If there's some traction with this I'll carry this on. I'm just a young guy who's just started to hit his stride with some of the theories, and reasons behind why this stuff actually works. Now I don't know if anyone else relates more to the theory behind something than loads of examples and dumb lines (no offense to people... but that never worked for me). Anyways. I'll start off with my thoughts about shit testing.

It wasn't until last night that I really understood what shit testing was. I knew that girls would ask me dumb questions, or push my buttons every once and a while, and I think I did okay, but it wasn't until the other night that I truly understood. Girls shit test because they are scared with how into you they are. If you fail the test, then you are showing her that she should be scared (thus when you fail a shit test she likes you less). However, when you pass, her attraction spikes more because she realizes that she really does like you that much.

Here's an example from last night that is important. I've known this girl for 36 hours. We don't know each other well, but there is loads of attraction. Last night for a photography project I needed to go up to the mountain and photograph some stars, and I invited this girl to come along with me. Needless to say after some short photography we were getting rather steamy (I love old fashioned terminology) in the mountains. Suddenly the girl stops.... and starts to act like a 5 year old. Let me give you some examples of the things that happened. Suddenly a girl that graduated top of her class, knows three languages, and is starting her own art/music school transformed into a girl. I'll explain what happened, then why, and how to get better at shit tests.

Here's what she did:

  1. She started just touching my face. Not in a cute way. In a I'm a little girl and I'm gonna touch your face to push your buttons way.

  2. She started squirming and giggling.

  3. She said, "What are you gonna do about it?" (about her annoyances)

  4. She said, "Why are you so calm all the time? I bet I can distract you!"

Now. I've never been shit tested this hard before. I've had the occasional "Are you a player?" "How many girls have you been with/done this with?" "Why do you have to look so nice all the time?" (I have good fashion). But I've never experienced anything of this level. And suddenly I realized why.

I HAD NEVER HOOKED A GIRL WITH AS MUCH ATTRACTION IN 2 DAYS AS I DID WITH THIS ONE. When it's a one night stand there is shit testing, but you both know where it's going, and so the shit testing diminishes. When it's a casual fling you both know it's about the sex, and so there is less shit testing. However, with this girl, she's a daytime pickup, and so SHE DOES NOT KNOW WHERE IT'S GOING. Because of that her instinct is that she needs to excessively shit test me to make sure that her attraction this early in the interaction is consistent with who I am. Her shit test was a test of my consistency as a man to make her attracted earlier, and testing whether I could carry that attraction through the evening.

In her mind, all she knows is that she is insanely attracted to me. Then something kicks in (she got super horny) and she starts shit testing to do 2 things.

  1. Prove me as either worthy or unworthy of her extreme attraction in a few amount of hours.

  2. Set up barriers if I'm an unworthy male.

Now I'll get back to the story. Realizing that this was not a crazy girl (all girls are crazy so that doesn't apply) I understood what was happening, and realized the only way to escape the test, was to remove myself from it. Allowing myself to sit in on the shit test unfazed was showing that she could annoy me with little shit all she wanted, getting mad proved to her that I was emotional and not worthy of her attention, and doing it back would've showed that I was a dumb guy trying to seek validation.

So I lightly grabbed her hands. Quietly told her that she needed to calm down because she was being "weird and strange." (I do have /r/seduction to thank for those words) and that I would be back after I checked on my camera's time lapse. This worked because it showed that when she's annoying I'm going to leave, that I wasn't fazed by her annoyances, and that she would have to act "better" to get with me.... I realized that it worked because....

I came back to a wonderful girl who was perfectly normal (well.... she was perfectly horny....) for the rest of the night.

Things to note: 1. Girls shit test you because they are attracted to you and they are trying to figure out if you're worthy

  1. When you pass a shit test (especially a major one) her attraction flies even higher for you, as you've proven yourself a worthy man (unfazed, calm, strong, confident etc....)

  2. Understand that you are the prize. Internalize that. She's just joining you along. She's lucky that a guy such as you would spend time with her. The next time she jokingly says, "you're so funny" (sarcastically) tell her back, "I know." 100% straight faced. You may know she's kidding, but it doesn't matter! She's lucky that a guy as hilarious as you is even spending a second of your time with her.

  3. Don't be scared about facing a shit test. I used to have this insane fear that I would mess up a shit test. It should be the opposite! When a girl shit tests you, get excited inside. This is your chance to ramp up her attraction more. This is your chance to take things to the next level!

  4. It's not about the words you use. But HOW YOU DO IT. When you engage a shit test you can say whatever you want. It's what you do with your body & vocal tonality that will seal the deal on whether you pass it with flying colors or not. (i.e: she starts being annoying-- turn your body away and don't give her attention)

  5. When you ace a shit test you'll know. I realized the other night that I don't think I'd ever "aced" a shit test before. I'd done okay, but last night I felt what it was like. After passing her shit test she wanted a connection with me more than ever, and with each consecutive pass things got better and better.

This is more a theory/FR type post. But I wanted to write out how i finally understood shit tests and how they worked. That was a big step for me.

Good luck out there friends!