23M I have trouble with approaching first or even messaging someone first without overthinking it all seems like iv lost the way since after being in long relationship never used to be a problem before how do I get back to that (16-18 confidence), I get the courage to start talking and then back out and keep procrastinating and keep telling my self “next time I will” but never do, anyone have any suggestions on how to just get over that barrier (if it’s someone iv known from years ago or brand new)