After a girl i had mutual attraction with was spooked off when I asked her out (we became good friends though so it's cool) I got the chance to talk deeply about seduction and relationships with some other group of girls. What I learned from there is that all of them would rather date a friend they already know than someone they talked with once or twice, no matter how fun it was. Also people who ask out a lot of girls are frowned upon, and if you ask someone out, the entire grade will find out in less than a week

Have any of you had to deal with something similar? What should I do to adjust myself to this? Tips for escalation?