Just flawless in my terms!! I post this because i like to read other conversations, they are a very good infield example and i think i did good for the very first time.


So both of these girls i found over tinder. The first (HB 8) had two common friends so i did'nt want to take chances and poked her in fb and after i got poked back i messenged her. The conversation was very short, i can post it but i guess most of you don't speak german. So here my rough translation:


Me: I think i need to invite (common friend) again sometime to my cocktailparty and wish for a specific guest who they bring along.

Her: Hey :) I don't really know (common friend). Just have been on the same school

Me: hmmmmm so i have to think of something else. I heared there are places who sell Cocktails all week long, maybe that is an idea

Her:Yeahh... that could work But tell me something about you. Who are you? What do you do? (Her she wants me to validate myself to her, a Shittest and i fall for it)

Me:Oh something about me ? That's dangerous. But ok I am optimistic, spontaneous and adventureseeking. from all of these something but not enough.

I sutdy XX and do lot's of sport, like to cook and many other things.

So who are you ?

(I wrote that on Sunday evening, i got no answer till tuesday evening. So i knew i made a mistake.)

I followed up with:

Ok you are right, i would'nt buy that either. Much more important is that i wonder how you are kissing and i wanted to find out (i don't think that was the perfect comeback, but i could'nt come back with something better. But it was enough)

This morning she answered: You are stubborn! (the word persistent is better thank you /u/itttdone ) I like that! (phonenumber)


Ok, first example. I'd like your input here. But i felt good about that being a total noob before, i knew what i had to do.


So this other conversation was other tinder nearly the same time. (She also at least a HB8) It was much longer so i will only translate the last few text's.

Intro: after i asked her about her biggest passion she said that i really like to pump her (meaning i want to know much and special stuff) I replied that of course i want to know much about here because i want to know if i may like her (this was pretty aggressiv, and i think that's why this shit test followed)


Her:Can you answer me one question which bothers me: What else do you have to offer me that i feel the wish to please you. (This is hard to translate) (she want's me to validate myself to her, as we learned this is not a good idea!)

Me:Now you want to turn the tables. I like that, that's fun. (showing her i know what is up)

You don't should try to please me, that would be fake. (again hard to translate) And it's the same the other way around. Besides i don't need to offer you more, if you didn't find me interesting you wouldn't have talked for me so long. I know, like you, what i want (a reference to our conversation before) And you already noticed that.

Her: Of course i noticed that.

Me:Ok so, are you free tomorrow ?

Her:Tomorrow i am not free, but today i am :)


Haven't answered her yet.

The problem is i got another date today, and i feel like it would be a mistake to take her offer for a date today.

Ok now go on, tell me what you think about that. Destroy me, advice me, thank me or whatever :D

Please forgive my rough translation, typos and formatting