I have no problem hooking up with girls at parties and such; however my fuck ups happen after the hook up. I get a little too clingy and blow myself out. I sat down and thought everything I have learned over the years and came to a "realization"

What do women want? In the beginning they want fun and excitement. They want to flirt with hot guys with great bodies. They don’t want to put forth any effort. If you come on too strong you are a creep. If you don’t come on strong enough you are either gay or shallow. Either way you're wrong. If you attract them they want you too talk to them but they don’t want you to be clingy. They want you to give them several compliments. If you give it to them they won’t respect you. They will take your gifts and niceness and flirt with somebody else not giving them attention. In the end they want attention. There can’t be too much attention from a number of sources but not from just one source. One source is too little. They will take your attention and pay little or zero back. They will move on quickly. So... If you want women you must use Cat-String theory more often and literally. What happens when you take a string and dangle it in front of a cat? They are entertained for hours. As soon as you give it to them they become uninterested. (this is what I do after I hook up) In order to "win" the game you must play to your advantage. Don’t give her compliments, don’t validate yourself to her. Make her chase you. NEG her, make her validate herself to you. Make her feel not good enough to be around you . Never be mean. I learned a valuable lesson from my friend Dylan. He has this girl wrapped around him. He claims to like her, a little however he is young and shy. This is his first crush so he acts like its nothing because he is embarrassed. What he doesn’t know is that he is just causing this girl to go crazy about him. He talks to her when she talks to him. To her he is a challenge to her. He is the string. I am re-coining "cat-string theory" Dylan theory. Its less suspicious and easier to say in the field to another person who knows the lingo. He will leave early for work in the morning from parties or that night. At the party is never really around her for a long period of time. He is all over the place, playing games, dancing with anybody, playing jokes, just everywhere. His accidental game works without him actually realizing it. She tries to kiss him and he turns her down a lot. We all know he likes her and might love her but he keeps his stand. When she gets a little discourage or upset all he does is dangles himself a little lower.

So after thinking about all of this I have new theory coincidently called "Dylan-theory". Act as if you don’t want her seriously and she will die to have you. Turn her down and she will make any excuse to get closer. Once you aren’t afraid to loose them, you will have them. Always walk away. Always leave them hanging. Keep them guessing. Make everything a joke. Never tell them cute things. (I had a girl tell me "you say everything perfectly") Don’t be that guy. Be the guy that turns every question into his own little stand up comedy show. Make her feel a little stupid. Don’t tell her she is "beautiful". Tell her what she could do to be beautiful=NEG. Don’t tell her what you would do to her. Tell her what she could do to get you to notice, or do for her. Don’t tell them what they want to hear. Tease her. Let her wonder. Make her think. Let her compliment you. never give her a straight answer. Be interesting. Play around her securities, don’t play on them. -Approach, Attract, Leave. In that order. In the least amount of time necessary. Don’t stick around, over staying your welcome will result in an automatic rejection. Get in, get out. Approach, Attract, and Leave. They will come back to you if you do it correctly. The longest element of this strategy is the attracting phase. AKA building Rapport. Don’t rush this, however don’t linger. Probe a question, listen to the answer. The transition to attracting AKA Rapport is rapid. Find the common ground you both share and exploit it. Then without hesitation; bail. Leave them almost hanging on. Like one of you were about to say something interesting, but you ejected for something else. A friend you know showed up or you just noticed or a foreseen accident like a during being spilled or something being knocked over. Don’t make it too insignificant, but don’t make it a huge deal. I don’t have a problem talking to women, flirting, kissing, or hooking up. My problem is I stop playing the game like I won and push them away after the hook up. Learn from my mistakes. “Dylan-theory” is kind of a few different theories combined however it does work, call it what ever you want. After you hook up with them let them go, they will usually follow. They follow me and then I push them by being a little nice bitch. The next girl I hook up with will be so confused and frustrated she will have no choice but to cave in.