I've recently conquered two of my biggest sticky points: Asking girls out and light flirting with them. What I don't seem to understand here is if I'm doing the two right (I've been rejected when trying to ask people out most of the times, and I am the only one doing the flirting in most conversations so it feels like the flirting isn't reciprocated).

Here are some sticky points I've been struggling with:

  1. A hot girl I was really into lately said the reason why she has rejected me is I'm annoying. To be fair, I've never had a problem talking to hot women-and she was into me in the beginning, but I'm very weird when I make jokes in conversations.

I've seen that in usual conversations, people like contextual humor-something they can relate to. I have no idea why but I love puns and wordplay and they constitute most of my humor. I've gotten this comment from tons of people that my sense of humor is weird, which by the way is the same thing I consider others' sense of humor but since I'm trying to understand what makes people tick and what makes my sense of humor filled with dark puns/wordplay so cringeworthy that I end up getting looks and people getting pissed-what is the case here? I can talk normally though and the plus is I've become really good at contextual humor as well: but I can't shake the punny side of me out and I'm pretty sure it is the one that annoys people. Is it really that repulsive? Why?

And at the same point, I'm very bad at connecting with people. My mode of being is that I respect people of action so my way of bonding too is mostly either teaching something to someone or vice versa-this has been me all my life. I sometimes come across as a show off but I love creating and doing shit and I tend to show it to people a lot because it is so hard to find someone who does the same and it fucking sucks. I cannot figure out how others seem to bond over, and I have a huge problem connecting with people. That's why I tend to overcompensate at times and say really nasty shit to gain attention (trying to show sympathy for a dead lizard on the ground and saying stuff like 'how will the baby lizard survive with a single lizard dad' and stuff). I tend to love that sort of hypothetical, imaginative shit. I'm friends with tons of people in my office, hell I even organized a successful event: I just cannot seem to get people to contact me, call me back, it's me who makes all the initiatives to meet up and get along. And it sucks.

  1. Wtf to do when a girl is into you: Yes the hot girl in the question above, along with so many girls-They were into me and gave all sorts of IOIs. ive managed to talk to them, its not that hard. But boy the man to woman stuff is hard AF to do.

I have had women all of a sudden become more touchy with me, asking for excuses to hang around me etc. And I have no clue what to do! I'm just stuck there as the girl decides I don't want to bang her and me, disappointed and down, ruminating about yet another opportunity that got lost. I've gotten comments that its mostly intuitive, and it feels like years of being around idiots who only talked about getting women and never took the action paralyzed me into the overly romantic mode of thinking. It sucks that I assume the woman will do everything. So I just wanted to ask-what do you do when a girl is into you? I'm just scared as fuck at this stage.

Overall, as of now these are the two things bothering me. Please let me know also what makes a person hang out-able, because of all the contacts I have I never seem to get a call back. Not even from guys.