Hey all,

Had a question on how you guys deal with embarrassment post-rejection due to friends or whatever. I go to a small school and am in Greek life where the community is even smaller. Often times I run into the same people every night I’m out. Part of me is scared to cold approach because everyone knows everyone and if there’s a girl who I’m into, chances are my female friends know her. Sometimes when I’m drunk I’ll stupidly go up to a girl like that/a girl I kind of know because she’s in the community, and say some absolute stupid shit. Not creepy, not rapey, even when I’m drunk I get paranoid, but just some nonsense honestly like a teletubby. Since they know who I am somewhat they aren’t creeped out but they’re turned off. I’ve done this a couple times/also just sober approached and was too nervous and failed so I guess as time went on I became too scared to try and shoot my shot with anyone rather just become friends with them because I’m scared that girls are going to known I’m just shooting my shot/I’m desperate. I’ve also had successful encounters with some girls here but somehow always get stuck on the negatives and it freaks me out. I know I shouldn’t care what people think of me, and know I’m not doing anything wrong but I’m here getting nervous during summer when I’m halfway across the country from school. How would you guys deal with this?

Thanks