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Advice needed - Beta Moment

April 25, 2022


Had a Beta moment and I need advice to what to do.

I'm currently seeing a LTR for about 6 months. She's nice and we get along. No problems in this front.

Prior to the LTR a girl I initially matched prior on hinge (pretty cute) didn't reply after some back and forth. That's fine man moves on.

About a month into the LTR the hinge girl replies back but I was already committed. I continued the convo but ultimately decided not to meet up with her and left meeting up open in the future

Throughout the LTR I was thinking about ending things as after hinge girl messaged I realised there was no spark with current LTR anymore. I knew I had a crush on hinge girl but I don't cheat and didn't want to act rash especially when she aired me first.

Fast forward to today hinge girl has new pic with likely new bf

Clearly I'm still betacucked on this hinge girl but need some advice on how to get over her and whether I should continue with my own LTR seeing as Ive got my mind on someone else?

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Title Advice needed - Beta Moment
Author TowawayASKTRP
Upvotes 1
Comments 9
Date April 25, 2022 1:45 PM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/newTRP/advice-needed-beta-moment.1113488
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/newTRP/comments/ublit5/advice_needed_beta_moment/

[–]redpilledfox 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

You need some abundance man. First of all, talking to a girl on hinge isn’t really cheating. It’s just keeping your options open - and that’s all what this is about - making sure you’re talking to more than one girl because stuff like what you explained happens all the time.

Edit: Also, try applying some dread your ltr, maybe she tries to get you hard again and be interesting enough to create that spark for you.

[–]UnethicalFaceSurgeon 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Well, we can’t decide what cheating is for someone else, it sounds like he considers that cheating and probably wouldn’t like his LTR doing that either so I’ll take what he says at face value but I do agree he needs abundance.

[–]redpilledfox 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh, of course; I didn’t think that needed to be said, but yes, we all have different ideas of cheating. I wonder what OP thinks of the idea of spinning plates.

[–]TowawayASKTRP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Spinning plates is fine - I was actively spinning before exclusivity

But yeah once it became official I paused hinge. Just annoying how people can still message when I pause and that's how I found out the other hinge girl messaged

[–]Frequent-Device4942 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you’re willing to spend cash arent the options limitless. With $400 you can fuck any escort probably many strippers too

[–]UnethicalFaceSurgeon 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I would say you emotionally cheated on your S/O because you had feelings for a another girl. It sounds like you wanted the hinge girl but decided to date the next available option, to me that says you aren’t solid in your decision making so you’re being pulled in multiple directions. Did you know what you wanted from a relationship before going into one?

[–]TowawayASKTRP[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You are correct - I may have gone into a relationship with an unsound mind

I know what I need to do...

[–]UnethicalFaceSurgeon 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wish you the best man

[–]Meloxian 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You met a girl off hinge and dated her for six months. You wanted to LTR her? What

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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