Left a ten year relationship last month, before that I was pretty good with women and was pulling fairly consistently with a couple of FWBs as well. Now I'm older but certainly not wiser when it comes to women, I don't even understand half of the shit they say now (so much meme/tiktok jargon). I've got a bit of pattern baldness, my beard has always been pretty patchy and I've grown a bit of a double chin. I have a decent frame, big shoulders and arms but most certainly in dadbod territory. My style for the last ten years has been comfortable clothes in the day and loud floral shirts when I go out, it's just easy that way.

What am I doing about all this? I'm trying to fix everything, take all the things I'm self conscious about and change them or turn them into strengths. I've been in the gym 4 days a week for the last month doing weights and cardio I'm walking at least an hour every day, most of the time more. I've been fairly strict with my diet too, I've lost about 18 pounds already, when I feel I'm lean enough I'll start trying to add more muscle. I'm starting minoxidil and derma rolling to fill out my patchy beard and hopefully reverse some of this hair loss, I've picked up a jaw trainer and a load of sugar free gum to try and get my old jawline back.

My current wardrobe fits much better now and I've been sporadically adding new pieces to it that I would never have bought before, paying attention to age appropriate style tips I find online. I've started cleaning my shoes fairly regularly and added some smarter sneakers exclusively for dates/nights out. I'm much more confident than I was a month ago and have recently had people guess my age at late 20s.

The final and most important thing I need a plan for is my game. I've tried a couple of cold approaches recently (see my post history) and have had a couple of dates through dating apps with a couple more lined up in the next week or so (I don't get a huge amount of matches but I seem to be fairly good at converting, I'm quite cheeky and funny when I'm in the zone). These girls are all nice but haven't been crazy hot, I've approached hot girls in person, made them laugh etc but have yet to convert any and that's where I want to be.

Throw some tips my way if you'd be so kind on how you'd start this journey if you were in my shoes, otherwise stay tuned for updates, I promise you there are very few people on here who are as committed to this as I am right now.

Tl,dr: average guy trying to improve every aspect of his life after long relationship, with the goal of eventually pulling 8s and 9s. Help a brother out!