After a few months of digging deep into my inner game, clearing out the cobwebs made up of previously assumed (and false) notions, working out the kinks that halted bold attempts from taking place, and falling deeply in love with myself I have recently had a beautiful revelation.

I judge women far less, in basically every aspect you could imagine. I hate to say it, but being an AFC had basically forced me into blaming the opposite gender for a lack of gratification, be it emotional or physical. I don't live with regrets, but if I did this state of mind would be some baggage, for sure.

Since focusing more on making myself happy, I have in turn focused on making others happy as well. Last weekend I met a girl from a dating site, who I clicked with intellectually. I liked her, and I didn't even notice the physical attributes, whether present or not, that I normally would have immediately used to gauge attraction. I think this quote from Mark Manson's 2nd AMA sums this up for me pretty well:

Seduction is an emotional process, to become good at seduction is to become an emotionally healthy individual who attains social and sexual confidence.

This weekend the girl and I hooked up, several times, each time better than the last. I was so focused on giving her the maximum amount of enjoyment that I didn't even reach orgasm the first round. I didn't care because I made myself focus on her needs. It was so much more emotionally satisfying to just make someone else happy because of things I was doing. All of my (adult) life I have been trying to bang chicks because I wanted to get laid, selfishly forgetting that maybe these women want more than an orgasm.

The concept of value giving and being too much of a nice guy/pushover used to seem like a fine line, but now it's becoming my automatic response to be the guy that delivers value in a smooth and comfortable fashion.

My point is: I came to this sub to learn how to get laid easier, but I'm learning that seduction is far a deeper concept than attaining notches on the belt. It's so much more emotional than I thought, and this realization is a milestone for me that has truly bettered my own life and all future relationships.