Approached a girl, what next?

Ferarri_AMG · 2025-01-19T08:07:15+00:00

odds would’ve been best if you got her number. But who knows. Girls basically will give their IG to any guy unless they actually have a boyfriend but if she gave you her insta without you mentioning it that’s better.

What did yall talk about you could use that to go off of or say it here so we could help you say something

EmperorPear · 2025-01-19T08:07:41+00:00

Slight fuck up by adding her on insta. Now, when you contact her through it, you will be another DM thirsty boi. Also, go more into detail about thr convo itself. Was it fun, neutral, bad? Gotta know what impression you made. As for opening up, just focus on scheduling the date. "hey, when are you free this week?"

DaygameCode · 2025-01-19T12:21:55+00:00

“I don’t want to fuck this up”

Mate, if that’s your mindset you are already fucking up. The easiest and fastest way to fuck up with a woman is by being outcome dependent and needy. That phrase shows you are both of those things.

It also subtly frames you as a guy who there to seek validation and trying to be liked by her, which is a bad and counterproductive frame to be in, instead of being a guy who is there to see if she is worth your time and good enough for you to keep giving her attention, which is the right frame to approach interactions with women.

Your mindset screams desperation and puts you on uneven footing from the start. Women pick up on that energy immediately, and it kills attraction because it suggests you’re coming from a place of lack. Instead of focusing on not messing up, shift your perspective to assessing whether she meets your standards.

When you approach with the mindset of, “_Let’s see if she’s interesting, fun, or intriguing enough for me to want to continue engaging with her_”x you naturally communicate confidence and self-worth. This flips the dynamic and makes you the catch.

It’s about having the internal belief that your time and energy are valuable, and you’re not there to earn her approval. You’re there to discover if she earns yours. That’s the difference between chasing and leading.

Men who gave success with women lead, they don’t chase.

Dandys3107 · 2025-01-19T08:14:34+00:00

First thing, you should not be too worried about ducking this up, it will make you more nervous, oblivious and outcome is not even entirely up to you. Until you arrive to a moment when you feel like asking her out on a proper date, keep in touch with her frequently but don't prolong your interactions too much. Keep your exchanges simple, sharp, short, relatable, trigger lots of emotions, have fun, touch positive and exciting topics. Generally you want to keep energy high, check if you vibe well together and eventually upgrade your fun for real life circumstances.

SonOfSunsSon · 2025-01-19T09:32:53+00:00

Be curious. You felt attracted to her for a reason no? That’s enough to work with.

nnavyyy · 2025-01-20T00:52:13+00:00

play imsg games witha friend and win the game and send her a screenshot and be like " im so good at this" .. shes gonna say "no ur not" ,,, ask her to play imsg games against u and get her number bc if ur in her dms shes not gonna take u seriously shes gonna think ur prolly in everyones dms.

ask her questions about herself,, what sports she plays, if u have a pet, send her a picture of the pet and shes prolly gonna compliment it, then be like do u have any pets or did u have any pets growing up. and if shes not reciprocating the energy and it feels like ur the only one trying just leave her on read. u dont have to be desperate. u can do better.

flirt but do not get freaky in the first 3 weeks bc then it gives off weird vibes.

Friendly-Canadianguy · 2025-01-21T17:23:52+00:00

Ask her to meet. Don’t get to know her online. If she says no then you saved time

Title	Approached a girl, what next?
Author	Alternative-Net461
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	January 19, 2025 7:51 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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