and wife late 40's, together >20yrs. 4 kids 12-17, I lift 4-5x a week and cardio 3+ days. 5'11" 215 ~ 13% BF per dexascan, 1300# club. Sidebar: - Still reading some new Meditation texts and going back to old school Napoleon Hill Business: Busy, good, busy. Health: The cardio isn't as fun as lifting. No surprise there. Recovery from both at same time is a little more challenging. Focusing on sleep and food and resting on rest days. Mental: Good few weeks. Staying present. Obser…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 01:30 PM
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nostalgic. I miss your mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 01:53 PM
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Lol he literally said “large labia” 3x In a thread about- as you point out- male insecurity. Then you did once. Inception level swoosh. At least I asked him what happened to him
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 03:53 AM
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I am a straight male. When I was dating these were my personal turn offs (besides common ones like being rude to wait stuff, etc): dirty or unkempt fingernails (no bonus points for French manicures or acrylic or anything flashy like that) but a woman with untidy fingernails has in my experience a higher chance of having a less than ideally maintained cooch. bad teeth. Its a microcosm for habits, priorities, hygiene, even hints to lack of financial means for acute repair. gets drunk on date. unab…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 03:31 AM
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You keep saying “large labia” over and over. Would you please just call the meat curtains and tell us what happened to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 03:02 AM
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The Emotional stability portion of that section of the book Focuses most on avoiding people with addictions or true diagnosed or undiagnosed mental disorders. Sure avoiding insecure or dramatic people regardless of your relationship with them also has benefits. But he’s talking about some thing a little bit more serious/with more serious downsides. (The guys who had the BPD stories that actually married these women, for example) The maturity thing to me manifests in ways which can be seen. By ob…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/21 02:57 AM
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You’re right to be offended. I was told this when I was younger. (High school some college) I was told: “you’ll make someone very happy someday” And the classic: “I wish I’d met you when I was older” And this was not by women who were dying to have sex with me/ actively having sex with me. At the time I found it unsettling and oddly insulting but I couldn’t put my finger on it. My very rational and very male mind simply thought: “ if I’m good enough for a relationship later I’m not sure why I’m …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:51 AM
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b/c I want to get this shit out of my head. then journal. observe/witness, judge less. stop using your wife's actions/reactions as a measure of your progress. your wet-paper-bag frame and fragile ego are the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 06:54 PM
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if your goal is weightloss ok. if your goal is also getting stronger/hypertrophy, do add some calories back. losing weight quickly also can lead to lose skin. i went from a 52" to 34" waist and I attribute my lack of lose skin to not rushing it and giving my fleshsuit time to shrink along the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 01:42 PM
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Actually Icelandic. They love tourists. But are actually quite proud of their "pure" lineage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 04:41 PM
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context: I am in an LTR now, 4 kids, married nearly 20 yrs. It made me pickier for sure. Things I filtered*** for: low self esteem (may be fun to play with in your early years, but shit for an LTR) aligned values reasonable N count (the 2 first above, where I wasn't' their first affair both claimed to have "over 50" partners) the others were the usual 5-10, who shared, *** but filtering only gets you so far. People grow, they change, and co-habitating can make anyone less sexy (the mystery is go…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 12:57 PM
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I was “the other man” in my 20’s with half a dozen or more married women, and one newly engaged before she was married. Like hell I asked at first but eventually I was curious and asked. but many needed to justify things to me and pillow talked (or dashboard talked as car sessions weren’t unusual) so it would come out. Like a shame response. 1- validation. “ to know I still had it” from several 2- actual good sex (they were physically - dissatisfied with their current partner) - from several ^ t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 03:45 AM
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I already read the stuff about her travel mate which is why my reply was mostly for others. And your second reply were you mentioned the money, you were just DEERing- you guys could be deca- millionaires and you’d still be uncomfortable with this trip. But the overall message of boundaries was for you as well. Your last sentence is honest, probably the most honest thing you’ve written on this whole post. Put it this way your post is equivalent to a guy who is currently in a bar about to get an a…
/r/askMRP22/09/21 02:57 AM
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my LTR has done girls trips. and will do more in the future, there's a few things that I've laid out as boundaries which had zero push back, and some she thanked me for stating. no 1+1 trips, especially when the other woman is single wants to play ideally you know the other couple IRL. This has been the case with me 100% of the time. often the husbands will do a BBQ or sports event back in our home town no trips to anywhere we have on our bucket list (some of her GF's had South of France, Turks …
/r/askMRP21/09/21 06:09 PM
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good job on getting laid. know that when you stop noticing how easy it is, that's where you want to be. red-knighting.... you can use phrases to test the waters. and just be there for him when it goes tits-up. i have a large group of very tight (30+yr friends) and have only brought 2 to the sidebar. several others need it desperately, but I just can't trust them to STFU and have the guts to take ownership of their lives. it would be wasted on most.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 01:52 PM
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She says she talked to her friends about frequency and none of them are doing it more than 2x a week. Well as long as her friends are happy with your sex life, that's all that really matters. this. the very same woman who would say the same shit to me a few years ago (shaming: "I think somethings wrong with you, I talk to my friends and they don't do it more than once or twice a week...") now gladly has sex with me 4-7x a week with some 2-a-days. you know what did NOT move the needle? more talki…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 01:47 PM
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definitely lift with a base program for a while, do a mix of low impact cardio and occasional HIIT/Tabata, and do some meditation, and get your diet on point; AND your sleep habits settled - before you start any depression meds. get your other inputs dialed before you introduce prescriptions. you'll find your natural Testosterone boost from those other factors can help the mind get out of a funk.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 01:42 PM
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So I’m weighing all my meals and logging them in MyFitnessPal and Lo and behold lost over a kilo in the last week. good. the other thing I'd recommend, when your watch/fitbit/whatever say you burned 350 calories that hour of dog walking, adjust it to be 75% of the total in your food budget. you can't not have some extra, I tried that and it hurt growth and recovery from lifting. But just don't trust the caloric burn estimates from devices. too much variance. so put in a 25% safety factor and you…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 01:41 PM
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Many self reported introverts are not. They are just awkward and scared and socially stunted. A handsome and not shy “introvert” would be just fine. I think it’s a crutch used by people who are too scared or lazy to put effort into changing. “ you see I’m an introvert!” Whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 03:21 AM
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Isn’t it amazing? The questions that come out of their mouths sometimes. Whether it’s simply a need for additional validation (beyond simply choosing her), or true insecurity looking for additional reinforcement and comfort. But you’ll notice it’s not just the 5, 6’s and sevens who have these insecurities- all women do. Once you banged to 9+ and realize they all have similar hangups you stop to put the hot ones on the pedestal. Which actually makes you even more attractive to them….. Congrats on…
/r/TheRedPill21/09/21 03:07 AM
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but, but, it's the only home I know....
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/21 07:58 PM
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It's overt A&A with a bit of an indirect pressure flip mixed in. I agree. I got a parallel example. pre covid, holidays' 2019, kinda formal end of year party. danced a bit with LTR. (i can dance) she's 'ok' and too self conscious when sober to do more than one dance, because people will start looking. Her: of course my friends all saw and think you're a great dancer me: thanks (but I did NOT reflexively compliment her, unlike OP) her: they think you're so great.... me: keep dancing with me or on…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/21 07:55 PM
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"Not giving a shit does not magically make you more desirable" actually it does. "indifference game" is quite functional during the pre-commitment (audition phase) of relationships (plating, FB's, etc) some would say it's the most important part of externally communicating HV and internally not catching oneitis. "you cannot negotiate desire" is about limbic arousal and unconscious attraction. usually meaning "from the woman to the man" in RP circles. it's also meant to tell guys to STFU and stop…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/21 07:48 PM
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good post. I think that Chronic Misery is actually a byproduct of the modern age. Truly, if people had less time to think about how much everyone else has, and spent more time on just surviving (sustenance) it would be less common. I heard our modern chronic diseases (diabetes, heart disease, metabolic syndrome, obesity) well described as: "diseases of excess" vs. the diseases in the 3rd world are from Lack (lack of pesticides, nutrients, vaccines, clean water). I think Chronic Misery is also a …
/r/TheRedPill20/09/21 06:54 PM
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My mission to stop being a damn push over translation: "i want to stop losing" no. you need to start winning. the mind doesn't understand "dont" statements for goals as well as non-neg ones, (example: don't think of a pink elephant!) instead of "i want to stop being a damn pushover" "I will be strong" Tyred is right, seems like comfort/leadership seeking vs. a shittest. But you have to be ready to endure short term "she doesn't like" (me/my short term actions) to get to the goals you want. And i…
/r/askMRP20/09/21 06:27 PM
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you're quoting ACT scores and your GPA... so you're young. your peer women at uni want 'cute and popular' But as you mature, part of your allure - since your point is all about attraction - will have more to do with your tacit utility, not just your handsome face. The tender protector role isn't jut BB it's AF in that it has to do with ferocity and ability to put down competition. So I suggest you lift, use your uni gym to build a good base, get some myonuclie growth going, it's how you'll be ab…
/r/TheRedPill20/09/21 05:48 PM
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wheymen. Strength is a choice. The physical progress can feed the mental progress; since as your 'outside changes' your self image changes. Self Image has been determined to control even what one thinks is possible - the extent of one's reality. forget 'confidence'. It's about actual limits you unconsciously self-impose through a shit self image. Then as your mental strength gainz begin to solidify, other areas of your life become less heavy. What you used to dread or find taxing, you find munda…
/r/TheRedPill20/09/21 03:17 PM
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several stages of 'power' in a relationship: ​ meetup until sex: she has the power sex until commitment: he has the power monogamy: she has the power** monogamy+financial ties: she has the power** **means for traditional BP guys. so is staying at stage 2 'easier' ? yes. but if she cuts off the sex, you withdraw affection, then attention, then time, and finally resources. Men have the power to walk away. What we focus on is our Gold, by how we ration our Time, Effort and Attention. The point is: …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 05:54 PM
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yup, and the irony: the weakness that allowed things to get to this point is now going to be further challenged because he has inertia and 'bad training' against him. early and swift boundaries are the way to go. they are 'scary' if you're weak and lack abundance, but they are what keeps sanity. by being "non-confrontational" and "well, she had a hard week" (DEERing for her) - you will only make your own life more terrible and the road to living a good life worse.
/r/askMRP17/09/21 02:31 PM
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Now with that understanding the test becomes easier to pass, because what was once masculine disrespect has become feminine desire for reassurance. good stuff. this is an important shift of mindset that men need to make - and leads back to basic soundbites that people keep ignoring/forgetting: ​ she's the oldest teenager in the house she's an emotional being add 'right now' to the end of everything she says no relationship equity she defines reality by her feelings at the moment
/r/askMRP17/09/21 02:27 PM
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right. i was reading and seeing his awakening and all of a sudden he rolls over and fucks the very same woman who tried to get him evicted by police. I just don't' get some guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 08:21 PM
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have you seen Eric Hemls' pyramid of training? it reads "bottom up" but i'll list it in order of importance Adherence Volume, Intensity, Frequency Progression Exercise selection Rest periods Tempo supplements #1 is #1 for a reason. Habits define the man. There's a similar one for weight loss: calorie/energy balance macro nutrients/fiber micronutrients/water nutrient timing/meal freq supplements
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 05:50 PM
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you rage because deep down you know you aren't doing all you can. period. but part of you likes holding back.... the part that thinks: "I could do it if i really wanted to and really tried, but I haven't really tried so i'm actually safe even though I'm not victorious" how about you actually lay it all on the line for once and see what happens? scary thought: you may come up short. who cares. improve and try again. but not giving it your full attention, effort, and intensity is a cowards way out…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 05:40 PM
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and have been taking it all in for 1.5 years now. ah, then your comments align more with that timeline.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 01:59 PM
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hold onto this resolute feeling. make a plan as if she didn't exist. keep it private. do not "show her!" or try to look smart or win for your ego, in anything other than divorce if that's your road ahead.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 06:35 PM
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those shitty-comfort tests sound eerily familiar - I swear chicks are a hive mind. You're too new to this process to know if she'll yet follow your lead. They have this "wait and see" mindset, to see if you're serious, if this is just a fad or really you. It has to be real and natural and (seasonally?) permanent for it to sink in. But the good news is: it doesn't matter (what she thinks). What matters is killing your ego and the covert contract of: "I'm now awesome she must luv me fully!" Read t…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 06:29 PM
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and I told her that I find her more attractive the way she looks now. no. you told her it wasn't necessary :) A bit of strength training on a smaller woman can be good for her bone density, gets her Testosterone up for good sessions after the gym and, again, allows you to lead. I personally like most of my gym sessions alone, without my LTR, it's my time. But have found, on average, when I allow her to join, there are other benefits after the gym. Good job on the abs. It's the 2nd place women lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 06:07 PM
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OYS #23 Stats: me: and wife late 40's, together >20yrs. 4 kids 12-17, I lift 4x a week and cardio the other 3 days. 5'11" 215 ~ 13% BF per dexascan, 1300# club. Sidebar: going off the reservation - Reading some new Meditation texts. Business: Getting into larger accounts... getting exciting. Health: Adding more cardio lately, with a secondary "don't lose strength or size" goal, Would like to hit 10% BF in 6 months. Mental: I've tried meditating a few times. Didn't stick. Trying again but differe…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 05:54 PM
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Had a bit of a comfort test around her body after swimming, she was commenting that I have gotten into really good shape and wants to try to work on her own body more, which I told her I don’t think is really necessary. Why was this your response? Even if technically accurate (not being 'necessary'). She wants to follow your lead. It's an opportunity to Game, flirt, and lead.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 04:55 PM
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as you note he gets it wrong. but what he has correct is the utility of these spaces. After reading: "The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business" what struck me was his takeaway of why 12 step programs work, when they do. it's the "faith" part. but not 'faith' in deity existence, rather through community, fellowship, storytelling: "I've seen Bob change, I know it's possible, ergo, I can also change" That's a huge leap, that an addict can decide that they too can change. There …
/r/TheRedPill14/09/21 04:04 PM
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If that's all it takes to run her off, she's already gone. preach.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 01:14 PM
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I find that insecure women make shit LTRs. The book's view of materialists and insecure women and good-girl/bad-girl has value. In the end: how you lead, how you behave, how you execute your vision, and how well you set and enforce boundaries will win the day. But similarly to the post I made about the book: "The tactical Guide to Women, How men can manage risk in Dating and Marriage" in the main sub, knowing what behaviors some women tend towards can be a helpful filter for FWB or LTR selection…
/r/askMRP13/09/21 01:48 PM
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correct, at this point, you're on stage and cameras are rolling. a boundary statement, since that's what you're asking for, for next time, would have been: "when I'm in a relationship, I work out issues maturely and move on; and I expect the same from my 'partner'/LTR" (using language she's familiar with) and then STFU and eject. It trains her, to know what your expectations are, and where the boundary lies - the benefit to complying: is being in an LTR with you. This is why "don't be un-atttrac…
/r/askMRP13/09/21 01:21 PM
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for many women it's sport. for most it's the thrill and validation of being wanted (external validation = female reward system). for some it is a filter for only being with men who are assertive and not afraid of rejection. (she has less desire for the soft/weak men) the third one I respect most. whether the woman rationalizes it with: "my mom always told me to smile and be friendly, but I cannot be the one to go up to him nor call him first" (actual feedback on more than one occasion). ie: good…
/r/askMRP10/09/21 12:53 PM
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Please .. keep talking about how more words solved your relationship problems i love this place.
/r/askMRP09/09/21 04:20 PM
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" couple minutes later I see another girl, blonde hair blue eyes walking down the street. I tell her hey and she keeps walking.. I say it again a little louder and she takes acouple more steps (like 5 feet away from me) and she turns around and says what with a straight ass face. Must have been a rough day so I just said I was saying hi and have a good day. Next." ​ have you read the post about raising your hand in a 'stop' like gesture before speaking to them? a brother posted how he picked up …
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 03:20 PM
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Well I've had on occasion older men ask me out and I find it both creepy and bizarre. there we go. projection and confirmation bias are real. just know it's not what others all see. i know my buddies aren't the norm. never said they were. and the feeling you have isn't shared by all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 01:35 PM
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actually it does. the OP should have said: "why do fat, soft, non-high value older men 'push' for dating younger women" the non-fat, non-soft, ones - it's pull. we don't have to push. so by not qualifying she began using broad strokes. the fact that my/my friends may not be the middle of a bell curve isn't the point. the point is: Age has less to do with stunting attraction (women to men) than OP seems to think. Should a woman find a HVM who is < 10 yrs apart? sure. I think that to raise a famil…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 01:33 PM
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his anecdotal experience likely includes quite well off UMC or higher guys. yes. as i said we have pro sport team tickets together, we are far from poor. we have nice cars, but not Ferrari/Lambo types (unless you have fuckyou money, they are not a good investment); we have boats/vacation homes- but not megayatchs. We hit our peak earning years and have assets. but we also are social and fit. Example: A day on the water can be a great diversion from life's grind. I was at a smoothie place 2 weeks…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 01:29 PM
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what women want is only half the equation. it's what these guys want (and the point of your post) which you seem to be willfully ignoring. these guys either have grown kids (1 of the 3) or never wanted kids (the lifelong bachelor and one divrocee) they do not want to split half their assets. they are not looking for monogamy. and without wanting kids, no desire for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 01:21 PM
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They will when you were quoting marriage age gap stats and I’m talking about the dating sexual marketplace which is a more accurate representation of attraction. Hence misapplied.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:32 AM
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You keep saying “push”. Studies have shown for years that men of all ages are attracted to and aroused by women in their early 20s. The fertility draw is real. I posted above some first person observations in my small data set of three friends around 50 who date women 20+ years the junior- and yes continue to do so during Covid. Even when restaurants were closed they would use bumble/hinge/tinder to Match, then vet using FaceTime and then invite these single women to their beautiful homes which …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:18 AM
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I have 3 good male friends who are single. 2 divorced (49 and 53) and one a lifelong bachelor (who is 51). All 3 date women ages 25-45. Usually ~30. That’s 20 years their junior. For years I have shared professional sports tickets with them in a block so we go out as groups so these are not some online friends but actual IRL people I spend dinners and bar time and sports arena time with. They have no desire to marry these women and they are very clear about that. They are brutally honest in thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:04 AM
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username checks out. note that both of your bullets have "other people" as actors... in a post about Frame. Frame is internal strength of will, worldview and outlook - it's the reality you mold and hold; your will which you exert purposefully and kinetically on the universe.. It's about YOU. You must trust your own self for it to exist and be a force to resist buckling, and to be non reactionary and steadfast in holding Frame. have you read The Rational Male? start there.
/r/askMRP08/09/21 08:23 PM
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i remember working along side some linux admins 25 yrs ago. an intern (female) was hired as a favor to some exec at the company (his neice) because "she like computers". when she asked, via all-group email blast an inconsequential typical noob question and was told via email reply all "RTFM" she cried. and complained. an almost got the lead sysadmin canned. 'hurtful words won't be tolerated' was the edict from on high. regardless of their utility it seems. OP: are you a 19 yr old girl playing in…
/r/askMRP08/09/21 08:20 PM
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everyone has their demons. but "one bite at a time" applies to dealing with one's shit and eating an elephant. I began my fitness path before I found TRP, so I had a head start to "DYEL f@aggot?" But there is no way I'd be able to do the other, harder, internal things if i was still > 45% BF and a 300# walking coronary with metabolic syndrome - like I was a few years ago. Simply put, a fit body is in one's control. Being strong(er) is in one's control. As you realize your agency extends also int…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 07:55 PM
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yes, the negative feedback loop is real.. but inconsequential in the end. bitches be cray. meaning, YOU need to fix YOURSELF. You need to be able to look in the mirror and give an AM smirk because you know you're a badass and proud of yourself. Kill the ego and need for external validation. Foster an immutable sense of self. YOU become a heavy and dense ass neutron star, attracting all matter (good and bad) towards you, simply through your nature, and then YOU decide who and what is allowed into…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 06:09 PM
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it's a tongue-in-cheek way of saying: not only won't I not stop you from leaving, I'll facilitate the logistics. one of the OG EC's used to say: "I'll throw in the truck" if his current woman was hit on by another dude. look, I am still married because on balance it's a good thing for me. but as patrice says: "when she knows you will righteously leave, she will righteously stay" overcoming the mental barrier of: "i am ready to walk" disarms the nuke women hold over "good men", namely the threat …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 05:49 PM
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the inner game is the toughest to win. keep going, break those shitty habits that you've ingrained over decades of shit thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 05:26 PM
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You're right: I cannot exert absolute control 'over her' - only my reaction to the world around me. Some things are uncontrollable (weather), but... People fall into a special category, you can't quite control them (like yourself), but you can influence how they treat you, and steer them a bit, and eject (withdraw) to correct poor behavior - and always enforce boundaries. Agreed on the latter: admiration and respect are tied to someone who will appreciate being led (no woman will follow a man wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 05:23 PM
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I said "I am not feeling this right now, all these rules are a big turn off." After that STFU about it. Its crazy the impact that had. This is what I observed afterwards. There were 5 minutes name calling and tears, 1 hour of cold shoulder, then later in the day, super sweet and cuddly attitude. The next day I had some really passionate sex. They key for me was clearly stating what I was doing and why. Then STFU. Then reset and initiate the next day. good for you. a man who is afraid of his woma…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 04:28 PM
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you are outcome dependent (on others) because you do not value yourself enough. this has nothing to do with how special she is/or isn't. this is about your weaknesses, deep down inside where no one but you can see. do not stop lifting. use it as an anchor habit to build other habits to invest in yourself, for your benefit. not so that "she" likes fucking you more. do read "the multi orgasmic man" book, for you. so you can enjoy sex more.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 04:22 PM
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legit. for me it was "this thing" (RP perspective and behaviors: passing a shittest, flirting) were no longer a suit of armor I had to remember to put on, rather a new skin I had grown - it became a part of me, over time. If I don't' chose to engage a chick in line, it's because I chose not to, not for fear of failure of lack of verbal dexterity. It boils down to my mood and energy level and focus at the time. Regret is worse than.... (not just rejection). Living regret free is a fair aim for th…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 04:16 PM
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These gym days have all ended up with above average sex, even some new positions and other fun stuff I rarely get from her. Got to figure out what I am doing right at the gym and apply it to other areas. Probably it's as simple as leadership. leadership partially - and her Testosterone is higher post work out. keep it up, but shake it up. try some shower fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 04:03 PM
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I am considering trying Nandrolone or MK677 (for the GH) but will talk to my docto rand do a bunch more research first. If anybody has used these for joints I would be interested to hear experiences or any good resources. check out BPC-157 on the peptides subs As Blag says, you're doing a good job of "not losing" lately. Now start playing to win. GL with your daughter.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 04:00 PM
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yes, you need to get more attractive. first - heal your back. hold off on DL until you can kettlebell swing (using hip hinging, not crossfit-shoulder-centric-style) safely. your posterior chain and grip strength will thank you. then get strong. on your shitty/comfort test #1 - stop trying to be smart. she's not a guy. teaching her a new word and showing your moral superiority isn't the goal here. either stfu, or No. or "why, you wanna make one?" with a smirk come naturally. she's looking for rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 03:57 PM
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I was a mess of anger, desire, and shame knowing I didn't do this right and it isn't rocket science dont' get too down on yourself. logistics with kids can be a total hard-off. (i have 4) it gets better. dont' be butthurt (towards yourself or her) and know that the delay will simply make the release that much stronger. you had morning sex the next day - so see how the mental energy was wasted being butthurt earleir? be a bit more ngaf and lower your cortisol levels so you can use your energy for…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 03:51 PM
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OYS #22 Stats: me: and wife late 40's, together >20yrs. 4 kids 12-17, I lift 4-5x a week and cardio the other 2-3 days. 5'11" 215 ~ 13% BF per dexascan, 1300# club. Sidebar: Re-listening to "the Tactical Guide to Women.." and "3% man" by Corey Wayne Business: still very busy, going well. Health: about 25-30% of my specific exercises are new to this mesocycle, interesting new soreness going on. I've begun more intense cardio as I have registered for a large event in 2022... bigger than anything I…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 03:35 PM
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“Has that in her frame feel” Interesting that’s your take away. It is praxeological, in that it’s a summarized listing of negative/positive traits distilled from a large dataset of observed behaviors, framed in a shrink’s vernacular. the target of the observations are women- which going back to Rollo’s tenet of “watch what they do…” has value, but his frame is focused on what’s best for the man to avoid and ideally find as the raw ingredients. I didn’t edit my post’s numerous “boundaries”mention…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/21 04:15 AM
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Optimal. Pivot tables driven from cup size and BJ skills FTW.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/21 03:54 AM
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Many aren’t. From 25-29 I had no Monogamous LTR’s although a few longer term FWB’s. From 16-24 I was often LTRd with streaks of fun between. At 25, after being cheated on and blindsided, I decided to “fuk it” forget love and focus on my business and career. During these 5 years in my late 20’s The most fertile ground I found for sexual companionship was bored women in committed relationships. They were all horny, hungry, and bored shirtless. No nonsense DTF and very few caught feels. No pressure…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 03:27 AM
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Social proof mattered more in college. High school was more about looks and charm, easier to isolate and escalate in a hallway or at a backyard party (remember playground “dates”?) I think overall college is easier to pull as many women don’t want to leave college a virgin even if they weren’t turbosluts in HS. Average looking guys can -through social groups- have status and a leg up vs their HS days, and many guys fill out and grow more after HS. But yes, the tastes of women did homogenize as t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 03:03 AM
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don't try filling your container with sewage Exactly. Too many guys are just happy to have "any fluid" - that's the problem I see often enough to take note. Boundaries are critical and more important than "vet and forget", because women can change (for better or worse) over time, and/or hide their nature during the audition stage. Or as you note, follow a man of value and with Frame. So my post isn't about not using/having boundaries, but if you are going to Vet, here are things a guy with a dec…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/21 08:07 PM
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deep: because they hate themselves and are hoping through distraction that you don't notice how ugly they are on the inside. reactionary crowd follower: "i reject norms before the reject me!"
/r/TheRedPill03/09/21 06:42 PM
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but I'm still leery of the health effects on liver etc and increased risks of cancer. your liver health can be tracked by ensuring ALT and AST enzymes are part of your blood work. Also supplement with NAC (N-Acetyl Cysteine). The cancer risks are ambiguous/I've seen conflicting info. Recent info actually shows a decreased correlation in prostate cancer in men who are on HRT: https://archive.is/wip/vjDHi find a doc. do bloodwork. dont' buy shady shit.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/21 06:33 PM
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I am on TRT (I don't need much, 100mg/wk gets me at/over 1000ng/dL) and hcg for my nuts). So it may be an HRT level dose, but it took my Test levels from < 150ng/dL to over 1k and it was night and day in many areas, including the ability to work harder in the gym I have zero regrets. I get my blood work done ever 60-90 days and i have no acne, no gyno, no hairloss, etc. Let the naturals bask in their self appointed superiority while we gain with shorter recovery times. Their DOMS can keep them w…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/21 06:24 PM
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I agree, Boundaries are a must. (i just bolded my content above to be super extra clear for the slow kids) If you are to vet, consider this guys content for a list of traits to search for, not just "is she cool". I do not see them as mutually exclusive, especially during the selection phase.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/21 04:58 PM
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I support /u/blaugranaculer 's point of view. I have done both ways (enough rest for full reps on next set vs pushing the tempo for 'fitness') and I've found that allowing yourself to have muscular (local) failure supports both the Specificity rule of hypertrophy (your muscle's being worked on must be what fails) it supports the Volume aspect of Hypertrophy; and the Intensity factor, ie: how many RiR you can get close to; vs. being gassed and unable to get to your target RiR due to not enough re…
/r/TheRedPill02/09/21 01:39 PM
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I know better than to click your links and see another crooked penis. fool me once!!
/r/TheRedPill02/09/21 01:25 PM
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she is still in "audition mode" and is likely at the zenith of good behavior (and looks, assuming she's your age, which you didn't state). At 8 months NRE with the (her) traits you describe, if you really wanted this, you'd have fewer doubts about what's missing... but you do, which is actually natural at this age. eons ago you'd likely be fucking a harem and slaying other humans at your size and smarts, so your urge isn't "bad" it's just programmed to go pillage and spread your seed into other …
/r/askMRP02/09/21 01:18 PM
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What's the difference between a compliment and offending a woman? easy: how sexy/HV the man is. and by sexy, not just looks but his smirk and NGAF when delivering his compliment/offending statement.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/21 03:59 PM
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you're just salty because most men wouldn't be able to pick you up off the ground without a hernia.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/21 03:58 PM
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Hello, Bigger, Leaner, Stronger. Read that over the last two weeks. Realized how much I was misapplying what I thought I knew about diet. Also realized how much I've used my ego to filter and distort pretty clear and direct diet principles. I've probably been killing my hormone and muscle production with my low-carb ways for years BLS is good, i read it a few years ago. I too was keto/low carb at first, it was useful for beating metabolic syndrome for me so I dont' regret it. But as my lifting w…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 02:14 PM
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I copied and pasted from Evernote. careful for opsec. one of my buddies used EVnote for his logging and journaling (like an OYS for 1) on his phone, and the sync of the app to a copy on the ipad he left in the family room wasn't good. (his phone password was private, the ipad not so much) there are things that we can say to ourselves and other men which are private, and a work in progress, that are not for anyone else to see.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 01:57 PM
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I don't know what the pie chart would look like oh you know. but you're ashamed of what it would look like. how long do you want to be ashamed of yourself? don't answer us. use the mirror.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 01:54 PM
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5 weeks ago I wrote this: Last week I recognized a new fear crop up; what if I DO start getting all the sex and wakeup to bj’s every morning. If this were to happen right now, I’m pretty sure I would let my new workout, diet, self-prioritization disciplines slide and that scares me. That’s pretty much what’s happening. then you need to write down WHY you are putting in the effort. it's not just to 'get' those things, rather to become a man who expects and deserves those things, but doesn't need …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 01:47 PM
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nice about fishing. now build on it to have a guys trip, to the Florida Keys for fishing, with some old friends. and hit miami when you get to 15% BF as a reward.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 01:41 PM
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OYS #21 Stats: me: and wife late 40's, together >20yrs. 4 kids 12-17, I lift 4-5x a week and cardio the other 2-3 days. 5'11" 215 ~ 13% BF per dexascan, 1300# club. Sidebar: Iron John, re-reading my first book MMSLP, knowing it's flawed, curious how I view it differently now... Business: crazy busy. Health: going to switch up some exercises, seeing a plateau in some; it's been 12-13 weeks so I want my joints to see different angles, too. Mental: Really been focusing on Control It's funny, after …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 07:19 PM
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Thats right mr blackpill. Stay in your basement and cry thinking sex is only prostitutes and gloryholes. you either pay for it,'willingly' by giving up your time for the relationship and non sexual activities or you end up paying by losing 50% of assets + alimony in divorce court. even with a plate (a female you see regularly for only sex) is not one-way, she either enjoys it too, or is hoping it will turn into more than just sex
/r/TheRedPill30/08/21 05:33 PM
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Yes, a dude making a joke about Vas and a coworker casually brushing sand off each other would definitely result in an actual HR issue... i've seen crazier shit - this was in the 90's but a couple (dating but known about by HR) would occasionally embrace, or touch casually in the lunch room or passing in the hallways. most women working there were like "awww, they're so cute" (they were both early 20's in different departments) but nope, some angry divorcee literally named Mabel made a stink and…
/r/TheRedPill29/08/21 04:23 PM
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When you broke up with her, she just said "ok"....lol, she's already fucking other dudes and never saw you as a high value man his ego is keeping him from seeing. and his ego will outlast his relationship with 'her' and thus cripple him on the next go 'round as well.
/r/askMRP27/08/21 12:42 PM
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Okay thankyou I can tend to over think/analyse we barely noticed.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 06:21 PM
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Absolutely. And during dating and Plating that’s your default mode. When Naturals do well. When not much other than being busy being awesome is enough, your scarcity and indifference (while being attractive) work, because she’s still in audition mode. When you end up Promoting a woman is when your ability to Control, pays dividends.
/r/TheRedPill26/08/21 12:24 AM
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especially when you're retarded. OP your covert contract of food and flowers set yourself up for the fall, when "there is no relationship equity" hit you in the face when her bitch mode did not abate, when you were sick. I mean, didn't she see how sweet you were with her? I mean, c'mon... ...and her nerve for commenting that the kid only cries on your watch! You need NMMNG and WISNIFG stat.
/r/askMRP25/08/21 04:50 PM
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one of the 16 commandments of poon: https://archive.is/NHhel "Adhere to the golden ratio Give your woman 2/3 of everything she gives you. For every three calls or texts, give her two back. Three declarations of love earn two in return. Three gifts; two nights out. Give her two displays of affection and stop until she has answered with three more. When she speaks, you reply with fewer words. When she emotes, you emote less. The idea behind the golden ratio is twofold — it establishes your greater…
/r/TheRedPill25/08/21 04:28 PM
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I would assume the overuse of cortisol and being in a constant state of fight-or-flight vs. regenerative states of repair.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/21 04:22 PM
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congrats for sharing your story. a buddy of mine in college found out he had it after taking a baseball to his groin. he's still kicking. turns out being positive and non anxious has impacts on outcome and mortality. A recent CDC study shows the 2nd highest contributing factor to covid-19 "serious illness", behind #1 obesity, is "anxiety and fear related disorders" , with diabetes being #3 WTF: The strongest risk factors for death were 1) obesity (adjusted risk ratio [aRR] = 1.30; 95% CI, 1.27–1…
/r/TheRedPill25/08/21 04:02 PM
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Never give in to ultimatums. But , you're wrongly associating "plates not breaking" with "doing it right" The point of spinning plates is to: get good at it, practicing Game and holding Frame building Abundance a funnel for potential LTR, if you so choose. If you want to have multiple sexual partners with little to no emotional investment, Plate Spinning is for you, and you have nothing to change. All relationships are temporary; besides ONS, Plates are the next most short lived. A bit more inve…
/r/TheRedPill25/08/21 02:29 PM
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women have automatic abundance. you know this. when a woman Dreads you, it's a "nuclear shit test" and can only be met with either: 1) immediate demotion 2) if you think she may simply be dumb/ignorant, a boundary statement and enforcement #1 is obvious, kick her out of your bed and go fuck other women #2, state: "when I'm in an LTR, I do not DM people who have, or have had, feelings for me and I expect the same behavior from my GF" then STFU if she says ANYTHING other than, "hmm, ok, you're rig…
/r/TheRedPill25/08/21 01:46 PM
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not true, I'm technically still overweigth (5"10') at 200lbs, and I trained 6 times a week to normal failure. After the 6th week, I could not sleep more than 3 hours a night, and I could not figure out why. I then took a week off, and after I slept like a baby (7-8 hours easy). agreed. when i overtrained** i had trouble sleeping and even sex drive issues. **overtraining for me was through oxidative stress and CNS fatigue. how did i adjust? 1) my training plan is a 5 week meso-cycle (4 build week…
/r/TheRedPill24/08/21 07:57 PM
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Yes, great post, here's the archive link: https://archive.is/wip/cwE1H ​ key part: "...Relationship game is control game. Because men are naturally protective of women, and women are not naturally protective of men, relationships are long-term viable to precisely degree that the man is in charge. In initial contact with a woman, controlling behaviours appear weak, thirsty, needy, and creepy as fuck, and indifference behaviours appear relaxed, confident, and powerful. But as emotional investment …
/r/askMRP24/08/21 05:08 PM
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by forcing your hand, through the pressure and then the threat of relocation, she's actually further forced your hand into the negative response. by that I mean, you now simply cannot move in together even if you wanted. Because it will (in her hamster) set a precedent that: If I give him ultimatums, I get what I want. You must continue to do what you want - which you've told her now, twice, what that is. So stay the course - especially now. Do not reward bad behavior with more of your Gold (you…
/r/askMRP24/08/21 04:52 PM
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Amen. If it was actually doing battle nightly - it would not be worth it. I enjoy coming home and “taking off my armor” but have learned “to a point” only. I turn to my male friends for a shoulder to lean on or an ear for my complaints. What I have found it is you cannot cruise after the commitment and assume everything will take care of itself and tend only to your job and finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:31 AM
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it's funny, I've had romantic relationships with MDs, attorneys, PhD's, authors, Principal Engineers, and even a fortune 1000 CFO and generally speaking, what I've found through my own experience, the higher performing a woman is (ie: the higher she is in a dominance hierarchy/the higher in regard she is professionally) the higher her baseline demand for strength in a male partner. (which is why the klingon comment was so telling in its ignorance, that won't solve shit - it's the opposite, a hum…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 07:21 PM
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learn to not fight the nature of those you have relationships with, rather use your wit and effort to mold yourself into a person worth knowing. or quote start trek. ymmv.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:38 PM
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“If you have to ask…” Many People will treat you as poorly as you let them. Some people will actually resent your weakness and use it a justification for further or past poor treatment Clearly she needs someone who not only self-advocates and sets+enforces boundaries, (= normal and healthy behaviors) but further “won’t put up with her shit” and is dominant in the physical, sexual, mental and strength of character domains. She will push, and test and buck but secretly be content only when “he” ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 03:12 AM
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Yes, it takes effort sometimes to remind yourself to play the Game. The Ben Franklin method of emotional investment in Woujo's 's top post comes to mind. https://archive.is/AHYv5 "...The Ben Franklin Theory Ben Franklin, one of America’s founding fathers and greatest poonhounds, famously and counterintuitively discovered that if person A does something for person B, person A will like person B more. Most people would assume the opposite – if you want people to like you, you should do things for …
/r/askMRP20/08/21 04:43 PM
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the deeper points about asking for permission stand/rule. ​ but yes. use the TRX to its fullest and get 2 kettle bells (24kg and 48kg) for dual then 1 arm swings and presses. TRX is good for rows, and flys and latpull-downs/pull-ups but the military/vertical press is missing, ketlebell clean and press and the swing for your posterior chain are helpful. bonus: this kit can go with you on driving vacations and act as a deload week when you're back in the gym. and yes, sidebar. NMMNG is a great sta…
/r/askMRP20/08/21 01:23 PM
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yes, I recall reading his last section before - I have that post saved. It's raw and true; and interestingly is a barometer of where a guy is on his path, based on their internal response to his content: 'wow that's some crazy shit' (disbelief and defense mechanism through shaming) 'i guess it could be useful, but i still need to work on...' (DEERing and delaying through fear of failure avoidance) "but what will she think?" (still rule 9 and not getting it) 'fuck it, sounds like an idea I can ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 05:47 PM
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The more I look at what my budget will be once STBX moves out, the more excited I get about the future this is for you: https://archive.is/wip/64L0r
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 02:09 PM
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yes, it's clearly about competition anxiety. even 2 yrs ago, before I found TRP after i'd lost (at the time) > 90# of fat and put on 15# of meat, she would say the same thing, yet she'd subconsciously be all over me on the couch watching movies or definitely when intimate. ironically it was an early covert contract i had to kill, one that i created for myself ("if i get swole she will want me more") now I love the process for the other benefits it gives me, beyond just LGN (looking good naked)
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 03:21 PM
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+1, my first thought as well. dont' live to not fail, live to win. OP, hopefully the thunderbolt of Mental Point of Origin is as true as you write... I agree the mental is the truly hard part, don't stop the physical (gains, grooming, style, Game) but Frame and MPoO are the true superpower.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 02:50 PM
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OYS #20 Stats: me: and wife late 40's, together >20yrs. 4 kids 12-17, I lift 4-5x a week and cardio the other 2-3 days. 5'11" 215 ~ 13% BF per dexascan, 1300# club. Sidebar: More of Rian's videos and blog, more MRP focused content. Business: More growth. Health: hit a PR in DL volume, had to dial it back - it's week 1 of a new mesocycle and my week deload obv was very effective. Ego pushed me to keep going to 0 RIR which isn't my week 1 plan, it's 2-3 RIR. I was more disciplined my other days an…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 02:39 PM
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Im referring to protein in a cutting phase since OP was talking about getting ripped and low body fat here. ah, yeah, I was thinking of a growth cycle - not a bulk. "but you can't do both at the same time" I believe that based on my watching/reading Renaissance Perioditaztion, when you're in shape. But when i started I was > 45% BF, so I "did both at the same time" i would eat my BMR in calories and not add extra calories for my workouts, so technically in a deficit, but I had so much adipose ti…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/21 01:51 PM
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HRT = hommone replacement therapy, a general term. TRT simply focuses on the Test side. HCG = used to keep fertility in place (and reduce hypogonadism, for many when you take exogenous test, your body says; "ok, dont' need these nutz!" and your balls shrink) for the ignorant, it's not all about the gains. when i was sub 150ng/dL at mid 40 yr old i was like the walking dead, energywise (that's the T levels of a 70-80 yr old) my dick worked but I was dragging.... this has helped my mood, my thinki…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/21 01:47 PM
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yup, gluconeogenesis. it's important people try to find their threshold. with my level of activity, effort and PEDs, it was 1.2g not half that as OP suggested would be one size fits all.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/21 07:43 PM
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I tracked using myfitnesspal i wanted to put on muscle, and my dr. has ordered > 15 dexscans in the past 3 yrs, so i know my lean body mass. i tracked and tried each of the following for at least 14-15 weeks (or 3 lifting mesocycles): 0.6, 1.0, 1.2, 1.5, 2.0 grams per pound of lean body mass (+10% to get to my target) and found: 0.6 - didn't grow 1.0 - worked well 1.2 - worked ideal 1.5 - it didn't work better, cost more 2.0 - got excess fat vs. any more muscle. I lift 5x a week heavy. I have pu…
/r/TheRedPill16/08/21 07:22 PM
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cool you're in HS so the chicks are even spacy'er. just AM outta 99% of tests of awkwardness. they want to be feel calm and non-anxious by the strength and steadfastness of a guy - who can also make them blush. HS was like fish in a barrel (N=10 in HS) just keep strong eye contact when talking (most guys are terrified to look into their eyes) and touch arms, back, neck when talking close and isolate, even in upstairs hallways after class for kino and basic kissing. half my count weren't GF's jus…
/r/newTRP16/08/21 05:15 PM
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yup, green checkmark ​ has a stealth mode which is nice for use in line at the bank and starbux
/r/askMRP16/08/21 05:13 PM
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car sex can be not for the beginner, unless you have a wagon, put down the seats have blankets, like camping. the 3 V's i took in highschool were all in their basement with the parents sleeping upstairs... car sex was for when their parents realized they were sexual and would be stricter.
/r/newTRP16/08/21 05:11 PM
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High chance I'd get a "sorry, busy, not interested" good, then you polarized and cleared the decks. as a busy guy, you should enjoy checklists.
/r/newTRP16/08/21 05:09 PM
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here's the deal: assume a 50/50 chance of landing the kiss vs. rejection. it should be higher - based on kino and vibing, but say 50/50 so 50% chance she kisses back, great and 50% chance she rejects, turns away, demurrers, etc half of this half: she's glad you tried, not just for her ego but she knows where you stand and that you're not afraid and meek; and you're glad you tried as you are conveying this is a sexual relationship, not a friendzone audition; and the date doesn't end, just transit…
/r/newTRP16/08/21 05:07 PM
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you're not living congruently. fuck labels like "cucked" and "keep playing this game" you said it yourself, it's not in your nature to get digits from her posse. now, if you were a playaplaya and this was 'you', that'd be fine. but it's not. start living congruently. and that begins by ghosting her. thanks to your past weakness, you will still see her when she bangs a bro... so that'll remind you to live congruently from the beginning of any new engagement (ie: always) Boundaries, set them early…
/r/newTRP16/08/21 05:00 PM
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you're boring. "maybe at first sight it doesn't seem like I can provide value. That's expected, we know it." random people aren't that deep. if you're boring, that's what they react to. to be interesting, you must have been interested in things long before this party. or you do th work of asking them about themselves and guiding the convo.
/r/newTRP16/08/21 04:57 PM
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any women who actively Dreads her man, regardless of "relationship status**" isn't promotable. status bar: noone >> ONS >> Plate >> FB >> LTR >> ?? ​ she's a plate, and is trying to dread you and make you jelly. deal breaker. if she asked for commitment, hinted, and even tried coercing via feels (tears) that's all normal. but as soon as she parades sausages in her socials knowing you'll see, just laugh and know she belongs to the streets. the only reason to break it off early is if you've caught…
/r/newTRP16/08/21 04:38 PM
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you fuck her one last time, smile after, kiss on the cheek, slap on the ass and "see you around" and hold your head high.
/r/newTRP16/08/21 04:34 PM
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no. you're not wrecked. many men would be blessed to be motivated by $$ and poon, but instead have only vidya and porn. save more than you make no need to try to seem less materialistic by saying its for "generational wealth" - fuck that. it's about freedom (free to choose when/where and with whom you work). Your women want money for that it can buy them (what you may buy them) you want it for what it will allow you to do. yachts and jets get boring, doing what pleases you does not. have you rea…
/r/newTRP16/08/21 04:33 PM
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You: I approached today but made sure I looked at her a few times prior. I went up to her and said "I remember her from that freshmen class." She: said she doesn't remember me. If not true, it's a test, if true then she's newly IOI'ing you (or bored). I got this in HS and on more than once it was true (when you grow 6" over a summer, that happens). personally why use the 'link to the past', just move forward, but if you do, next time, assume it's a test: her: "I dont' remember you... (?)" you: "…
/r/newTRP16/08/21 04:21 PM
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there are no shortcuts. you need to read the sidebar and: reduce neediness increase aloofness (primary non physical attractor in casual relationships) increase self respect and respect for your time To stand out from the crowd, apart from the 3 bullets above, you can set yourself apart by: being sexual, through implication and humor (vs. dick pix) being breif and witty because it's 'natural' vs. 'trying to get liked' check out: https://archive.is/0YuJB
/r/newTRP16/08/21 04:09 PM
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unless specified otherwise, most supplements are better absorbed when consumed with some fat as well, so with real whole foods. zinc and some magnesium are potential sleep aids, so i have them in my PM pack, the others I do earlier in the day.
/r/askMRP13/08/21 04:47 PM
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People in prisons are generally “disagreeable and aggressive”. The soft benefits of lifting are wasted on men already disagreeable and aggressive. But lifting can be a boon for overerly agreeable and non-confrontational men- a non trivial portion of men who find their way to MRP are “nice guys” Maybe my sample set I see in business reinforces my bias. And I submit that your sample set of gym people showing a cross-section of men misses the point. It isn’t that lifting will make you an amazing pe…
/r/TheRedPill13/08/21 02:47 AM
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if OP had been here 3 months, I wouldn't have replied. I took him at face value that he'd been working for longer than that. maybe the EC is right (OP wasn't working hard enough ("half ass BS")) but I thought I'd give OP the benefit of the doubt --- because I've been grinding and I had plateaued - and what it took was what I wrote about. so most people here likley just need to put the time and effort into the process (and not go down this pscyhoanalisys rabbit hole). Or put another way: all shou…
/r/askMRP12/08/21 07:20 PM
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journal. write them down, even the ones you think you're 'over' . what you may find that is important is not 'how they make you feel now' but rather the pattern I found then, was: "how would that make a 7|8|10|11 yr old feel?" "how would a child see their worth and their instruction-set on how to behave, to feel accepted" through the child's eyes. that's what you want to understand. turns out my mother was a narcassist. she used me as a prop (youngest member of Mensa local group; child model - y…
/r/askMRP12/08/21 07:03 PM
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you can’t go back and fix it. but you can, as an adult, see what happened via memory - that does 'fix it' vs. what a child saw and experienced. the thing you're fixing isn't the event. it's your perception of why it happened and how you reacted like a stoic's view, you can only control your reaction.... It is your understanding and reaction as a grown man with wisdom and distance which are vastly different than that of a child, under the influence of their parents world and views. You dont' need…
/r/askMRP12/08/21 06:54 PM
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women can "lay up" in HB scale for ONS's with men. I have fucked more 6's and 7's when traveling for business than the 8's I demand when I'm going to see them again on the regular. it warps their sense of scale. when they get fucked by a guy (me) with a body like they see in the movies who knows how to fuck, with a solid face, who can talk dirty to them in 4 languages and all kinds of fun shit - their homely ass ain't gonna get me to settle down, but i'd rather them suck my cock vs. beating off …
/r/TheRedPill12/08/21 06:07 PM
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you need one friend, and a codeword. when he hears it he will punch your dick 13 times. works every time, 70% of the time. trust me.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/21 06:01 PM
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Where does validation seeking stem from? Figure that out and you'll have a better chance at real change This.
/r/askMRP12/08/21 05:44 PM
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I think the root cause starts early... I think NMMNG is a great first step on that side of the house, but I think something in your parents style/methods used shaming or fear of abandonment as a way to get you to behave. Through Journaling I identified some key events in my childhood vis my parents treatment of me which were... important. I have forgiven them, for me, not for them, and found how their repeated actions and words, built an early and shitty frame which unknowingly crippled me for d…
/r/askMRP12/08/21 05:38 PM
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RP (ren.period) state plainly that their stuff is more for intermediates and up. Dr. Mike does have a comparison of: PPL/bro/fullbody split video on youtube talking about how noob can benefit differently than intermediates and up. so my claim isn't that 5x5 is bad. just suboptimal after 1-3 yrs, depending on when you go intermediate. (and their definition is: good technique and when you stop growing using your old method = you're now intermediate)
/r/askMRP12/08/21 05:24 PM
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so it's your baseline. congrats. now drop it fully. would you be a better man and a better version of yourself without ever lifting? no. so it does move the needle in a case by case basis. as far as the 100 gym rats you know not being on average better than those who don't lift, would they be better off sitting on couches? I am a consultant to c level types, I find (on average) my highest performing clients are also either lifters, tri-atheletes, competitive shooters, or do something with a disc…
/r/TheRedPill12/08/21 12:33 PM
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a pig is a pig is a pig. But... on a HB6/7.... I actually find modestly long/functional length nails a huge turn on. (IDK, maybe 50% of the nailbed length?) I absolutely hate blue/green polish. Like you're going for the undead look? I'm a sucker for reds/pinks for most occasions, and on the younger ones, a black/white/metallic. Corollary: does not apply to women who get their nails 'done' but in my research, I have found a strong correlation between chooch cleanliness and her self-maintained nai…
/r/TheRedPill11/08/21 07:19 PM
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no, you're personifying a theory on the SMP and Bred for Behaviors (TRP), which is not correct to do... TRP isn't infatuated with anything. Those who have gained the most from TRP have seen a pattern, and that simply is that: Strength is good. Strength is healthy. Strength is masculine. The reason "lift" is so fundamental is lost on many. Sure it does attract women, but that's the least important outcome, you can actually better attract and keep women with Frame... What you get from Lifting is: …
/r/TheRedPill11/08/21 07:11 PM
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so I am genuinely open to hearing how 5x5 is bad. I dont know that it is the BEST (what ever that means) but you really seem to think it inferior to other programs, why is that? check out Renaissance Periodization on youtube. their meta analysis of the 5-30 rep range for hypertrophy (30-85% of 1RM) is very very informative. only doing lower reps and the every other week alternate isn't ideal, fine for a noob, but not ideal for intermediate. The use of weekly groupings and the use of intensity (i…
/r/askMRP11/08/21 06:17 PM
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DEER much? you've made progress, you're closer, but Horns is right. your ego and BS is still your prison. money and status be damned. you are you if you strip away the money and status. think about that.
/r/askMRP11/08/21 03:42 PM
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OYS #19 Stats: me: and wife late 40's, together >20yrs. 4 kids 12-17, I lift 4-5x a week and cardio the other 2-3 days. 5'11" 215 ~ 13% BF per dexascan, >300 BP and row, > 500 DL and SQ. 4 yrs ago I was > 300# fatass, ...I was still killing it at work, but a drunk captain at home. Sidebar: going a bit esoteric, picked up Secret Garden again (a little goes a long way) and began Iron John on audio book. Still daily jounraling. Business: Lots going on, nothing to complain about. Health: I am enjoyi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 08:21 PM
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it's called PFEI at least on IOS.
/r/askMRP09/08/21 08:07 PM
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that's the tough part about being Chad. when you're 6'4" everything else looks proportionally smaller.... so "bigger than a baby's arm" could apply here: "is your rope longer than your arm? congrats GigaChad, you've arrived" one of my highschool bros, who I'm still friends with, used to shoot the ceiling when he beat off, it was madness, to visit his room as 15 yr olds and laugh at the stalagtites. WTF. his mom thought they had a spider infestation. in college he got a rep for the "geyser" effec…
/r/askMRP09/08/21 04:34 PM
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or years, I put myself last. i felt it was my duty as provide and man. i knew i was stronger than her, and my 4 kids. it was my role. my calling. What ended up happening: I was overworked, overstressed, sick, fat and tired. through what was in essence a huge covert contract (ie: if i struggle and provide and protect, you will love me) it blew up in my face through shit treatment (lack of respect and admiration) and i saw the relationship equity maxim front and center. i had a lot of unfucking to…
/r/askMRP09/08/21 04:25 PM
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fuck, i guess i'm retarded too. my current stack does include: L-Arginine and Zinc among many others... and my amazon history does show: Pygeum, and Lecithin, but not for a year - thanks for reminding me to put those back in. Full-retard-engaged. When I began doing kegels, pelvic floor exercises with the PFE app 3 yrs ago and along with better circulation/health and I guess these magic pills, I have shot impressive ropes for a while now.... Feelsgoodman.jpg And I fuck for me, but NGL, chicks-dig…
/r/askMRP09/08/21 03:10 PM
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yes - i was. not only because it leaves a bit of mystery, it provides them social cover if they want to spend time with a Rake vs boyfriend material. chicks sometimes just wanna bang. and they wanna bang a guy who knows how to bang and won't scream from the rooftops that they did so.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/21 03:29 PM
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Deny / Attack / Reverse Victim and Oppressor. example: wife makes a not funny crack at your expense in front of her parents you, after and alone with her: "hey, my wife doesn't treat me like that, your comment earlier was not funny and it was disrespectful." her (Deny'ing): "what? i wasn't being disrespectful, it was just a joke!" (i have found the Anger tactic used here) her (attack'ing): "if you were more of a man, this wouldn't bother you/ if you had a better sense of humor this wouldn't both…
/r/askMRP05/08/21 03:15 PM
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c'mon man, it's called the Game of Kings for a reason... /s OP: I am a recovering mensa member, just keep prioritizing and gaining at the gym, until you're strong enough to not worry about being strong while also being < 15% BF, you can't understand what it means.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 06:46 PM
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I'm really starting to hate OYS even though i'm only 2 in - it shows me how shit I am Good. Discomfort is a sign of growth. “The first principle is that you must not fool yourself and you are the easiest person to fool.” ― Richard P. Feynman
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 06:24 PM
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it takes courage to make changes into the unknown. Rollo's "regret is worse than rejection" to me should read: "regret is worse than <just about anything>" so be glad that you wont' look back and regret staying with someone - giving her your Gold (your Time, Attention, Affection, and Resources) when she saw your relationship as a zero sum game (where she must see you 'down' to be 'up')
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 06:21 PM
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Good for you. When I leaned into this, it was like rocket fuel for me. Hope you get out of it what I did. agreed. after his 53'rd OYS, he's past the anger stage and found his own way to this: https://archive.is/Debjj I was internally proud to have come to the same conclusion before finding that post as well. But reading it, it codified what I had intuited - that my new willingness to be a willing participant by choice gave me agency and allowed me to begin putting down the rotting weight of rese…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 06:10 PM
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Stop rewarding bad behaviour. It's not clear to me how I am doing that. it's been 14 days so here's my take: You are rewarding her by sharing your Affection, Attention, and Time with her. By initiating earlier on you do 2 things: you break the habit/cycle that has worked for shit in the past if you get rejected at 4pm, you have the plans you made at 2pm to see a friend over a beer at 8pm (PS: go either way, whether your dick gets wet or not) Do try and setup a midday smash, or a "after kids are …
/r/askMRP04/08/21 04:43 PM
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ions that are helpful to you, like aggression, excitement, and optimism. Most people let their emotions I was olympic level cyclist in a previous life. i had my vo2max tested many times and used to turn pedals at > 190bpm without hitting my Anaerobic Threshold. I am now older, and still ride with a few mens groups but only about 1x a month, I don't race anymore, but we do KOMs on Strava and have a bit of fun... and when I do my weekly 4 sets of 10, Deadlifting 425#, I assure you it's the same Ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 07:35 PM
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it jumped out at me too, maybe his idea of opsec?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 07:10 PM
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I run a business and can make my schedule whatever I want - I really should treat this fitness section like it's the most important thing in my entire fucking life and dedicate myself to it daily. I own my own company. several yrs ago I had an acute injury requiring surgery and PT/rehab. What I did when PT ended after 4 months is kept the date/time for my gym visits (gasp) during the day. I simply told colleagues (ie: employees, and clients) "can't make that time, i have rehab" which is true, i …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 07:02 PM
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good for you, your first OYS. ​ Interviewer : I have a couple more question and I will Free you right afterwards. *** A clear attempt to establish maintain dominance. ME : I am available to answer any further questions you might have. *** I failed to reset back to my frame, for lack of a better word, since my answer is clearly submissive actually, this was a win. you Fogged. (have you read WISNIFG?) ie: you addressed (and therefore acknowledged) only part of his statement, the part that matters …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 05:01 PM
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jesus this is heavy. congrats on the breakthrough.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 02:02 PM
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OYS #18 Stats: me: and wife late 40's, together >20yrs. 4 kids 12-17, I lift 4-5x a week and cardio the other 2-3 days. 5'11" 217 ~ 13% BF per dexascan, >300 BP and row, > 500 DL and SQ. 4 yrs ago I was > 40%BF, ...I was still killing it at work, but a drunk captain at home. Sidebar: all at least twice, Journaling daily for the past few weeks. Some stream of consciousness, some focused on my wants and putting plans into action, some on ways to improve. Business: Decided to give my self a raise. …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 01:49 PM
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it being his fault does not make her virtuous. she's simply following her programming - but enough about her. "it's your fault" isn't pejorative, it's empowering for those who have an ounce of self respect left. it's at the core of the masculine way - that's why it's so important. "...but, but, you could do everything right and she could still cheat!" yup, again, it's not about her. If he had done everything right, he'd replace her whenever he wanted and wouldn't feel disgusted with himself on t…
/r/askMRP03/08/21 01:33 PM
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YOU are headed for a dead bedroom. Just you. She sounds like she can suck and fuck and take it up the ass like a champ... she will be fine. god i love this place.
/r/askMRP02/08/21 02:08 PM
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When I say no i feel guilty.
/r/askMRP02/08/21 01:44 PM
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You have a front row seat to the sidebar in action. If ever a doubt about: hypergamy, lightswitch effect, or branch swinging - you'll see them played out by actors you know and love. As you note, your dad did many things right - all things society and your mom would say he must do (provide, be naturally attractive and be a business alpha and provide her emotional comfort and a stable life)... yet here we are. The issue with trying to actually download the sidebar into his brain right now, apart …
/r/askMRP02/08/21 01:19 PM
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Yes, this is why one of the 50 shades of red maxim's is: IM MAXIM #20: “Your mother is the only woman who will love you for you, rather than your power. Corollary: if your mother was a heartless narcissist, you have never known and shall never know a woman’s least conditional love.” source: https://archive.is/RymYf
/r/TheRedPill30/07/21 02:47 PM
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without a robust and positive self image, it will all be "fake it until you make it" forever.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/21 06:12 PM
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"...Just to be clear, I am not gay.,." Actually, you are, but not in 'that' way. "The problem is... " (lots of nothing) No, the real problem is you don't know what you want. And you're not leading, and a woman, even a supposedly "low libido" one, deep down wants, no, yearns for leadership and strength. You provide none of that. Forget the monetary provisioning, emotionally you have bankrupted your marriage. You need to figure out what you want, for yourself, firstly. no sex in 3 yrs = roommates …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/21 06:03 PM
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It comes in waves, sometime I think clearly and control my thoughts and then other times I’ll be in autopilot and fuck up. the internal battle is the final one. your progress is (1) you notice your behavior now (and know it's not productive and not congruent with who you want to be), (2) you have tools to combat your habits but it takes conscious effort still / reverting to the norm is not productive, (3) changing the 'norm' is the hardest part. In my path I have likened it in going from "puttin…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/21 03:39 PM
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There was bantering, innuendos, looks/smiles, overall flirting. It’s been a long time since I’ve really done that with someone, including the wife. It didn’t feel as guilty as I thought it should. I had, however, feelings of inadequacy. Like I wasn’t going to be able to keep up the flirting, keep her attention and that she would soon ignore me a mix of good and bad. I feel you. I was a 'good guy' so for many years, I stiffed my socializing a bit out of covert-contract land (gee, if I'm good, she…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 06:56 PM
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OYS #17 Stats: me: and wife late 40's, together >20yrs. 4 kids 12-17, I lift 4-5x a week and cardio the other 2-3 days. 5'11" 215 ~ 13% BF per dexascan, >300 BP and row, > 500 DL and SQ. 4 yrs ago I was > 40%BF, ...I was still killing it at work, but a drunk captain at home. Sidebar: all at least twice, Been re-reading seminal EC posts, I had saved to archive.is in my early notes. Business: still going well, growing, new hires, new clients. Looking on how to build an 8-10 yr exit plan. Health: w…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 06:31 PM
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31:45 "...we do that on purpose, to stoke that anger [in new members] a little bit, to focus that anger, to create that - in order to build up enough momentum to overcome the deep and abiding protective instinct that men have toward women.... their [mens'] protective instincts are being exploited by women who do not care for them" that line above, and the post by Horns: https://archive.is/Debjj "Your wife holds a trump card you don’t want to admit she has, but you both know it. Take her card and…
/r/TheRedPill26/07/21 05:53 PM
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good stuff. "That's okay, because you don't need to trust her to work on yourself. She doesn't matter. That's why rule 9 exists." and "When your focus is avoiding the worst case, you're playing to not lose. Start playing to win. "
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 03:07 PM
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OYS #16 Stats: me and wife late 40's, together >20yrs. 4 kids 12-17, I lift 4-5x a week and cardio the other 2-3 days. 5'11" 215 ~ 13% BF per dexascan, >300 BP and row, > 500 DL and SQ. 4 yrs ago I was > 40%BF, ...I was still killing it at work, but a drunk captain at home. Sidebar: all at least twice, I again consuming Practical Female Psych and NMMNG now. Been enjoying Rian's youtubes the last few weeks as well. Business: going well, growing, new hires, new clients. Looking on how to build an …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 02:01 PM
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but it’s not congruent with who she knows and is used to. Read this: https://archive.is/pSJXz if it's been only 8 months and part of that included a lot of weight loss, yes, she's not sure if you're faking it. ignore her 'why' and instead do what you want. if you want to pick her up and tickle her in the kitchen, do it. if you want have some morning sex, do it. do what you want, without shame or guilt. it's more attractive than you think.
/r/askMRP20/07/21 01:13 PM
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Like she’s so unaware of anything around her. the other respondents are correct, you need to focus on you/your thoughts/your behaviors/your covert contracts/and your boundaries. But - note, you're even DEERing for her above (Defending her by assuming ignorance). I assure you she's not autistic and knew exactly what she was doing, unlike you. She's drawing blood, since it gives her pleasure, and secretly hoping it will get you to man up.
/r/askMRP19/07/21 03:07 PM
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NMMNG affected my relationship with my mother. I say for the better, she says that I'm now selfish and cold. so yeah, for the better. Shame and Wounding were methods she'd use to manipulate me when I was younger, and into adulthood, not rare for a single mother and me = oldest son. She's over it now, and boundaries are established, but it was like breaking a 70 yr old mare for a bit...
/r/askMRP13/07/21 02:25 PM
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You're absolutely right that it's hard to find time with 3 kids. I used to think that. I have 4 kids under 17 at home. It went from a reason for her to reject (or claim to) to instead, a playful game now, for ways we look to sneak in quickies and such. To put on the TV loudly and see if I can keep her quiet with my fingers in her mouth to stiffle moans, etc. I too was 4-6x a month, now 4-8x a week. Do not use this as an excuse and if she does, it's a sham. A woman will move dumpsters, ladders an…
/r/askMRP13/07/21 02:22 PM
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OYS #15 fresh off a 15 day ban for rule #9... On more than one occasion, I have written in ways which showed I have not lived fully in my own Frame. I took the ban to heart and in addition to my usual reading and practicing; I spent time listening to Rian's "scoreboard" youtube video which lead me to his blogspot posts on the 5 ways of female manipulation and sex and violence among others. I realized that I still wasn't living fully for me, that I still needed to kill my ego and do things for me…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 12:52 PM
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if you're that fit, you're beating 80% of the guys out there. but looks are only so much of the total an LTR gauges to generate feels. check out Rian's more recent youtube about scoreboarding and how women manipulate men (5 ways: anger, ego, shame, (self) wounding and frame shift). he has an older blog post on blogspot about it, which resonated. i think she knows you care and may think your stocism is a facade. so yeah, she's testing you. women are naturally emotional terrorists. and your woman …
/r/askMRP12/07/21 03:22 PM
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What I have is Outcome Independence. The rest doesn't matter. this is critical. i have 4 kids. i have a stay-at-home wife. i am top 0.1% earner. and i am still ready to walk tomorrow if her behavior isn't up to my standards. when you truly live this. it has a ripple effect and actually leads/influences her behavior. so ironically you have less reason to ditch when as patrice says: "she's acting right"
/r/askMRP01/07/21 04:42 PM
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you should care about how she treats you, not her state of mind. that's hers to fix and maintain. care about the results. seems cold? seems selfish? it's not. if your guilt and good guy programming makes it seem cold and selfish, your programming is the issue. reprogram yourself with sidebar.
/r/askMRP01/07/21 04:40 PM
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Yes, a compliance test.
/r/askMRP01/07/21 04:06 PM
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the only time I can ever see it being useful for most men is if the demographics came to be in our favor I have a male friend, of 20 yrs, so i trust his stories. he is thin/lean, but ripped - not too muscular. <170# at 5'11" but 8 pack and veins on lower abs. decent face. great smile/teeth. he travels for business. when he's visiting a city he pushes some new pics showing his body and locale and states blankly "in town for 2 nights, hmu" and has a solid choice list for an invitation to dinner an…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/21 07:50 PM
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got it: dance naked with a candycane in my arse
/r/TheRedPill23/06/21 08:31 PM
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OP, sounds like you formed through your yoga and experimentation what I've found via the book: "the multi orgasmic man", worth the read for others who want control and whole body (non ejaculatory) orgasms. good first post, thanks for sharing.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/21 04:32 PM
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When I was a kid, I remember seeing a comic, which made me pause. It was a basic 1 frame comic, like a FarSide or similar. it was 2 little kids (5 yrs old?) in line at a convenience store, with a few coins in their hands, staring at the candybar rack, wishing they had more coinage. In line in front of them was an "old man" (ie: > 25 yrs old) who looked down at them and said: "funny thing, I can now buy anything on that rack and I don't want any of it" in some ways, you're like this: you no longe…
/r/askTRP22/06/21 01:18 PM
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of course play. because you love the game and will meet other people. all it took was 1 of the 3 either being jealous or threatened by you, in the past, to get revenge. so don't freak out. over time, you'll see them and will be able to tell which one it was and when apart the others may be open to hanging out. if not, no worries, by then you'll have made more friends on your team.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 05:38 PM
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so much in the side bar about this. to the OP it shouldn't matter. to the curious, again, sidebar. strage = new = feels romanticizing of when she was young (thin) and in love she sees OP as a chore, obligation sex, obligation to be avoided, vs shiny-object-syndrome his steadfast providership neutered him - being BB negates his AF potential. women want to be wild with those who do not judge them, CANNOT judge them. her ex is in no place to pass judgement, her husband can judge and would judge due…
/r/askTRP21/06/21 02:42 PM
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the first part was fine: ("Cool, had fun with while it lasted, take care....") but the 2nd part was a little reactionary. ("Feel free to contact me when you get tired of losers and need a good fuck.") maybe if it was f2f with a grin and a punch on the shoulder for AM. but as written, it reads butthurt, which matches what you wrote otherwise, it stings a little. the reason you don't need to state the 2nd part is: you know it'll happen if the lovin was on point and she's leaving for a BB or for an…
/r/askTRP21/06/21 01:50 PM
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the marriage isn't what's holding him back. he's holding himself back. the marriage is an ephemeral label. again, i'm not saying 'stay' i'm just noting the problem will follow him unless he gets the inner "him" as cool and buff as his 'outer-him'
/r/askTRP18/06/21 07:07 PM
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Validation as in feeling like a man because he banged his wife. ^^ worse than that actually. it's the validation that you have sex only to be told/seen as manly, by her. in your statement at least the guy was the one judging. what I'm referring to is external validation that's the real danger, where you allow your value to be determined by others. ironically its also an attraction killer. make sex a chore for them, etc. EDIT, read this: https://archive.is/Xw6wy
/r/askTRP18/06/21 01:37 PM
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he does what he needs to do, for himself. that's the point. when to divorce should be based on other factors (financial, etc). but being "like he is" and becoming single, won't fix his situation, he'll likely end up allowing for the same situation with the next one. that's the point - becoming a better/different version of himself, for himself. edit: as stated by bogeyd6: "...Your wife won't fuck you. Big deal. Did you ever stop to think how many women would gladly step into her role? You didn't…
/r/askTRP18/06/21 01:30 PM
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mattyanon wins that. scroll to see.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 01:27 PM
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OYS # 14. I've been working on RP concepts consciously for over 2 yrs and in my forth year of renewed fitness and self-first prioritization. It's been a few months since my last OYS. late 40's, 4 kids, 20+ yrs together. most recently read: "practical female psychology for the practical male" and "The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage" Both good. Physical:- BP is down as I'm doing higher volume (lower weight) hypertorphy plan from Renaissance Periodization (t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/21 07:10 PM
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yes. good. go back. get better. stop sucking. you need to overcome this "child's game" and know it's not going to break you. practice kicking a rolling ball aginst a large brick/stone/block wall at your local costco side parking lot. leveling up IRL is much much better than viday
/r/askTRP17/06/21 05:54 PM
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she is too low self esteem for an LTR. you need a woman who will revel in your strengths and look to support your growth. not one unhinged by your short term absences and will resent any more gains you make. demote and game other women.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 05:52 PM
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one of my bro's recorded many audio session on a 2nd phone when his (now ex) was calling and berating him. threatening to kill his new GF (they were separated then divorced) used racial slurs against the new chick, threatened to put her on a meat hook, just aggressive stuff. he recorded it without her consent. he gave it all to his lawyer. even tho it wasn't admissable his attorney shared some of it (at a f2f meeting) with the other counsel) supposedly to show state of mind and "this is your cli…
/r/askTRP17/06/21 05:40 PM
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this is a test of her, not you. in the US dancing 'means something' it's physical, it's flirting to the beat. in latin America it would mean nothing.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 04:33 PM
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get on the /marriedredpill sub, not here. setup a new kindle account on a new email address she doesn't know about, use read.amazon.com site to read, not a physical kindle. buy: "Mindful Attraction Plan: Your Practical Roadmap to Creating the Life, Love and Success You Want" by Athol Kay (and rational male series, and the other sidebar reads) Get on mrp and read other people's OYS and start posting yours there. a few things your stay plan is your go plan you need to level up for yourself. if it …
/r/askTRP17/06/21 04:30 PM
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"I dont' kiss and tell" it means she is ack'g she's imagined your social proof, assuming you have options. do NOT: "no baby, i only kiss when i'm in love" or some other good guy shit. do NOT: "yeah that's right bitch!" like it's some concept that's not mundane due to its obviousness. even if you 'like her' let her think you have options. don't good guy yourself into the friendszone, assuming you want to smash.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 04:18 PM
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My attitude be “it’s disrespectful. all you will do is drive her to be more sneaky about it, while confirming her curiosity that you are bothered by it... "so why is that, do you know that they're better than you? hmmm.???"
/r/askTRP16/06/21 07:27 PM
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OK so this is the traditional BB lasso'ing. do NOT get her pregnant. you're in an LTR, do you still use rubbers? or is she on the pill and that's you're only plan? do you know you're contry's laws on squatters and property rights? is this a place you own are are you going to get a new place? dont' delete tinder. don't give in. don't cheat if you dont want to. but a man without options is defacto needy. a needy man conveys to her she is his only option for sex. sex goes from fun to 'obligation'. …
/r/askTRP16/06/21 05:40 PM
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this is a very fine and logical sentiment. but i've tried that. I tried many things over my 20 yr LTR. And i'm here now and assure you, they say they want 'open' but not about your feels viz weakness or worry. They are not logical beings, at their core. They are emotional and in the moment. they want the oak. They want to be petulant knowing you may correct them and enforce boundaries** but not get butthurt if an outwardly handsome man catches her eye. ** "don't look at guys" is not a reasonable…
/r/askTRP16/06/21 05:32 PM
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I say fuck it. go for it. All of the responses saying no are correct, if you wanted an easier longer term thing with her, and if you wanted to play the safest route. but honestly, you're such a late bloomer and with pedestalization thought like "out of my league" i think you need baptism by fire. see if you can handle it. see if you can keep abundance mindset and cultivate some dread, RP on hard mode. See if your study and actualization of the sidebar can turn the tide. See if Frame and Game can…
/r/askTRP16/06/21 02:32 PM
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you must not be a surgeon.
/r/askTRP16/06/21 02:24 PM
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at some point, i noticed my ltr doing this. not sure if it 'started' or if i just finally began noticing. noting it/saying something portrays weakness. it's normal to be bothered. so, roll up your sleeves and realize it's a game and covert communication is what carries weight. next time you be the looker and let her get bent.
/r/askTRP16/06/21 02:15 PM
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let your rage power your lyrics. the world could use some more RP rap. don't be overt and break Rule #1 of fight club, just use the concepts and lessons learned "when I was soft you blew me off and now that I'm hard .... <you fill in the rest>"
/r/askTRP16/06/21 02:13 PM
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womanese translator engaged... “I’m scared... for now. I really like you... for now. how comfortable and amazing I make her feel... for now."
/r/askTRP16/06/21 02:11 PM
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abundance. in uncle V's word, "would any of this both you if you had 3-4 women in your life?" if the tables were turned, and you invied a hot chick neighbor over "for your guy friends" but you ended up vibing with her, she'd be passive aggressive and bitchy and threatened. is that how you want to be? no. so withdraw, focus on yourself, and know that these feels are purely an evolutionary holdover when there was actual scarcity thanks to tribal life, not like today. if you show you feel threatene…
/r/askTRP16/06/21 01:56 PM
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i don’t think even 0.01% of the world does the “gamer” thing where they are locked in mom basement being unfit. As long as you don't look and act like that \^^) you'll be fine. but I submit that its more than just 1 in 10,000 that look like this guy: https://i.pinimg.com/originals/aa/4d/ab/aa4dab0c856b60c259a28293290aa07f.jpg
/r/askTRP15/06/21 07:04 PM
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I have lived it. And I saw what it (dad bod and focusing on non-masculine pastimes) did to the inherent attraction and power dynamic at home. Now I'm the one her friends flirt with, and try to sit on my lap at parties/bbq's, and kino me to feel what stong feels like. And yes, I demure and don't encourage it, but as the alcohol flows and inhibitions lower, women behave how they want to behave, how they're driven to behave limbically, not based on ASD and societal norms. Being fit, ripped and spen…
/r/askTRP15/06/21 06:52 PM
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if you do it as a part of leisure, fine. then it doesn't define you no more than reading or watching movies. but "body by minecraft" is what's to be avoided. it' can't be your only/main outlet. it's not arduous or physically challenging enough. the leveling up is fake, the losses don't sting physically.
/r/askTRP15/06/21 06:48 PM
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I would. Just use it as a chance to observe and make a bro.
/r/askTRP15/06/21 05:05 PM
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ignore the fact that your GF has likely already masturbated to his face. i mean seriously, do not dwell on things you cannot control. let her GF's try to hook up with him, and yes, she'll live through them and ask for the T. because by sperg'ing out or mategaurding and looking weak you'll only convey your lack of fitness as an LTR, you know, confident, powerful, strong and worthy of your GF's poon?
/r/askTRP15/06/21 04:52 PM
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I've shown my 3 sons this video so many times. we effing love it. "because if i lose my ability to catch fish.. you not gonna find me sexy no more... so you gotta smell fish on me, so that you know i can catch fish, so you can ACT RIGHT."
/r/askTRP15/06/21 04:48 PM
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this is your place, so your terms. you handled fine, stating the AM. i thought your question was going to be about cohabitating, and askmrp type instead. there lead and clean as you want because you want a clean place, never as choreplay and barter chores for sex.
/r/askTRP15/06/21 04:25 PM
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"Alright so I think it's pretty damn well-established that guys in LTRs are getting less sex with whatever girl they happen with in that LTR than they were getting with that same girl in the beginning of the relationship" nope. 2-3x a week during courtship. 4-8x a week now, 20+ yrs later. how? get ripped, practice dread, have abundance, do NOT use sex for validation, game your LTR, give her the gift of missing you by doing other things without her, and don't actually scoreboard (I stopped actual…
/r/askTRP15/06/21 04:12 PM
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do not get married until you fix your neediness. and don't "try to LTR" date only for now. yes, you're not 6'2" and white, few of us are. work on maximizing everything that is tunable. focus on your habits defining you, not your un-changable traits (race and height).
/r/askTRP15/06/21 04:08 PM
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even though guys know that what makes men attractive is an array of traits (yes, looks; but also power; strength; resources; Frame; game/just-getting-it; and social status) women know, the primary attractor for men is: looks. period. when you're "much better looking" than her, she knows it and hates it. who do you think she masterbates over? her dad-bod gamer BF or IG fitness models and gymshark dudes? who do you look more like? question answered. yes, this is expected behavior, and unconscious …
/r/askTRP15/06/21 04:04 PM
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the obstacle is the way. so, what are the obstacles you note? ubiquitous online female validation male thirst weak mean so 180 that shit: get strong, in every domain, no excuses only in person female contact be so fucking un-thirsty you stand out and make them question themselves the obstacle is the way
/r/askTRP15/06/21 03:51 PM
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think of it as therapy. remove the judgement.
/r/askTRP15/06/21 02:57 PM
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you have so much time. for now, learn/grades, lift and have fun. just practice game and frame knowing chicks are very insecure and into looks/popularity mostly at your age. have fun in HS but remember to put yourself first.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 05:52 PM
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when you realize shit tests are what they are, they can become fun. recall, they are either: fitness tests congruence tests a fitness test is: are you good/strong enough for me to give you my sex? a congruence test is: are you as mentally/internally as strong as the outward persona you portay? yes, yes, if you were Chris Hemsworth, she'd not be testing at all and be on her knees, but even uberchads get tested by their women. no testing at all is either a sign of non-attraction on her part, or su…
/r/askTRP14/06/21 05:04 PM
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Read this: https://archive.is/sgfsl forget it says 9's and 10's, just internalize it. and these: https://archive.is/RymYf not just the first 50, but all 200.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 04:14 PM
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it'll pass. i used to feel a 'loss' at the loss. then i realized i didnt have that luxury. and the way of men is different.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 04:08 PM
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seriously, 8 dates? she likely thinks OP is afraid of sex at this point. OP: you put her in the friend zone. you need to escalate (last train home = you took to long)
/r/askTRP14/06/21 04:05 PM
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if she cuddles you after sex. that's when comfort matters. you don't want comfort before sex. you want tension, passion, lust, feelz. comfort is actually mutually exclusive with initial sex. she needs to want you and want you to want her for her to give up her sex to you. "not a serial killer" is actually what most women demand as a baseline. they are not as sweet as you think they are.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 04:03 PM
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you're right, but not why you think. "...not caring if a girl cheats on you basically means that you don't fully trust her from the start..." actually, I believe any woman can cheat/may cheat, because i trust her to act in her best interest. meaning, if you're in a FWB/LTR (someplace beyond plate-dom) and you/her are having an 'off week' (her feels, and/or your slip-up) and she comes across a chad during ovulation with opportunity to get some dicking, she will. awalt. so i trust her to not be a …
/r/askTRP14/06/21 03:50 PM
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your honesty is good. working backwards: you are your longest LTR... as you note, you had chicks for 2.5 yrs, and 2 months... how long have you "been with yourself" meaning, how long have you been around? since birth yes? and you'll be with yourself until your death, yes? You need to realize, that even a spouse doesn't outlast your own relationship with yourself. And BP/matrix conditioning is wrong -you are not a good husband/partner/BF/fwb when you caretake and do things for others so that they…
/r/askTRP14/06/21 03:33 PM
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Your only 'power' as a man is to withdraw your Time and Attention. corrollary: if you give away your Time and Attention, you devalue it. Women see men who give away their Time and Attention (simps) like men view sluts, people not worthy of respect. Are you guarding your Time and Attention? only rewarding good behavior? why not?
/r/askTRP14/06/21 02:38 PM
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don't worry about/think about who she told or whatever. in HS, with my 3rd GF, my 4th n-count, on our first time, i was soft and couldn't get it up. she was hot, i was sober and i have no idea wtf happened. I ignored, told her I'd see her in 3 days, and next time, no problems. after the next time, she confided that she thought I didn't find her attractive, so she was nervous i'd tell people... so don't worry about the 'rep' thing, just focus on enjoying yourself and giving pleasure for the sake …
/r/askTRP14/06/21 02:36 PM
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much mental pressure won't help things naturally flow. are you in a place (geography) that you can see a 'pro'? (yes, a prostitute) i would find one who you find attractive and literally tear off the bandaid with her. no need to dump all this info on her, just mention "I'm a bit ticklish, not in a good way" and see how she, as a pro, can work around that issue and get the job done. now you can lead/instruct your plates to behave the same way.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 02:32 PM
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read No More Mr. Nice Guy and When I say no I feel Guilty, the 2 more 'psych' focused sidebar books. Your external sounds fine. It's your internal strength that needs work Outcome Independence NGAF Frame, your worldview and locus of control being internally derived You are your longest LTR, be less needy.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 02:29 PM
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check out these guys, their purchasable templates are not for noobs, but I just saw a video last night about that topic, and it has to do with fatigue, new stimuli, myonuclear growth and Stimulus to Fatigue ratio optimization. for now, start with the more basic videos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QlZPCJJOUfQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDaTRSuqzZE
/r/askTRP14/06/21 02:20 PM
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for 99%+ of human history you'd be at the age most men would have offspring by now, so chances are your biology is pushing you for offspring. but you're only at the <50% mark of potential fatherhood, if that's what you want. so don't rush it. modern times make some of our genetic urges obsolete (ie: mategaurding). don't sweat it. work on yourself, build some wealth and get in top shape.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 02:16 PM
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"he yelled at her" was he on Tren? there are boys/men who naturally put themselves first. and those with looks+charisma combo to do well in the first 2-3 decades of their lives, especially in HS/Uni where proximity to abundant tail is default scenario. But when out of school and club/bar/job dating starts, you find those who relied on their looks and cred in school to be the ones asking about "there's this one girl at work" b/c they only talk to women who the "have a reason to talk to" because t…
/r/askTRP14/06/21 02:14 PM
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read Bigger, Leaner, Stronger - Mike Mathews and Mark Rippatoe's: Starting Strength. the fitness subs are fine with lots of info, but do find a plan and stick to it for a few progressive cycles at least (ie: 4-5 weeks x 4-5 cycles) to see how it's working. don't give up too soon before changing. variety of exercise is useful for fatigue management and new connective tissue building, but jumping too often limits long term gains (ie: myonuclei recuitment) so stick with something for a bit before c…
/r/askTRP14/06/21 02:05 PM
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it's not only you, but Otto isn't quite right. "it still doesn't matter" is wrong. well, he's right if you still seek external validation. it's wrong if you choose inside-out living, where you judge yourself first and foremost. there, you can be satisfied you stuck with it and finished (college) the task you assigned yourself. regardless of how trivial. (ie: flossing daily, it's for you and only you because you care for yourself like someone you care about, normally someone else).
/r/askTRP14/06/21 01:53 PM
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What do you do if you feel resentment not because you haven't accomplished anything difficult but because you feel like you have indeed accomplished some difficult things only to have it not matter at all basically, and not get the rewards other people would normally get from doing the same thing or that you were told you would get for completing these difficult tasks, e.g. finishing college 2 things: 1) theory - have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy? what you have is a covert contract, meaning "if…
/r/askTRP14/06/21 01:50 PM
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you are owed nothing. despite what you thought. people act in their self interest. it has nothing to do with you, stop thinking they are about you. your disgust and resentment... take a moment. are you sure it isn't projection? are you proud of yourself? if so, tell us how and why? what is something hard/difficult/arduous that you have completed and accomplished, despite the odds? anything like that? how did it feel when you realized you'd leveled up? your anger in the replies to comments is not…
/r/askTRP11/06/21 05:48 PM
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Your Frame "...and treated me as an equal..." (you are not equal, nor should you strive for it) "...Talking over me..." (are you one of her GF's? no.) "...Talking to me in a patronizing tone..." (ah, you're her man-child) "...her behavior isn't ideal..." (you're DEERing yourself. nothing sadder than a grown man DEERing himself) http://archive.is/2hjQR Overt Communications about her 'behavior' never work: "...I have raised with her on at least 5 occasions directly ..." (wow, don't worry, 6th time…
/r/askTRP11/06/21 02:55 PM
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have you been in the friend zone long? if not and this was your first time alone, you missed a good chance to polarize. when she began cuddling during the movie, you can do the face/hair/neck touching to escalate and when you move venues you kiss her. her: "no funny stuff tonight' you: "i never laugh during sex" (with a smirk) smile, be confident, escalate. if she rejects, no problem, look at phone, pull back. https://archive.is/l9zjA women use sex to get love. men use love to get sex. you just …
/r/askTRP11/06/21 02:41 PM
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this is not an actual contradiction. stoicism and RP reference post: https://archive.is/Uxztt yes, it's about LTRs but the mental frame applies to all levels of engagement. The reason Passion hook's 'em, is that women want a high value man with options, to choose them. That's their high. So choose them for what? Scrabble partner? no, for passionate non self conscious unbridled passionate sex. The same type of passion in a different domain can translate to a man being a master at his mission. Pas…
/r/askTRP11/06/21 02:19 PM
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no. mattyanon's tactic is good. stand tall. OP did nothing wrong. if the ex sees that harassment = she can blow up his social life, it will encourage her.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 02:05 PM
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women have a very vivid fantasy life. this is only a red-flag if you want a traditional LTR. if you want a swinger type chick and OLTR then she's compatible with you. give her credit for verbalizing her desires, takes guts. (most women just resent the lack of excitement and shame they feel, and end up taking it out on their men). if she doesn't match what you want, filter and demote/next. does she likely have someone in mind to fuck? yes, the sidebar states and bro's here can confirm. so what. e…
/r/askTRP11/06/21 01:59 PM
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not sure which - no admin messages, maybe the dread one? http://archive.is/iGdee
/r/askTRP11/06/21 01:54 PM
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business: different context with rules that govern the field. I am a consultant, I own a consulting firm. I meet with COO's, CFO's, CIO's and the rules for conduct in boardrooms and the bar with your friends have only a small intersection. Read Uncle V's corporate land sidebar posts for more info, and 48 laws of power. In both places, AM (amused mastery) is useful - but you pressure flip or D&A much less in business settings, unless you want conflict for a specific reason.
/r/askTRP10/06/21 07:21 PM
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Read: When I say No I feel Guilty.
/r/askTRP10/06/21 07:17 PM
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did he shape shift while in the car or perform any magic? then likely wasn't jewish
/r/askTRP10/06/21 07:17 PM
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passive aggressive is still aggressive. meet it head on, and A&A and pressure flip back at them, especially in group settings. when they squeal, you can retort: "just joking, bro!" learn to stand up for yourself, your words above likely mean your face and body are betraying your annoyance, which is a virtual "kick me" sign on your back. men shittest too. ​ https://archive.is/K0Hd1
/r/askTRP10/06/21 07:12 PM
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"see you in a month"
/r/askTRP10/06/21 06:47 PM
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I get that. and I get the question: "would she do this to Chris Hemsworth or Drake" obviously no. But obviously you/me/OP aren't Thor nor Drake. But it is a signal that she thought it would be ok. so OP does need to be at Dread level 6 at all times when in an LTR. http://archive.is/iGdee
/r/askTRP10/06/21 02:40 PM
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power talk has a few elements it has deniability it is meant to exchange info at multiple layers, for those fluent in it it communicates intent to those who understand it here she was deniable: "what, i didn't say it was his fault, just that the machine didn't like him! :) :) :) " but she was able to let off steam none the less, by being mean. deeper layer: she didn't like him because he couldn't fix the problem, and wanted to express it i understood what she meant and she was able to let me kno…
/r/askTRP10/06/21 02:22 PM
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nah, she was probing/testing. next time state the boundary earlier. attractive chicks are used to beta-izing their BF's. they subconciously push and take as much as the guy will give. it's in her nature to extract resources (both material/provisioning) and test for your strength, so she knows if you're getting weak and she should move on. don't be angry, the same way you're wired to look at every tit and ass that walks by, she's wired to seek the best (strongest and evolutionarily fittest) male …
/r/askTRP10/06/21 02:07 PM
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just LOL in her face, that'll show her; then usual shittest banter replies. once you note it's not a true discussion with a peer, have fun with it. the medium is the message and your message needs to be: ​ i dont' care about your viewpoint i don't care if i offend you with my response i dont' care if we stop talking forever withdraw attention and change subject. if she's too wrapped up in the heat of the other topic, smirk and move on to things that benefit you, and caretaking emotional chicks s…
/r/askTRP10/06/21 02:01 PM
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many women only test those which are potential mates/in which they have interest.... some are just wired to shittest anyone. Over the years, I've observed my LTR to be the type that tests everyone. And uses "powertalk" even with the clueless (vs. straight talk) because she doesnt' understand that it's wasted on them. It makes her feel good to make others uncomfortable at times - with an air of deniability. IE: she's not rude to wait staff, but here's an example. We were at a big box sporting goo…
/r/askTRP10/06/21 01:55 PM
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lacking a time machine, all you can do is do better next time. this outcome, as you note, had what appears to be a surprising turn, but it reinforces the main reason for her initial "floating" of the idea - was to have you lead. "my friend jimmy asked me to prom, i'm thinking of going" you don't give an ultimatum (ie: "if you go I will dump you") you instead state a boundary: "My LTR doesn't go to dances/balls/events with another guy" and STFU any typical response: "but he's just a friend" "if y…
/r/askTRP10/06/21 01:15 PM
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the more attractive you are, the more you can arouse and influence them without needing to be BB. and physical strength is attractive, consciously and limbically to women. and it feels great. the "pie theory" about each part you bring to the table being part of a pie- and you need 'enough pie' from the various parts to be a 'yes' for her. But about lifting, see this: https://archive.is/P9lBM For some women, all that will matter is the wallet and portfolio (aka: "materialistas") for some, all tha…
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:38 PM
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I'm on my 3rd time on NMMNG now. Did WISNIFG twice. I think I could benefit from David Deida again. Yes, the audible version allows for cardio listening in privacy and in the car. Love it.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:26 PM
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are you rich and attractive or just rich? this determines your SMV. either way, Frame (controlling the narrative and sticking to your viewpoints) is important, but how much 'else' do you have to work with? are you fit for your age? or are you fat and wear a Patek Phillipe and wonder why they only want your Black-Amex and not your hog?
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:21 PM
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in my 20's in had a dozen 30+ "plates" ongoing for a few years. they had their BB providers, I was young, hard and hot. they were low drama, low neediness, horny AF. they knew I'd never ask them to be my +1 at an event and they knew I wouldn't go to anything of theirs, either. you need to give out the "non judgemental vibe" and "go with the flow" vibe. be their feelz option for fun. many working women are bored shitless and sometimes want to have NSA fun, with a guy who they kinda know but don't…
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:13 PM
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I agree with theRealMewt if the choice is shot of burbon vs. burbon+coke. (or any of tye roses syrups in many drinks) personally, just avoid sweet mixed drinks, do burbon+diet-coke or sub sodawater over tonic and you're golden.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:07 PM
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Atlas Shrugged - Ayn Rand Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis - Eric Berne The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage - Shawn Smith The Manipulated Man - Esther Vilar The Multi Orgasmic Man - Chia, Mantak, Abrams The Bow and the Club - Evola
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:05 PM
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make it less about the fuck. make it about being someone others want to have around them - to their parties, at their house on movie night, at their beach vaca. not a dancing monkey, but someone who brings positive vibes, contributes to convos - how? you need to be interesting because you have shit going on. so get a life, then it's easy to be social.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 06:51 PM
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Just chuckle and smile, kiss forehead, slap ass and change the subject. This is simply a comfort test. "no baby, I'd never leave you" = fail "Yer gaddam right you near fatty!" = fail (unless this is truly your personality all along) instead, ride the line with ambiguity and kino. Whether you leave or not is based on a myriad of factors her BF% unless obscene is part of a calculus. The real statement which she's not likely to say would be: "you'll be less turned on by me and have to think of othe…
/r/askTRP09/06/21 06:48 PM
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I mean, kissing? or snowball-kissing?? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_A58231NFk "I'm 37!!!!"
/r/askTRP09/06/21 06:42 PM
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this is correct. recall, the 'power dynamic' is this: from approach until sex: woman has the power from sex until commitment/LTR-monogomy: he has the power post commitment/monogamy (without Dread and RP): she has the power again right now, OP is in phase 2 and she's likely doing the ASD stuff anon73945 suggests. so say ("I had fun last night") to show some comfort, assuage ASD post quick-bang guilt, and get the consent on record. if you're high value enough, remain OI and keep the texting otherw…
/r/askTRP09/06/21 06:39 PM
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I am not going to lie and say Medellin has HB10s on every corner. But what it does have are more HB7s and HB8s than you could date in 1000 lifetimes. i visited pre covid, it was a show
/r/TheRedPill09/06/21 02:52 PM
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yes, mountain life and active life helps - when the women want to keep up on hikes and biking and snowboarding, they can't be fatties
/r/TheRedPill09/06/21 02:49 PM
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game other women, whom you don't work with. at work: wear headphones.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 01:46 PM
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stay out of her head. do not breakdown to her. being quiet and withdrawn is your right. as your LTR she should give yo the slack, ask how she can help, but not make it worse. you're feeling like shit b/c you're in a weakened state due to your injury. so use this as a rest/deload time and work on low impact cardio (ride stationary bike, walk more) and read more. make it into a positive and focus on yourself. don't cry on her shoulder, but no need to artificially shut her out. be balanced, calm, b…
/r/askTRP09/06/21 01:33 PM
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if you only wanted her as a plate, let the NC lie there and ignore. it sounds like your ego was stoked being the only male, and your validation drive got the better of you. a more balanced reaction would have been better, but on either extreme (1- you shut down due to social anxiety vs, 2- you gamed her friend) the latter is the better, it's easier to reign in and you are now labeled as a player, better than an incel. your plate's reaction shows low self esteem, so redflag for ltr. (a high self …
/r/askTRP09/06/21 01:29 PM
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hosers
/r/askTRP08/06/21 02:23 PM
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a true self reliant woman doesn't need to proclaim she is, and the one's who actually say that (only a handful f2f in my life) are trainwrecks looking for validation and a hallpass on their promiscuity. TRP stance: we ack that birth control and college/professional opportunities for women has altered the SMP in the last 50 yrs. don't deny it, don't hate it, just ack and adjust accordingly. we feel that women who proclaim they are an "independent woman" are usually brats or sluts, words over acti…
/r/askTRP08/06/21 02:11 PM
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you shouldn't have gotten out of the car - if the friends were closer/behind you, it would've been over. just ignore, stay alert, make a joke to keep her calm, but stay in your car. in my state, we're armed when we drive and I conceal carry. So i definitely will not get out and 'pursue' as my act self defense becomes murder when i instigate and create a situation vs. de-esclation. next time roll up the windows and stay in the car. your car is itself a lethal weapon, safest inside.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 02:09 PM
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your not there to defend her, use it as an oppty to view your target under stress. your line above was fine- meaning it communicated that you noticed so you're not blind/dumb and fun=feelz, just be sure to have your hand on her and lead.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 01:53 PM
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https://archive.li/mBfjH
/r/askTRP08/06/21 01:46 PM
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i get it, but he's using straighttalk to talk about powertalk. RP is powertalk for the sexual marketplace and RMV leverage; these subs are straighttalk about powertalk/RP
/r/askTRP08/06/21 01:46 PM
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what do you have to lose? and yes, when you rewire your reward systems for things which take effort and you earn, you feel powerful and proud. not self-cucking to an image on pixels.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 01:36 PM
1

everyone has fantasies. she will be attracted to/aroused by nearly as many men as you are women. but: "how do you deal with her saying or feeling stuff like this" - saying is different. if she thinks it privately, it's normal. the book "secret garden" documented this 40 yrs ago. but verbalizing it to you crosses a line. either she's signaling she wants out, or she's nuclear shittesting you by dropping female Dread (females dont' need to use overt Dread, we all know they have defacto abundance) i…
/r/askMRP07/06/21 03:20 PM
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this is your ego. note it, but don't act on it. look, she wasn't quality, and you rationally pulled back since your oneitis wasn't deserved/proportional to her value and traits. what you miss are the feelings you had when with her (the dopoamine and the oxytocin) so find other sources for those, when it's best for you to do so. you are your longest LTR, act accordingly. remind yourself: "what I want from her I can get from any number of willing women" and act.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 03:10 PM
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no need for faster/harder. just be sure to not not do it. coming to anyone's place is a good sign. coming to your place is an even better sign - so they can leave when they're done; it's the universal "i want dick" logistical play. hug social kiss at greeting to set the tone.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 03:07 PM
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low self esteem. avoid ltr. smash if hot.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 02:41 PM
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ignore them. they simply are shamed by your ability to execute and act. even if you are 'addicted' to the gym, good. being addicted to something/somewhere which provides positive feedback and self-reinforcing benefits is a dream addiction. do deload. do not get hurt. you'll be in a bad spot if you are injured, that's the downside of your addiction. so learn to take breaks.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 02:40 PM
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uh getting a cert isn't very difficult and should be on your list if you're serious. (see: your last sentence to see why you need "train the trainer") most clients will know what they want (outcome) if you ask them - if they give general answers you can tease out of them more info. and if they were following you around, not sure they wanted training as much as eye candy. (not a trainer, but have looked into it as a 2nd career post initial retirement; as I too squat more than 3 plates.... /s )
/r/askTRP07/06/21 02:35 PM
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"men that are good with women" may mean a finely honed craft, but larger studies have shown: where there is more men than women, women control the timbre of the relationship/dating market. (this is due to the scarcity of the poon, so men go through more hoops to get it, ie: wait more dates, be in an LTR before sex, etc). example: college campuses in the mid 20th century, more men than women. women insisted on more commitment before sex. when there are more women (open to sex), men control the SM…
/r/askTRP07/06/21 02:26 PM
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but almost all sexual psychologists seem to disagree with you. and studies of poly-amorous early humans as well.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 02:22 PM
2

Gru? Sorry. Shrinks In my area they make over 250 grand a year. If you have a passion for it- keep going. (Private practice not social work.) Get strong. The base muscle you put on during your university years makes a difference in your ability to gain and maintain muscle the rest of your life. Strength solves a lot of issues. You’ll know the time but at some point simply shave there’s an expression that “balding is not a choice, bald is” Based on your luck you may have a funny shaped head ... a…
/r/askTRP05/06/21 04:01 AM
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Buy raw pecans in bulk. Roast them at home with macadamia or walnut oil in the oven I make two different flavors: 1 - Red pepper flake, Monk fruit, rosemary, salt 2- Thai chili and lime and salt Those little bastards can be 700 cal per cup taste delicious amd are natural whole food amd have great macros.
/r/askTRP05/06/21 03:53 AM
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The gym. And bars first responders hang out at.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/21 03:46 AM
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men, on balance, are problem solvers. we fix things. we look at a problem and work backwards to a solution. women's whole worldview and state is driven by what they feel. and that they're feeling that, right now is what matters to them. it allows for branch swinging, light-switch-effect, and warbride syndome. so, to prove this point, i want you to think about any good/bad things a woman has said to you in the heat of passion - whether positive or negative, and amend them as such: with "for now" …
/r/askTRP04/06/21 06:47 PM
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Read Models, a better book of his.
/r/askTRP04/06/21 06:32 PM
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then that 10k was worth a mint, WTF made you think you'd get it back without a payment plan agreed to upfront?
/r/askTRP04/06/21 05:39 PM
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A high value confident man will take his shot I remember Mark Masons's book, how he gives you a peek into the mind of a single or unsatisfied woman's mind, when you're approaching 1) they really really want you to be the shit. secretly, they're hoping you're amazing. 2) if they see you approaching, they've already made up their minds if they're going to allow for the exchange 3) a few seconds into the exchagne, they've already decided if they want it to continue so don't sweat it, it'll be over …
/r/askTRP04/06/21 05:37 PM
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reasonable. you may want to add, you are the public girl, and they are to remain private. I only know of one 'successful' open-on-one-side LTR and that was on her list. my buddy basically said: "she said she understands my drive and desires do not line up with hers, so she'd rather I get that out of my system... as long as she never sees them, I never do any events/parties/public functions with my side piece(s)" check out Caleb Jones OLTR content on blackdragon site -signed, not a loser teenager
/r/askTRP04/06/21 05:06 PM
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so stop quoting her ("“you’ll thank me later”), stop viewing the world through her eyes. Your Frame is what must become paramount in your world. going no contact is not possible if you want to remain engaged with your kids, so simply become unyeilding in things that matter to you and do not let anything that does not matter affect you. Key: you decide what's important and what's not. Period. You're 26 and will be wise beyond your years compared to the many guys, so feel the pain/anger/resentment…
/r/askTRP04/06/21 05:00 PM
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as you've already noted, she's not ugly. so as long as she turns you on, truly, you're good to go. I don't know that hotness automatically ==redflags, rather there are fewer hotter women, and many are lazy (while young; and will be bitter later) so they certainly don't have to work as hard being decent people. But once you've sampled a large enough data set of women, you realize, that for flings beyond plating (even FWB) them having gifts other than nice tits are a huge plus; it's all about valu…
/r/askTRP04/06/21 04:53 PM
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abundance: https://archive.is/CcUUC and https://archive.is/vM2C4 frame: https://archive.is/SWTFM
/r/askTRP04/06/21 02:39 PM
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it was at a college party, in another state - which is why it's so random we were both there - just each visiting different friends who went to this uni. and i'm sure she was drinking before i got there. the rapport you have when working with someone for a year+ with some sexual tension was the key. and she was being swarmed. it could have ended there with the accidental white knighting, but it didn't. haters gonna hate.
/r/askTRP04/06/21 02:07 PM
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perfect, be social. "kinda seeing someone" isn't anything in girl speak
/r/askTRP04/06/21 02:04 PM
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you have no idea how much fun it is and how easy it is when you're handsome, fit, and confident. no idea. your cope of assuming fake is your downfall. i can still picture her fine ass.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 07:43 PM
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don't be like them. for your own benefit and reasons for being at the gym, but subtext: as a differentiator. years ago i worked in hospitality and a solid HB8 was also on staff. she was constantly orbited by coworkers and hit on by guests. like flies on shit. we would interact normally and i made an effort to not even flirt with her when we were 1 on 1, alone, etc. i ran into her about a year later at a party hundreds of miles from where we worked. crazy chance. she was of course being hit on by…
/r/askTRP03/06/21 07:05 PM
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how many times have you been told "i have a BF" yet ended up hooking up with the very same person? probably never. I have. many times. even a few who said "I'm married" yet kept their other IOIs coming, and sure enough, they were DTF. you don't need to invent intention, but reading between the lines is the game women play - they want a guy who just gets it. and if she was a good girl, and had no interest, she wouldn't be offering a meetup to a guy she met at an OLD site. by saying i have a BF it…
/r/askTRP03/06/21 05:59 PM
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pullups pushups one legged pistol squats v-ups even with a trashed back you can try those and build up.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 04:28 PM
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she's challenging you to see if you have the stones to ignore her comment about her BF. if she's willing to text you and meet up, escalate. assume attraction. if she brings him to the meet up, then you know, otherwise assume she's showing social proof by saying she had a bf and it's a shittest to see if you're man enough to push through.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 04:12 PM
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you're in the honeymoon phase (aka: new relaionship energy) you need to spend more time with her to know the real her. (i have 4 kids and a 20 yr ltr and I waited 4 yrs before making the decision you're contemplating) I was supposedly her 4th Notch, who knows, she divulged, I didn't ask. She's my 40+th, and doesn't know the number. and i can tell you, that if you're insecure about this now, you will be more so later. as she spends time with personal trainers, other sports dads, kids' coaches, yo…
/r/askTRP03/06/21 04:05 PM
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she felt dirty/didn't want you to judge her. (yet she got you thinking about her past, and judging her, so it backfired: again, they aren't logical, they speak/act from emotional motivation in the moment) your next step is to get her to say: "i've never done that before" so push her boundaries.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 03:56 PM
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you have your numbers down (75% efficiency) yet are derailed by this? 1) she's active listening, by having a question that derived from your last response. it's not obtuse. 2) she simply ignored your question of her weekend, because, i mean, who cares. are you gonna make it better? do you 'care' about her like a good GF? 3) she's fishing to see if you're an earner based on your degree, she's filtering. personally, joke about it: "I studied beer, I'll be practicing my craft on X date at Y locatio…
/r/askTRP03/06/21 03:53 PM
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People often do shit like this early on in a relationship to gauge how much they can get away with. Not a good sign and it's not only a redflag of "not LTR material", but to them an LTR is simply a mechanism for additional feel-inducing-levers. Because with LTR and monogomy she can push your buttons (or try to) and then have you mate guard (supposedly) to get more attention and feels. Yes, some women actually want LTRs for reasons other than "how to better fuck with my man's head and ego" - usua…
/r/askTRP03/06/21 03:48 PM
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in my 20's i had an ongoing fling with a single mom with 2 kids. she was older than me so knew i wasn't provider/provisioning/parental material. when her ex had the kids, she was ravenous and there were not logistical issues. it was short lived as she was hot enough to find a BB who did the 3P's as you note. she still cheated on him with me a few times, every time saying "it was the last time" I'd just wait for a text in a few weeks/months.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 03:39 PM
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your problem is you think that a few more reps will make you worthy, they won't. only treating yourself like your longest LTR does. you must truly believe you are worth wanting. why are you worried about qualifying for her? Instead focus on seeing if she's up to snuff for you. Do you have requirements for your plates/lays? or do you take whatever scraps fall in your lap? set standards. it starts with yourself, then you can feel congruent expecting more from others; and rejecting those who do not…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 05:22 PM
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maybe you should be more worried that: "I’d be super irritable because I get withdrawals when I first stop smoking, like anxiety and irritability." than whether a girls feelings are hurt?
/r/askTRP02/06/21 05:16 PM
3

beep boop
/r/askTRP02/06/21 02:03 PM
2

are you an android? go lift. good memories will rise up when a trigger happens (a perfume, a song, a taste, a sound) as will bad ones. the barometer is easy: are you smiling when the memory comes up? then good, move on. but beware living in the past... checkout "the power of now" by Ekhard Tolle, it's on the top 5 books for recovering androids.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 01:34 PM
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Based on what he has said in his post, I do not think this is an appropriate career for him. yes. if he had challenges being a waiter (working memory, logic of routes/order of operations, if-then choices) he will have trouble with coding beyond the basics. doing a physical job with a muni for a muni pension/retirement is a good idea. then at 45 (48?) he can 'retire' and be a lifegaurd or something else which doesn't pay loads, but with a retirement plan paying already for more than half his expe…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 01:29 PM
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Dad, is this you? I've missed you...
/r/askTRP01/06/21 08:03 PM
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"I have my own way of thinking" you must be a blast at parties.
/r/askTRP01/06/21 07:46 PM
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this is the way. then eject.
/r/askTRP01/06/21 07:43 PM
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post 30 yr old single women you won't find (m)any virgins, and will find plenty of women who have advanced degrees and focused on their careers. but in your 30's you don't have to date women your own age. depends on what you want, so have some options and abundance. i live in a big city and there are many, many late 20/early 30 women who are single but not divorced. many complain about the lack of men who aren't married and aren't losers. so will it be tricker that meeting a chick in college, su…
/r/askTRP01/06/21 06:35 PM
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she wants her cake and eating it, too. do not LTR her, and at this point, just move on since you may have feelings for her. she is looking for additional male validation and not LTR material.
/r/askTRP01/06/21 05:07 PM
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Just the other day my LTR was angry at me losing a few more pounds, asking me why. Told her I want my six pack back. She said, I don't like skinny guys. Later that night she gave me deepthroat while having a hand on my abs the whole time. +1 they don't like competition so their forebrain doesn't want you lean, but her hindbrain does. ignore what they say, as you note. about the bold part: It's called the epic/ultimate shit test, best captured here: https://archive.is/pSJXz "...We all recognize t…
/r/askTRP01/06/21 05:02 PM
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if you talk to all women, then talking to hot ones is easy. plus the 'pretty ones' are as insecure and neurotic as the normies. so read this: http://archive.is/iSEUR
/r/askTRP01/06/21 04:58 PM
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bigdickenergy because when a woman says: "men aint shit" she's saying that for the benefit of her ladies, towing the line, for the group support nod session. when a man says, directly to a woman: You ain't shit, it isn't for his homies, it's to let her know she doesn't mean shit to him - and he means it, since he has what few men have, abundance. And weak guys burn and stew about rejection, average women burn and stew about not being selected-for. Their normal state is "the chooser/rejecter" whe…
/r/askTRP01/06/21 01:27 PM
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"Balancing Weights and BJJ" - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8Vhi7SuFe8 If you'd like to integrate weights into your BJJ training or integrate BJJ into your weight training, this video covers the ins and outs of how to do so with the least interference and the most effect!"
/r/askTRP01/06/21 01:20 PM
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Plenty of books on that topic, search for it. Personally i find its when i ride the line between order and chaos, meaning when i'm pushing myself in a domain of some competence. could be gravity biking, surfing, sk8ing, snowboarding. and they also have one thing in common: adrenaline. yes, there are other less physical pursuits which can put me "in the zone" sometimes fishing, sometimes shooting, but i find myself most relaxed/invigorated (post activity) proportionally to how "present" I was dur…
/r/askTRP01/06/21 01:17 PM
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until you pee blood.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 02:31 PM
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i haven't compared them, but i use PFEI by olson, works for me.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 01:38 PM
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thicker fingers than you? so is she a fatty and you're a waif of a man? yes, she's testing your frame and confidence. yes she masterbates thinking of you and hopes you have a big dick. women are freaks (too). you keep touching hands with her and shit will go sideways. don't proceed lightly.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 12:40 PM
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get a PFE app. mine reminds me 4x a day to do them and it works.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 12:30 PM
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The biggest misunderstanding about RP from BP/women is that RP'ers hate women. We don't. We love them. But we do not expect them to behave in ways that isn't in their best interest and we do expect them to behave as they are wired. So as long as you learn to accept; no need to judge, you'll be golden. You are your longest LTR, focus and prioritize your well being. The value of negging as a way to jolt a normally pedastlized woman has its place during encounters, but 'negging' as a way of life is…
/r/askTRP28/05/21 12:30 PM
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" you’re too stoic, people feel insulted when they can’t disappoint you” you're hard to crack. it frustrates me that i can't get under your skin. clearly, she is used to guys catching feels for her by 6 months... and she's catching feels for you. that combination is the recipe for female's worst nightmare: rejection. enjoy her how you want, and keep the chuckles rolling. add in the ass-slap occasionally, works like a charm.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 12:15 PM
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you mean she doesn't sit at home alone all the time? what do??? this is basic, just be social. uncle-V's guide to dealing with the fat friend may be useful to review before you go, in case she's the cockblocking type, but otherwise, social proof and fun.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 12:12 PM
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just go to enjoy yourself and feel sorry for the groom. then, try to learn a single fact/nugget about every dating age attractive female there. that's your only goal: talking them up. if any seem aroused, then isolate and escalate. a kiss close would be fun. make this fun.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 12:04 PM
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she was your first 'everything' etc. as an older guy, trust me, it gets easier when you realize: what you wanted from her you can get from any number of willing women. And many without low self esteem issues, like she had. you miss the role and you miss the affection and the comfort and the feelz. these are not actually tied to her. but for now, focus on yourself: you are your longest LTR, so act like it. when you're flowing and enjoying life and making progress, others will attract you when you…
/r/askTRP28/05/21 12:03 PM
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Girls saying they don't like muscular men is the biggest lie. yup. they love strength. not in the forebrain - it's an easy target for judgieness, it attracts attention, it hints at narcissism; but deep down.... in the part of the brain that thinks for them, they want that strength. by their side. on them. behind them. over them. and able to come to their aid. as a guy who has made gains (never been this strong with my current LTR, so it's not new to me, but it's new to her) when they're "not thi…
/r/askTRP27/05/21 04:42 PM
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there is a difference between normal Dread due to your arc vs. hers. (that's a feature not a bug) but LTR'ing a low self esteem woman should be classified like capn-save-a-ho. You can't fix rotten insides.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 04:37 PM
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again retarded. i didn't change the subject. "slut maker" etc. wtf. being passive is feminie. period. being assertive is masculine. OP needs to embrace it. not fear it.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 04:19 PM
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this is just weak ego protection. by talking with women it doesn't put them in power. only being needy does. the more they get to know you/me the more attractive we become. keep waiting. keep standing back. makes it easier for those of us confident and OI enough to talk them up. makes me stand out. "My advice is not really for slut makers." ironically, you're more likely to be approached by a higher n-count woman.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 04:07 PM
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this is so retarded. even if you want an LTR you need to be assertive and have abundance or your LTR will drop you and "it just happened" will be in your future (i love you, but i'm not in love with you) . Quality feminine women also filter by themselves being passive - they want an assertive and masculine man, so they dont' approach. it's a pre-emptive shittest. again. so retarded. A man is assertive and should 'chase' or acquire and experience whatever he desires. OP is afraid: afraid of rejec…
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:47 PM
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a woman can be upset if you reject her for a sexual relationship - that's the only justified expectation. they should never find out you don't want to be friends. just demure, 'sure' - 'sounds cool' and build a social network.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:33 PM
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this is basic AF/BB motivators. comfort isn't a prerequisite for sex, it's actually counter to it. it may be useful POST sex to keep a girl around, if she adds value to your life. how much of sidebar have you read? this is rP 101
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:28 PM
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That sounds a lot like permission And like a sorry ass Juice Wrld song, which turns my stomach. weak.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:26 PM
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what would have been a better way to go about things with girls that keep bringing up friendship you say: "sure" and you don't engage in friendship behaviors if you don't want to. by them thinking they're your friend, when another chick asks about you, they'll say: "yeah, he's cool, we're friends" now they'll say: "he's a douchebag and only wants fuckbuddies" keep your personal mantra, code, matrix of right/wrong, and such personal.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:22 PM
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"I’m just wondering if she hasn’t because she thinks it would scare me away or she just really doesn’t wanna be with me" this isn't the right question. the right question is: "what do I want" then do that. don't let your ego drive the bus. do what's best for you.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:19 PM
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". Is Glover suggesting that one should not enter any LTR without the ability to walk away at any time?" yes. you should want to be with that person, never need to be with them. n any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least."
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:13 PM
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yup. It was my last LTR for 6 yrs. I changed my ways after that and focused on me first. Years later I thanked her (silently), she was acting true to her self motivations and showed me AWALT, and slapped me awake in a manner of speaking. The sting fades, the lesson does not.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 03:09 PM
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do you track her cycle? you should if she's your LTR. it likely lines up with her ovulation.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 02:06 PM
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you have one more chance. she's being as overt as she can (mentioning sex) but then covering her ass (ASD and ego protectoin) with her "or we can be friends" addendum. ​ do what you want. but be assertive. no more talking about yourself like you're writing a damn autobiography. ACT. DO. BE. enough talk.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 01:59 PM
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you need to read: "Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Male" they do an interesting job of classifying HSE/LSE (high self esteem and Low self esteem) women and showing what they're 'good for' and LSE are not good for constructive LTRs. so find a chick with HSE and she'll revel in your gainz. the only thing being swole isnt' good for is your food budget...
/r/askTRP26/05/21 01:57 PM
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i had about 20 jobs before i was 30. i tried many things, found some joy then got bored. realized the grind wasn't too invigorating, so it was about the bottom line and 'winning'. i use my hobbies for chasing-flow-state. so try a few things, in parallel, sharing the same backend admin setup to save time and money, and see which pans out. for me it was fail fail fail fail fail-less.. then years of 75+ hr weeks (not kidding). now i work about half that. but i paid my dues.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 01:50 PM
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happened to me, on the losing end once. I was dating (past a year at that point, and had been mutually monogamous - supposedly) and like all very attractive female grad students surrounded by underclassmen, she was drowning in offers for sausage at her ivy league school (I wasn't a student, and a few years older). it was the end of the 'ship and we were at a group dinner by the water in our city, with her fellow TA's. it was tense and I should've just ejected earlier. as we all left the watersid…
/r/askTRP26/05/21 01:46 PM
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listen to this: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-rich-every-episode/id1454097755?i=1000440401437
/r/askTRP25/05/21 04:17 PM
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I own 2 businesses. Learn to make money from leverage. Not $$ per hour.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 03:05 PM
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ignore what they say. if she shows, keep escalating. again, ASD and societal moors will necessiate some to 'make sure you know they're a good girl' Nod and smile, then proceed as normal.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 02:54 PM
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I value my time at $1000/hr. Used to be a pipe dream. Almost half way there now. Don't sell yourself short.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 02:53 PM
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rpwomen is your place
/r/askTRP25/05/21 02:49 PM
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for a recharge, just go to the EC's posts and sort by top all time posts
/r/askTRP25/05/21 02:47 PM
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she's self advocating, but using guilt. "I like you, I want more from us and exclusivity" would be more direct, but women aren't direct - she's being as direct as most get, but couched it with her feelings being hurt if you don't step up/commit/etc. the problem is, she just fucked herself. because as an informed male, you know that if you give in to her demand, due to her feelings, she can continue to play that card in the future and manipulate you further. it's too bad. b/c if she was quality, …
/r/askTRP25/05/21 02:37 PM
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Search Renaissance periodization on google. They don’t have noob plans. More intermediate plans - but their you tube has a lot of vids on your specific question.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 03:05 AM
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"I’m personally not interested as I’m comfortable with my size" I totally get it.... I mean, me too. I'm just checking this thread "for a friend' LOL
/r/askTRP24/05/21 07:19 PM
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The double entrendre of the pie diameters was too funny. This is good stuff, combined with looks threshold. Meaning a given girl will have a minimum pie-slice-size for looks (or height). So sure, wouldn't it be great if you were 6'2" or hot as fuck? yup. ...but you're not, so you have to meet a min spec for her looks threshold and after that the compendium of your other assets make for the total package, the total pie. and not having missing slices is key as well.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/21 07:13 PM
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"...Now when in the presence of a man that is comfortable in his own skin, is in a flow state in his everyday life and is attractive, a switch flips and the Alpha Reversal happens inside the female psyche. Now the man is perceived as fully alive, and the woman draws vicarious pleasure from being his woman. When in that state, the woman enjoys and willingly supports his his vitality" Good observation. Which is why not giving her too much attention is important early on: it allows you to focus on …
/r/TheRedPill24/05/21 06:09 PM
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his look is still 'meek+weak'... but good thing, he can change that when he chooses to focus on it.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/21 06:00 PM
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his post isn't about correllating womens' looks to happiness. it's that a woman begins with her assets as highest as they'll be, and they will depreciate. a man has to build/acquire his through the masculine way. (yes, there are exceptions, women who get fit at 30, men who are born handsome as a greek god) but in general, this is the way.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/21 02:27 PM
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For such a shy person she really came alive lol. this should be your biggest take away. you already know assume attraction, you already know Escalate, you already know be bold (not nice); and you know LMR. your new nugget is - don't assume a woman isn't a freak simply by how she acts in public at a social event. like assume attraction, if she's alive and of mating age, assume she's a freak until proven otherwise. your pool of targets is broader when you realize this. good job OP: your process an…
/r/TheRedPill24/05/21 02:24 PM
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the good news: you're consistent... the reason you feel sad now is the same reason you stayed with a land whale for so long - you're scared of being alone, have scarcity mindset. 1) you shouldn't know what your ex's are up to, so block / ghost 2) you need to focus on yourself, what you've achived, what's still ahead of you. do not think about/focus on whether her fat butt is getting plugged. shut her out of your mind and realize you are important enough to care about. people with low self esteem…
/r/askTRP24/05/21 02:13 PM
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You called her ex beta but that guy showed abundance and didn't give a fuck where as you haven't and instead are rewarding her bad behaviour by apologising and buying her gifts. my first thought as well. OP: you'll never know fully what happened there, but what she revealed about his indifference is enough. When you show up (late) or at all: you're the gift. An LTR needs to be supportive when you're at a work event. Period. No guilt tripping, nothing. Example: in my early dating phases when I wa…
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:57 PM
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" She immediately backtracked and apologized and said she was “just being silly” girl code for “whoops you called me on my bullshit” and the topic was changed" this is a good sign that your reply was on point. occasionally I'll banter (A&A, AM) but sometimes a pressure flip or a D&A (disagree and amplify) works best to set the frame in a form of push back. To me yours was a pressure flip asking her to solve it herself (fiip a coin) Shit test takeaway: the medium is the message, not the exact wor…
/r/TheRedPill21/05/21 07:51 PM
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what's your Test level? test makes effort feel good. my desire a few years ago and now are similar levels, just more action/activity now. my test levels were < 150ng/dL before TRT, and I felt drained and hard to motivate myself sometimes. now about 1k, and I am kinetic.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 02:38 PM
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take her out and about, be seen with her before she leaves town - social proof will be her parting gift to you and your penis. story time: a true HB9 I dated in college used to drive 8+ hours to see me every 3-4 weeks and stay the weekend: were were in uni in different states having met on a holiday break vacation though mutual friends of friends in a group house Anyways, when she visited, we'd go out with my college bros and drink at college bars and party and whatever, then back to apartment a…
/r/askTRP19/05/21 07:52 PM
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did he hem your pants? or shorten your dinner jacket? assuming you mean an altercation, either own it or change the group. chances are they are bringing it up since you haven't been dealing with it well. and they dont' sound like real friends. if one of my true friends got his ass kicked by someone who went on to be famous and in the news, i would't be bringing up the victor's name and putting it in his face all the time, not if i was his friend. they dont' sound like your friends if what you sa…
/r/askTRP19/05/21 05:02 PM
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if the women you choose to promote beyond a piece of ass do not have charm, warmth, smiles, wiles, affection and kindness - why? if they're not adding value to your life through their behavior or contributions, what's the point? putting her pu$$y on lock down?
/r/askTRP19/05/21 01:19 PM
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There is indifference and there is control. Learn to do the latter. That’s what’s needed for anything beyond a Plate level relationship. Withdrawal of your attention will always be a tool at your disposal. But going straight to “ghost/eject” may be too extreme Read the “bitch management guide”
/r/askTRP19/05/21 04:44 AM
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the resentment can be due to feeling 'duped' and the time lost while under the ruse. the sooner you can acknowledge that it happened, impartially, then 'set it down' the sooner you can move on. emotions are good for 2 things: signaling information motivation so you've already ID'd you were duped and were misled (item 1) now use that fury to kick start your improvement in various domains in your life (item 2) and set long term habits up as motivation will wane.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 05:20 PM
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this is will be a small before/after pool size. the more common before/after people can relate to are: lowering BF % from something high (ie: above 30) to something lean like below 15% gaining muscle the weak-chin look is bad on men and women, especially men; so I assume you saw good results after - especially if your confidence climbed and you acted more masculine - hell, even "looking down to hide your chin" communicates submissiveness, not a trait women want in men.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 05:17 PM
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We have been brainwashed to think women are caring, loyal, feminine. They can behave that way, which is what matters. Their behavior towards you. But you have to train them, through withdrawal of affection and attention when they behave poorly, and rewarding good behavior - all while being a High Value male. Example, unlike a few years ago, now every day before leave the house my LTR asks me: "is there anything you want me to do today for you?". note it's not: "do you need me to do anything?" sh…
/r/askTRP18/05/21 05:08 PM
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Once i created my life, why should i invite women into it? so they can wreck everything ? you're assuming wrongly they'd have the power to do that. if you do not marry they can't have yoru assets. if you do not 'need' them, they can't break your heart. enjoy them for their charm, warmth, smiles, wiles, sex, affection and kindness- because you want to, not because you have to. never need a woman.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 04:58 PM
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Also what she says right now means fuck all. A woman can cry about how lucky she feels to have OP's love on a Monday then on a Chad's cock on Thursday. yup, as soon as OP said: "she keeps talking about our future and our plans for later in life so I don’t know if it’s the case ( that shes talking to another dude)" told me OP doesn't know shit. OP: stop being needy. if you want to bang, fuck her proper. if you don't want sex, decline. she doesn't want to be your mother, regardless of what she mig…
/r/askTRP18/05/21 12:45 PM
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country? i have a few male friends/acquainances who tried teaching in the US, and left due to the politics of it. they were 'token males' and welcomed by administration at first, but the female posse and crazy progressive pressure (and this is before #metoo and woke culture). i would start a side hustle, and be able to afford travel in the summer.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 12:41 PM
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nah I just heard gaming strippers was a whole other beast. Wanted to see if I can withstand the pressure. good on you.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 12:39 PM
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If a woman shows up to a dinnerdate** dressed as you describe, you should simply LOL in her face and excuse yourself. **plenty of reasons why they are bad first dates vs coffee or a beer you have to be able to advocate for yourself and not be afraid to offend. if the idea of simply walking away makes you uncomfortable, you have work to do. do not pretend to use the bathroom do not pretend you have a sick dog/emergency do call her out on her slothfulness, you don't need to be emotional (not: "you…
/r/askTRP18/05/21 12:34 PM
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it's a lot of work at first - you sound like you're in touch with the schedule/time balance. some stuff you can do at night so you have time for the gym earlier in the day, like admin, quotes, invoicing - do get a part time admin person for AP/AR/GL and do get a prof services org for payroll and withholding taxes. it eats some margin now, but it's not good time spent by you - outsource that. make sure to focus on the higher value stuff earlier in the day, when you're sharper/have more energy. do…
/r/askTRP17/05/21 07:36 PM
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there are 4 ways to leverage resources. in order of history: labor: you can do more by having workers, paying them their wage and collecting the margin between their pay and the end-user costs. This is the oldest form of leverage. Here you would staff up. money: you can use capital to buy machinery, land, tools to further increase productivity - here it may be a CRM tool tool or scheduling tool or KB tool to make your teams more productive/increase margin. 2 newer ones: communication platforms s…
/r/askTRP17/05/21 07:03 PM
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that I should just observe them , focus on them , discard them ? observe, but do not judge them or yourself note, and learn from the memories. see their benefit and that which does not advance your well being, after seeing them fully, set them down
/r/askTRP17/05/21 06:56 PM
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"but baby, my dick game so strong, it can't be only you enjoying it!"
/r/askTRP17/05/21 06:53 PM
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They are just statements about experiences that I’ve had +1 for real world experience.
/r/askTRP17/05/21 06:50 PM
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you're still trading hours for dollars, a peasant's bargain. regardless of your hourly wage, as dr.s/lawyers make more money, they raise their standard of living, so still are paycheck to paycheck - unless they own part of the practice. so, build a business with cashflow and revenue that isn't tied to your hours on the clock. it's low return-high-effort at first, but then the scales can tip if you're fortunate and have picked a market which matches your skillset and temperament.
/r/askTRP17/05/21 06:48 PM
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closer to what? is it a real logistical solution, or not?
/r/askTRP17/05/21 06:05 PM
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I loved the feeling of her running after me and the security it gave me good: honest reflection. that's "normal" but is more feminine in that it requires others for your security. as the masculine half, your security is in your hands. whereas: additional joy, laughter, comfort, affection, charm, touch - get that from your woman. know what 'they' are good for, and security isn't it. that's what a mother provides her child/son. not what a grown man should want from his mate/plate/date. another goo…
/r/askTRP17/05/21 04:51 PM
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I realized that there was a bunch of shit my ex took for granted that these new girls seem super impressed with and/or grateful for. It was refreshing. It was a nice reminder that I am awesome Correct - you shouldn't NEED to be wanted, but having someone appreciative to be around you who is thankful for your skills/traits/presence is a form of kindness and affection that can't be bought. We are social animals. Don't deny it, just don't need them. And it'll be the cherry on top of a life well liv…
/r/askTRP17/05/21 01:50 PM
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exactly, it's not a big deal as long as your tackle still works.
/r/askTRP17/05/21 01:46 PM
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simp much? OP clearly stated next to her, no chance she was doing flys with both stacks based on her description, and based on him saying he was looking away, wouldn't be surprised if he was doing tricep pushdowns with his back to her. she can fuck off.
/r/askTRP17/05/21 01:35 PM
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your wall of text could have been summed up with this sentence: "When she pulled back, I pulled back too. But I hoped it would make her chase me more again." no. you pull back to focus on yourself. you claim to have been doing that, but your single statement above showed it was all mind games. the reason you did this is the same reason you long for a low value woman - your ego is the problem. all of your activities and focus and self-first busybodiness is nullified by your covert neediness to be…
/r/askTRP17/05/21 01:11 PM
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it's neither, it's simply a test of your Frame and your SMV.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 07:21 PM
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The Rational Male - author Rollo Thomassi
/r/askTRP14/05/21 07:20 PM
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Indifference works best for pre-LTR game. Control is more effective for LTR game. Source: https://archive.is/TWjBd Dread can be a part of LTR management, but it's best served covertly, not overtly like you did.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 07:19 PM
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The explanation of powertalk and 3 other forms of comms: https://archive.li/SZZNM whisper's cliff notes are helpful: https://archive.is/465my
/r/askTRP14/05/21 07:15 PM
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A man with a higher N count: Their standards may be higher. They would better enforce their boundaries, since "they've seen some shit" They'd have had more variety so have a sense of good vs. not so good But the studies linked in the main forum about partner count affecting: oxytocin levels in women divorce rate in women did not have a corresponding relationship in the males. plus, the sexual imperative of "spreading seed to many" at the physiological level is different for men vs. women. women …
/r/askTRP14/05/21 05:46 PM
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re-read NMMNG and WISNIFG about parental and people manipulation. for many men it's their mothers who do it, but for you its your dad.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 05:42 PM
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ignore. or LOL. the real question is, what did your "GF" do/say when her friends called you a bitch? this is a test of her, not you. you already fucked up and know to not do that again.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 05:37 PM
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she's a bratty child. treat as such.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 05:36 PM
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just unsure how to get there... look strong, act confidently, imply sexuality
/r/askTRP14/05/21 05:18 PM
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the sidebar is full of escalation and approach, but the medium is the message. meaning, how you carry yourself, eye contact, style matter more than the actual words. you need to read: The Natural: by Richard la Ruina Models: by Mark Manson the point of complementing behavior is 2 fold you reinforce good behavior her pleasing you should be validated, same 1:3 rule like texting you 'see things' the casual man won't. meaning anyone who "looks upon m'lady" can see she has great eyes. takes zero skil…
/r/askTRP14/05/21 03:36 PM
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meaning talk is cheap. hot women are complimented all the time. "you have such pretty eyes" but most guys are too afraid to actually do anything other than compliment. so don't just be another complimenter. she'll crave it, so don't give it out at first. compliment her on her behavior. after she earns it. where did i meet: in my 20's i lived in a variety of group houses (mixed gender flat mates) some were friends of friends some were people i'd meet at the gym (I didn't have a perma contract and…
/r/askTRP14/05/21 03:16 PM
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I'm mixed, and Olive skin. I love visiting northern europe for that reason...
/r/askTRP14/05/21 02:12 PM
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all that she'll see is the weakness being revealed. you're upset because it may have included some Affection. covert contract: I was nice, she should like me more. next time be affectionate without the baggage of telling her 'why' anything (why you ghost, why you plate, why you do anything is YOUR business) chicks don't wanna know how the iphone display works. they just wanna scroll their socials - their fuel is feels. not logic.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 02:06 PM
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are you sure you showed her affection? and not showing your vulnerabilities? if you're 100% sure, then good. any person who is unable to accept kindness is not worth having around. kindness, loving behavior and affection repulse people with very low self esteem. so 'good' in that you don't have a damaged chick taking up your time. but, as others here have posted, it may be that you 'opened up' more than you should have. plenty on mrp bout LTRs ghosting after showing too much vulnerability. she d…
/r/askTRP14/05/21 02:03 PM
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I don't see it. Maybe I'm not tuned into it, because I'm married. I found TRP long after marriage and 4 kids. I do not encourage young men on these boards to marry. I even tell my 3 son's to not have it as a life goal at all, and to re-evaluate their goals of single vs. LTR once they are 30-35. I have said, that if you want kids, really want kids, it's going to be much harder to do so as a single parent. The logistics alone for well visits, dentist, sports, school, religious stuff, illnesses, ho…
/r/askTRP14/05/21 01:57 PM
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She was the one who wanted to know why I didn’t wanna show her affection. "i'm a busy guy... you're getting lovin' now -aren't you?" with a wink. IGNORE WHAT THEY SAY. my eldest son just showed me a tiktok (i don't have that app) that went like this. vid of HB8 on couch with remote in hand, caption: "remembering my toxic ex" ...even tho new BF is in kitchen... her with a grimace guys voice from kitchen: "what's the weather tomorrow?" her: "i dont' know" him: "my phones next to you, check the wea…
/r/askTRP14/05/21 01:51 PM
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men value love. women love value. So as soon she thinks she can get more value from another, whether actually true or not, she'll begin the exit dance. "i'm not her's it just her turn" has more of a plate-spinning-me-first ring, but the original above aligns more with becoming numb to hypergamy's wiring in their brains, so nothing personal.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 01:42 PM
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yup, even the hot ones. my best fun were a spin instructor, a yoga instructor, a Dr. who did triathalons. many just want validation "that they still have it" so don't say nice shit, just show them some luvin. they're surrounded by guys saying "you're so pretty" but most are soft, fat, loser dudes. be fit and in your 20's and confident and it's easy.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 01:39 PM
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who says they were single?
/r/askTRP14/05/21 01:37 PM
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Endorsed Contributor. do www reddit com / user / <their name> and sort by top posts of all time. /OmLaLa /itiswr1tten /VasiliyZaitzev and many others edit: and /Whisper for sure
/r/askTRP14/05/21 01:36 PM
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read the power of habit by charles druhigg. amazing book. and when you hear "anchor habit" in the text, think "lifting" and when you hear about 'faith' (and their findings in what really was the point of faith in 12 step groups) think of TRP forums.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 08:00 PM
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** that you know of. "how is a moped like a fat chick?" ans: they're fun to ride on, until you friends see you riding one. So, I assure you more of them than you think are getting dick. But not from a man they'd be proud to be seen with, due to many factors that have to do with social proof, ego, social media status, etc. women are very easily able to covertly get dick, never forget. so, be the guy on the DL who can service their needs and get yours at the same time. polarize and flirt and hint:…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 06:03 PM
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I’m accepted by people older than me but people (especially girls) my age are less inclined to talk to me sounds like you need a few 'wins' and know how to do it. don't get me wrong, nothing like a 20-something-yr-old's body, but some of my best sex in my 20's was with 30+ women who were: DTF, no drama, no emotional expectations, no delay, no budget problems (flying out, paying for hotel, paying for dinners if we were hungry). i'm not saying to validate fatties and feel bad about yourself later.…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 05:28 PM
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It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/21 04:22 PM
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pshaw: they will only hint at what they want, overtly, due to ASD. ignore all the trimmings. what they want is an assertive, masculine, strong, attractive, fit, confident male to rail them, to dominate them and fill them until they scream. they want to be chosen by a guy who does not need them, but wants them. who has other choices, yet chooses them. but they can't say that. so they try to dance around it with 'insecurities' and other BS trying to make their dream lay, a damaged man, so they won…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 03:04 PM
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You're a collection of your habits and choices OP: read that again. And again. If I were to ask you: "who are you" how would you answer? like your post? (120# @ 5'11", son of XYZ, not in college, no job") this is not how you should define yourself. You can define yourself by what you choose to focus on. Literally. Imagine this: ME: OP, who are you? You: I am a person who cares for myself, I workout daily (4 days a week with weights, 3 days a week HIIT or light cardio), I am learning XYZ, I never…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 02:59 PM
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This is strong, and accurate. What it also does is create peace, meaning: you don't hate women, unlike the incorrect BP'ers view of TRP males, you simply no longer have unrealistic expectations (of true love, oneitis, unconditional fidelity thanks to a piece of paper, etc). So, when you re-calibrate your expectations for what "normal" behavior is (from women) you find yourself unfazed. Your ego can be set aside, knowing, "water is wet and she will behave as her wiring dictates" So some of the 'c…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 02:51 PM
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....this is the funniest thing I've read in a while. "but bro, she gives great head!" in 6 years he'll be 30 and ready to fuck some 24 yr old, and she'll be twice their age.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 02:33 PM
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can't tell if troll but in case you're simply truly confused. how long was your longest LTR with a girl? 2 months? 2 years? how long have you known yourself? how long are you going to be knowing yourself? (hint: for the rest of your life)
/r/askTRP13/05/21 02:22 PM
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Like most older guys, I found TRP after I was married. So I was ignorant. Was the ignorance my fault? Maybe, or maybe not as you say - since I believed what I had learned/read/was fed/was told about the 'institution'. But, staying in an unhappy marriage would be my fault. As would not taking care of myself, especially after finding TRP, and in the process changing the dynamic and improving my quality of life. Like most maxims, it's true unless it's not. And the point of the concept is to drive h…
/r/TheRedPill13/05/21 02:21 PM
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Read Bigger, Leaner, Stronger a good all around book on body recomp. And no preacher curls yet. do big compound movements, you'll read about those.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 01:27 AM
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that's a good one, humor wise. but jesting aside, imagine actually thinking like that for a moment: requires introspection requires setting ego aside and the real red-flags aren't vis a vis your viability as a mate/catch/smv or anything 'external' (requiring others), rather your inability to care for yourself properly. when you realize you can't 'NEXT' yourself, you are left with only 3 choices: pretend you're fine and suffer a long hateful existence off yourself and hurt those that care for you…
/r/askTRP13/05/21 01:24 AM
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he meant himself... ask in joking/self-deprecation
/r/askTRP13/05/21 01:22 AM
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It's gradual from you (the guy). She doesn't go with logic but the feelings. The moment she stops feeling that "love" that switch gets toggled. good stuff skew.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 01:21 AM
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check out Mode 1, but Allen Roger Currie - his "say what they don't expect but what they really want to see/hear" concept and results , supports this post.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/21 07:19 PM
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to quote Dave Chapelle: "...But that's still not where chivalry got killed. Chivalry got killed by the feminist movement on all them magazines that got women going crazy, because women got too much advice about men from other women. And they don't know what the fuck they're talking about.And it's true. I see the shit in the magazines. I don't read 'em, but I be seeing the cover. I look at-- you ever be in the grocery store, fellas, you look at one of them magazines like, "What is this?" And it s…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/21 07:15 PM
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you seem to think that sex is 'bad' and only for your benefit, so you're nice-guying yourself into inaction. protip: women love sex. good sex with someone confident who leads and can dominate them and make them stutter through pleasure. but younger women who are also a bit meek haven't seen the world yet, so for them, passion/warmth/touch/light-dom is enough to seem 'good' to them so don't let performance anxiety kill the mood. you have to understand: she wanted you. 'they' want it too. but you …
/r/askTRP12/05/21 05:37 PM
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I don't need to. every few months someone posts on here about it. and no shit, my middle son did it too. he's 14. I've been talking generic TRP to him and his brother for 2 years, carefully; and have been more direct recently on attraction factors, behaviors, congruence, neediness and such. the little shit setup a Tinder profile using a few photos he got online and edited a bit so google image search doesn't find them. then sat back and watched what happened. he didn't look at it as "how much mo…
/r/askTRP12/05/21 05:16 PM
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You are your longest LTR, behave appropriately.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 05:08 PM
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read up on mindfulness. you need to consciously train your brain into understanding that a full fight-or-flight reaction to non life threatening situations is inappropriate.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:12 PM
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if she does it right, you'll never know. you're her friend, but you're still a dude and can talk about her.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 07:55 PM
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you're putting words in his mouth. he's not justifying it (due to blood boiling) he's asking others to post their thoughts if they were at the edge of control. this doesn't encourage woman beating. it's a thought experiment. OP: if i was pushing her buttons (by being nasty with speech or was caught cheating) and she slapped me... I'd raise my hand / point slowly and say to her: "never again" and move on. The only reason I won't eject right away is that I'm frankly strong as fuck and solid (5'11,…
/r/askTRP11/05/21 07:16 PM
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remember how you feel now. feelings are useful in 2 ways: as a signaling mechanism as a means for motivation so, next time you're out, dont' go shot for shot with bro's, do mix non-alcoholic drinks every other round (or 2 soda with lime for every 1 gin and tonic, etc) get tested, on the off chance you got something. what you did was forgivable, to yourself. but don't give her an STD, that's lame. amoral = you decide how you want to behave, giving her an STD isn't amoral.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 07:04 PM
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she's looking for rebound sex, not someone who knows her and she'll have to interact with, in an established social circle. $5 on her looking for random dick in 3...2...1...
/r/askTRP11/05/21 07:01 PM
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your Ego is the problem. Either get it back, or drop it. But to complain about it and be butthurt b/c he strung you along is weak.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 06:44 PM
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" Or can I still convert them?" what? like captain save a ho? ...you mean convert them to GF's? do not go full retard ("i only want a relationship") or you'll get used and abused. keep acting like you're plating but thin the herd to only those that provide value beyond their sex. polarize and weed out the ones with red flags. but do not say to any of them: "i'm ready to settle down" or you'll either scare off the normal ones, or lure in the needy/manipulative ones.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 06:42 PM
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" Any thoughts as to why? " yes. deep down, women know youthfulness = sexy. no 2 ways about it. they can shame guys when the dudes date younger women, but deep down, they know why -- all they have is resentment, not a real answer to it. As for why the supply side is doing that.... what's easier to push: "hey, get serious with calories and fitness and you too can be young-ish-looking in 18-24 months of serious effort!" or: "buy this serum and take decades off your face, in 5 minutes" ​ the same r…
/r/askTRP11/05/21 06:32 PM
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the only thing most chicks are worse at then knowing size/height, is directions using a compass orientation so relax. "6/6/6" = six figures, six inches, 6 feet at a minimum" is what they used so say when I was younger. Just LOL. Wanna start some drama? have on your bio: "swipe left if over 112 pounds"
/r/askTRP11/05/21 05:00 PM
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NGL, I did it, and did "show relatives" and was slightly relieved to not see anyone outside my known orbit show up.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:56 PM
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this is a nuke level shittest/cunty behavior. you should have left when she started touching him. next time LOL and shake your head and keep rolling. she tried to make you her bitch.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 02:03 PM
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If someone else asked you this, what would you advise them? this is a good tactic as it helps avoid: sunk cost fallacy emotional bias ego protection bias OP.: read your post like one of your best RP/chad friends was telling you about her girl. what would you say to him?
/r/askTRP11/05/21 02:01 PM
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if we chose any of those women they would forget all that FDS bullshit and turn into a kitten again just for a chance to prove themselves to us. this is important to understand. the prerequisite is to: not be needy and be high value... once you're on that path, you see most of what women do as shit tests, not worth fretting over. Even pop feminism is a grand shittest. the flipside of: nothing turns a woman off more than a needy man, is: nothing turns a woman on more than to be chosen by a high v…
/r/TheRedPill11/05/21 01:53 PM
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Sidebar and EC posts
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:32 AM
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OP read the Natural by Richard La Ruina. He had pretty homely beginnings and was a late bloomer.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:12 AM
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RedPenis. New hot brand of condoms... /s Hint: What’s the name of this forum?
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:06 AM
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I know he’s persona non grata around here but someone like JBP would say one of the reasons his content resonates with young men so much is because it’s the lack of agency and lack of self responsibility in today’s common accepted behavior and pop culture values that leaves many men -many young men- feeling aimless. I actually thought about modifying what I wrote to not lead with MRP as many young may find it offputting - because I do think the idea of self determination and agency are important…
/r/TheRedPill11/05/21 03:52 AM
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That’s a good first step and realization. Many on the MRP side of the house lament a similar situation- when they reward her or simply are available and affectionate- she then acts bitchy. So the men withdraw, and their women come calling as you described your spouse. It’s a comical cycle. A few tips to break it: do not scoreboard. At first you will be highly sensitive to successes and failures of anything such as a shit test or of when sex happens or not. Do not judge - simply note- and look fo…
/r/TheRedPill11/05/21 03:47 AM
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Lift & Lawyer for you man. You’ll be fine. This. Move on. Resentment - you're not only still mad at her, but also yourself. Now you're not blind anymore. Waste no more years with her. You need to do this for yourself.
/r/askTRP10/05/21 07:56 PM
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read this 10x https://archive.is/K0Hd1
/r/TheRedPill10/05/21 07:11 PM
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shit tests are a funny thing. 1) complete lack of them, early on, means she doesn't even see you as a viable mate 2) too many of them later on are a sign that she doesn't Dread your leaving, enough/at all so some early on are fine, but over time, you want to see more Comfort Tests - as in, she's worried you'll bail on her. So take a step back, if a shit test is your fault, it's because at first you're smexy and she's testing your Fitness or Congruence. If she's still shit testing a year into thi…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/21 07:01 PM
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sometimes all you can control is your reaction to the situation, and that's often enough: https://archive.is/Uxztt
/r/TheRedPill10/05/21 06:58 PM
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Super reserved society right. right. that's why 'they' are wearing shorts with their ass cheeks hanging out the bottom. forget the grand narrative of "super reserved" it's not, not compared to other places. and the grandparents view on sex before marriage isn't germane, only her desire for some dick in the there and now. try. or don't. it's your life. but dont' blame your lack of trying on 'society'.
/r/askTRP10/05/21 06:11 PM
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it's not quite equal in both directions. the slim side of fit for women's body's is about fitness to carry a baby in our wiring. so slim and slight with nice hips and tits and lips. but muscularity means more on men, as women want not just fitness and not-fat, but strength in their men. so yes, being strong and 10% BF is like catnip. but even being strong and 15% will get you a lot of arousal and IOIs since you're still strong, as long as it is visually apparent. I am dexascan verified 12% and w…
/r/askTRP10/05/21 06:07 PM
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he's fine. nippard is similar. work for a year, log body measurements not just scale data. check out Renaissance Periodization.
/r/askTRP10/05/21 06:01 PM
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hmm, instructions unclear, i approached women before deleting my apps, is that ok?
/r/askTRP10/05/21 05:57 PM
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By keeping your focus on something other than the end goal: (a relationship, getting laid,) you then come off as cool/collected, and not some thirsty mother fucker. it's funny (not funny) how many guys don't internalize this, yet the very same guys will say: "when I was in a dry spell, it was so hard to get pussy; but then I got a GF and \bam* chicks are IOI'ing me and talking to me all the time"* the answer is staring them in the face....
/r/askTRP10/05/21 02:26 PM
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Like Cortez, you can never go back. You'll never be fully BP again without a lobotomy so give that up. Glad to hear you're doing good stuff... but there's a catch. Have you read NMMNG? Covert Contracts are a thing. Your is: I'm doing RP stuff, yet I'm still alone. You do the "RP Stuff" like lifting/training like nutrition like style refresh becuse it's the right thing to do, if you care about yourself. Remember, you are you own longest LTR. Treat yourself like you'd treat someone else you care a…
/r/askTRP07/05/21 07:10 PM
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Schedule date. Kiss her at the start of it. this.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 06:49 PM
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"nothing dries a pussy faster than a needy man" and by rejectcing the lesser quality options, you're covertly conveying a distinct lack of neediness ... this is diametric to 80%+ of the other men walking around. So you stand out, especially to the higher HB's who get a lot of choice. ...now imagine how well this would work if you didn't have to add 'dad bod' to your descriptors? Do don't let this mental breakthrough be an excuse to not become the best version of yourself.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 06:47 PM
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Women become emotional when they care about you no. not usually. Usually, women care about 3 things: their ego what you can do for them their reputation So assuming it's just about benevolent "cares about you" is BS. If she really 'cared' about him and was a high quality (person) woman, this would have been her reply: "/u/teatrus - damn that sucks i was looking forward to hanging out... hope everything is ok, let me know if i can help" if your chick doesn't respond with something like that**, sh…
/r/askTRP07/05/21 06:42 PM
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cool, just dont' DEER or apologize, just ignore that "it" happened and move onward and upward. if she tries to bring it up, treat like a shittest (AM) this is a drama test and just push forward. even if comfort would 'save' things' you'd be training her to bring past shit up and not move on.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 06:35 PM
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and she was hamstering: "why doesn't he answer me.... just look at him not worrying about me and my feelings.... what are we?" so seeing you and your ambivalence to "the thing" and the weed made her drama come out. good. early filtering is the best filtering. only a month so no feels.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 02:14 PM
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then accept the role of leading. your job: lead her job: follow and look good and act well when following this is an ideal setup. if it bothers you, it's your ego is needing validation. (wanting her to want you). she is a submissive one, just set your ego aside and smash. as for road head, she's young, so maybe she'll believe this, just drop: "I've never been able to cum when getting road head" and see if she's up for the challenge.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 01:55 PM
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you're listening to what she said? why? if you were attractive enough she'd ignore Jesus himself and still be fucking you....
/r/askTRP07/05/21 01:41 PM
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"ignore what they say and watch how they act" so, part 1 (ignoring what she says) you can do now. so just ignore and soft next. part 2 (how she acts) has yet to happen. You'll know in a week, if she comes back the sex was good enough and your smv is high enough to behave as you did. If she doesn't hit you up, then your fumble in overtly stating abundance to her was enough to turn her off. ASD is real. it's not a factor of HBx level, rather their own internal value system. She didn't want to feel…
/r/askTRP07/05/21 01:32 PM
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did you setup a safeword? nope? go back to square 1...
/r/askTRP06/05/21 03:58 PM
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if the 2 hour FT was not the norm, fine. note: " that she brings me peace in my unrestful life" that's fine on it's own. it will make her feel special, nothing wrong with showing kindness for kindness sake (as long as not for a covert contract to be liked back). But, here is where things would have/could have gone wrong is with: you: "baby, i'm so stressed at work, my lifts are down, i just can't hack it, i need to see a shrink and . blah blah i'm so glad you're in my life, not sure what Id' do …
/r/askTRP06/05/21 03:52 PM
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http://archive.is/lATI3 for the DiCarlo Ladder
/r/askTRP06/05/21 03:47 PM
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i should have edited, but got distracted: one of the perks of new high value / high success friends, is, they do the bragging for you. i have a few different circles of friends. Some friends are common to me and my ltr, some pre-date her (but the guys are in LTRs themselves, or getting divorces) and another group of friends who are 40-5x yr old bachelors. This last group has been a blast to hang with, especially through my RP awakening the last few years: they are all high earners but not douche…
/r/askTRP06/05/21 03:45 PM
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MMSLP let him know that "the goal is to save you, not the marriage" but the book will help either way. if he's receptive to it, then Rational Male series
/r/askTRP05/05/21 05:53 PM
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true. and as long as you care for yourself first and foremost, all good.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 05:50 PM
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well... TRP is a guide, and the idea is that many of the 'rules' (only text for logistics) are most helpful to the newbs; not dogma to be forever followed without exception. so don't look only for a book definition. So "seductive comedy" I dont' know the term, but my take is to NOT be a dancing monkey, but to generate feels. Both positive and tension based to get a hook. Have you found "dancing monkey" in the sidebar? being funny isn't enough, just ask Gilber Godfried: " comedian Gilbert Gottfri…
/r/askTRP05/05/21 05:22 PM
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LOL how much of the sidebar have you read? "escalation ladder" is a thing.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 05:11 PM
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here's the deal: Assume Attraction. (if she is of dating age, not fugly, you're not fugly) simply assume attraction. remember: cute women are hit on all the fucking time, many times, yes, by 'creeps' they don't even acknowledge as human males. The point is: they are on guard 24x7 to repel who they consider unworthy/lame/creepy/ugly. So their default mode is: "no" / "go away" so... what does this mean? this means when a woman talks to you, for no real reason, it has nothing to do with your sweate…
/r/askTRP05/05/21 04:45 PM
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to little info, it could be a good or bad sign: bad: she's socially awkward good: she's submissive the only takeaway is: don't do this yourself as a man. Just smile and say: "thanks" and walk though head high.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 04:39 PM
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the boundary statement was enough. the talk was not useful. "... in the end but at one point she started crying and admitted she did text him saying she was thinking of him..." protip: you didn't need to have the talk to know this. if a girl is communicating with another dude while i bed with you, move the fuck on. ​ after action report: "... Ultimately she said she would stop talking to him to “make me happy”..." ^ here you AM: "good, keeping me happy should be front and center for you" with a …
/r/askTRP05/05/21 04:37 PM
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Mostly due to some serious trickle truth and gaslighting the former is SOP for women. the latter is manipulation and redflag. you know what to do.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 04:31 PM
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boundaries not ultimatums: "When I'm in an LTR I do not DM/chat-with people who have or have-had feelings for me, and I expect the same" then STFU. anything other than a "you're right" / "i'm sorry, i'll put an end to it" is a fail on her part. Do NOT DEER. Do not talk about it. She may say: "don't you trust me" or "we're just friends" and you then broken record: "When I'm in an LTR I do not DM/chat-with people who have or have-had feelings for me, and I expect the same" then STFU. ....if she go…
/r/askTRP05/05/21 03:13 PM
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and you have no interest in hearing about. you're right, I have no time for losers.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/21 05:08 PM
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you cannot be her punching bag. you need her to fix her issues if you're to stay together, but head on over to MRP and see how others have established boundaries. your stay plan is your go plan. fix yourself and make the most of life for you (and your child) but first and foremost, for you.
/r/askTRP04/05/21 05:04 PM
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wish i had a script, just chance. ran into this chick at a pro baseball game, in line to buy a beer- although i didn't know her, turns out she was 2 yrs older than me and had a crush on me 10 yrs earlier in highschool (i was sophmore/she was senior) no clue. she asked what I was doing after the game, we went drinking, kino, kissing. she told me she was DTF, me: "it's been long, sweaty, stinky day..." her: "I have access to a place with a huge 2 person shower" we went. empty house, but the shower…
/r/askTRP03/05/21 07:00 PM
2

thankfully, attraction is a multi-variable equation, and a single thing like height won't shut you down completely. being poor is simply, on the long term, a current state from previous poor decisions. look at some point, luck, and a bad-starting point don't have weight anymore. 2 of my friends are 5'7' and were both average-middle-lower class kids (i've known them for decades) both make over $300k now, both are super strong/ripped, and live great lives. excellence takes time, and is a process. …
/r/TheRedPill03/05/21 06:14 PM
2

nice. I am down 2% BF and gained about 7-8# of muscle in the past 12 months, per Dexascans. covid was an opportunity to drive less and work out at home more.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/21 06:07 PM
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opportunity + motive + means = anything is possible. Opportunity: your girl won't be caged in a dungeon, and may travel for business, and will have some girls trips. So understand, apart from the usual TRP maxim of "don't LTR club girls" normal women will have opportunity as well. She will be apart from you, for your own sanity and thanks to logistics of modern life. Means: a bedroom, a car, a condo she's house sitting; hell I fukced a married realtor years ago for months on end in empty houses …
/r/askTRP03/05/21 05:12 PM
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try to talk less. let others talk more. and active listen when they talk. and when asked about your new bike/boat/condo, shrug and play it down a bit. do not self deprecate nor be a dancing monkey, just don't push yourself forward consciously around others. push yourself when you're alone, for you. that's the payoff that feels good. be proud and glad you have made strides. but they are for you, so enjoy them internally. as far as the ego control, pick up more things that you're the noob, so you …
/r/askTRP03/05/21 05:00 PM
1

people overestimate what they can do in a month or a year, but underestimate what they can do in 10. the feeling of it going faster is real, as 1 year is a smaller percentage of your life, for each additional year lived. so where do you want to be in 10 years? ask. then work backwards.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 02:01 PM
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Roosh found a similar pattern about the women - within the same country - but from different areas (urban vs. rural) to be have distinctly different as well. Hell, even Eddie Murphy had a skit about bringing a woman from the bush in africa and once she got around her western friends: "I want half, edddieeeee"
/r/askTRP03/05/21 01:59 PM
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and you should evaluate why you have the frame of a 20yr old girl in a fit 6' fit mans body who also makes good money lots of sizzle, not much steak (Frame) makes for a non nutritious meal.
/r/askMRP30/04/21 04:50 PM
2

“ I could’ve fucked her right then” Yet you didn’t. Was it logistics or simply that you were scared? She probably assumes the latter. Next time continue to escalate.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 02:45 AM
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This is an interesting take on “imposter syndrome” Usually it’s a guy improves and is then accepted by others - yet inside they still feel like they haven’t earned it, they feel like they’re faking-it to everyone. Here you did earn your peace of mind and your emotional fortitude through five years of improvement and study and actions.... yet you seem incredulous :) I submit it (your lack of emotional reactivity) is expected behavior. Most guys who come to RP Are brought here due to some form of …
/r/askTRP30/04/21 02:41 AM
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/r/askTRP30/04/21 02:22 AM
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you need to compartmentalize. do not use your women as your emotional support system. use your bro's or a counselor for that.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 07:11 PM
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This is generally true however, the statement is incomplete. Women communicate covertly as the default. If you don’t pick up on the covert communication, she will resort to overt communication. correct. and the usual corollary is that it annoys and repulses her to have to "stoop" to such a level. "women want a man who just gets it"
/r/askTRP29/04/21 07:09 PM
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women branch swing. meaning they get a hold of a new branch before they let the current one go. if she's telling you she's outta here she either: already has another branch, or cares so little about you-as-a-branch she's apathetic of the fallout, or you've shown her she can manipulate you with her words and is trying to get you to man up, or wants you to break up with her (some women are anti-conflict and push to be dumped vs. dumping) so is trying to instigate the fight.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 07:08 PM
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been on HCG for a few years now, started with along TRT. Yes, hypogonadism was the original justification on the script. Balls haven't shrunk, yet. I began on 100mg of test a week, i've downed myself to ~75 (as my fitness and lifting improved, i needed less to not feel dead), i am 800-1000ng/dL on 75mg/week intramuscularly. HCG is 5x a week subcutaneous (can't remember the concentration, but it's tiny volume, maybe 0.1ml using a 30+ ga needle)
/r/askTRP29/04/21 05:57 PM
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LOL +1
/r/askTRP29/04/21 05:50 PM
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agreed. wish i'd done it sooner.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 05:49 PM
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" one guy posted on how much abundance women have online, and that it's nothing like that in real life" I dont' know exact ratios. but in the end all that matters is: women get approached more IRL by men, than men do by women Meaning, it's still you that's gotta do the work unless you're 99th% of looksmax male. And since beta/most men fear rejection, fewer will say "hey" IRL vs. "liking" a post/snap, but cute women are still approached/hit-on plenty.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 05:45 PM
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" Last night she hid her story from me. But I follow her from my fitness account too so I saw she was out with her guy friends at 1am. I dont care but its the fact she hid the story. Should I move on or ltr" you stated a boundary (my GF doesn't hang out late at night smokign/drinking with other dudes). she then: 1) did it (crossed your boundary) 2) hid it from you (lied) time to move on. you MUST enforce your boundaries by protecting your Gold, your time and attention. Respect yourself first, or…
/r/askTRP29/04/21 05:35 PM
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wait, wait, wait. you put in effort and self prioritization and got actual results! /s nice job. feelsgoodman.jpg
/r/askTRP29/04/21 05:27 PM
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"... I've been observing the subreddit for a while now..." then you're a slow learner ;) this is yet another AND not OR post. for your point 1 and 2 combined: one strives to be Outcome Independent of a specific interaction/woman's view/reaction to you (tactically). That doesn't mean that (strategically) you don't enjoy sex and companionship - and want to have it when you want it. Women can be fun, sexy, funny, kind, generous. Or they can be the very opposite - they key that most men miss: how th…
/r/askTRP29/04/21 03:30 PM
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I don't think it's unrelated. I was very low T a few years ago (ie, below 150ng/dL) and getting my hormones squared away (T and HCG) combined with physical and mental changes, have moved the needle on mastering emotional reactivity and strength of focus and purpose (ie: Frame). Frame is king, nothing is more important. And one way of establishing Frame is Outcome Independence, which you saw with: " faking passing a shit test by swallowing your tongue and still feeling upset on the inside is not …
/r/askTRP29/04/21 03:14 PM
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As the man, you shouldn’t concern yourself with what’s she’s thinking nor “how it will look if...” Rather act on what you want to do. Want to see her: set it up. Don’t want to see her? Ignore her. Be assertive. Be clear with yourself what you want. Have standards. Enforce them. Understand many ideally submissive women will await your txt/ call- that’s your end of the deal. Hers is to look good and behave well once in your presence.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 05:07 AM
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Get a TRX. Kept me strong and no mass loss during Covid lockdowns.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 04:47 AM
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your ego is the problem. you're playing a playa on TV but not one inside where it counts. daring her to hit up her rotation is like what a chick would say to a guy in a comfort test - don't act like a chick. (further: you effectively brought up exclusivity/the-relationship, a woman's perogative) if you do not want an LTR (yet) you don't want an LTR, and she's a plate and what she does when she's not with you isn't your concern. do not LTR her to put her poon on lockdown, never works. only do it …
/r/askTRP28/04/21 05:26 PM
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This. the opposite of love isn't hate, it's apathy. simply put, when you're so happy to be doing (whatever it is you do in the present) that they won't matter, that's the closure you need. not some douchebag: "hey man, sorry we were dicks, we can see you're cool now" Warning: you have a covert contract with the world - now that you're not fat, they must not hate on you so much. bzzzzzz. this attitude makes you reek of external validation, which they and others can sense - and will use you for th…
/r/askTRP28/04/21 05:16 PM
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men know what they want and more importantly act on it. next time, on the walk, give her a kiss. (don't wait until the end "walk you to your car movie scene") simply put: cute women are constantly approached. they have to put up overt "no thank you" signals. when a woman is neutral-to-open, that's an IOI. When she's spending her time, laughing at your jokes, kino'ing - she's being as overt as her ASD and our society would have a good girl be - she's literally begging you to escalate. next time, …
/r/askTRP28/04/21 05:11 PM
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If it were true, it would be a pre-emptive rejection by someone with low self-esteem; a "she dumps you first so you won't find out her true ugliness and dump her when you find out the real her". but women rarely get "feelings" for a man through some talk and flirting, usually takes sex and a bit more time. So I think she is Bullshitting you. So what is it, then? She's simply rejecting you but giving you a "glimmer of hope" so that you'll chase her. aka: she's a neutron star - high gravity field …
/r/askTRP28/04/21 05:06 PM
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kino will be a superpower....
/r/askTRP28/04/21 02:08 PM
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I told her “cuz I want to” perfect. you own it and tell her what you want. never stop. and she opens up about used etc. I comforted her saying “I genuinely enjoy your company” and “I had fun today” good. keep it up. and keep on your track. if you found her you can find many many more. "what i want from her i can get from any number of willing women" <<< that's my antidote for Oneitis. She can join you on your terms or get replaced. no hard feelings.
/r/askTRP27/04/21 03:11 PM
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true. yet I'm almost 50, but fuck like I did when I was 20 yrs old. but last much longer now.
/r/askTRP27/04/21 03:08 PM
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(blushes) so the real nugget is: how to answer a comfort test? shit test are all about amused mastery, which can be handled with: agree and amplify disagree and amplilfy pressure flip ignore nuke but comfort tests require a little more nuance. so let's pretend OP didn't make this a situation (he did, he's the one who said: "ah i can finally get rid of you" which was stupid, and a tell, that he's catching feelings) so lets pretend she is the one who said (while being dropped off) "ah, you can fin…
/r/askTRP27/04/21 02:59 PM
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MRP = married red pill. if LTR is RP on hard mode, due to lack of actual abundance if you're monogomous Married RP is 'nightmare mode' due to not only lack of abundance (if you're monogamous) but also a financial penalty for playing poorly (or getting a bad playmate who screws you over even if you played by 'the rules)
/r/askTRP27/04/21 02:44 PM
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this is kinda sorta mutually exclusive... (the longing, the broken heart, pining for 'the one', overcome by feelings, lack of agency and self determination vis a vis RP) so much so, that when men find RP they ask about pop culture examples (movies, music) and only (some) Rap music comes to mind (films: Blue Valentine the movie, and first half of Crazy Stupid Love). Maybe, the writings of a gay man, who had nothing to lose frankly discussing women? “A man's face is his autobiography. A woman's fa…
/r/askTRP27/04/21 02:34 PM
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contacts and relationships matter, if your LTR is a high functioning exec, or knowledge worker. for example: 2 of my bro's have LTRs that are booze and deloitte partners. another she's an MD and partner in a medical group... they got there by being hella smart and driven, yes, but also by cultivating relationships (gasp: with men too!). so no need to worry if your LTR flips burgers or asks "grande or venti" all day. but if you end up with someone who actually makes some bank, that pay comes with…
/r/askTRP27/04/21 02:30 PM
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A shit test is: "are you good/strong enough? (for me to give you my sex)" A comfort test is: "are you gonna ditch me? (for a hotter/younger/sexier woman)" Ergo it's to ease her mind/ego, it's the closest a woman gets to "approaching" like we have to do all the time- and we all know women are shit at dealing with rejection. They can't help the comfort test tho, and it's their "rejection point". His A&A was fine if he doesnt' mind that she may be close to breaking - remember, chicks can have cover…
/r/askTRP27/04/21 01:18 PM
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can't recall the brand, basic 12.5mg capsule a day, for a few years now.
/r/askTRP27/04/21 01:09 PM
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"PFEI" (the app) + iodone + vitamin D + T + L-citruline = shootingropes
/r/askTRP26/04/21 07:08 PM
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i didn't A/B test it. but was doing them for 18 months before i found the book "multi-orgasmic man" and passed all the health tests in it without issue. (stopping pee stream 4-5 times without my hands, holding a towel with a boner, etc). so as i improved health and cardio I also did kegels, hence no a/b test. how much was cardio vs. kegels - no idea - but to me it's an "all of the above" process.
/r/askTRP26/04/21 07:05 PM
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try PFE (kegels) exercises, daily. i have an annoying app that helps me keep 'em strong, make a difference on firmness. and since you've recently quit porn... and do notice good results from BJ's it's likely re-sensistizing the helmet needs to happen, takes time i hear. (I was never a porn guy) but what you can do, is put more pressure on your 'brim' for more stimulation. here's one way: when she's on bottom, don't do normal missionary, instead have her put her legs on your shoulders (temporaril…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 05:26 PM
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make it part of your daily mental reinforcement. like cutting a groove in stone, over and over and over. at first you have to work at it, it feels like putting on a suit of armor. and you'll fuck up, slip up (fail a test, do/say something cringey) that's ok - laugh it off internally, note what could have been an ideal outcome and just value yourself and move on. eventually, it feels less like a suit of armor you have to put on, and simply the skin you're in, naturally. it take time. to shorten t…
/r/askTRP26/04/21 05:15 PM
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can you help me understand what it means to move the body up with the outward thrust? on the way out, you pull up/away from the bed/her, so your head rubs her gspot on the way out. i find this also gives me a better boner, so I use it later in a session if i'm going soft(er). since our most sensitive part is on the helmet-visor anyways, since "moving your body/hips up" (vertically) on the outstroke has her g-spot muscles rub the visor which is very stimulating.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/21 07:47 PM
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to a point. genetic physical gifts: height, proportioned face. fast twitch muscle % for gainz work for it physical: BF%, muscle mass, fitness level, mobility. ​ genetic mental gifts: fluid IQ, a proper proportion of the "big 5" for maximal success work for it mental: crystalized intelligence, and tweaking your traits a bit, mindfulness and lifelonglearning even tho a man doesn't work for his height and physical frame, nor his facial symmetry and jawline (BF aside) nor base waist to shoulder rati…
/r/TheRedPill23/04/21 07:38 PM
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are you tracking your food (calorie) and macro (protein) intake? why not? 70kg , assume some is fat and assume you want to get bigger, so eat towards your goal weigh. try 2G/protein per KG weight so have 140G-150G of protein to start, and adjust. are you doing 2 chest sessions/week? 3-5 sets per session? go to 2-3 reps before failure so you don't burn out and get more volume. eat more. more volume and sleep more.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 06:36 PM
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yes, they can cum more easily multiple times, than men. yes, they can be approached more often, than man. yes, they will be validated more, than men. yes, they can get laid more easily, than men. .....so stipulated. get over it. c'est la vie. now understand the power or RP. When as a man you can get: IOIs due to your superior physical conditioning (which takes time and effort) more receptive behavior from women (by learning Game) Not need their validation (by developing your Frame and OI) Get ab…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 02:07 PM
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well, username checks out.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 01:37 PM
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“You know what she wants and her values” meaning that she is not LTR material because she fucked on her partner with you, proving to you that she is not suitable for a LTR bingo. and 'how' - ususal sidebar shit. Isolate and Escalate. so next time the group thing is happening, and she's stag - figure a way to get her alone for a few seconds, and simply state: "I am going home early tonight, you should make an excuse to leave early too, and join me at .... " and pick an out of the way pub/park/you…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 01:36 PM
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exactly so either A&A with sexual tension or reduce ASD with plausible deniability; worst case: "uh, I don't know" a non decisive and non assertive man is a weak man.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 01:28 PM
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see if any rp men would sacrifice some youth for "superior" companionship. taking her 'mental differences aside' - yes. female youth is attractive to the male hindbrain, 20-25 prime age, etc, etc. that doesn't mean some specimens in later years cannot be hot. it's also an RP tenent (dont' game/plate older chicks) so as not to feed the beast of post-wall women. dating younger: is also a way to keep a woman from having 'the talk' and 'baby rabies'. but in my mid 20's i had several long term FWB wi…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 01:27 PM
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I've started seeing autistic females as superior and a natural evolution to the degrading and exhausting neurotypical model one of the truly remarkable and most honest observations I've read on here in a while. 1) see what it implies about the state of normative women... 2) you sir are a rational male honestly, you've still banged 5 other women in the past year - what's to stop you from cloning this year into many more? what needs to change/why ask for views? non-hypothetically what would fuck t…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:07 AM
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Cheap Trick had a song with a lyric... "I wannnt you to wannnt me... I neeeed you to need me" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-qgpewMCVjs she's an ego driven child. move on. she's not rare or special. she's a shit fit to your life and direction. now she's ego protecting and also trying to get you to validate her by hoping you reach out. do not do/ do anything for your ego or hers, act only by what is actually in your best interest here: which is - move on and focus on yourself.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:00 AM
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good man. never forget the studies and links. "but RP is just a bunch of loser being angry without facts, evolutionary psych is fake!!!" ok. so check out what sexual promiscuity does to a woman's ability to pair bond, and how the sexual revolution and birth control have made "stable wives" a rarity.... wait, why are you covering your ears? why are you leaving and deleting your posts! come back, aren't we having a discussion?? Ah, snowflakes. Bless their hearts.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:54 AM
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irie!
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:51 AM
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Their days are numbered. And if he heard how she was talking about him (and 'them') now he'd be heartbroken, too. If she's attractive, make her a plate/fwb. But you know what she wants and her values, never forget them. I had several multi year FWB who were in relationships when i was younger. Was quite handy to keep them from getting needy (emotionally) and greedy (with my time). the only downside is telling them to shut up about their need to complain about how bad their man is (like some weir…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:47 AM
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her question is a test. 1) either amplify like redpiller1998 says, and grin/wink when saying it 2) give her plausible deniability by simply "let's grab a bite near my place, great late night omelette place" - then go to your place to shower first.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:44 AM
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how the fuck did this come up, now, with a committed LTR?
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:42 AM
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are you dating virgins? that's not too big. you'd barely make the 'cut' at / bigdickproblems so for real, either they are not lubed enough or warmed up enough. so 1) have some lube at your place, have them use it on you (pre-sex handjob) and you on their clit/vulva/lips. (you may find too much lube kills friction, so don't use too much) 2) get them wet/warmed up with more foreplay. look with some women (without a decent rear fornix) you'll hit their cervix and only go in part way, try a differen…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:40 AM
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I would not send it now/like that. it will only be an issue if it's an issue. by you leading with it you're letting her know it's an issue to you/should be for her. if she's 5'8" and f2f simply goes: "I only date guys taller than me" be all like: "OK i can respect that, so let's just be sexual" with a grin. and see where it goes. if she's vain and won't want to be seen in public with a guy shorter than her, but is willing to bone, great - a cheap plate you can bring over some cappuccinos and lay…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:31 AM
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LOL: "i'd like to suck a few dicks next month, yet be back with you for the holidays, you are so generous with your gifts! cool?"
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:25 AM
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I have been sarcastic telling her I'll say hi to him for her when she kept talking about him nooooo. that's what a bitchy 13 yr old girl would say. you're a man, yes? so either ignore or Dread her in other ways. and get some abundance. look you're physically weak (on crutches) emotionally hurt (your father's passing) so you're down, but not out. her testing and flirting with roommate make her "average/normal" MRP is littered with posts like this, about guys when they're down shit like this happe…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:14 AM
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that people will dislike you because you'll end up making them feel insecure. No one on TRP seems to believe that. plenty on TRP believe that. I believe it drives the average sportballer lazy chump batshit crazy with silent jealous rage... not just because girls look your way (more than at them) but because what you are showing (and possibly have changed if you've gone from lumpy to lean and strong) are things that you change (1) by choice, (2) through effort, toil and sacrafice. these 2 points …
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:12 AM
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far worse than women. false. they are simply more overt about it (their hating)
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:09 AM
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" Do the only reason women do stuff for us because she wants something? Then flip out when not getting it because she feels entitled to it?" now re-read it as a chick complaining about men in the friend zone... " Do the only reason men do stuff for us women because they wants something? Then flip out when not getting it because he feels entitled to it?" the difference is, the chick is used to guys occasionally complaining (wising up) and they shrug and find another 10 male orbiters. so the chick…
/r/askTRP22/04/21 08:18 PM
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"women who proudly identify as feminists in public are strongly attracted to males who you might view as red-pilled" simplify it: "women are aroused by masculine men" in the end, regardless of what their Uni and GF's taught them as cool/strong, their hind brain is still wired by millennia of females before them and wants what it wants; namely someone stronger than themselves with genetic and behavioral traits that produce strong healthy offspring. And non-ironically, one form of strength is ment…
/r/askTRP22/04/21 06:41 PM
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understand, ignore isnt' your only tool. I truly believe women don't realize they test consciously, and 'calling them out on it' overtly doesn't help/work. but pressure flipping in a way does. my current LTR's most recent ex was tall, and she has openly told me she has a thing for taller guys (i'm only 5'11") we were once at a park early in our dating (ie: < 6 months) and clear as day, i remember the following: as we walked the wooded park, there was a sole solitary basketball court near the par…
/r/askTRP21/04/21 06:29 PM
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push/pull and orbiters attention. until she fucks him, he's still in the friendzone, she's just ego hurt he pulled back.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 05:51 PM
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" She has all the qualities of an ideal partner and I can't stop my mind from feeling like a single moment like that is gonna fuck up our relationship long term " fucking kill that shit. that shit right there makes you a needy little bitch. she will test because she's attracted. that's how they're wired. so stop taking it personal. in the car is a great time to ignore. so turn up the music when she talks some bullshit about feminism or her ex. make it clear you will NOT reward bitchy behavior wi…
/r/askTRP21/04/21 05:47 PM
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https://archive.is/k4Lb4
/r/askTRP21/04/21 05:43 PM
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"the harder I work the luckier I get" this new easy lay was thanks to previous effort and risk. compounding interest isn't just a monetary theory.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/21 02:02 PM
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yes, he was amog'ing you, and showing a subtle pack order, which womenz pick up on for sure. do either simply ignore, like what he says is noise, the buzzing of a gnat. or pressure flip. A&A i find works less well in male-on-male shit tests.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 01:34 PM
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if she's really that hot, and she's truly that insecure (" Almost every second we are not doing anything or if I look at her too long, she utters out that she thinks she’s so ugly") she has some mental issues, so beware. if you wanna calm her a bit, simply to stop the noise, get close to her and do the 10 second kiss and whisper in her ear: "if you weren't hot, i wouldn't have picked you" and then change the subject. ignore her usual pleas for reassurance or you'll be training her to keep naggin…
/r/askTRP21/04/21 01:31 PM
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I mean how can I teach my brain to THINK in this way QUICKLY to answer in less than a second? no, you're setting yourself up for failure. in firearms we tell noobs: slow is smooth and smooth is fast. if you start out going for speed, you will hurt yourself. so, for you: 1) take a beat. don't feel the need to comeback insta fast, it's insecure and not most productive 2) cock your head sideways and smile slightly; (1) it buys you time, (2) lets the inannity of her comment hang in the air 3) this a…
/r/askTRP20/04/21 01:03 PM
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inception level lack of question in your post
/r/askTRP20/04/21 12:57 PM
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Losing 30+ lbs of fat, gaining a shit load of muscle and improving my appearance helped. However, this wasn't nearly as important as the new mental models I began building where I actually started believing in myself and my own value. this is key. it's not an excuse to not lift and get ripped. you still need to push your body and be the best physical version of yourself "for you" and your health and well being. (and if things go sideways with your LTR and you start over, it helps your smv for th…
/r/askMRP19/04/21 03:41 PM
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OK so what are you decent at? or very interested in seeing grow in your town? do start that up on meetup and see if you get any takers. as the 'founder' you'll have some situational cred.
/r/askTRP16/04/21 06:44 PM
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Girls digg it as long as being cold does not mean lacking personality or not being able to be fun let me fix it for you: Girls digg it as long as being cold does not mean lacking personality or not being able to be fun... with them. and the duality, you being cold and distant and mysterious with "others" yet kind and warm at times, with her is the special sauzul
/r/askTRP15/04/21 05:18 PM
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".. and don't have any friends..." why not? honest question. even an introvert (someone who finds social situations draining) can at times benefit from being social, especially settings and at scale that do not aggrevate. so join meetup.com and get some friends going and put less pressure on 'dating' for now. you need to get out of your own head and become someone others want to spend time with. in parallel, to get sexual with someone, be sexy. are you fit / fit for your age? grooming and style …
/r/askTRP15/04/21 05:16 PM
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yes, there are chamber events (usually just realtors and insurance agents looking for leads) but actual industry specific groups work better. won't widen the net outside your vertical, but better than the chamber meetings IMO
/r/askTRP15/04/21 05:09 PM
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The most effective way to deal with guys hitting on your date is to view it as a test of her, vs. a test of you; until it's not. what? if she entertains/encourages male attention especially in your presence, she's either not into you; or not quality (insecure/needy/drama-provoking) -so she's not worthy of your Time and Attention, move on. if she demures and rejects them, greet her with a smirk when she returns back to the table (I've found it most often happens on her trip to/from the bathroom/b…
/r/askTRP15/04/21 02:15 PM
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Trying to figure out how I could've better handled this situation. your self aware enough, that you answered your own question, namely: " my ego just wanted her to choose me instead of this guy" so as a result: you rooted through the trash you hamstered how "bad" she is after giving into you so you sought ego validation externally by the reaction of a single woman, who you didn't want LongTerm anyways; so instead you need to focus on yourself, and choosing to spend time with those who add value …
/r/askTRP15/04/21 02:06 PM
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you'd be surprised. i have a rather nice boat. but i am at a mid tier marina. since i'm part of a race team so we get to use other marinas and frankly, even the 'higher end ones' are more like bowling alleys, lots of regulars in their cliques and normal banter and grandstanding, i've met other business owners (ie: proper leverage of labor, capital and 'net type businesses as OP alludes to) simply by being social and keeping an ear out for what others talk about. "what do you do?" is annoying if …
/r/askTRP15/04/21 02:00 PM
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have you read any of the studies referenced in the sidebar books? in some studies a probe is actually inserted into the vagine and it measures "lubricity" (wetness) the study that looked at what women "got wet for" in visual porn that determined a small percentage of men got turned on by MM sex, but a much higher level than reported/admitted women got turned on by FF sex. that one. so wetness can be measured.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 12:39 PM
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i read it. her post history was real. her shame was real. her confusion was real. so here's one where losing causes dry-panties, which reinforces the one above (in the one above, she and BF knew the aggressor from college for a few years so she "knew the victor") below its simply: he's bested, she's turned off: ​ "... Help! My boyfriend lost a fight badly and things are different between us. What do I do? Ok, so my BF has been training for the past few months for this fight and really wanted me …
/r/askTRP15/04/21 12:36 PM
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at your age, WRT women: be social have fun have sex get experience take care of yourself - you are your longest LTR in a decade or more, you will be stronger mentally and emotionally and ready for an LTR, you sound very very behind socially for a 20 yr old, honestly. and yes keep focusing on grades then career and side hustle/wealth creation and again: take care of yourself - you are your longest LTR
/r/askTRP14/04/21 08:07 PM
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"...But why did she react like this and basically get a female boner from my actions. Is she a slut ? Or is this a red flag..." C) neither, this makes her normal. I wish I could find the link. There was an am-i-an-ass post or some such sub post by a girl, get this: this girl was BF/GF with her man in college and still together after college as well they both also knew a guy who went to college with them this 'other dude' was bigger than her BF, and pushier, and more asshole'y the BF and the 'oth…
/r/askTRP14/04/21 08:05 PM
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rut ro! what a golden opportunity to punch holes in condoms -missed.
/r/askTRP14/04/21 06:51 PM
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Why are we supporting approaching women in the gym. When it goes wrong dood. it's called being social. no need for a number close. just make their acquaintance. guess what happens when you take a FWB to the gym with you and your gym-GF's fist bump you when you get there, huge social proof and a banging session when you get home. ask me how i know...
/r/askTRP14/04/21 02:57 PM
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the 2012 study linked in that article made this a non shocker https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-012-9934-6 " Researchers found that 52 percent of the women had fantasies about forced sex with a man, 32 percent about being raped and 28 percent about forced oral sex with a man. Overall, 62 percent of the women reported having had at least one fantasy around a forced sex act. The researchers then investigated if the women's fantasies were indicative of "sexual blame avoidance", a hyp…
/r/askTRP14/04/21 02:51 PM
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My sample set is only about a half dozen, either longer term FWB or LTRs who were raised by single mom's. My deduction was: It depended how their mom viewed males and verbalized it to my chick, more than whether or not the dad wasn't the primary care giver/always in the picture. There's something about a sole caregiver and role-model to a young woman who is constantly bashing the males of the world, lumping all together, and your bae is indoctrinated into being a man hater, yet she has needs, an…
/r/askTRP14/04/21 02:46 PM
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understand that when you're mad (angry) at others, you're often actually angry at yourself (for letting things get to this point; whatever that may be). If she can push your buttons, since you know her question is not one of concern, you need to STFU and work on your strength (of Frame and physicality) let your anger fuel your gym visits and focus on strength of character. The funny thing is, when you change; you don't need her to change. Meaning, my LTR used to try/do things like that a few yea…
/r/askMRP13/04/21 08:15 PM
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Please do not delete this comment or your OP. Read it in a year. You'll either 1) be embarrassed by it - which would be good, it will mean you've learned and aren't the same sad man you are now; or 2) think "yeah, i was sooo right... more proof that i'm different!" and you will be poorer for it.
/r/askMRP13/04/21 08:05 PM
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I'm not quite sure why you're indignant ( "disprespectful/unforgivable"... "disapointing".. "inexcusable") WTF do you care? And don't give me "that would make her a bad mom" answer. It's because you've got a covert contract thinking that because you're so AF that she should only be showing her goods to you (you called her your SO, she's an EX, and now a plate) your ego is the problem. Treat her as a co-parent, and simply state: I don't want my daughter/son to have to find embarrassing pics of th…
/r/askMRP13/04/21 05:22 PM
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whenever a woman says anything, add "for now" to the end. "I love you (for now)" "I hate you! (for now)" "you're my only one (for now)"
/r/askTRP13/04/21 01:27 PM
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yes. it's Taming the Beast. Found to be the most common/popular sex story search by women in a Billion Wicked Thoughts. As others note, see: 50 Shades of Gray, Beauty and the Beast. So acknowledge it. Then enjoy/exploit it. How? Become a Beast (get strong: physically by lifting; mentally by developing and maintaining Frame) Become OI (Outcome Independent of any specific woman's feelings towards you as they are not relevant to your happiness and Mission) this can manifest through negs, being self…
/r/askTRP13/04/21 12:51 PM
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no reason to delete the number. "i would never cheat" isn't the message to send.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 03:40 PM
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"the_seducer" is quite the username for such a question... I mean, you could get her a black one with lots of veins and make it the XXXL model and go all out if you want. seriously, what many seem to enjoy on their own isn't the full on baseball bat, rather the Gspot+Clit ones, like the sucking vibrator types, where the "C" shape that goes inside is more about G vs. filling-her.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 03:38 PM
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so be social in a passing sense. smile, and "how are you!" and leave it at that. don't overthink this. just move on but don't skulk and hang your head.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 03:23 PM
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Yup, but since OP is living life per his terms, and through his own lens, he shouldn't care. And thanks to his habits and discipline and willingness to enforce boundaries, he will find someone more compatible with what he value
/r/askTRP09/04/21 03:22 PM
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again, you acted guilty and like a creep would have. your call if you want to salvage.
/r/askTRP08/04/21 07:11 PM
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do they add value to your life? if you didn't wrong them and you didn't wrong her, I would not avoid them. but now you should be ready for a "so... wtf really happened?" type of questions. take the highroad. do not accuse her of slandering you, yet. simply say: "she's a cool chick, but we didn't click" and then immediately change subject to something else. you're NOT looking for their blessing, you're just putting them at ease. most idiots know there's 2 sides to every story.
/r/askTRP08/04/21 06:51 PM
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your new life is on the other side of your fears. your call. stay 'safe' here in what you know (and quietly makes you unhappy) or push/try, fail some, but keep trying and before you know it, you'll be wondering what took you so long.... newsflash: you won't die by simply being rejected or being a small fool every now and then. your mind's anxiety of what it fears may have helped your ancestors survive the unknown, yet that thinking severely limits modern man realizing his full potential. also: s…
/r/askTRP08/04/21 06:24 PM
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understand that by behaving like you're saying you're doing, you look guilty (of whatever she said). some women regret a kiss/fuck and will make shit up as an ASD mechanism post encounter. this sucks. but do not let it define you. don't creep around like a creep. hold your head high. your behavior caused her to bend some of her rules on touching or speed at which you all arrived there, and her ego and reputation drove her to tell tall tales about it. shrug it off. do not validate it by creeping …
/r/askTRP08/04/21 06:17 PM
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I workout to keep in good shape and to look good for her so it's odd she finds it difficult to do the same for me. oh gawd, hopefully you're misquoting yourself. 2 major issues here: 1) you workout for YOURSELF. not for anyone else. for yourself. 2) huge covert contract (I do it for you, why don't you do it for me?)
/r/askTRP08/04/21 02:27 PM
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Dread and withdrawal of your Time and Attention.
/r/askTRP08/04/21 02:26 PM
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" After fucking her, which was amazing, I have post nut realization and felt this dread inside me being like, what the fuck did I just commit to." thank you, that was a good laugh. just chill out. so you're in an LTR (commitment/monogamy) with a super hot fit chick. consider this a test of Frame. report back on progress :)
/r/askTRP08/04/21 02:09 PM
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take a step back: you don't LTR someone to put their poon on lockdown. you do so because they add value to your life.... at this point, your ego is driving the bus, and it's not gonna end well. Women have automatic abundance, so ignore that. focus on what you can change, which is your outlook, income, physique and habits. you need to work on you. eff her and any other beings besides yourself. you need to treat yourself like a person you cared about deeply - fake it if you have self esteem issues…
/r/askTRP08/04/21 02:02 PM
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it's not perfect, but oddly enough, it was my entry into RP. I found this, and the AF/BB dynamic it introduced me to resonated with me as a married provider with 4 kids and waning attraction and compliance at home. it was my gateway drug to RP. so thank you Athol for getting it partially right.
/r/askMRP07/04/21 06:34 PM
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correct and do not establish a pattern of caving to her ultimatums - it will lead to hellish behavior - which you endorsed.
/r/askTRP07/04/21 06:06 PM
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check out Mode 1, by Alan Roger Currie; your RIP homie would have been "yup yup" when reading it.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/21 05:26 PM
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a group happy hour meetup, about 15 of us, friends of friends type of thing happened just before Covid. Also a cute, and shorter brunette started machinegun shittesting me after one of our mutual friends paid me a compliment in front of the group... After a few minutes of shit from her ("what's it like to be the shortest in your crew?" - i am 5'11" but my bro's are all over 6', "why don't you dye your hair" -i have salt-n-peppa sideburns - shit like that) I just ignored - it reached a critical m…
/r/TheRedPill07/04/21 04:52 PM
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has zero respect or admiration for you part of OI and non neediness is not worrying about what they think, and I believe that's an important maxim at the base level. But when i've reflected about signs of things going sideways, a common thread in my LTR's past behavior leave these calling cards: without Respect and Admiration a woman only cares about how you make her feel, for now what you can do for her, for now When she looks up to you with respect and admires you, she is thankful for you and …
/r/askTRP07/04/21 03:20 PM
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watch "my Blue Valentine" the movie for one take on the allure and fall (pre-post artistry) of a man like you describe. as for your Q: women want to be wanted by a high value man. by being on stage/open-mic/guitar-by-the-fire-on-the-beach, you are a Situational Alpha, one all the women will be staring at when they strum/sing. She wants to be wanted by that man.
/r/askTRP07/04/21 03:05 PM
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drop all ties. cut off all comms. ghost. most men cannot handle a former LTR being 'only' a plate as they will be fucking others, too. there's not shame in that - men are the true romantics after all, pretending to be realists; women are the realists, pretending to be romantics. move on dude. nothing good will come from plating your ex.
/r/askTRP07/04/21 02:55 PM
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that's the opposite problem most guys have, this means you're likey very good looking. so play that card. do not compliment her when she compliments you, or at least not in a "you too!" reactionary response be more quiet - let her entertain YOU appear selective, if you're as handsome as you may be, let her prove herself to you she should NOT know about your inexperience. when she asks: "how many girls you've been with", your response should be (with a grin): "you mean this week?" then punch her …
/r/askTRP07/04/21 02:53 PM
1

Renaissance Periodization another vote for "the other RP", good youtube content.
/r/askTRP07/04/21 01:51 PM
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correct - she will value your attention when other women want you, yet you choose to spend some time with her. When you have options, your Time and Attention to her, how ever small, are a gift of value. Yet, if you are a needy, lonely, desperate loser (and that also includes guys in LTRs) and she knows she is your only option, your Time and Attention not only have little value to her, but also negative value - she sees reciprocation as a chore and obligation. My LTR's friends will lament having …
/r/askTRP07/04/21 01:29 PM
1

Yeah, stay fit, get strong, be OI - it's the road to doom!
/r/askTRP07/04/21 01:23 PM
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And the antidote? (to archwinger's observation) is you don't do shit "for them" you do shit for yourself and she's allowed along for the ride if she behaves. 1) no covert contracts 2) no resentment when things don't go how you thought they would Outcome Independence is a superpower
/r/askTRP06/04/21 06:52 PM
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when a bitch has demands like this on her mind, you're simply chattel to her now. this is a transactional relationship. so how do you like your side of the transaction now? it's not great. now imagine it with her on the title, becoming more demanding, divoricing and wanting alimony and paying half her remaining school debt.... "but baby i got you a job, remember!" bzzzzz read this: http://archive.is/RXSxJ about relationship equity fallacy ​ "... One of the greatest sources of aggravation and fai…
/r/askTRP06/04/21 06:05 PM
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tell her: "clean your room" do not validate and slobber.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 06:00 PM
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you get fit/ripped. i am late 40's and get IOI'd and approached by 19-25 yr old baristas, retail workers, etc weekly. when out social, twice so far in 2021 when spotting my wedding ring, 2 have tapped it, touching my hand/breaking the touch barrier and said flat out "hmu if that doesn't work out" with a giggle. simply but, be a specimen. have a lean face. groomed and dressed in fitted fashionable clothing and they gawk; talk to them like they ain't shit/you're not phased and they melt. sure, the…
/r/askTRP06/04/21 05:54 PM
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" I am starting to think maybe I don’t have the genes for it " bitch please. you are descended for apes who fought/killed/fucked/foraged and survived at least partially due to their physical prowess. yes, our big brains and consciousness propelled us to the top of the pyramid, but the body didn't shrivel away fully. do eat clean do get a base blood panel (lipids, vit D, c-reactive protein, glucose, A1C, testosterone, pregnenalone, dha) so you can do it again in 6 months and to rule out any actua…
/r/askTRP06/04/21 05:47 PM
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congrats, you have reached the end of NRE (new relationship energy) next time, simply say: "behave like that again, and you'll be eating alone" your job is NOT to caretake her mood. let me guess, you also paid for the meal on your credit card?
/r/askTRP06/04/21 05:41 PM
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your ego is driving the bus. tell it to STFU and enjoy the arrangement. your Ego wants to know why she doesn't want you more. STFU. stop worrying about nonsense. it's a FWB arrangement, good. as for why she waits for your call, it's called Leading, and she's playing the part. Stop needing your ego to be validated by her reaching out first. If she complies in meeting and behaves and looks alluring, that's her end of the bargain.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 05:39 PM
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dude, get the ring back and kick her out. you see red flags and you're choosing to ignore. also, covert contracts need to be understood. you're being nice/good to her and she's not appreciating it, have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy? the briffault's law comment is correct as well.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 05:37 PM
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" I told her I can't control what pops up first on my feed " don't DEER, DARE. you gave a rational answer, but she's not a rational being in this state. she's not a dude or your parents. she's a chick feeling competition anxiety. so... "they may be on my screen but you're in my bed... who's the winner?" or some such cocky funny comment. do not DEER. https://archive.is/2hjQR
/r/askTRP06/04/21 01:48 PM
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1) make them rare, so they are appreciated. 2) make them genuine, and not obvious by someone who doesn't know her like you do ("I like that dress, reminds me of the sexy red one you wore on NYE") 3) do not overdo it, like cheap give away prizes you will cheapen your words by making them common.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 01:46 PM
1

you're viewing this wrong. these aren't tests of YOU, these are tests of HER, and she's failing them. work on yourself (mentally, physically, emotionally) but first, ghost her ass and spend your time with more enjoyable women. Or are you a needy bitch?
/r/askTRP06/04/21 01:44 PM
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"i have a boyfriend" is a test and a signal. signal: she's saying she's high value (duh, women have abundance we/you know that, she doesn't know what you know so she's being blunt) test: are you assertive enough to ignore and escalate? (see shit responses) like: ignore A&A: "cool, i have a GF, let's introduce them so we can hang out" and her attempt at being cool/banter (meme about men are pigs) shows a coyness that yearns to be dominated.... ball's in your court, champ.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 01:41 PM
1

It’s just a little different for me I guess since I used to (maybe still am?) Simp out for a woman almost in a similar way but understand, it's not the same. your role (which has been evolutionarily wired into her brain) is that of an aggressor, hunter, provider, killer, wrestler, sexually dominating beast. her role is to use her wiles, and temporary kindness, charm, and grace to make you feel comfortable and taken care of, for now. she's not simping, she's being affectionate. and your way of mi…
/r/askTRP30/03/21 03:42 AM
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there are better places to ask this type of question on reddit. some info i've come across specific to your question of reps vs weight vs. going to failure can be answered by this guy's videos. amount of weight and reps: there is a threshold where too weight little does not produce hypertrophy, seems 30% of 1Rep Max (1RM) max is 110% of RM (with negatives) but at a high cost of longer recovery, and risk of injury. seems below/near/at 85% of 1RM with higher reps but (2-3 under failure) is the bes…
/r/askTRP30/03/21 03:14 AM
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in the short term, no, it's not 'bad'. so use the emotion as 1) a signal 2) motivation to change but long term, those who fuel themselves through only thoughts of "proving others wrong" or "showing them!" often find themselves empty and still angry when they succeed. (they were unhappy before being rich, and still unhappy now, etc) you were bullied, so this may resonate: 1) a type 1 life: "life happens TO you" (you are a reed in the wind; you are weak, you are preyed on; you have no agency) 2) a…
/r/askTRP30/03/21 03:02 AM
1

hypogonadism is a nut thing. some report 'deca-dick' where it can be hard to, er, get hard. but no 1st hand knowledge of add'l PEDs. I am on TRT from a Dr. because at mid 40's I had Test of a 85-90yr old man. And now with repalcement therapy (TRT) I feel/look/and fuck like I did in college. T is like life force in a bottle, if you're low naturally.
/r/askTRP26/03/21 06:22 PM
1

drink drink drink!
/r/askTRP26/03/21 06:17 PM
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setting boundaries are best done early. harder now. not for you. do it. for her "why now, what changed?" people don't do early boundaries for fear of rejection. dont' fear it, it shows weakness when you do. so now you need to backtrack which looks weak and now greedy, but it's right. next time, and maybe now if you actually have a talk. make it based on income if you want to soften the blow (proportional of gross) some form of proportionality is normal when i was in group homes (usually based on…
/r/askTRP26/03/21 06:01 PM
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plenty of answers on your feelings <-- -> losing frame. a different viewpoint.... your feelings are composed of a few things, some of which are your self admitted sensitivity and really your reactivity; but only the latter matters for Frame control. so work on the latter first. do. not. react. how? Frame isn't about being cold or lacking feeling. It's about an utter steadfastness and assuredness in your viewpoint and your strength in pressing that viewpoint, day in and day out. So you need to ge…
/r/askTRP26/03/21 05:56 PM
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The Power of Habit ( by Charles Duhigg ) breaks down one of the key points to the success of 12 step programs.... beyond anchor habits, beyond replacing the act, beyond identifying the urge.. was the part the most that annoyed and stumped the agnostic/atheist social scientists that studied these groups. Faith. Or the role that successful followers of the programs put into Faith. So it turns out, the Faith wasn't Divine (you must believe a Diety will save you if you give up the wheel) as much as …
/r/askTRP24/03/21 08:21 PM
1

lol, that's funny. you should give that lady a thank-you-shag on the house.
/r/askTRP24/03/21 08:14 PM
1

that's the same girl. you're simply describing what she says (shitting on him and angry) and how she'd behave (be on her knees for him). those who hide the pain are simply very very insecure or actually not neurotic and secure in themeselves. the middle of the bellcurve are usually normally expressive in my experience. and there's the proclivity for drama, aka: non-agreeable + extroverted
/r/askTRP23/03/21 03:33 PM
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in my 20's a banged an MD (an OB). she gave me head in the front seat of a new convertible her husband, a surgeon, bought her. she picked me up in it and was giggling, she told me when he surprised her with it on her birthday her first thought was of me driving it, with the top down, so she could blow me on the highway. if you think a woman, thanks to a degree and a title can't be a ho, you're a moron. do not communicate you're looking for an LTR, bitches will play nice and deceive you. read the…
/r/askTRP23/03/21 03:29 PM
2

compare yourself not to other people today.... instead compare yourself today, to the 'you' of yesterday. And tomorrow, of the you of today. Look for incremental improvements. Look for internal validation. Be able to look in the mirror and smile because you earned 'it'. What's 'it''? calmness? happiness? fitness? wealth? freedom? That's up to you to pick.
/r/askTRP23/03/21 03:21 PM
1

Yes
/r/askTRP23/03/21 12:25 PM
1

you still need social skills. read "the natural" by Richard la Ruina for some tips.
/r/askTRP23/03/21 12:25 PM
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another vote for meetup.com i'm in an east coast city--- so many events across so many domains (wine/beer, sports, hobbies, dancing) op, learn to be social. it's a skill. forget "i'M an IntRoVert" excuse. if you are top level handsome and ripped you can get away being a bit more quirky (see when you're rich and/or beautiful, being wierd is "quirky" when you're average you're just weird) so build the skill of how to be social, without Sex as the goal. let that come/choose a target to escalate wit…
/r/askTRP23/03/21 12:23 PM
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yes, T levels affect a lot, not just aggression and muscle mass. your situation being acute from an injury is more drastic than most of us who lost T as we aged and accelerated by poor health choices and lack of working out. yes, emotions and frame control (or locus of control) are also hormonally influence. your neuroticism is likely spiking. so get back on the meds, learn to STFU! when you're not in a state of health and power. glad your dick still works, thought the story was gonna be worse..…
/r/askTRP23/03/21 12:18 PM
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once the NRE (new relationship energy) wears off, it comes down to: women love what you can do for them women love how you make them feel to both those statements add "for now" to the end to truly understand the dynamic at play. so build the life you want, if that includes a family - so be it - but do not put your woman nor her feels at the top of your pyramid, put your own welfare, strength, mission and boundaries at the top. it's what you need to stay sane; and corollary: it helps keep your re…
/r/askTRP23/03/21 12:13 PM
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yes. protip: every now and then, go lifting with a FWB/LTR/whateva*** ... get them pumped up too, women's T also rises post lifting. go home and have shower secks like a pro. *** my gym time is 'my time' usually alone; so this is a treat for her to join me. Remember that when you focus on yourself and choose to share some of your time, occaissionally, it makes the gesture special. give it away all the time and it's worthless.
/r/askTRP23/03/21 12:09 PM
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Nasim Taleb said it straight: “The three most harmful addictions are heroin, carbohydrates, and a monthly salary.” << focus on the last one... are you a cog?
/r/askTRP22/03/21 08:52 PM
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when nagging thoughts come into your head, whether a real memory or imagined, say this with conviction: "if i truly valued myself deeply, would I allow myself to experience this?" ... "NO, so instead I shall focus on..." <insert something positive you're working towards, a mission or goal or outcome you're focusing on> the cool part, it's also a valid question when someone is making you feel... small/bad/unloved/negative. so "experience this" is both "should I be feeling like this now" and "shou…
/r/askTRP21/03/21 04:34 AM
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it's not a bug, but a feature. consider this: you "do it" (be excellent, excel, take care of yourself, Mission first, etc) for you. Really/truly for you. When you drink this fully, you neutralize the importance of what "they do" because how "they act" matters not to your grand picture. the opposite of "internal locus of control" and "internal validation driven" would be a guy who gets compliments from a girl, she says "I love you, i want to be with you forever" and he starts coasting, at work, a…
/r/askTRP21/03/21 04:21 AM
1

it's not 100%, but it' nags at me... i read the following somewhere on reddit: "a woman wants an exceptional man, who treats her adequately" " a man wants an adequate woman who treats him exceptionally" So there is some form of "settling" that happens. for sure, my wife is not the hottest woman I've laid. And yes, there were non-looks factors I weighed when picking her, like you do with any LTR (does she: handle her shit, adds value, etc) thing's that don't matter in an ONS/plate. But do matter …
/r/TheRedPill19/03/21 07:12 PM
2

observe. witness. note. put it down. move on. there is a fine line with introspection and self evaluation and neurotic catastrophizing (re-imagining past events, imagining future events). once you have done thsse (observe. witness. note. put it down. move on) when one of your "remember when you did XyZ.." comes back into your head literally say: "already analyzed. not useful." and move on, think of something else asap that is positive and helpful. do not ruminate. you need to make new groves, po…
/r/askTRP19/03/21 06:37 PM
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I don't think his statement is worded ideally. to me, the biggest threat to a woman's hypergamy is her own wall and letting herself go, meaning she won't be able to trade-up and branchswing when she's an old bag of shit. so she may desire a better option, but she won't get another/better option when she's crap. but, yes, the biggest threat to a woman's hypergamy being weaponized/weaponizable, is a man who knows his value and maintains high value. Why? he will know he has abundance and can replac…
/r/askTRP19/03/21 06:27 PM
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if your BMR is 1600, yes, you'll loose 1600 bmr + 600 activity = 2200 gross usage. 2000 intake = a 200 cal/day deficit there are more variables, NEAT, recovery, sleep, hormones and food affects. the key to finding a diet that works (just macro hunting, cico, paleo, whole food, etc) is finding one that LEAVES YOU THE MOST SATIATED. so you're more likely to stick with it. in the end you need to burn more than you intake. and resistant training for hypertrophy is useful for a dozen reasons you can …
/r/askTRP19/03/21 06:08 PM
1

mine did at first. i only take it on days I lift, so 4-5x a week. and it's normalized over a few months. now i can't tell and i do 4-5G/day when I do take it.
/r/askTRP19/03/21 05:19 PM
1

my rx is 5x a week and sub-cutaneous, not intramuscular. so a very small dose via insulin type needle (30ga?) i think 0.25ML of mix, equates to 250units/dose. (and 5ML is 20 days worth, a month)
/r/askTRP19/03/21 05:18 PM
1

my RX is not daily. but periodic. hypogonadism is also one of the goals of hcg.
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:48 PM
1

become the man you wish you had at your side
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:24 PM
2

plates you've been plating for 6 months or an LTR? usually applies to women who have invested in you: http://archive.is/iGdee in the end, you don't need to be douchey and overt about behing 'hawt' let other women Dread her by her observing other women reacting positively to you when you're out together. if you were hella confident/OI you wouldn't care about a particular girl ghosting you, or not, so conveying this line of thinking to them kills the game. hence covert. better yet, get OI/ngaf and…
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:19 PM
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If you're low T and young, the Dr. rx'ing the TRT should be considering HCG in addition to TRT, google for why. If you're on TRT you should be sure your D levels (via bloodwork) are solid, it's a cheap/easy supplement. Also Iodine, thyroid and other hormone's is why. Fish-oil for omega's and the ratio of 3 to 6 helps inflammation and recovery along with tumeric.
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:15 PM
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agreed, D can be measured in bloodwork. shoot for 50-60ng/dl not the usual 20. plenty of research on why being low on D is very very bad - correlates to many systemic diseases.
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:13 PM
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nac... and liver function. along with D and Iodine you have building blocks for the other hormones. i also do fish oil.
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:11 PM
2

both for training and some reports of it being a nootropic.
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:11 PM
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exactly. "who dis?"
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:10 PM
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I walked out on a 'first date' - a drink date at a mexican restaurant/bar like this. usual convo, get to know you type stage - happy hour/early evening. a few years back so it was txt not social media apps. i asked her if she was an "MD on call" or had anything pressing (my phone was face down on the table) she said; "no, just a lot of socializing" - if she had waited until i took a piss or later, no big deal, but she couldn't go a sentence of convo without looking at phone. i lol'd and left cas…
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:08 PM
3

BJ's: $20 BJ's-without-teeth: $30
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:00 PM
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don't store it in your mouth
/r/askTRP18/03/21 03:00 PM
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+1 black don't crack, yo
/r/askTRP18/03/21 02:58 PM
1

a few points to remember: it will seem 'fast' even if it takes years for those who haven't seen you in a while do not get bitter when the bettys do start paying attention (sure, now that I'm hawt you want to talk to me, fuck off bish!") just enjoy it when you get a compliment, simply say thank you. do not reply back with one do not gush and blush (like you're not used to them) do not expect compliments - your SMV is for you, it's not a covert contract that the world owes you a BJ enjoy casting a…
/r/askTRP18/03/21 02:56 PM
2

sidebar sidebar and EC top posts are your friend. The Escalation Ladder: http://archive.is/lATI3
/r/askTRP18/03/21 02:51 PM
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As long as she gives you IOIs in private, escalate. yes. women are herd animals, and will act differently when in the herd vs. alone. she's not only giving the orbiters breadcrumbs by scoffing at your "leaked" desires, she's protecting her reputation as "a goddess and good girl" with them, further motivating them to pedestalize her. she has them right where she wants them. as for you, when alone: if she's not-actually-rejecting, consider it an IOI. the hotter the woman the pickier she can be and…
/r/askTRP18/03/21 02:30 PM
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when a female suggests the act and logistics, you've long since missed her covert signals. any LMR you saw was her wondering if she'd regret her decision because you were being so meek. women want to be chosen by a man of strength, one with options. you sounded/acted like a scared little boy. don't do it again young man.
/r/askTRP17/03/21 05:27 PM
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blimey he's bri-ish.
/r/askTRP17/03/21 05:26 PM
2

in my 20's i had a few hot older women as FWB's (by RP definitions, plates, since we didn't really do much other than fck and maybe grab a drink before). i know it's not RP suggested to hunt older women, but the few (very few) who aren't nasty can be hot (one of mine was a spin instructor the other a ski/yoga instructor) and both had amazing bodies. so enjoy the sex while it lasts but keep your distance. her catching feels is expected. you catching feels will be bad. so to answer your question -…
/r/askTRP17/03/21 05:24 PM
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"change your friends... or change your friends" the former is changing the mindset of your current crabs, sorry, friends. it's rare. a few/one may seek you out away from the comments and judgements of the others and ask for some advice. if they merit it, share a bit, carefully. the latter = find new friends. this can be a normal process, don't begrudge it. you'll find that true friends who also have their shit together will be happy for you and seek motivation from you. Example: I have 13 very c…
/r/askTRP16/03/21 06:39 PM
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get on a program. i am in a good place bf/strength wise, I haven't missed the a workout in 3 years, I haven't not tracked food intake in over 1250 days (at all) and yet I felt the hints of staleness coming on... I'm still going to the gym, it's just that I've memorized every last thing about my workouts, even the alternates I've built (i've had the same core push-pull-push-pull -legs routine for 13 months now, just before covid to last week; each day with 3 variants, but still that's only 15 wor…
/r/askTRP16/03/21 05:43 PM
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there is "slight" correlation in the medical lit. but we all know guys who (both ways) break the rules.
/r/askTRP16/03/21 02:16 PM
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you need to (re)read this: https://therationalmale.com/category/love/ women and men do not love the same. only your mother will love you unconditionally 'for being yourself' wake up. no sense in being angry, other than as: a signaling method to tell you you've been wrong/duped to motivate you to change
/r/askTRP16/03/21 02:05 PM
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t makes her imagination run wild because she feels like at any moment you are going to leave her and all the “hard work” she put in to you will be meaningless. almost. Women care not about relationship equity and sunk costs. they care about their ego their reputation what you can do for them now and in the near future so she's afraid of missing out on his resources (his Time and Attention) and how it will reflect on her ego and standing. not about "all her hard work" that's just theater to help …
/r/askTRP16/03/21 01:53 PM
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nah, /u/volvostupidshit is saying that in addition to his skills and assets if he was also 6'4" he'd be unstoppable which is another way of telling OP to suck it up and get unstoppable ("if i can, you can"). as for height not being that big a deal... well, I have known a few girls who are very very into height. like will break a convo to check out a guy simply from behind to see his face, if he's tall. 2 for sure admitted to being size queens and correlated height with jimmy size and weren't shy…
/r/askTRP16/03/21 01:42 PM
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but it would be fun to restore myself and my ego. this is where you should focus your efforts: going through the process of improvement to not require the external validation of others, especially a woman because she's hot. Compare that to a mentor who you look up to, who you train with, who you allow to be someone of mutual respect - that's someone I would rather get positive feedback from - but again, not validation of my worth, rather confirmation of my effort and mission were on track. ​ I s…
/r/askTRP16/03/21 01:29 PM
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become the guy they despise - for you. I don't like external motivation factors, but if you're having trouble getting them out of your head (their maxim's, not 'them') then use them as a totem to best. one of my buddies who now on guy trips gets more action than all of us combined used to be a skinny (> 6' and < 125#) sped kid with a bad disease that gave him tourets like symptoms, like bad. i got to know him at 16 in h.s. and it was bad. he now has multiple blackbelts, is sub 10% bf, ripped lik…
/r/askTRP16/03/21 03:33 AM
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let me rephrase: "Female Nature: Can a woman want you again or even more after you improved yourself?: Answer: obviously, Yes. But improve for yourself, how it affects others is a secondary benefit - you are your longest LTR. First Person Story Time: I overheard my LTR talking with a BFF on speakerphone in 2020. I came home and she was outback on our patio. I walked through the family room like I've done a 1000 times, nothing nefarious about it. She didn't know I was home, and her friend asked h…
/r/askTRP16/03/21 03:21 AM
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the intensity of the anger phase seems to be proportional to the amount a given guy had 'women' (or a fairy tale life with 'a' woman) as their goal. so, re-orient yourself. think like this: the guy who got cheated on by his fiance before the wedding yes he's heartbroken and angry and embarrassed and hurt and and and... but at least he wasn't already married to her with 2 kids and mortgage and alimony and child support before he learned his lesson so for you, be thankful you found this out early …
/r/askTRP16/03/21 02:57 AM
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i'm just the copypasta read uncle V's "top rates posts" fully. the's the man.
/r/askTRP15/03/21 06:13 PM
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required reading: http://archive.is/6nARx Faint Heart Never Fucked Fair Lady -From “The Sayings of Chairman Zaitzev” What happens if she tells you she has a boyfriend? What happens if she yells, “NO!” at you? What happens if she’s bitchy after a bad day? Nothing. That’s what happens. Nothing. And that’s not even the worst thing that can happen. If she rejects you, simply say “Ok” and move on. If she’s really obnoxious it’s ok to say, ”I apologize; I mistook you for a lady,” and turn on your heel…
/r/askTRP15/03/21 03:58 PM
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" Please help. Thanks." you do need help, but it's not hairstyling advice. you do not want to orient your effort, and actions on what is trendy and such in women's minds. "shiny object" chasers should not be your compass. work on your fitness. as you earn the right to be proud of yourself, you can look up collar shapes and hair cut shapes viz your face shape in a book call "the appearance of power" so you can pick the most flattering collar styles in your new wardrobe, you know the one you need …
/r/askTRP15/03/21 03:57 PM
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so, you don't understand 'negging' it's to make a woman who is usually slobbered over, feel she (her looks) have now power over you/that you talk to girls as hot as she is all the time (this is no big deal to me)... and to do that you use a joke or comment on something that is trite and not brutal ("I like you even with that chin scar") if you're insulting your plate's acne scars- you're an retard. what do you hope to gain from that? to make her feel like shit? (you tried) make her feel like she…
/r/askTRP15/03/21 03:50 PM
2

Aren't women off put by male profiles with other girls in their photos? they might say they are... but it's not how they act (and what the actual science shows on studies with photos of men with women at their sides vs. not)
/r/askTRP15/03/21 03:14 PM
1

don't think minimal. just measured. try to maintain weight, meaning swap fat for muscle. it's possible. get your protein macro's and sleep in for sure. then be in a slight caloric deficit 4-5 days a week. be loser on weekends, but don't drink too much. many can lose fat + gain muscle at the same time, better than a dirty bulk, and harsh cut and back and forth I think. you want to develop healthy habits....
/r/askTRP15/03/21 03:13 PM
2

the usual sidebar stuff like No More Mr. Nice Guy, and listening to the author on some podcasts/YT codified what my gut felt needed fixing. and I am a decent listener, so my friends talk to me a lot about their trials and challenges. many i hint at RP points, a few are open to it so I've turned on 3 married guys to TRP fully and 2 are on these subs. the 4 of us talk F2F in real life and share notes and support and such. And yes, a 20+ yr LTR with 4 kids was my trial by fire. the sidebar is real.…
/r/askTRP15/03/21 03:12 PM
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" What does “self advocates rationally” mean? " most women are covert communicators, plenty in the sidebar about that. and that's fine for smv/relationship/"she wants you to be a fucking man"/she wants some BDSM but doesn't want to ask for it... b/c then she's not the sub. see all that? that's ok/normal. so you can assume AWALT and behave like a man and chances are, you'll be good to go. what's not ok is when they also go silent about life's logistical stuff. this is what becomes part of your ne…
/r/askTRP12/03/21 06:52 PM
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let her observe it when you're out together. your brag story reeks of neediness - a need for her to be jealous and validate you.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 06:45 PM
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" I confronted her yesterday about it" as a guy, you think this would work, but it doesn't. "you cannot negotiate desire" so now there's pressure and resentment floating around in her hamster cage along with annoyance and disgust. read this: https://archive.is/BEv6l if you feel like 'saving' this, or hell, just for practice - so it doesn't happen next time.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 06:31 PM
3

your neck looks lean: good; are your arms/shoulders muscular? find a pic in short sleeves doing something exciting to show off the "lean + strong" combo. also, any shots with female friends for social proof?
/r/askTRP12/03/21 06:27 PM
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get lean. then any gains will be more apparent. if you're allowed pushups and pull ups.... i assume you weigh more than 20KG dumbell pair, you can get rather strong with those and newbie gains in a year or 2. you can show some chest/lats/delts. buy a TRX.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 06:24 PM
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OP: things you want in an LTR is someone who self advocates rationally. this is key to helping "handle your [collective] shit" as a couple and in a household. a common thread in my friends who are unhappily married, apart from the usual SMV/sidebar truths: they married useless morons. wastes of space who think the sun rises and sets between their legs who have nothing else to offer. isn't afraid of rejection. this girl overtly codified her value prop and added some humor to it. BALLS. most chick…
/r/askTRP12/03/21 06:09 PM
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my first thought too....
/r/askTRP12/03/21 06:05 PM
14

never make an important decision in the heat of passion. you're hurt, betrayed, ego bruised, angry and upset. your desire to 'hurt' those that hurt you will fade, and can be used as a barometer of how far you are past an event. the opposite of love isn't hate/hurt, it's apathy. the 'worst' thing you can do to her, if that's your current lens, is actually to move on and forget about her. she would mean nothing to you at that point, worse than giving her rent-free space in your head. do not wonder…
/r/askTRP12/03/21 02:33 PM
5

good looking/strong men are never given the lessons of feminism or patriarchy by women what? no, women and weak men use a bullhorn/megaphone to spew it from the roof tops, for all to hear. But it's the weak and ugly men who believe it, because women don't talk to them other than through bullhorns/megaphones. Women make rules for Betas and Break Rules for Alphas. never forget. when the screeching from the rooftop happens, a man with options will shrug and ignore; he finds purpose through Mission …
/r/askTRP12/03/21 02:28 PM
2

so like a constant-contact or mailchimp blast? cool, like a disease cringe newsletter.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 02:22 PM
9

leave a pizza delivery porno dvd at work on her desk...
/r/askTRP12/03/21 02:20 PM
1

hey chad, there's a /s behind my comment that you can't see...
/r/askTRP12/03/21 02:19 PM
2

But what a woman wants is to argue and have someone who can stand up if she is going to far yes, the secret: they want a man who will stand up to them. because that means you're strong enough to stand up for them, and their offspring. But do it for yourself. To be a congruent, powerful, masculine man. first and foremost.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 08:56 PM
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you do not owe her a reply. you stated the terms (going dutch) she countered "I enjoy being treated <hearts>" so what. who wouldn't? do not reply. this is a test of your smv/rmv vs. her willingness to get with the program. if you give in now, she knows you're a simp. remember: as soon as a women can "lift you up" with her attraction, hearts, kisses, validation, attention - she knows she can tear you down by withholding those very same things. women are naturally emotional terrorists. never negot…
/r/askTRP11/03/21 08:52 PM
5

post mortem: just think of how much those schmucks paid for the same BJ's you got for free!!! You saved thousands of dollars!
/r/askTRP11/03/21 08:46 PM
13

remember, just because they shit-test, or tantrum, mind games... that does NOT mean you owe them a reaction (or time or energy or mental effort on them). read this: https://archive.is/Uxztt excerpts: "Man is disturbed not by things, but by the views he takes of them." - Epictetus so by focusing on mission, and growth, and building wealth (ie: building freedom) you're working on your Outcome Independence (OI), with regard to women. Good.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 07:32 PM
2

"overt-covert-contract-guy"
/r/askMRP11/03/21 04:22 PM
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GOOD for you. a few things: 1) go on /r / askmrp and read top posts 2) remember why you're doing this... for you. You need to understand this fully. 3) Frame is everything. You have a long road ahead, yes, there will be short term wins but if you truly start changing, she either will recoil at the power imbalance, or assume it's a short term fad. Internal strength of Frame is the answer. read this: https://archive.is/Uxztt 4) the EPIC shit test is required reading https://archive.is/pSJXz 5) and…
/r/askTRP11/03/21 02:06 PM
0

wait, wait, you mean there's more work to enact change? umm, nevermind. do it because you believe in it or it has strategic value to you, not because the task group's members are hawt.
/r/askTRP10/03/21 04:36 PM
2

1) you're assuming being OI/ngaf is synonymous with being unable to achieve success or results. which is not a valid assumption. when you can have success and results and be OI by being your own judge, that's optimal. people will sense what they think is confidence, fine. but the OI part is also how you don't get a big head, since it wasn't through the eyes of others that you did what you did, win or lose. 2) based on my physical transformation in the past few years, I will take discipline over …
/r/TheRedPill10/03/21 02:54 PM
3

"a billion wicked thoughts" is an interesting book on the sexual internet searches of the genders. the females often searched for: the story (vs. the images) and the story of "taming the beast" was hugely popular it's a subplot of even 50 Shades as were flings with men of power and authority "young" wasn't even on women's radar (unlike men searching for youthfully hot women) but lesbian was... being a beast is the first requirement, if /she/ can civilize him, tame him with her wiles, charm and m…
/r/askTRP09/03/21 07:03 PM
3

at 2 years you've passed NRE and honeymoon period, and you've already noted/expressed the mental/emotional draw she has.... so the attraction won't magically get better. if you don't make a change you will hate yourself for it, for wasting key years of yours and hers.
/r/askTRP09/03/21 07:00 PM
1

sometimes, wrong place, wrong time. but as you note: LDR won't work, and marrying for a visa is shit deal. so take the high road, dont' "go BP so she doesn't miss you" or some lame fake thing, just enjoy your time together while it lasts. be glad you had someone for a bit, but for now, things will change, and move on.
/r/askTRP09/03/21 06:55 PM
1

you're viewing yourself through the eyes of others. ... worthwhile on a job interview but now how you want to go through life.
/r/askTRP09/03/21 02:16 PM
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" My question is what this means for the relationship" what relationship? right now you have a FWB who is trying to leave town.
/r/askTRP09/03/21 02:14 PM
2

routinely fuck her like it was your last night together before you were going to prison. every woman wants to be fully filled and dominated. not saying choking or other true boundary pushes are needed, that's an acquired taste feel free to explore post safe word discussions. but the intensity, ferocity and power needs to be truly primal, without concern for "what will she think" meta analysis. notice i didn't say stroke speed had to be off the charts, don't make that noob mistake. vary that and …
/r/askTRP08/03/21 08:39 PM
6

Gammy no!!!!
/r/askTRP08/03/21 07:24 PM
1

have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy?
/r/askTRP08/03/21 07:20 PM
1

some women get them more often than others, and it may not have much to do with sex contact with others. UTI's can often come from unclean hands from fingering her and such, or sex in public place and she doesnt' pee afterwards.
/r/askTRP08/03/21 07:19 PM
2

you're being reactionary. the best criticism of Dread is that its "her Frame" you're concerned with vs. yours. That i get. but like "text only for logistics" cultivating Dread is most effective when someone is first on their path after finding the Pill. You read MMSLP2011 or Rollo or Pook and you realize, what you were told (by society, and women and even some males) and what actually arouses women are not the same. so to me, Dread is simply to regain some power by shifting the basic immutable d…
/r/askTRP08/03/21 07:03 PM
5

you mean.... how is she gonna cope knowing I will move on when she stops adding value? how is she gonna cope knowing I may end up loosing attraction to her and drop her for a younger hotter version? how is she gonna cope knowing she'll die alone? Answers: meta: not my problem, I don't caretake mates. tactical: not by saying: "i'll never leave, baby!" She has to know "If you will righteously leave she will righteously stay - Patrice O'Neal ref: I have 4 healthy thriving children, all confirmed mi…
/r/askTRP08/03/21 06:52 PM
8

/u/Jcorb is right. it's not an excuse to not apply yourself and see what you're capable of professionally or in a skilled arena in life, but how much OP makes isn't the what's holdhing OP back from getting poon. to answer your question, I have an acquaintance/former coworker- an out of touch friend as he moved away to Costa Rica so i haven't seen him in a decade+, but who for years in our 20's would bounce between flats/group houses, never on the lease and would often spend his rent money on wee…
/r/askTRP08/03/21 06:31 PM
1

required reading: https://archive.is/CJqt5
/r/askTRP08/03/21 03:00 PM
2

They’re being bitchy as a group (to you) because you’re projecting your need for them, as a group. You said it yourself “they are your type” So clearly you were acting differently around this type of woman and repelling them with your thirst.
/r/askTRP07/03/21 04:21 AM
3

As a noob, text for logistics. Remember the point of a text to simply to set up the meet. The point of the meet is to build sexual tension through Kino, eye contact and flirting. Then isolate and escalate. Search the side bar for “texting guide” and the “escalation ladder”
/r/askTRP07/03/21 04:18 AM
2

That’s fine when they’re young, but if they’ve got the stones, at some point they’ll have the scratch. Some of my best friends from high school like me were pretty poor. But you have to understand that wasn’t really a reflection of us, rather was a function of our parents’ decisions and luck and drive to that point. Now, more than 90% of our core group (11/12) Happen to be high earners, with strong social status, with large business and social networks. Only one guy is stuck in a job he hates ma…
/r/askTRP07/03/21 04:08 AM
4

I play it down. I’m usually wearing an Apple Watch nowadays I don’t wear my Rolexes or Pamerai anymore, Maybe if I had something really understated like a Patek, since the average Golddigger has no idea what that is. My daily driver go 0 to 60 in less than 2.5 seconds (because it’s fun to drive, not because I need to impress anyone) so when I’m visiting new clients I actually borrow a company car which is boring and slow- so I don’t show up in a super car and they think they’re going to pay too …
/r/askTRP06/03/21 06:12 AM
3

“Falling hard” has multiple connotations none of which are good: paints the OP as someone without agency and lack of control a (feminine trait) where the world and his emotions are ruling him (whereas a congruent and mature man rules his emotions) implies that the OP is pedestalizing a specific woman - and there are multiple results from this including oneitis and the woman becomes your mission (as opposed to your mission being your Mission) it implies neediness. A man should want his woman, but…
/r/askTRP06/03/21 06:00 AM
1

You’re mixing up Plate theory and cheating. When you spin plates you remain non-exclusive and date multiple women. You don’t hide the fact that you date multiple women but the key is you do not commit to any of them and then deceive them. Just don’t commit and play the field. You didn’t even actually cheat you just trying to find a second girlfriend when you already had one. Get over it she’s long over it you should be long over it.
/r/askTRP06/03/21 05:48 AM
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the long term affects of the platforms and networks discussed here: https://www.thesocialdilemma.com/ have yet to be fully felt or understood. in short, for the same reason over-fapping and porn addiction can ruin (young) men's ability to be functional people, the dopamine (happy hormone) hit from quick/fast/hand-held apps (which are engineered for more engagement and addiction) has caused a porn-fap level addiction for young people, especially women (who due to higher neuroticism than men on av…
/r/askTRP05/03/21 06:42 PM
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5+ years, she wanted more LTR as she approached 30, I did not want to LTR (her) so she got engaged in short order. yes, we had a post-engagement final get-together, she even left her engagement ring on, how sweet. she was also every few months at times. very handy, kept it fresh. during the final sess, she was getting bitchy after sex since I didn't want to also go out for food with her. her: "why didn't you stop me from getting engaged? why didn't you fight for me? why didn't you want to LTR me…
/r/askTRP05/03/21 06:29 PM
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hemorrhoid? what a pain in the ass. (couldn't resist) sounds like you've been sitting too much. get off yer ass and start moving.
/r/askTRP05/03/21 06:20 PM
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ask your dad. srsly, it all depends. are you also an '5/6'? if so normal sidebar applies. know that negging isn't quite as functional if they shit flirting skills and don't get hit on a lot. if you're an 8+ and flirting with a 5/6 she'll either get super suspicious you'll be taking her kidneys, or super (super) clingy. so beware.
/r/askTRP05/03/21 06:17 PM
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you don't want another job. if you can make solid base at your job, think of an outside business that leverages what you know/what you're good at now, and make a side gig. see anything at work and thought: "that's dumb, i would do it like..." one of those ideas. don't take it to your boss at work, you have no equity there. instead work on it outside of company time and at home, make this idea a good one, patent it, then license it out for an annuity type of income.
/r/askTRP05/03/21 06:16 PM
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joos?
/r/askTRP05/03/21 06:14 PM
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I just learned how to manoeuvre it. yup. and for new guys. don't act on the feeling to "tell them you figured them out" or "show them the matrix and how dumb they are and how smart you are" it doesn't work. they hyper hamster to protect their framework. it's like their Ego gets activated to protect themselves and their view of reality. their ID, the real drivers for female behavior, are for only some men to enjoy and understand. Like Rollo says: "men are the romantics pretending to be realists, …
/r/askTRP05/03/21 06:05 PM
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Solipsism. Look it up. (they think what attracts them to men, will attract us to them, when it doesn't line up fully. sure, baseline stuff like: hygiene, not lying, etc; but the stuff they list in your examples isn't the same both ways). as for "why can't they see this?" part of your question: ​ 2 reasons: ​ #1: I believe there is an ingrained, bred for, intra-ignorance in many (most?) women. The blindness from introspection allows for: hamstering light switch effect branch swinging & hypergamy …
/r/askTRP05/03/21 04:03 PM
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but they're still turned on by them agreed. many are, and those that are turned on, are DTF, it's a feature not a bug.
/r/askTRP05/03/21 03:49 PM
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(at carpentry sub) "why is everyone obsessed about wood!?!" RedPill is first and foremost a sexual strategy sub, aimed at undoing the BP matrix lie fed by mommys, teachers, media and friends for both how things work, and what's in your best interest. Period. Now, as you note, there is both more to life than poon; and when you get the rest of your life in check, the poon follows. But that doesn't invalidate the Q's on here or the original mission of RP. So, don't begrudge those "in the weeds" sin…
/r/askTRP04/03/21 08:47 PM
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which is the time I gained 10 kgs you gained 22 pounds of lean mass in 4 months? 6'1" and 202# if lean can be pretty built. if these are people you knew before, its that you exploded and they smell Tren on you. I am 5'11" and 215# with 12%BF If i choose to wear fitted/tighter clothes I can show the goods, or i can wear looser/baggier clothing when I don't want to draw attention to my physique. So, how are you dressing lately?
/r/askTRP04/03/21 08:38 PM
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so: you have a job you're tall you have some social proof as you were setup for the date yet she's out of your league? why? b/c you have a bald spot and she's hot? who the fuck cares? did you earn that bald spot? meaning, was it from some weakness in your character, drive, strength of Frame? then it shouldn't matter. is her hotness due to her virtue? her steadfastness? her innate femininity? no? it fell from the sky without her earning it. stop over emphasizing thing about people (and yourself) …
/r/askTRP02/03/21 04:57 PM
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it takes time. keep reading. keep reflecting. and start practicing. one reason you may be caught mumbling and stumbling is because it's a situation that happens "to you"; so instead. start approaching, intentionally creating new situations you're more prepared for. at first, don't even try to number close, just be social. with all of them. young/old/fat/skinny/hot/not. just to be social and try bantering. TLDR: it becomes more natural when it's less of a "suit of armor" you have to remember to p…
/r/askTRP02/03/21 04:55 PM
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less so for a college chick (looks and popularity and situational alpha wins). more so as they reach the wall.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 04:51 PM
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whodis?
/r/askTRP02/03/21 04:51 PM
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in an effort to deplatform, by placing RP outside the overton window, through shaming.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 04:48 PM
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regret is worse than rejection. believe it.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 04:00 PM
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there's a reels/meme on the socials right now where a chick will 'say' (lip sync) the following text: "my past is like my old house, i don't live there anymore that's not my stuff anymore" or something. LOL I /had/ to click the comments and sure enough it's 100% fellow womyn "you go girl" / "fire" / "so much this!" omg the hamster wheels are spinning - it's like a Baptismal event for sluts, sorry, good girls who made dozens of mistakes.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 03:57 PM
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I still tried my best to give her "everything" a girl could have wanted in a happy relationship. that's your mistake here. it wouldn't have changed anything as she appears very damaged and you should hard next and block.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 03:07 PM
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you cannot control life's events, but you can control how you react to them.... so work to get out of the house. work to get your own car and place. work so that no one, can go back on their word, due to their emotional rage and fog, and screw you over. don't give up. make this the low point by moving on-wards and upwards. you didn't ask for this shit show. but it is your responsibility to yourself, to change your situation for the better. you will be stronger for it, when you've moved on. read …
/r/askTRP01/03/21 10:05 PM
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" I wouldn't mind paying for some poor girl's shit if she paid me back with her pussy " your covert contract is showing.... "i'm willing to be your sugar daddy, why can't you at least pretend to want me and that arrangement!?!?" and when they don't respond how you expected, you're frustrated. these chicks... they talk to older sisters and cousins and such, and even males in their friend groups. this is the DL: 1) the women will say that "you'll be used, don't make the same mistake I made (by get…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:57 PM
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her: “how old are you?” me " im 17 ..." ...and she was like “no way, you sound and look like you’re 14”. ...and you got sad.... and a little angry, what do? answer: LOL, you'll have to reevaluate once we're laying down -or whatever your personal overton window is with her. LDR (which this is LDR - b/c you're flirting at a distance) it's only goal right now is to build attraction. so lead the convo to sex. and what it will be like. that's the goal of this stage. so how to handle? pass the test + …
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:45 PM
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my LTR tried something like this back in the dating stage. She was a PhD and out earned me by 2-3x early on; it didn't bother me, she hinted it bothered some guys she had dated, meh. We were at a fancy ass white table cloth dinner, her treat this time; taking us out. I hadn't been to this specific joint, but to others like it. She had been there many times with co-workers for business lunches and white-collar-happy hour, so she was feeling a little full of herself telling me of her favorite thin…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:18 PM
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she sounds insecure and dumb (hot and 'low maintenance' aside) so have fun. "babe, remember how you told me about that trip to cabo....? no? it wasn't you? my bad...." then LOL and do not apologize for "your mistake"
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:06 PM
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the hair won't matter. find a chick who wants to be with a bulkier/stronger guy - flirt and kino with some strength. I used to be less lean, and when i flirted as a bigger guy, picking-up-when hugging was easy. as was "picking up a girl and moving her chair" was fun. they would giggle/gaffaw. then 20 min later mention it again -ie: they remembered it/it turned them on. my LTR is much more protective now that i'm ripped, and she thinks all women think liker her (most do, I do get more IOI's now) …
/r/askTRP01/03/21 08:21 PM
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you may be right. 490sq will only improve once you drop more bodyweight. i am 5'11" and 215# and 12%BF. so i'm in your neighborhood, similar # (a little lower on BP and higher on SQ) about the hair... sidebar says: normally shorter = more masculine; shows off face more longer can work if you're physically masculine enough. if you get to 232# with 12% BF at 6' you can have a knot-top and still look tough.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 08:05 PM
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" But I want to be the best possible version of myself I can be for her. " BZZZZZZ. stop. that's your problem. everything else you wrote is a symptom, not a contributing factor. let me rewrite it for you: " But I want to be the best possible version of myself I can be for MYSELF" Until you fix your mindset, you'll be a chump deep down inside. Waiting to be cucked. Needing to be held. Grasping for validation. Frozen with self doubt. And wrecked by rejection and abandonment. You wanna stay a littl…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 07:52 PM
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260# and 20% BF means 208# of actual lean mass at 0% BF at 6'... so at 12% BF you'd be 232# .... i don't think you're 20% BF now, unless you are so fucking strong and swole that your hair wouldn't even be on your radar.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 07:47 PM
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not a problem at all. Read "The Natural" By Richard La Ruina, to see which 'type' works best at which stage of a seduction. you just need to know when to shift gears...
/r/askTRP01/03/21 07:45 PM
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" Edit: Now she posted a picture on her story holding up a funnel cup saying "Now I can pee anywhere like a man". Disgusting! https://i.imgur.com/I4tzZSF.jpg " that's the hand/thumb of a chubby girl... and shit nails, so no fem vibe. she's desperate for attention, [and still wants to poop on your chest.]
/r/askTRP01/03/21 07:44 PM
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no, sunk costs are anything "spent in the past" up to this point. it may have an unusually strong emotional attachment/pang, but you must evaluate your investment (both securities, coin, and women) without the inertia of the past stuff, simply as "what's my best choice from this point forward" so forget the past effort, time, l love yous and other shit you keep mentioning. do the 3rd party test. forget the past. now imagine a good male friend of yours who you respect, and care for greatly came t…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 05:51 PM
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translations: "I want to have an easier time controlling you" "I want you to simp and need me more" "I don't like not knowing everything so i can more easily reject you" no, /u/Smerdakas if she wanted something specific, constructively addressed, she needs to actually mention it (budget, travel, logistics). when a woman makes a blanket statement like this, it's a BS test to see how high you'll jump / or just a complaint. but ignore what they say, and watch what they do. my LTR used to complain a…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 05:24 PM
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clearly, you're not wearing enough Flair.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 05:18 PM
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3 months? all this anguish and time wasted on a 3 month fling? sunk costs. do you know what that means? they should not drive your decision to stay, rather think of the value she provides NOW and moving forward. you know it's net-negative. you know what you have to do. as for how 1) text her, "I don't think things are working out, so I don't want to hang out anymore. take care." if you're strong enough, and a good test for learning: 2) call her, say the same. stand fast, stand strong. ignore her…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 05:13 PM
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this has been discussed a plenty here. it's not the same. women use social proof as a shortcut for evaluating men. so seeing a man with abundance (which is NOT the default state for most men) is a differentiator. whrereas... all women (short of cave trolls) have automatic abundance (b/c men will fuck almost anything), ergo it's not a differentiator. women have historically gotten the harder end of the deal post sex (ie: pre contraception, they get pregnant, they get heavier, slower, more calorie…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 02:47 PM
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OK. Women 'need to test'. men don't. Men live they life they want for themselves and observe. if she fits the mold and adds value, she can stay, if she's a net-negative, eject her. By leading and living how you want you'll see plenty. Bloopers and normies will object - "that's not fair? why do you get to choose your life's path and whether she stays!" Easy, I'm the one that must remain assertive, or become obsolete (in business and in the SMP). I am the one who is more likely to die at work. I'm…
/r/askTRP28/02/21 08:08 PM
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"the default is to blame the man" is like "awalt" and "text for logistics" they are sound starting points. but they are not 100% true, obviously. but for beginners, and those trying to see through the matrix, they are helpful. if you read any of the "what brought you to RP" posts and the answers of the respondents, both on TRP and MRP, I assure you that 100% of them did not act/behave/life at their best. Sure, it was still "her decision" to leave/cheat/cuck/whatever. And you can't control that. …
/r/askTRP28/02/21 06:57 PM
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" then to kinda push the brakes on this whole thing i told her everyone deserves good things, and ur just like everyone. with the intended effect or showing her i dont really see her as anything special" No, even your last statement was a caretaking effort to give he a soft landing, it wasn't "hard and real" now you're DEERing us. you mention LTR. so you've had sex with her and it's good? You've seen her interact with many people? you've vetted her relationship with her parents/father? She adds …
/r/askTRP28/02/21 06:51 PM
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Ask yourself why you want to "do some testing" no need to answer us, but reflect. As for the "how": Sounds counter intuitive, but aim to not scoreboard. Meaning, when you're truly OI you won't keep a tally of things at the tactical level. This is important both for you and sends a meta-message a well. Women do not deal very well with either rejection, or with direct criticism. The latter is a clumsy way to "tell her what you want done better/differently" but isn't the most effective or efficient…
/r/askTRP28/02/21 06:46 PM
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it's a good maxim for beginners. it ensures that if you start out on either side of "the middle" you start out on the side that doesn't transmit neediness. as you integrate the RP sidebar, you will tune and adjust to fit: Your personality, the context, and your specific target of choice and their mood. so if you're on the fence, or early in the interaction/'relationship': text only for logistics. once they have invested some time, or given up their poon, there can be additional attractors and fu…
/r/askTRP28/02/21 06:34 PM
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the genome project disagrees with you. i do agree that in current times/society, a nuclear household is the least-worst way to raise kids. but that's the past 10,000 years of agrarian societies and 'towns/cities' and what we know of as "the family unit" for 99% of humans' time, polyamorous setups seem to be more common than what we now know as monogamy. Also, the idea of the "7 year itch", meaning, after a kid or 2 being "self sufficient" you swap/find another mate and so does she has some crede…
/r/askTRP28/02/21 06:31 PM
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" TRP implies that others people actions do fit into this category." No, it does not. You can only control your /reaction/ to their folly and ways. And "expect it" as you note, so "the stay plan is the go plan".
/r/askTRP28/02/21 06:14 PM
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“Control everything” Is not a TRP spiel. 1- The stoic portions advise you to worry and focus and energy is only on what you can control, tactically. 2- at the strategic level in an LTR where there was a period of Fidelity and happiness and things devolve leaving her to cheat- there are the the default blanket statement is it’s the man’s fault. Why? Because we lead. If things are shitty we should leave or fix them more importantly often by fixing ourselves first and they can choose to follow or t…
/r/askTRP28/02/21 03:41 AM
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She’s engaged. She landed “a good one” she made wait and wait for her poon. But if this poor bastard ever caught wind of the porn you have on her it would wreck him and their postcard romance. She’s worried, that somehow, he’ll find out.
/r/askTRP28/02/21 03:36 AM
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“Bless your heart”
/r/askTRP28/02/21 03:20 AM
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“Did we hook up at Coachella?”
/r/askTRP27/02/21 06:40 AM
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Sexual talk works best face-to-face were body language and Kino can reinforce the vibe
/r/askTRP27/02/21 06:39 AM
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She was testing the waters... I guess you’re young so you’ve never had a girl try and serve you with a hot lunch? Meet enough women eventually you’ll find one scat lover
/r/askTRP27/02/21 06:38 AM
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Check out the black dragon blog, Caleb Jones.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 06:35 AM
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“Maybe it’s because he understands the blackpill” No. Regret. That’s all you’re sowing.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 06:25 AM
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"NGAF is similar to confidence, after several rejections playing the probability game, NGAF can't be substantiated artificially specially is you're neurotypical, the natural and common behavior is anger an resentment," nope. you didn't internalize what i wrote. they're not the same and i'm not dark triad but was able to build NGAF. stop typing, start trying. also get in the best shape your genetics will allow, or STFU
/r/askTRP26/02/21 08:38 PM
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Skankr oh to be at the casting calls....
/r/TheRedPill26/02/21 08:28 PM
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to regret your kids is to wish them dead. so short of feeling Like "The Pecker": "at least you get to choose yours... i'm stuck with mine...." @ 1:24 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KA2ziAAXoqE no one is likely to regret them openly - shitty thing for kids to find their dad's post on reddit years later ;) most married men who found RP later would simply have made some choices differently, including at times a different spouse.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 07:39 PM
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yeah, your blackpilled mindset is leaking in other replies too. " When you genuinely don't give a shit is when you do have options, IDGAF attitude, arrogance or confidence comes from constant validation and women pick up these clues to verify his genetic quality ...." nope. you went off the rails for 'genetics' and blackpilled boiler plate. you NGAF when you realize: whether one particular woman says yes, it does not affect your Mission and Wellness. this confuses many spergs who are like: "how …
/r/askTRP26/02/21 07:25 PM
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"...I kind of never had dating experience at the beginning of 2020..." you don't say... "... but I had this one girl basically start to like me. .... I got attached to her ... ... and did things together like watch movies on the phone together, talk, listen to music together. We FaceTimed everyday for a year I was still attached to her even though I knew all the attraction was gone but I still loved her company and I was still really jealous and it hurt. But I went through that pain cause I didn…
/r/askTRP26/02/21 07:10 PM
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sorry dude. do get a surgery consult. see if/what can be done.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 07:03 PM
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read the link. dozens of examples. if you're not a fat ass cave troll and have flirted at least thrice in your life, you've gotten them, too. maybe you missed them. pro tips: the medium is the message it's less about what you say than both how you say it and it's NGAF landing meaning your reply(ies) have to communicate a few things: her question/challenge is meaningless you care not if you offend her with your reply try it next time. vs. DEERing and getting flummoxed and defensive.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 07:01 PM
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codependency is not a bene
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:55 PM
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is it fixable by surgery? save up. but in the meantime, learn, lift, make and save $$ and live a rich life.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:51 PM
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you don't work with her. you don't share an HR department. you were scared of reputation and DEERd yoruself out of a lay. yes, you may know people form the same industry and common friends, that's normal. that's not 'shit where you eat' shitting where you eat is having a sexual relationship with someone who has the same payroll/HR dept as you.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:50 PM
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your 2 items aren't mutually exclusive. shittests are both real and detterrents (or filters) to inferior males. but not as much physical. that can be 'seen' without any interaction from the woman, ie: height, BF, muscle, jaw, eyes, posture. shittests are broken down into 3 types: compliance tests fitness tests congruence tests in reverse order, congruence tests happen after you looked/appeared/behaved a little bit alpha/attractive and she wants to know if you're a faker or if your inside (Frame,…
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:43 PM
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this should be fun. "no one likes going backwards" for men, it's women taking sex off the table (frequency, urgency, etc). For women, it's men redacting their TAR (time, attention, resources) give it a shot, withdraw your TAR a bit--- so she may break, or if she feels your SMV/RMV is high enough, it'll draw her closer. but by treating her like a GF already, you gave away your TAR too soon.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 03:01 PM
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YOU are your own longest LTR, act like it. really, treat yourself like someone you love who will be with you the rest of your life. all the older guys have some mistakes they'd like to take back and some we wouldn't as they were teaching moments. it's the stupid ones, in which we acted by not putting ourselves first that were the worst. at the time we may have seen things 'acting out' like a movie, knowing in our gut we were wrong, but not sure why. simple, it's all in the sidebar.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 02:57 PM
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no. it will make every man max out what he has. it's a force multiplier. if you start with more, you'll end up with even more. but make no mistake, it applies to everyone. are you as fit as you could be? are you as well read as you could be? are you as smart as you could be? are you as well traveled as you could be? are you as confident as you should be? then stop feeling sorry for yourself and get off your ass.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 02:54 PM
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quick tabata stuff when time is scarce is a great plan-B
/r/askTRP26/02/21 02:47 PM
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girls move dumpsters and climb in your window in high-school when they want you. they lie to their parents. they liberate their siblings cars and drive over at night. they go buy the condoms. they fake sleep over at GF's houses to come fuck you. yes, first hand experience I got more ass than a toilet seat in HS "your" girl is not only not doing any of these, she's ghosting you and you're asking why. stop. giving. her. so. much. attention. and go hit up some other more responsive woemen.
/r/askTRP25/02/21 07:36 PM
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clearly your Red Room needs a defibrillator
/r/askTRP25/02/21 07:33 PM
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exactly, don't open with politics, but don't shy away from what you believe to "have her like you" standing your ground, and double entrendre's with a grin go a long way to building attraction.
/r/askTRP25/02/21 07:25 PM
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neither of your examples are societal. they are small social group settings. but the drive for men to fuck women is the 15x more test they have in their veins than women. and the drive for women to cuff men is also bred-for (as they are the ones saddled with zygote-to-baby and it doesn't work well to do that alone). your examples are pecking-order qualification-negs amongst groups.
/r/askTRP25/02/21 07:21 PM
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" I became resentful of how she had the audacity to disrespect me ..." your ego is the problem. but i'm taking her side. why? back then, you were: "emotionally dependent on her" by her dreading you, she was signaling your lack of fitness to be her Alpha. Good for her. Remember: nothing dries a pussy more than a needy man. NOTHING. So fuck you and your whiny shit. Get your shit together FOR YOURSELF. You claim to have done so? and swallowed the RP? good, then move on. nothing positive will come f…
/r/askTRP25/02/21 07:19 PM
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replace "cheap investment company" and "my hot oneitis girl" and see how this reads: " My girl has decided to bump me up full time with benefits. Unfortunately she wants to keep this a near sexless relationship (barely above minimum weekly handjobs). She claims to have a low sex drive, but she masturbates daily and has a few "male friends" who she does overnight trips with. She suggested I should just masturbate more. Completely inappropriate that she made that comment. She claims to have a low …
/r/askTRP25/02/21 07:12 PM
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friends help you move, real friends help you move bodies. so...
/r/askTRP25/02/21 07:07 PM
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golden opportunity here... go out, hang, bang, if they bring up politics, hand them a Thomas Sowell book and watch them squirm.
/r/askTRP25/02/21 07:05 PM
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" I know she won't cheat ..." you're a fool. Anyone can cheat. your issue is: Mismatches. 1) a mismatch between the current version of you and her. 2) a mismatch between your exterior and internal self understand this is the 'cry me a river' version of a first world problem for many men (who feel aggressive, horny, want to be dominant; but are short and low smv). The cool part for you: you can more easily fix what's 'broken' in you vs. what a short man can do to get tall (fucked up leg surgery).…
/r/askTRP25/02/21 04:23 PM
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Give your little bro a chance, work on/with him. Forget your dad. Best case he thinks you’re a know it all, worst case he virtue signals and white nights and shows it to the new woman who uses it as a hammer to make yours and your brothers life awful. Your brother is going to have eight years in the house without you around. That’s the real danger. You’re here and see tour dad’s weak and counterproductive ways. You’ll be ok.
/r/askTRP25/02/21 04:38 AM
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Then clearly you are qualified to give advice on the value of lifting (ps: it’s not trp slang)
/r/TheRedPill25/02/21 04:30 AM
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christ, the hamster on this guy. /u/acos12 prove us wrong. what's your BP/DL/SQ? i dont' care what they are, but if you're talking so much about lifting, pros/cons, you better be a MF'ing lifter, or you're talking out of your ass without experience.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/21 08:40 PM
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lifting = A cope? no. lifting = action + effort + self investment, to produce many forms of physical (bone, joint, muscle, organ, mito/cell) gains, as well as personal (discipline, habit, prioritization) gains. There can be an escapist side to it (the Flow state, some find in sports, many find when lifting) which is fine. And some can healthily channel anger into lifting. But that doesn't negate the truly good sides of the "Lift!" mantra.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/21 08:36 PM
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he's doing those cucked guys a favor - the sooner they learn their unicorn's true nature, the better. (later = harder to untangle, kids, mortgage, etc) so judging OP is BS. if anything, he's a public servant.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/21 08:32 PM
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point, laugh, then ignore
/r/askTRP24/02/21 08:14 PM
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caffeine is effective. but you can build a tolerance so cycle off periodically. before using modafanil, consider: are you eating zero processed foods? are you trying to eliminate sugar from your diet? when i ate like shit i needed more caffeine and even tried so moda to stay up/focused late when needed. neither are as effective as eating clean and good sleep. on my heavy days, I will take 2 Beta's before my gym trip, other wise. morning coffee is enough.
/r/askTRP24/02/21 08:13 PM
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good for you. for a few reasons: 1) you'll get a sense of what works, for you. The sidebar is very important, but it's not real to you until you try it for yourself 2) you'll get a sense of self and confidence that's important to have before you do a real / full LTR. (the whole: run a harem first to get your self squared away) 3) don't give too much time. if you're thinking "LTR level effort x4" you're doing it wrong. 4) don't lie. don't mislead them into thinking you're exclusive. this is more …
/r/askTRP24/02/21 07:43 PM
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yes. but it's not only driven by women. the "80% of guys" who were ignored by women for the 20% top tier, got law degrees and other positions of power. it was male legislators and judges, who through an odd form of White Knighting wrote/passed then approved-of no fault divorce laws, for example. a straight democracy is simply mob rule. the elegance of a constitutional democracy is 'some things' are considered sacrosanct, when possible. so what's the parallel in the SMP and in gender relations? (…
/r/askTRP24/02/21 06:32 PM
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I never noticed until now, but I also tend to gravitate to leader roles in all my groups ... I've seen 2 types of people that do that. The first type: because they are annoyed that others "can't do it as well" and "here, just let me do it" type of mania. These people often force their way into leadership roles, using threat, negative talk of others and lots of politics. It can be effective, in the short term. The latter: because they have their shit together, are steadfast and resolute (ie: Fram…
/r/askTRP24/02/21 03:37 PM
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let me fix it for you: Gf [23] meeting up friend she used to sleep with for cock
/r/askTRP24/02/21 03:18 PM
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there's an old expression from the sales/success world: "change your friends, or change your friends" the former, changing their minds - (1) not probably, (2) not your job, (3) will slow you down.. the latter, finding new friends - (1) will happen naturally as you evolve, (2) will be a better fit for the new you. note, as you improve (self respect, fitness, money, women, gainz) 2 thing will happen most 'friends' will crabs-in-a-bucket (be negative, try and hold you back due to their own insecuri…
/r/askTRP24/02/21 03:15 PM
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im usually just happy finding one ......... i need to work on keeping them on a leash 2 separate things. 1- by being less needy, and NGAF you worry less about control and your comfort/power comes from abundance. corollary: it attracts them to you more, for when you want more. 2- "leash" -- think more about molding/training, leading, and when needed: setting boundaries. as sidebar says women are like water, they will take the shape of the vessel the man provides them assertiveness is a naturally …
/r/askTRP24/02/21 03:06 PM
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" and she wanted to setup 2 more dates." did you accept? then you're too available. weird test by her. next time ignore for a bit. and more pipeline, "if you were fucking 4 other women would this even be a question?" paraphrasing uncle-V
/r/askTRP23/02/21 05:50 PM
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Only problem is that more women will want to tie you down :) a good problem to have as women will trade sex (now) for the hope of future love and commitment. What's that line? men use love to get sex, women use sex to get love? yeah, she needs to be ok with "being alone without being lonely" love the username btw.
/r/askTRP23/02/21 04:16 PM
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TLDR: what you're sensing is them fearing you (or your potential reaction to their behavior/mistakes) As you climb in your hierarchies this can happen. you need to cultivate specific people with the correct mix of temperments to be truth shooters with you. Do not attempt to be like this with everyone. Rather this select few need to understand: subtlety: they are doing you a favor, and you'll reward them for their effort and honesty, it's a point of pride to be chosen for this role, don't make it…
/r/askTRP23/02/21 04:11 PM
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she's bored. (of life? of you? both?) you need: to always be ready to leave. this is likely something she should have said only internally if she were more strategic. so silently thank her for talking out loud and "the stay plan is the go plan".
/r/askTRP23/02/21 03:55 PM
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so let this sink in. imagine how easy it is then, to become a high value man. from the AF guy: drop; lack of job, lack of discipline, lack of finances keep: NGAF, lack of neediness; abundance, charisma, sexy vibe, spontaneity, Beast/untamed side from the BB guy: drop: the supplication, gift giving, "she is my mission" stance keep: having your shit together, able to provide Comfort when called for, having resouces literally just combine what helps and drop what sucks and you're a male unicorn. "b…
/r/askTRP23/02/21 03:52 PM
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nope. a 'real-haha' she sent to a few friends, the conquests seem real. these "few friends" forwarded the email and 1000's at Duke saw it within days, then "the internet" never forgets. some of the male students' families sued. aside from the 'omg wtf was she thinking' it's interesting to note: she's a 5 maybe? maybe she does have great tits as she loves to put in her paper (ie: she would write: "he said: 'nice rack'") but she's not hot. not at all. she's banging 8-9 level guys. these are situat…
/r/askTRP23/02/21 03:30 PM
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People are way too scared of branch swinging here. no that's not the problem i see. the problem i see (which AWALT fixes) is forgetting that it's always an option; her forgetting about <insert relatinship equity thing> and acting on an emotion and swinging. one of my bro's. a solid guy. handsome. tall. mission focused. fit. high six figure earner. not needy and who is naturally confident, charismatic and such... was cheated on by his LTR (wife) of 20 yrs because, turns out, he was so mission foc…
/r/askTRP22/02/21 08:56 PM
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my LTR drops this every now and then. successful replies I've used in the past: her: "i had a bad dream - you cheated on me with some blonde bimbo with big tits...." me: "how big exactly were her tits?" (she smacks my shoulder shouting while smiling: "that's not funny!!!") her: "i had a bad dream - you cheated on me with one of my GF's..." me: "I hope it wasn't X, she has waaay to much gag reflex for my hog" (her: WTF!!! me lol and move on) same thing a few other times.... in short: do not deny …
/r/askTRP22/02/21 08:33 PM
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basically https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qgduhk26sIw
/r/askTRP22/02/21 08:24 PM
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then build anticipation before then. i have fucked former co-workers and it was a blast. every time (every time) they, in their post-nut clarity, would lament: (combo paraphrasing) "you always flirted a bit but never crossed the line when we worked together... it drove me mad" ; "you were the one guy who didn't flirt with me and the only one i wanted to flirt with me" ; "I can't believe you waited until after i quit to ask me out, it annoyed me you could resist me like that" (right after she swa…
/r/askTRP22/02/21 08:18 PM
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a desire to please. i can train her after that. but an apathetic, disinterested, checked out partner isn't salvagable. with a desire to please, all other shortcomings can be overcome (she's scared, she's never done X, she's green, she's even self conscious) with a high desire to please, training know no bounds.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 08:11 PM
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be ready to walk at any time. honestly. "when she knows you will righteously leave, she will righteously stay" - Patrice O'Neal Work on self, mission and to remain a non needy man with options. You don't have to cheat, but be social, let her know, subconsciously, that other women without a doubt want to fuck you and she will work to stay at the front of the line.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 08:06 PM
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why would women waste time with a medium SMV guy when they can get with a higher SMV on demand but they can't. beyond an actual supply side problem, consider this: Women can often let a higher smv guy (vs. them) fuck them and chuck them (women enjoy ONSes b/c they can often get a hotter guy one night than in an LTR) Meaning, a '8' guy will gladly stick his dick in a HB6 bridesmaid at a wedding when he's drunk, vs. going back to hotel room and masturbating -but she's literally a fleshlight with t…
/r/askTRP22/02/21 08:05 PM
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consider it an investment, bring your most willing and open minded plate and say: "i want you to learn to do that >>> " and have her watch and learn.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 07:56 PM
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don't ltr. don't move in. just enjoy her fine body and hunger.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 07:55 PM
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yes, the "compulsory female suffix" = for now. I love you, for now. I want to be with you forever, for now. you make me feel safe, for now. i am so satisfied after last night! ... for now. You complete me, for now. I only have eyes for you, for now.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 07:54 PM
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try not to change your lifestyle too much/too fast. keep living frugally. get over "imposter syndrome" and realized, you worked hard to get here- or did you? so start working hard and once you feel you earned it, it fits like a custom suit.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 07:52 PM
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AWALT doesn't mean they don't want external validation and have Ego's. AWALT means do not forget that "your girl" is still a female and not really that different, than most. meaning: she will branch swing if given the oppty she will hamster to protect her Ego and reputation when needed she does not value relationship equity like you think she should she does NOT want you to open up to her, and that your lack of abundance and Dread and expressing Neediness are sure fire ways of driving her away, …
/r/askTRP22/02/21 06:56 PM
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chia + abrams
/r/askTRP22/02/21 05:08 PM
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Buy “the multi orgasmic man” book. Also deals a lot with control methods. I’ve gone from a “normal” staying of 3-10 minutes for years before finding this book, to “as long as I want” after reading***. (Yes I also do kegels with a PF app and am very very fit and still sometimes switch positions - but only for variety- before it was to last longer). *** yup. Nearly on command. It’s nuts. My LTR has called me a fuck-zen-master (she picked up on some of my breathing changes after I had read the book…
/r/askTRP22/02/21 06:15 AM
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No. Only damned if you don’t (try) You will eventually succeed if you try. You may have a terrible close ratio. It may sting. It may be cringey. Maybe not. But probably will be shit at first. Welcome to the Game.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 05:20 AM
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“Who would make a slideshow of who they fucked(?)” It’s actually a thing (again) this time on tiktok. Sometimes a spreadsheet. Sometimes a fake dissertation : https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1318575/Duke-University-alumni-Karen-Owens-sex-list-internet-sensation.html
/r/askTRP22/02/21 05:17 AM
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Correct. Look at the various rights of passage Tests for boys to become men in societies and tribes throughout the world and time- and you will see some scary, dangerous and painful shit. Now look at what the requirements are to receive the badge of womanhood are..... bleed. Welcome to earth. But don’t become bitter... the 2 secret advantages men have are 1- is that we can choose what to do with our lives and how to bring value and it will feel congruent. By becoming more powerful and capable an…
/r/askTRP21/02/21 08:46 AM
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This. I have a gravity sport for each season. (Of course I lift and well into 1300# club, and cardio/HIIT) but honestly sometimes those are more about the results than the journey. The gravity sports - a combination of fine and gross motor skills along with balance, vision, spacial reasoning, and “oh fuck I almost died” puts me into a flow state like nothing else. FLOW state results in A combination of happiness, relaxation and rejuvenation, in my experience.
/r/askTRP21/02/21 08:36 AM
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Unless you are very attractive or/and situational alpha (the DJ, bartender, etc) you will need to approach. Beyond your MGTOW anger- you are kind of missing the point.... Sure women “don’t have to approach” because they are generally the ones who are approached - but the fact that you’re unwilling to approach - for them is actually a filtering mechanism ruling you out as a potential suitor- Due to your (1) sloth, (2) lack of assertiveness, (3) lack of confidence, (4) weakness, (5) inexperience, …
/r/askTRP21/02/21 08:31 AM
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Motivation comes and goes. Habits and discipline for the win.
/r/askTRP21/02/21 08:21 AM
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I think he also takes a pretty good stab at why men have a feeling of oneitis and mategaurding- from an evolutionary perspective. Meaning the vast majority of our time spent in tribes of 75 to 150 people with a lot less abundance (choice) and without DNA testing made it more important in eons past that you did guard your mate a lot more than we need to nowadays
/r/askTRP21/02/21 08:20 AM
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Nah, you’re smarter than that. Strawman answer. Never mind.
/r/askTRP21/02/21 08:17 AM
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So the weird part is you didn’t actually close the deal with this girl .... you weren’t actually exclusive giving up and foresaking all of their pussy for her and she cheated on you or anything. She rejected you. Yes? And you have oneitis for a chick you never even banged? Your problem is your ego. For some reason you think she’s better than you because she chose not to escalate or to receive your escalation in a positive manner. For some reason you’re hung up on the fact that her rejection of y…
/r/askTRP21/02/21 08:15 AM
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Your problem is not being soft or BP. Your problem is that you are conflict avoidant. This is why you were so compliant in her escalation for both emotional intimacy and commitment. You are afraid of conflict - and rejection- for example if you had answered her “I love you” with “I know” and a wink - as discussed many times here/sidebar. but you did not because you’re afraid of this easy access ending Fix those deeper weaknesses. If you are so afraid of rejection and conflict the color of your p…
/r/askTRP21/02/21 08:08 AM
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Kinda. In simpler terms men use love (The potential of future commitment) to get sex and women use sex to get love (future commitment) Women become pregnant. Historically this made them weaker, slower, requiring more calories during gestation, and potentially dying during childbirth generally making sex a much riskier proposition for them. As such they were bred to become pickier in who they granted access to their poon. In addition to the best possible genes for their offspring (women want to f…
/r/askTRP21/02/21 08:03 AM
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You didn’t act Machiavellian. Stop with the dark triad fanboy shit. All you did was acting non-needy. A woman wants to be wanted by a man with options (aka a high value male) never needed by a suitor. Remember nothing dries a pussy more than a needy man. And you didn’t manipulate her anymore than her wearing a bra or make-up manipulated you. So stop being so dramatic. Escalation ladder steps. Try not to overthink things.
/r/askTRP21/02/21 07:55 AM
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Your drivers side taillight is out bro.
/r/askTRP21/02/21 07:51 AM
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You: “I see you have a type....” Her: “what? What do you mean?!?!” You: “breathing” Seriously this is a case of a girl thinking what would motivate her to want a guy (his abundance and Dread) would motivate you to want her. (Aka: solipsism) This shows she is completely not fluent in intersexual dynamics and also has broken from her wiring- she would be more selective if she was mentally healthy, less insecure, and had parents that taught her a sense of shame. Thank her for helping you vet her. Y…
/r/askTRP21/02/21 07:48 AM
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^ yes. The more masculine, leading, non-needy, confident sexy, strong and capable ones Frame and Self- the better the results. And the more feminine will be those you’ll attract. But we’ve all seen what a strong Frame can do - in someone who was truly non trad1Alpha- the short, angry, slobbish, skinny fat, defensive ass wipe who amog’d a friend or pulled ass all the time - leaving the old (bp) Yiu wondering - WTF. Frame is king. Rollo’s -#1 for a reason. Combine strength of Frame and those trait…
/r/askTRP21/02/21 07:42 AM
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You posted a few months back about a complicated family situation - do you share that with plates? I get the buff/rich angle, seen your other posts so I believe you- but why? It’s none of their business. It’s not about “hiding” things to only put a good face on, rather, what value does it actually bring to you? (Other than “cause I can”)? If you need to get things off your chest- why not to your close male friends?
/r/askTRP21/02/21 07:36 AM
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She knows that I dealt with it and came out on top bingo. no matter how 'unicorn-like' your future GF is, OP, she will deep down simply want to be with a winner. not know how low you were for how long. this does not make her evil or selfish, so forget about it. 'taming the beast' in beauty and the beast is what they want- but first you have to be a beast, and if they lure you through their wiles and behavior and physical appeal, you can be "weak for her" but not "weak" (throughout). those are va…
/r/askTRP12/02/21 09:27 PM
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She advocates for women peeing while standing up, sexual positions where women are always on top, and for women to forgo family life and just take on careers what's funny, is this is the cart before the horse - meaning any woman who acts like a man (As Simon(e) suggests) while still hormone-ally, biologically, and limbic'ly still a woman will be deeply unhappy and feel a lack of congruence ... one which will gnaw at her and which she will be unable to articulate. This is why so many feminazi's a…
/r/askTRP12/02/21 08:29 PM
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" Do you think the value of a man increases from 30 to 40?" intrinsically? no. but if a man is "doing things right" it gives him even more time for having done things right, for longer. What i mean by that.... there are more old rich people than young rich people. why? And if you ask Elon why he's justified at being rich, per his take on JoeRogan: (paraphrasing) "the market has determined that I'm a good user of capital" exactly. So if you're good at anything (game, lifting, saving/investing) yo…
/r/askTRP12/02/21 08:14 PM
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short term: very high. right place/ right time, shit happens. situational alpha vibes too (you're at a joint where you know everyone, with social proof) and add in: if she's on rebound, etc. the hottest chick i've ever banged (a true HB9) was a ONS at a snowy layover in a hotel at an airport on a business trip. she wasn't just facially and physically hot. she was rich and diva'd to the max. smart, spoke 4 languages and moved like a cat/gymnast, super sexy. I assume I was just attractive enough t…
/r/askTRP11/02/21 09:08 PM
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so you're basing it on external looks and your take on what makes a guy hawt (or not). in college/uni/HS I would say looks far outweigh everything else. (Rollo's 2nd book has much on what is attractive in male mates at various stages of a woman's life) when older: could be status, lifestyle could be character, will, Frame could be fitness level for a given age bracket could be hog size (some women are size queens and do put equipment specs higher on their eval matrix than others) could be money/…
/r/askTRP11/02/21 07:59 PM
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women are conflict averse, so many don't break up with you, rather act in ways that have you break up with them..... so she's sent you enough covert signals that as an RP man, you should know without a doubt what's up. this is the classic branch swing tactic, where they ensure they have a firm grip on the new branch before letting go of the old branch. do not have a big dramatic: "I know what you did!" and act emotional and lose your cool - she knows what she's doing. just withdraw. i trust you …
/r/askTRP11/02/21 02:05 PM
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to what end? honestly answer have her beg for your attention and respect... why? for your ego? -fail have her beg for your attention and respect... why? to taunt her? -fail have her beg for your attention and respect... why? because you have nothing else better to do? -fail if this was only a Plate, fine, she can be a flake. but this was an LTR and "temporary insanity" is a dis-qualifier in my book. I've had goodbye fucks, at times of break-ups and move aways. I've had girls cry/beg when I've ch…
/r/askTRP11/02/21 01:55 PM
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if you had feels and she was an LTR, just next-her. on your terms, now. it's very hard to demote an LTR and not feel cucked, for most guys. Sure, some guys will claim they're so hard/chad that they don't mind, good for them. But most guys who get into an LTR expect a level of monogamy that doesn't turn off overnight, unlike women and their "light switch effect" so you're better off just dropping her and gaming other women. (ref: http://archive.is/plIpj) do block on IG and other sources for a whi…
/r/askTRP10/02/21 07:50 PM
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You have grounds for feeling the sting. She used a feature to basically send a 'note' to others ensuring you didn't also see it. it was sneaky. it was a lie by omission. When you called her out on it, she 'oops forgot' and added you back. The problem with calling out a woman on her BS is she'll just be more effective in hiding it next time. So continue to withdraw your Time and Attention. It's her desire to ride the CC at Uni, so just demote/ignore/move on. Look it sucks/stings, but know that th…
/r/askTRP10/02/21 07:29 PM
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The cheating occurred when we werent a couple but she told me she already felt attached by that time this is key nugget and missing from your orig post. this is BS on her part, and the fact that you called it 'cheating' when you weren't monogamous at the time means you are so in her Frame. next time, laugh in her face "I'm a kissable guy!"
/r/askTRP10/02/21 05:11 PM
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LOL exactly. it's like hearing a BP guy at a party: "women are so confusing!" umm, no. like the chicks in rollo's beer/liquor disty days: "I just want a guy who gets it"
/r/askTRP09/02/21 09:31 PM
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no. not like we view it dispassionately. RP men on women in their early 20's: women use their youthful femininity to attract the hottest men available to them, ignoring nice for looks and badboy behavior. Women in CC phase: I'm so hot! (not 'right now' not 'because I'm young' - just "I'm so hot") RP men on women at the wall: "sure, now you'll talk to normal dudes, now that you need a provider" Women at the wall: (maybe noticing they're not being selected by the same Chads as before, maybe not) "…
/r/askTRP09/02/21 07:36 PM
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^^ 2nd worst bumper sticker on a ho's car. ​ #1: "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best!"
/r/askTRP09/02/21 07:25 PM
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I just wanted to know it's not too late it's not. 2 of my long time friends (for over 30 yrs) have recently gotten divorced. both are solid career and good looking enough (fit and facially average) and both are swimming in offers for LTR, and both have "plates" (they don't call them that, they call them "female pizza" == I call they come over in 30 min") women only a few months after actual divorce and custody battles. be a solid dude. be non psycho. be interesting. be fit. live your life and ot…
/r/askTRP09/02/21 07:23 PM
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VSD - get a second opinion. i could see how doing deadlift/squat type full body movements to your max weight would put extra pressure on your pumper... but imagine not circuit training, not doing a rapid back to back workout, rather paced and measured... isolation exercises, from toes to noes. one section of your body at a time. not to failure, but to normal 6-10 reps with "2 in the tank" calf raises leg extensions leg curls glute thrust ab machine lower back machine (GHB) pec-deck chest pec-dec…
/r/askTRP09/02/21 07:17 PM
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yup. she's a user. and thought you'd be "invested" (your Time at least) when she dropped her nugget into the meal, vs. via txt before hand. so she can fuck off. and not paying her half = she didn't get your resources that night. so you burned 2 hours and paid for your own meal - and you learned something important, she's not a keeper, so next. a weaker man would have still paid for her meal, so you did fine.
/r/askTRP09/02/21 07:05 PM
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the last part - no. it's not disrespect, it's ego sting of her withdrawing from this tacit agreement (and you were obviously DTF that night). but you did fine, it was after all a transactional relationship, since splitting the check was a changed in your behavior (or you wouldn't have noted it as part of your 'response') she changed her contribution (no sex) so you changed yours (no more of your Time, Attention and Resources). and you fought the urge to ask why... GOOD. b/c if it was only her pe…
/r/askTRP09/02/21 05:42 PM
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You’re reading women hate. no, this sub isn't about women-hate. it's about acknowledging differences between genders which manifest across large numbers (ie: not all women will be like 'that'; but when a sample of 1000's is compared there are behaviors which are common) and more importantly "not what we men were led to expect", ie: the BP matrix vs. RP reality. guys who've been around here do not hate women at all. we still love them, but we love them for what they bring to the table, not for wh…
/r/askTRP09/02/21 04:56 PM
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you didn't mention your age, but assuming young.... so if you're 10% BF you're 150# of lean mass. say your goal is 200# lean, so 220# with 10% fat. eat 1.25-1.5G of protein x 200# to reach your target, or 250-300G of protein a day. it's a lot. there are various types that may benefit near (pre/post) workout and overnight for long release. do eat some carbs also after working so that your insulin spikes properly for glycogen recharge vs. adipose tissue gain. try whole foods, not just shakes and p…
/r/askTRP09/02/21 04:40 PM
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so you made her cum and she kicked you out.... sounds like things went according to plan, her plan. and as others have said, anyone who shares such private things on first date and allows you to escalate is a red flag. "wow, ok, i understand..." and eject. don't eat her box or anything.
/r/askTRP09/02/21 04:32 PM
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I hear you. my take: just be social vs. trying for a number close. they 'see you there' so make it 'you all talk there' and escalate. between (1) covid, (2) others around seeing the interaction (this isn't a dark club), i would see them putting up walls more easily for a full cold approach. so, just be social. I do it at the water station - the 'drinking' one is closed due to covid, but the "fill your own bottle" ones are still open at my gym. unlike the 'drinking ones' people's mouths are free …
/r/askTRP09/02/21 04:29 PM
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" How can I start to pursue the path of making more money? Can I do it without major risk? :" what's "major" to you? risk-reward-ratio is a thing, for a reason. is your area of science applied? any patents you can work on and do licensing?
/r/askTRP09/02/21 03:17 PM
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this one may actually like you and this is just a shittest to gauge your reaction. next time, if you want to smash and it's a temp job, when you hear anything like this: her: "cause your not intimidateing like other guys so its easier for girls to talk to you". you: "yeah, that approach has worked very well for me for years" with a wink, and eject letting them ponder. she's basically calling you a manchild, seeing how you'd react. but if she's right, and you do act like it, a quick line wont' sa…
/r/askTRP09/02/21 03:16 PM
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one comment and one action: ("not from where i'm standing") / (hands the shoes) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Uin57YGUGE notice the slight smirk. maybe even a compliance test pass, vs. AM alone.
/r/askTRP07/02/21 05:53 PM
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my first milf, also 39, when i was 25, I also got soft when we rolled and she was on top. and she had abs and fake tits, so she wasn't fugly. small world. next time roll her over and do her from behind so she can squeeze your base from underneath / play with your balls from underneath.. she will likely give you another chance, just don't porn/fap and you should be fine at 23.
/r/askTRP07/02/21 05:51 PM
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"clean your room" "vacuum your floor" anything but giving her the validation she seeks and that simps heap by truckloads. her: "hey, that's not nice" you: "you're right, but you still need a spanking for that room..." and setup a meet. girls are B.O.R.E.D - imagine if all you did was view socials on your phone for hours on end... (gun to head emoji) so if she's cute and you want to escalate, do so, if not, drop/ignore.
/r/askTRP07/02/21 05:45 PM
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“Or even the most beneficial” is such a broad and vague statement it’s hard to comprehend why you’d even say it. But consider the following which is backed up by science which you’re welcome to find on your own: traditional exercises considered “healthy” often involve repetitive motions such as running or swimming and result in a drastically high rate of joint problems as you age. The bone density and joint health and mitochondrial benefits of strength training are superior to traditional cardio…
/r/askTRP06/02/21 03:58 AM
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soap :) i've tried some otcounter basic keri/dove stuff but honestly can't tell a difference - it's on the inside that seems to move the needle.
/r/askTRP05/02/21 09:12 PM
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if you mean: at what age do men stop caring about a woman's attractiveness? if they have a choice, never. if they're dude equivalent of a bag of dogshit, they take what they can get, but still long for the hotter ones.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 09:08 PM
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" I haven’t really talked about my previous partners out of respect...." this is a covert contract in that you're expecting her to behave a certain way too. if you choose to keep past partners private to you, which you should, you do so for yourself. if you find her discussing her past intimacies with you, annoying/no value, which makes sense, ignore/change-subject/say so without deering. no, you're not overreacting that it bothered you. it would bother most men. but 1) can you change it? (no) 2…
/r/askTRP04/02/21 09:06 PM
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why lift? being strong fixes a lot joint and bone health endocrine and hormonal health LGN (looking good naked) discipline (macro: just going to the gym without excuse, micro: tracking, plans, programming, logging; ego control: you lift what you can handle not what Chad in the rack next to you does) locus of control turning inward: you learn to care about your own progress, not how you compare to others manifesting ones desire and discipline in a "take with you everywhere you go" package, has an…
/r/askTRP04/02/21 08:57 PM
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dood, help yourself some. sidebar and 'shittest encylopedia' https://archive.is/l6tOE the responses, if you choose to play/engage should match your style, so whether you PF or DnA or AnA or whatever, it needs to be natural.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 08:35 PM
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It was really just for practice and to make it more automatic. Vs “I better be on point when it counts” these really are my Bros’chicks. No single women there that night. Guys I’ve hung with for 10-15 years so I just behave the same more now, when not at work.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 04:22 AM
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if you think you went too far- don't back down. it's a meta test. so with: " "oh, i didn't know you had no arms or legs" just LOL and don't back down. use this to polarize and filter. b/c any bitch who is pushing compliance tests (a subset of shit tests) and digs in at this point is trash and looking for a BB/AFC to push around.
/r/askTRP03/02/21 07:43 PM
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I had a plate (FWB is what I called them in my 20's) who's husband gave her a convertible 3 series as a valentines gift. She told me her first thought when he gave her the keys was "I can't wait to blow you (prize) in it going down the highway with the top down" so yeah, don't be the guy buying the bimmer. be the other guy.
/r/askTRP03/02/21 07:38 PM
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I didn’t offer him a routine but I offered him insight that is far more valuable than any specific routine Wheymen.
/r/askTRP03/02/21 07:35 PM
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there are very few wrong answers - but there's always an opportunity to optimize. I don't zone-out much, if anything I've been told the intensity of my gaze in convo's can either be a bit too intense, or later after a hook up, actually a point of arousal for her in retrospect (how even in a crowded room she felt like I was only looking/talking at her). My point is, this happens so rarely (zoning out) so when it did happen recently, I actually had a line. a BS made up line, but it worked. I was a…
/r/askTRP03/02/21 07:29 PM
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sidebar: https://archive.is/l6tOE
/r/askTRP03/02/21 07:20 PM
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check out Caleb Jone's stuff about OLTRs
/r/askTRP03/02/21 06:39 PM
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LIFT when angry LIFT when bored sleep when tired it can come and go for the first year(s), don't sweat it. all it means is you were a true-Blue believer for a while so you're actually angry at yourself for being duped. good. let it fuel you in the gym. your gainz are YOURS.
/r/askTRP03/02/21 06:38 PM
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you need to learn to ignore noise like his post if you have any chance of developing a strong enough Frame to not fold when an HB9 talks to you for the fist time.
/r/askTRP03/02/21 06:36 PM
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"...Though that one of my friends does not seem to understand or apply this. It bothers me because I respect my friends when it comes to their girls..." this is a covert contract ("i'm a nice/good guy and don't act like this, neither should he!") "... and so I demand that I receive the same thing from my friends." no, you expect it. you haven't demanded (articulated) anything - which regardless of your weak Covert contract is normal and reasonable expectation for a bro, so you're not wrong in yo…
/r/askTRP03/02/21 04:28 PM
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A beast is in essence dangerous and primal. “Asshole” is both too far up the evolutionary ladder to matter and requires an external judge, which makes it a matter of “not just your Frame”. You do not have to act a cunt to be beast like. You simply won’t be a dancing monkey nor concern yourself with how she perceives you. You care about mission and the kill. Sometimes the hunt is for poon, because it pleases you. You eat when you’re hungry and you fuck when you’re horny. But just like you won’t t…
/r/askTRP03/02/21 05:32 AM
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spot on 1) can happen 2) don't count on it 3) women are a lagging indicator 4) they won't usually ask you out, they will do indirect approach. any opener from a rando female isn't actually about the time or your shoes.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/21 08:57 PM
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yes. assertive, action, effort, penetrating -we as men DO the fucking; everything masculine distilled into the act. and a woman, who is at some level fem (even if on the brain/political a "we're equal!" esposing) will always know, and crave, that polarity. (bad pole pun)
/r/TheRedPill02/02/21 08:42 PM
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make sure you chalk your billiard cue stick seductively, slowly while staring in her eyes and establishing dominance. oh, and blowing the excess chalk off the tip is for Betas, lick it off like a man. ... ok i'm back: seriously, most women are bored; have fun and kino from the get-go. plenty of oppty at a pool table, even "who breaks first" side by side bounce off far rail challenge- right then, set the tone.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 07:15 PM
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and the Beast part is key. "nice guys" aren't beasts. girls shit on simps because they don't respect them and there is no challenge. girls will come close to acknowledging this - they'll say: "we love the chase it's half the fun!" no, it's not that they love cardio or the fear of rejection. The real reason is power and conquest - it's the idea that they, due to their cunning, their sexy nature, their alluring personality - tamed you. And the more bad you are, the more sexy they must be if they t…
/r/askTRP02/02/21 05:58 PM
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right. it's "no!" and cringe, unless done with A&A and with a grin... then it becomes AM.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 05:54 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B8kW6IEBdf0 is a fun old school one.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 03:36 PM
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clearly, play https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8UVNT4wvIGY loudly on your phone and look at her longingly.... look down quickly when she looks at you fidget drop your beer and cry
/r/askTRP02/02/21 03:33 PM
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first time with her? not as likely, lots of girls are very self conscious about being 'stinky' especially the first time. i remember after a day hike with a super hot fit chick I took out ("i'm going to X peak on Saturday, it'll be a tough day, you can try to keep up if you think you can....") and she was game. she kept up. did some kiss-touch at rest stops. went back to my place after, tried to escalate and she hard stopped me even though i could feel her wetness... next weekend, closed. she la…
/r/askTRP02/02/21 03:05 PM
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it's funny, i was the "other man" many times when i was younger, during a late 20's phase... i had my own FWBs (long term plates) several of which were married, some single, 1 engaged. My arrogance blinded me to think they acted like this because I was the special one, I was candy. No, it's just AWALT and I was simply hot enough and a convenient choice for them. Granted, they were all attractive, and mostly their partners/spouses were shlubs, but not to a one. it really was their need for contin…
/r/askTRP02/02/21 02:53 PM
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Women are emotional beings. Sometimes you being less outward emotionally transmits aloofness which drives them to engage; because they think they want you to be more so with them. they want to be the beauty that tames the beast. So first you have to be a bit beast-like. (even in LTRs, MRP is littered with withdrawing = renewed attraction stories) Also, ignore the "open up to her and be sensitive" slop, in the end, their hindbrain wants you to be less emotional than them. And to be stronger than …
/r/askTRP02/02/21 02:07 PM
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it's just bias. the terms were out there, now you hear them. buy a new type of car/ say a mustang. now where ever you go: "damn, a lot of 'stangs out there!" they were there the whole time, you just notice them now.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 08:57 PM
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"not sure if i should move in with a girl... well, it'll make it harder for her to cheat on me, so i guess i should..." is the wrong mindset. you do NOT cuff a girl (nor move in with her) to "put the poon on lockdown" raise your value to your max of your genes and ability - you'll know you're doing it right when: she's the one who's worried that you'll cheat she won't think of cheating rationally (it-just-happened and drunk awalt aside) b/c she thinks you're the best she can do - for now. you co…
/r/askTRP01/02/21 07:55 PM
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sidebar 1) they often don't know what they want, so don't bother asking/trying to figure it out 2) do what you want. if she fits your plans, great, if not, find another that does. again, she wants you to want her. a normal human ego driven desire. so stop worrying about what she wants.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 07:51 PM
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ah, now i see. thanks.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 07:50 PM
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not play games and try to read each others' minds I get you, but I'm a guy. Never forget: it is a game. (and it is about power.) Women are emotional beings. So be prepared to sprinkle emotion and some gamesmanship, especially in your shittest and OI demeanor for the 'little stuff'. So don't treat her like a logical man, many (most?) times it will fail. Boundaries is one area where clarity wins, in my experience. the "I'll be so alpha and brood away from her" is often a conflict avoidance strateg…
/r/askTRP01/02/21 03:34 PM
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but she said it’s fine if I see other girls, LOL you actually listened to her? lololol. ​ we both agreed to let each other know if we’re interested in someone else too no, what she did was play along - you see, women are terrified of rejection, much more so than guys. what her ego wanted was for you to fall to your knees and beg for her love and sex. when you were nonchalant about exclusivity, she played along - protecting her ego.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 03:26 PM
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yup: "...for now" I love you... for now. I love our life together... for now. I can see us together forever... for now. never forget the lightswitch and warbride concepts. awalt
/r/askTRP01/02/21 03:19 PM
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if he was like some guys who post: "so my GF of 4 years - caught her cheating... I want her to move out but, gosh, it's Covid and I can't afford the rent alone, i need her rent money, and now she's bringing dudes back here to fuck... life is awful" if she's not in your place because she has her own place, it makes the break much easier logistically.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 03:17 PM
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if you have Frame and some Game, you'll live well. if you're a needy, weak, loser, you'll be bilked by the first 25 yr old HB9 that sits on your lap. really, the "which way will the scales tilt" is Frame, and mission and strength (mental, character, physical, etc). ​ 35- not a problem for a guy attractive - great, you'll be past the "looks threshold" for many women reasonable amount of money - great, you'll have some control over how to spend your time (leave a shit job, vacation, work-life-bala…
/r/askTRP01/02/21 03:11 PM
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username confirmed.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 03:00 PM
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you're being down-voted, but I disagree - "tell her" can work, if done well. Look, I understand the value of covert comms, and dread, and withholding attention, but part of leading is setting clear expectations, so I'm going to back you up. When chicks are with other chicks they are all on their phones together, like weird group-face-lamps, in a circle. to many of them "it's normal" so clearing that up: no, it's not the norm, when with you're hanging with me; can be helpful. once. (if she's on h…
/r/askTRP01/02/21 02:57 PM
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"I asked my gf what she would do it i shaved my beard " translation: I built my GF's frame for her then i walked into it and now i don't like the feeling, what went wrong? the fact that you're hunting/looking for validation from a chick about your manscaping (face or nutz) means you need to ngaf some more, and you do you. chicks ask eachother what they'd think of their new hair-do, men don't. act more like a man.
/r/askTRP30/01/21 09:04 PM
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you're a one man wolf pack. no group/social shots?
/r/askTRP30/01/21 09:00 PM
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"How much time have you spent defining your standards when it comes to women?". answer: it depends. it depends on the type of 'relationship' meaning, consider chicks you'd: ignore friend ONS FB/plate FWB LTR marriage (ie: pre-divorce) each level requires more value from their end. I mean think about it, for level 4, she needs to be: conscious disease free acceptably attractive*** DTF *** and this is totally up to you. so if you're not looking for an LTR or friend with benefits or even a fuckbudd…
/r/askTRP29/01/21 04:09 PM
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seeing through grand (societal) narratives, and seeing through female doublespeak (watch what they do not what they say), and understanding that 'nice' is not the goal. being strong (mental, physical, emotional, spiritual) - strength for the sake of self, and for the hedonistic/primary benefits, is the goal. when you are strong and full you can choose to give. but to not first grow strong, and only give in the hopes of others returning the favor and giving you fullness and strength is a recipe w…
/r/askTRP29/01/21 04:04 PM
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"Unless she's a fuck yes, I'm a hell no" - Mark Manson be the prize, maybe you need f2f to get them juiced? don't be like 1000 other simps via text.
/r/askTRP28/01/21 07:28 PM
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sadly, i did not. i just guessed you wear one daily when not strapped into your chair.
/r/askTRP28/01/21 04:09 PM
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I've read it (twice at least) and my take on " and we all know perfect is boring " is a platitude/not quite right. a person who is obsessed with being perfect, is what is boring (and banal, and annoying) we can admire someone going for a goal, but someone obsessed to the point of massive diminishing returns and singular level focus, is, not well rounded and can get very annoying. perfection is so rare, even 99% of perfect, it's not realistic. as for (near) perfection itself being "boring" and my…
/r/askTRP27/01/21 09:09 PM
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she has to be invested before any retraction has any effect (value). even having her qualify to you needs to happen only after a bit of investment from her. guys who visually "ring her bell" don't need to do much to get her investment (ie: you're swole with tattoos and that's her type) or the usual checkboxes (ripped, height, facially handsome, styled, groomed, etc) so find your niche, amplify it - not a dancing monkey - but what sets you apart, make sure they see it b/c it's your essence, then …
/r/askTRP27/01/21 08:55 PM
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what color is your helmet?
/r/askTRP27/01/21 07:59 PM
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lol all you needed to do was add 3 words... ​ "6pm, I'll be at Location X, activity 7" it's casting a lead, and seeing how she responsds. at this point a simple "yes" (answering by not answering) is your best bet.
/r/askTRP27/01/21 03:24 PM
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"so me and my yuuge penis have been thinking about you" /s seriously, i've banged several former coworkers, it's easy some background so they're more comfortable vs a new meet yet plenty of sexual tension b/c you didn't bang before (whether due to being with another chick or 'don't shit where you eat' discipline) and you had social proof from before and at her age, she just wants a dicking down so easy pickings.
/r/askTRP27/01/21 03:19 PM
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make it fun/mysterious and exciting. i've done this in the past when i didn't have my own place and had strong IOI. "i think we're going to have fun tomorrow night, so much fun you should pack a small overnight bag..." squeals of joy and "tell me more!" = green light and book it. "wut? umm, no we just met" = usual asd BS which may or may not yeild, but save your duckets until she's a Fuck Yes
/r/askTRP27/01/21 03:18 PM
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taboo vs. desire. and her willingness to give into desire vs. social morays. plenty has been written on partner count vs. fidelity and monogomy on the main sub. so which is worse, a straight girl who's fucked 50 guys or a bi girl who's fucked 15 guys and 15 girls. no idea. but just chill. observe her. time will tell. but don't focus only on her when possible to see others.
/r/askTRP26/01/21 08:44 PM
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I already said to you I intend to screen for LTR Yup, and my reply states that for a Plate who cares. but for LTR, why? the mental health side is worrisome enough. if you have options and are young, why the rush? you don't LTR to put poon on lockdown, you do it to give up more of your Time and Attention with someone deserving. Without meeting her family and seeing her in varied social situations, it's premature - your add'l info aside. like you said, it's slim pickings now (hard to meet others, …
/r/askTRP26/01/21 08:26 PM
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do you track? (anything?) "lift" is so universally given as advice in TRP because: being strong solves many problems helps hormonal / bone health / organ health helps you LGN (look good naked) AND: is something you can track actual quantitative gains. i am more a step-loading vs. progressive overload guy, so i don't up my lifts daily or even weekly, but i put notes in my app - with how easy that rep count/weight was vs the last "push day", yet i see gains over month spans. so the daily is about …
/r/askTRP26/01/21 08:16 PM
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for a Plate? who cares. means she is pleasure prioritizing over social taboo. have you notched a 3some yet? nows your chance.
/r/askTRP26/01/21 07:50 PM
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try a martial art to channel your energy and learn restraint. and some humility. "i'm a nice guy" = i'm not a nice guy, but i want to think i'm a nice guy. ps: being a nice guy isn't the goal. "a good man is not a weak man. a good man is a dangerous man who has it under voluntary control" so you are neither weak nor under control. fix the latter.
/r/askTRP26/01/21 07:40 PM
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and an isosceles is a triangle but a triangle isn't always an isosceles. the latter doesn't invalidate the former. his point is: it's not a bug, it's a feature (this "odd" child like submitting behavior) don't revel in it, don't seek it, but know it when you see it.
/r/askTRP26/01/21 07:05 PM
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self induced unforced error.
/r/TheRedPill26/01/21 02:30 PM
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" I dont date girls who xxx OR you can do what you want my gf doesnt xxx" Yet women will find a technicality. So I believe that hard next is the only way for major boundaries. Its not something they dont know. 2 things: 1) sometimes if they've been simped-on over and over, they truly don't know how to behave. the number of guys who are so thirsty that they don't stand up for themselves is unreal. "my last 5 BF's didn't mind!" may actually be true in her eyes (well, they 'minded' but were too sca…
/r/askTRP26/01/21 02:11 PM
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i hear you, but his question stands: why would 5 days of nexting matter if he only normally talks to her only every 7. so use your gut. and if you have no reference point, proportionality is better than nothing. Frame is making his view of the world the dominant one, a strategic thing and way of life - how he arrives at this amount of next'ing is a tactical choice - and does not negate his ability to have a dominant frame. RP is a toolbox, don't be afraid to improvise when needed.
/r/askTRP26/01/21 02:06 PM
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thanks but that's BP (bench press) OHP is less...
/r/askTRP26/01/21 02:03 PM
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right, i've read his stuff. i think he's assuming you contact 3x a week to make a 5 day 'snooze' effective. so use that ratio (250%) so if you go 7 days now, wait 18-19, i mean, this is a guess, but make it noticeable - or just go silent and let her reach out. know this: if something pissed you off, decide if it was a boundary cross, if so address it. no threat, just address it. chicks aren't mind readers, and leading (and training) a woman can be needed. if it was normal manners, and training "…
/r/askTRP25/01/21 07:28 PM
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dude stop. YOU are your own longest LTR. Say it out loud to yourself in the mirror. "you're not hers it was just her turn" now start living for yourself, and by living, I mean fucking living. take care of yourself as good as you'd care for a loved one. try it for a while if you're so afraid of 'me me me' like /u/benhurensohn rightly says below.
/r/askTRP25/01/21 07:21 PM
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women will push and push and see how far they can get. this 'one' may be a lost cause, but you can try to 'fix' more for practice than to actually fix anything, without kids and a mortgage, and alimony over your head - your efforts are better spent gaming new women. as for how to fix It begins (and ends) with you. you need to value yourself. forget the % you rank in "to her" - you are enough. You have a dick, you are stronger than her, so cultivate the resolve - to be enough. Guys give themeselv…
/r/askTRP25/01/21 07:18 PM
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so, you're asking: how does punishing her by taking away my Time and Attention (soft next'ing) matter, if i'm not giving her much Time and Attention? answer: not much which is why you can either extend the term to a meaningful length or just drop her. if a 1x a week or less plate is getting free rent in your head of ruminations and posts, find her replacement with this mental energy instead. let her reach out to you, instead.
/r/askTRP25/01/21 07:08 PM
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You're so far in your own head and up your own arse the world looks confusing through shitstained glasses. And i say this without mock or malice, but you need a bucket of cold water. "I just don't understand what I'm supposed to do to get somebody to be interested in me sexually....." the fact that you found that quote helpful or enlightening is telling - you don't "get somebody interested" in you, they will be or they won't be - attraction isn't a choice and further reinforces the infantile vie…
/r/askTRP25/01/21 06:40 PM
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you seem to have a covert contract -- if i'm/my brother is financially swole people should respect us... context: I am in the financial 1% in the US. my car goes 0-100km/h in less than 3 seconds, and my "slow car" in under 4 seconds, and my other car in 15 seconds because it's an off road truck on 40" tires.... But I own these toys for me, not for the hoes. being in a fast/$$$ car means shit, whether its inheritance, internet money, lottery, whatever. But, having resources will give off a BB opp…
/r/askTRP25/01/21 06:31 PM
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Becoming the Prize << that's the answer. then you can actually "be yourself"
/r/askTRP25/01/21 06:25 PM
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but after seeing the way she acted last night I feel kinda bad. No. Do not feel bad. Are you lying to her? (no). if you're being honest with her, and giving her some of your Time Attention and Resources (ie: your Gold) - and she's giving you her affection, that's the current bargain. She may want a new bargain, that's her perogative to advocate for her desires - but she'll get this new deal by behaving differently and better, and proving her value to you - not by throwing a tantrum and trying to…
/r/askTRP25/01/21 03:53 PM
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yes.
/r/askTRP25/01/21 03:44 PM
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well, #275 x 6 reps x 3 sets... i don't do max's anymore, not worth it at my age. let the young guns worry about actual maxing. i'm about joint health and strength.
/r/askTRP25/01/21 03:23 PM
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1) it starts on the inside: eat clean. no processed foods. i haven't had fast food in 4 years. seriously. i eat sugar maybe once a month, like 1 cookie or half scoop icecream if a host is offering, just to try it. never a full serving, it just makes me feel like shit. that's why i'm disciplined, it's not all about the looks, rather i began tracking my intake vs. how i felt and found out i was sensitive to "the seeds of grasses" (all grains) and sugar. 2) this gets your fasting glucose to a norma…
/r/askTRP25/01/21 03:20 PM
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alcohol lowers the inhibitions which may modulate "repercussions" or fallout. her drunkenness allowed her to 'not care' (as much) of any fallout, and so she finally said/asked what's been on her mind for a while. now, setting alcohol aside: this are because you are self-focused and not needy: “Do you even actually like me” (translation: do you even NEED me? - no. obviously you 'like' her, you speak with her and do 'stuff') how to handle? do not DEER and reassure her you like her. simply state: "…
/r/askTRP22/01/21 08:51 PM
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LOL and you actually read what a woman writes, literally and not the subtext? see the below responses, and sidebar. i'm just here to add to the: "watch what they do, not what they say"
/r/askTRP22/01/21 08:41 PM
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it's the shit, good call... Https://youtu.be/6KzCfIYArmQ
/r/askTRP22/01/21 08:35 PM
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wrong. part of her attraction to him is his pre-selection, from them. "fraternity" = he's in uni. ergo he should neither hide it, nor deny it, nor stop being social. she wants to be with a guy other guys want to be and other women want to fuck do not listen to what women say, only watch how they behave. i'm not saying he should/shouldn't cheat, but fuck-all him not being social and keeping a few in his orbit. if she doesn't like it, there's the door bitch.
/r/askTRP22/01/21 08:33 PM
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no. a boyish face isn't masculine. Being exceptionally fit gets you down in age in those you attract, and horizontally with those your age. if you're "fit for your age" you'll get lots of attention from your peer women. vs. their dadbod husbands and exhusbands. but if you're ripped, the salt-n-peppa sideburns doesn't seem to matter. my last few number closes have all been under 30, i am almost 50 (I don't even flirt with women my age... honestly, they just look at me: like i look at bacon, while…
/r/askTRP22/01/21 08:29 PM
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Furthermore, the use of 'laundry' implies a distasteful but nescessary task. and for some, such is the minutes between the 'nut and when her uber arrives... not me of course, but for some... ;)
/r/TheRedPill21/01/21 07:12 PM
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Women only ever truly live through men "weak men and most women only ever truly live through men"
/r/TheRedPill21/01/21 06:03 PM
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Ekhart Tolle - The Power of Now audiobook is read by him. worth it.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 04:51 PM
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a few reasons: target rich environments (hs, uni, parties... fish in a barrel) social proof through your crew and other women IOI'ing what women wanted at that age was only looks and popularity, more complex list as they age their N's were lower so their frame of reference was smaller (they hadn't built a gigaChad in their mind's eye yet) And, now you're thinking about it..... which can be bad (not NGAF/ruminating) or good (motivation for change) get super fit for your age, yes sure an ideal IG …
/r/askTRP21/01/21 02:15 PM
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it exists and it is something that other people have. you're a Legend.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 06:05 PM
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i read it. you say: "women are the monogomous (gender) == "for a time" meaning the women still had other partners... over time - hear of the 7 year itch? but if it meant her securing Grock's resources and protection for a few years, she would be 'his' until the rug rats were self sufficient enough to gather and walk and track on their own. in some cultures it was a 'insemination by group effort' so none would know who the father was.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 05:58 PM
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you go if the other company interests you. so: 1) she rejected you 2) does that mean she claims all space in the universe that she'll be at - to your exclusion? like a standing restraining order? fuck that. 3) enjoy the other women, ignore her** ** i've been friend zoned twice in my life, not like i remained their friends, but "they just wanted to be friends" and both times, we fucked in the end, and both times, it was by being social and her seeing her female friends flirt with me, that she did…
/r/askTRP20/01/21 05:56 PM
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meat curtains ?!?!?!
/r/askTRP20/01/21 05:51 PM
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you did fine. But, no need to have justified it (showed her you were 'right') that was you ego on display. setting and enforcing boundaries are the strongest way to set the Frame in an LTR (and pre LTR). in the heat of the moment, and taking the euphoria comment- then acting self-first is new to you, you did fine. and forget deprressedbadger97 ("it'll be 10 or 20 years before you meet a new girl..") that scarcity mindset is what keeps weak ass 'men' tied to abusive and selfish women, it's what l…
/r/askTRP20/01/21 05:43 PM
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came here to say this. by being your best self, for yourself, you may end up being the best she thinks she can do. the bonus: the stay plan is the go plan. just look at the few other posts on the top page now "back into dating after X years.." "born again at 27" be being "in fighting shape" as your permanent way of being, you're not only always 'ready' you will find her thinking of how to keep you loyal...
/r/askTRP19/01/21 05:37 PM
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i used to do 10-15 minutes in the morning clearing emails, it was hanging in my closet i would strip and just front+back while on my phone. Now, i have it shining through my shower glass door, it's on the outside "shining in" with rubber feet protecting glass vs. glass contact. so i spend "no extra time" in my day - and just rotate like a chicken-a-la-brasa when in the shower and get it all over vertically when nude and scrubbing up.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 05:15 PM
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and don’t get gains lifting track. 'my fitness pal' etc eat 1.2-1.5 G of protein per pound of lean body fat don't be in a calorie defecit follow a lifting program for people of your stage in lifting, and follow it. reps/week are king progressive overload vs step loading - find which your body likes and push hard.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 05:13 PM
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LOL, just block the number and stop wasting time. Do NOT apologize for shit that you didn't do. " She said she’s not as angry as she should be but then tells me to find out ..." oh goody, mommy's not mad at you! "then she tells me to...." stop right there. what you do is say: "nah, not worthy my time" and keep doing what you want to do.
/r/askTRP18/01/21 07:29 PM
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do you think you're low Test? at that age, i wouldn't buy a red light. i would focus on diet, exercise, sleep, and meditation/learning stoicism.
/r/askTRP18/01/21 07:27 PM
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these guys are expensive, but use their site for jumping off into resarch links. note the wavelengths used, shop for competitors with the same: https://joovv.com/pages/science i'm late 40's it's made my face look honestly amazing. i have women stroking my cheeks and jaw when i go out, my skin looks like i'm 20 yrs younger (lack of wrinkles) the wrinkles started as i was loosing weight, so my face had more wrinkles when i smiled. the red light tightens up skin and stimulates collagen growth. it's…
/r/askTRP18/01/21 05:17 PM
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" I wanted to ask her "wtf" about her story, is it a good idea before breaking up? " no, it would mean what she says/thinks fucking matter. they do not. she's a thot who wants attention and feels. Value yourself and fucking ghost the cunt. Be the Prize.
/r/askTRP18/01/21 05:16 PM
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Are u being serious with sunlight on the balls? not just sunlight, i prefer redlight (not UV) it stimulates the mitochondria and cells at surface and deeper depending on proximity and exposure time. a surprising amount of research has been done on a wide variety of applications - it's the wavelength that matters- it directly stimulates the cells you want to activate/energize. hundreds of studies on skin, joints, hell, even gum health/regrowth (it: smiling into the light) shit even works for T: h…
/r/askTRP18/01/21 05:07 PM
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read "when i say no i feel guilty" and you'll know. but yes, he personified the technique via replying with only the portion of the volley he found relevant to his worldview (frame) and let the rest of the comment go past him and into the fog behind him.
/r/TheRedPill18/01/21 04:48 PM
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you observe how she interacts with men on a few outings. you'll know what to look for - watching how she behaves -- and what she says to you (side comments/confiding) when the guys walk off. one my my LTRs years back was a true HB8+. smoking hot - half from south america half german. 5'7" 36/23/34 with a triathletes body and tits that defied gravity. a face like an angel with luscious black long curls, shampoo commercial material. truly would stop a room when she walked in. she was a grad studen…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/21 07:46 PM
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ah, class is in session. gather round boys, this is called Fogging.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/21 07:22 PM
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it's like there are 2 movies in one. like trainspotting. Crazy Stupid Love: your assessment is correct - and the twist of the his sons' crush being himself/the dad. The son beta-proseletizing in public, cringe.... And his "sen sei" player (Ryan Gosling) ending up with his daughter, who "found love" and all that - is too much. the first part spits truth: 1) the cheating housewife when he's a faithful plowhorse - is real. many of us in our 40's see it first hand happen to our friends and acquainta…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/21 07:19 PM
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i agree. there are likely hundreds of turn-downs (where i rejected) and I dont' regret due to them not being high value enough in my eyes, and i didn't need any practice. but there are 2 nights/women i do regret not escalating with. both were HB8+ and great personalities (as far as i could tell, spending a few hours around each separately) basically - the only reasons I didn't escalate were I was DEERing myself (one i've posted about: "i came straight from working a bluecollar job to the club/di…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/21 07:06 PM
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