Usually a scarcity mentality is something that people attribute with beginner guys. They don't have the results coming in so they start clinging to interactions with particular women and give off a needy creepy vibe. We've probably all been there at some point.

However, this doesn't necessarily end when you get to intermediate/advanced level, it just changes in the way it manifests itself. For example, if you're an intermediate guy, you can get 5 new strong leads a month and you may end up fucking a new lead every 2 months. But once you start to improve, you've moved the goal posts. You're now fucking a new lead every month. So what can happen is that you are confined by those standards in your mind. You think "I should be fucking a new girl every month" and this will leak into your ego and tug on your vibe. If you get towards the end of that month and you haven't got laid with a new girl, you may start to question your self worth in the game. Your stats won't reflect what you want them too.

This gets magnified for guys who are fucking a huge number of women. You can really get in your own head about this and get lost in your own game. You're constrained by your own artificial parameters and you're acting as if every girl matters way more than they do. You need her to add to your ego list that you created. I found this when I got to an advanced level, that each girl was everything and nothing to me. My game was good, I was still able to seduce her but it was starting to tug on my vibe. It got to the point where if I was banging an certain number of girls in a certain period of time, I felt worthless. That's fucked up. I actually quit when I was at my peak because I hated the feeling it gave me. I was trapped in my own ego.

Well what can you do about it:

  1. Stop tracking your wins as they are a reference point you will inevitably judge yourself again. I love stats in all areas of my life, whether that's work, sport or seduction. But I've had to learn to give up the stats in the latter as they were holding me back mentally.

  2. Get off the online forums as they are another area where you can traps. You start to compare yourself to everyone else which is normal in these scenarios. Take regularly scheduled breaks from online material and stick to it. A break of a month or more without consuming the competitive material will make you realise there is a world out there. This is a tool not a crutch.

  3. Accept that you don't have to fuck every girl that you're attracted to. Just because you can, it doesn't mean that you should. That nagging sense that you're missing out if you don't sleep with her is just a figment of your imagination and part of the scarcity mentality.

  4. Remember that no one gives a fuck that you banged a load of women. It's a skill and that's all it should be. Use it when you need it, otherwise put it back in the box.

  5. Take a step back and question why you're doing it. Are you happy? Are you still enjoying the process or is it a means to an end? If you had to take a break tomorrow could you do it without it damaging your ego?

Anton