Hey guys,

I’ve been studying pickup for a while but when I went on a date last night, it’s like everything I learned had been vaporized. The whole night I was trying to make her laugh and win her over. My body was tense the entire time and couldn’t relax. I shared too personal things about my family like I wanted some weird validation from her. When it was time to say goodnight, I asked her to hang out the next day and she said she had plans.

I just felt I was boring myself with the questions I asked, and kept nervous laughing. I wanted to be in the moment and be confident, flirting and touching her, but I succumbed to the pressure.

I’m not sure if I have a problem seeking validation or just loosening up, but I feel pretty defeated. I think studying this stuff is one thing, but another monster to actually apply it. If you guys have any advice I would really appreciate it.