Me and my wife made the decision to have a threesome And hit a wall on finding a girl. We got close a few times irl and they bailed. I've tried most dating services and I'm being honest up front and my wife's very socially awkward. This was actually believe it or not her idea cause we are highschool sweethearts and only bin with each other and she has bin bi most her life. I feel like I'm part of the problem cause I'm male and I'm sure these girls get harassed by people like me all the time and sometimes guys can be intimidating. I've bin told to go date seperatly and then kind of land the idea. But I'm not a fan of being dishonest and wasting someone's time. Looks aren't an issue we both aren't model type but good enough to get match's on our own.

So more the question to ladies are u more comfortable talking separately and or more comfortable talking to my wife since I'm a man

Fwi I'm not trying to hurt anyone's feelings here. I came to another subreddit and they were deeply offended by this and attacked us so.

Also with covid most outgoings are closed so bars and clubs are a no go so any advice ( plus she only has a few friends and I'm 100% sure they are not ok with the idea) in fact the close call was her friend she bailed and never spoke to us again.