So for a while I was able to approach without getting too psyched out and 'bottling it'. Few months back I met a girl in a bar who I approached on my own (she was sitting down with a friend) and we had sex a few hours after and I felt great. It felt 'smooth', in my head at least.

With that confidence, I started approaching a good few times per night for a few weeks, but It was a 100% failure rate. No make-outs or anything like that. Just short convos that fizzled out soon.

I started to think that the reason I pulled that girl was simply because I was her 'type' from a looks point of view. Simple as that

I had a little break for a few weeks - registered here and been reading more stuff (i've already read about 4 game books), and went out last night, and realised that my Approach anxiety had fully returned.

I'm feeling angry at myself because there were actually lots of gorgeous girls out last night!

I'm not sure whether it's 'classic' AA or not, but i'm more worried about having nothing to say than I am about the actual rejection/approach, if that makes sense? So last night when I saw a few girls sitting down, I thought ''What shall I say to open them?''. I couldn't think of anything good, and there was really nothing to use as an 'observational opener'' that I could see. I ended up not approaching them

The other thing, is that my group of friends who i go out with who are also single NEVER approach girls. i tihnk They think they are not good looking enough to bother trying, and when I try (and fail) they all see and one guy in particular always comments on my failure ''Nahh.....she wasn't into you mate! Aim lower! :)''and lots of comments like that.

Just as I'd given up for the night last night, a pretty girl tapped me on the shoulder and asked me what the men were called who chop trees down

She had an accent and was very hot. Before I answered her Q, I said
''Are you Italian?'' (good to make assumptions in converstation apparently? Also she looked italian) She laughed and said

''No, Spanish....what are them guys called?? They wear chequered shirts''

I think at this point I should have 'played' with her and said something like ''Ahhh, I know!! I'm not gonna tell you yet. I like watching you try to work it out!'' Something like that? would taht have bene good?

However, in the heat of the moment, I just naturally answered her question in a 'normal' way and said ''Ahhh,,,you mean a Lumber-jack!'' Then she was like
''Yeah that's it!''
and then turned around fast to talk to her friend (who was also there the whole time)

Usually if a girl came up and spoke to me, i'd assume she was interested at least a little bit, but I think she genuinely just wanted her question answered and that was it.

I tried to carry on talking to her but after a few typical questions ''where are you going tonight'' ''names'' etc, I couldn't think of anything to say.

Also, like I say, she did seem as though she wasn't interested in speaking to me after I told her the lumberjack word. I jsut happened to be the person closest too her as opposed to any sort of attraction?

In hindsight I could have at least asked her why she (a spanish girl) was here and stuff, and questions about Spain or something, but my mind goes blank in the heat of the moment.
I'm the same in job interviews! lol. My mind goes completely blank in them, too!

Anyway, not much of a story, but wanted to get it off my chest.

I hope to have a FR for you at some point as I want to start approaching again