Hard-case newbie here, spent about a year on self-improvement, i.e. looks, body language, meditation etc.

One thing I focused on when going out was trying to amuse myself more often. However in amusing myself by being jokey (too much of a clown tbh) and focusing on that I forgot to focus also on the fact that I want to get with women.

I think one mindset it is easy to get in to is self-amusement and assume that girls will see that you are having a good time and try to seduce you and that you do not have to lead the interaction because by just being self-amused, you will have sex with girls.

I realised this about myself because I'm currently struggling with the fact that I can seduce girls without having to entertain them and get specific reactions from them. (My approach was always to do something and wait for a response, as Tyler would put it, the ball always being in the girl's court.)

We have to be self-amused and un-reactive, but I also think for this to work we have to stop looking for IOI's etc to dictate to us when to approach/kiss/escalate generally. In waiting for positive IOI's we are being led by the woman in the seduction.

Confidence does not have anything "solid" behind it, i.e. money, looks etc. It is just self-belief and doing what you want to do because you want to do it and not looking to our environment to show us how to act.