Alright seddit, thanks to you and /r/howtonotgiveafuck, I've come so far in this past year. I'm at the point that if I want to get laid a particular weekend, I will. As far as general seduction goes, I'm by no means a master, but I've nearly got it all down well enough for myself.

Relationships on the other hand, are a different story. There are plenty of girls that I'm attracted to for something fun and casual, but not many that I would date. Because of various things in my life and who I am, I'm looking for someone that's passionate, really intelligent, at least mildly athletic and artsy (in that order). I don't have unreasonable expectations, but those first two are vital for me. I want someone who I can talk to instead of talk at, and I want someone who enjoys living life as much as I do. These girls do exist, but they're so hard to find. That's where my problem lies.

When girls like this are so hard to find, how do you avoid getting down when one of them doesn't work out? Yeah, it's a good indicator that it wasn't someone I wanted to be with, but one false alarm after another with long periods of time I between can get pretty depressing. I got stood up this week by a girl who had said she was interested and thought things could go somewhere when we hung out, so I'm going out with friends to myself out of my head and keep my mind off of it. But beyond that, any advice? Lowering my standards for "dateable" is not an option or something I could even do, so I'm stuck with a really spare demographic. Anyone deal with similar issues?

Thanks in advance guys. I'm grateful for any help here.