Hey all, frustrated guy on a burner account here looking for some guidance. This might be a long post so I appreciate those of you who have the patience to read it all and offer some feedback.

I’m turning 21 in two weeks, been going through hard times since I turned 17 but I won’t get too much into that.

After three years of being a victim, I started to turn things around in the one way I believed would help me the most. I started dieting seriously and lost 90 pounds in 8 months.

I firmly believe I went from around a 4 in looks to about an 8. Not only did I lose the weight, I’ve adopted a style that I feel comfortable and confident in (clothes, haircut), I have great hygiene, clear skin, white, straight teeth, etc. I feel good about the way I look for the first time in my life.

A year and a half ago I had no choice, due to my ass-hat of a stepdad, to move from my hometown, away from my friends, to live with family in another state. While I’ve been here, I’ve started going back to school, gotten a job where I bring home 6-700 a week, got my driver’s license, bought a car, and recently started going back to the gym.

No matter how hard I’ve been working on my self and improving, I still have no friends, and haven’t had sex since I moved here. I tried making friends at my first job where there were other young people, but my family ruined that by giving me a curfew and telling me I’m not allowed to drink, which my mom and stepdad at least never gave me trouble about. Now they’re okay with it though since I’m older and have shown that I’m responsible. At my new job, I work with people who are 50+ years old and/or don’t speak English fluently (restaurant).

I’ve tried making friends through school, although I only took two classes last semester. I joined a club, which was nice as we had a few fun events and trips, but most members seemed disinterested in hanging out outside of school. I smoked weed with a few guys after class one day, and have been hitting two of them up since then, but they don’t seem very keen on hanging out.

It feels like most people are already content in their social lives, since they have lived here their whole lives and have plenty of friends.

One option would be for me to keep my grades up and then transfer and dorm at a 4 year school, but I’m not sure if that’s possible because me and my family are moving to a bigger place soon and I’m expected to help more with rent.

I don’t know how I’m supposed to meet girls without having at-least somewhat of a social circle. I’ve went out by myself to the mall/boardwalk a couple times each with the sole goal of approaching a girl, but wasn’t able to muster up the courage to do it.

I feel like my best option is to take a full course load next semester, be extra outgoing in my classes and club, and just hope for the best. I’ve also been thinking about volunteering somewhere which might help. Other than that, I’m turning 21 very soon so I could potentially go out to bars alone and try to meet people, or try to get one of the few people I know to tag along.

Sorry if this has seemed like it’s not very focused on seduction, but I value this subreddit and it seemed like the best place to turn to. Thanks in advance.

TL;DR Moved to a completely new place a year and a half ago, have been developing myself very well but still have no friends and have not had sex since I came here. Need opinions.