Hi All,

I am 34 y/o asian male living in the midwest who has recently overcame a lot of personal limiting believes and in turn can now see very clearly what my life's challenges were. I have accepted many of the mistakes that I have made to date as well as appreciate many of the small wins along the way.

 

I have been thinking about this the last couple weeks and just decided to get it out of my head and put it in writing. I am extremely appreciative of this moment as I feel it a convergence of multiple positive things in my life coming together. Just want to make the most of the moment.

  • Being at peace now. - Be better everyday.
  • Upcoming SuperConference - It is a bit pricey. So I need to determine if I can incorporate into my plan, but not let my development or successes in this area be determined by my attendance
  • Am visualize successes and desired lifestyle - Knowing full well it takes massive action to accomplish that.

My apologies in advance for any rants. I am going to treat this as a thought process exercise to help me create a solid mission statement and gameplan .

 

I am grateful for this community as well as a couple other communities on reddit for contributing to my transformationgratefulefor finitely be or advice from thiste any feedback from this community.

 

  Q: How will you set a solid foundation and really accelerate your growth in the area of attraction/ seduction/ intimacy over the next 30 days?

 

Maybe this is a 3 phase approach:  

  • Foundational- Action plan/ key mindset/ practices to set a strong foundation
  • Adding Nitro - Weather to attend the upcoming SuperConference @ end of August to strengthen my foundation and accelerate progress
  • Abundance Growth - Leverage the strong foundation and critical lessons from SuperConference to refine, improve and be epic

 

Experiences to Date

  • Read "The Game", "The Alabaster Girl", "Models"
  • A gf in college and a gf post-college
  • A couple of dates in the past several months with girls I have known for a while
  • Various but inconsistent cold approaches over the past years. Some number/ fb closes. No responses. Flakes.
  • Haven't had sex for several years.
  • Focusing on building a great lifestyle/ NoFap

 

The Good

Due to much of my past self limiting believes, inconsistencies and self sabotages I have not had much success with women. However, some note recent wins:

  • + Not Giving a Fuck - Slowly but surely cultivating a "Not Giving a Fuck" attitude which is a direct result of a recent realization of how critical it is to "Being at Peace" with myself is and how I can utilize and strengthen it every day. Knowing myself well have given the confidence I need.

  • + Near Elimination of Social Anxiety - Going to meet ups, making new friends and working on understanding myself better helped with the social anxiety that I used to have several years ago. I can talk to anyone and introduce myself to anyone at any event.

  • + Fitness - Been eating right, intermittent fasting and hitting the gym. Things are happenings slowly and surely. I can wear muscle shirts here and there which helps with the confidence.

  • + Friends/ Wings - Having a hand full of guy friends that are great friends as well as wings. Need to organize more fun activities and sarging specific events. Would definitely appreciate when I can enlist a couple more and form tight knit group for activities and winging.

  • + Reddit Sidebar Progression - Been making a point to start reading the side-bar content and will plan to get a couple good books to better educate myself.

 

My Pain Points

  • - Inconsistency - I need to consistently practice approaching and make time on my weekly schedule to approach and make gains.
  • - Locations - Taking myself out of the clubs, bar site and coffee shops. Increasing my visits to libraries, book store and malls. Any other suggestions?
  • - Cold Approach - While some anxiety still remain, I don't mind approaching. However, I noticed I need to practice good openers and think better on my feet. Yes and just approach approach approach. Do the warm-ups sets. Really putting that "NGAF" mindset into good use.
  • - Building enough attraction- I feel like I don't feel like I build much attraction in my interactions. I believe this will be worked out as I continue NGAF and really focus on just having fun vs. taking everything so seriously.
  • - Closing- With NGAF in place. I will just ask for the phone number when I feel I have establish initial rapport and use the rest of the interaction to build attraction best I can and plant seeds for 1st date.
  • - Old Car - Can't really afford to spend money on a new car right now. Will need to fix a cracked windshield. The car runs fine but the exterior looks a little rusty. Just doesn't quite make a great impression on a date...

 

Here & Now

  • Having love in my life is important to me.

  • I have decided to make attraction (seduction/ love/ intimacy) a key area of development going forward.

  • Am making the best use of my available time and resources to attract more of this in my life while proactively building on areas that are important to me as well.

  • I would love to have my style be a mixture of Zan Perrion's and Mark Manson's. Their philosophy gels with me. It does seems to require a longer term development vs. short term.

 

Anyone going to SuperConference in August?

1) Is anyone else planning to attend?

2) If so, maybe we can be accountability partners/ group beforehand and then enhance our experience if/ when we attend the SuperConference.

3) (Kind of a stretch) If I go, I would like to continue staying in touch with the group and keeping the support network going.

 

TL/DR:

  • How will you set a solid foundation and really accelerate your growth in the area of attraction/ seduction/ intimacy over the next 30 days?
  • Looking for advice from this awesome community.
  • Deciding on attending SuperConference.
  • Want to set great foundation before the conference.
  • How to continue momentum after 30 days/ conference?