Hello,

I have some questions that I cannot answer so I hope you guys can help me out.

I'm 24 and diagnosed with Asperegers so my social muscles are literally of a toddler. I've gotten diagnosed 4 years ago but I always felt different from other kids, such as having social circles, understanding emotions in situations, basically social intuition and calibration. The reason why I'm telling you this is because for me to really understand a concept, it needs to be 100% rational, so if you guys could be as "A=B , B=C , therefore A=C" as possible. That's just how my brain works🤷‍♂️. To give you an example, I'm good at math but I could not understand how to do simple functions unless I learned the background of it. If math was a car, you would need to explain the synchronous workings of the engine for me to understand, not just press the medal and drive. That's when I obtain in a sense full intuition of the concept, and know how to mold it, and play with it.

The way I understand seduction is from a evolutionary POW. So like the man has value because he will protect the woman ..etc. Bascially everything has a purpose. Each trait logically leads to an outcome, either positive or negative.

But here are the traits that I dont understand, here are the questions:

  1. If seduction is basically a balance of power, then isnt cold approach technically always bringing down your vaule, hence making the girl see you as less?

  2. In communication with females, how much should you talk? It seems to be that if you talk to them =they know you like them= they're higher value =they have the upper hand. I've gotten numbers and snapchats many times but soon they lose interest.( I say I'm above average in looks and height 6'3, so being like hey you're cute what's ur # works, but it is the ladder I have trouble with). Now I know that it is impossible for you guys to determine causation but how much should one talk to a female? Just set up dates? Or talk about interest, hobbies? Seems to me that the fuckboy ways of "come over" dirty talk is one of the only ways where women reply with enthusiasm.

  3. What do females find attractive and WHY? On one side I hear many females saying they want a nice guy with good manners and on the other I see them with the "idgaf guy" who dosent care about them. How is it logically possible for a guy who doesnt care about a girl to date her, let alone make her want him.

My whole emotional muscle is literally out of service since birth so any rational answers would be very much appreciated.

Thank you :)