Being happy alone

Hello guys (I guess idk how many girls hang out here) For the last half year I have been single. (male 19 y.o.)

The dating advices

And you know I did what most ppl do what shouldn't be done and over time I watched this YouTube videos about how to date and how female attraction works and all the other things.

And the main point that was presented was :

• Be happy alone
• Noone will fix your live
• have goals
• don't care about them that makes you interesting
• love yourself

Etc. I think you all know this list.

me myself and i

Uhm so for the last like 3 month I focused on myself and I am in a good place I think. I have a very clear and reachable goal, in 4 Weeks I will be out of school and have the job that was my former hobby and I always wished to have. I know my hobbies and follow them with passion (they do not include a lot social contact beside from maybe online gaming). I know what I am very likeable for (intelligence, social awareness and kindness) and also know what one could not like about me. All at all I am happy with myself as human being and have the right amount of self esteem I think. Also I have 2 good male friends. One is a social magnet orbited by the whole school including of course girls. The other one socially distant and introvert

Not being happy lonely

But well I am still not happy lonely. While I am working for school and stuff I am able to forget not having a SO or anyone to hug etc. And slowly there is even a feeling of depression creeping up in me making it hard to be very motivated to do thinks I hate (for school for example). And I am a very romantic person so I would prefere to have a steady relationship over something "casual". But as I didn't got layed for 8 month now (and also trying nofap because well, should be good for one) I feel more urge towards just having someone for hugging kissing and patting.

(information on the side:I had a girlfriend for a little more than 2 Years so maybe this "had it but not anymore" adds to the stack)

Yeah we know very sad but why do you tell us your tragic live and dating storry?

Well at first i am sorry for that. But to answer your question : I want to know your opinion about "You have to be fully happy without anyone else" topic and what you think I might have done wrong or right in terms of self improvement and brain thinking stuff.

Lonelyness depressions and other fun stuff

And to end this chapters this one. Lately I have been listening to Ted x talks and other talking hoomans about loneliness and this stuff. Well Ir wasn't a quite smart move as I figured out

• When you feel lonely you are (so I am)
• Being lonely for an extended period has a lot of non positive effects like increasing cancer and Alzheimer prob.
• 1/3rd of western (where I am from) population feels lonely regularly
• never bevore there have been as many singles
• Trigger warning feminism has done its part that in some of this areas men "dominate" (being single for example)

Which (I know k am a stoopid being) gave me a little more anxiety of being lonely and maybe not finding a SO for a long time or not at all.

Way to long TL;DR

What do you think about "You have to be fully happy and complete alone" and what would you suggest a person that feels lonely and feels bad being lonely even tho the person has a stable source of money reached its live goals for now and is happy with who he is

Thanks for listening I guesss

This was not intended to be a rant or a scream for help so don't worry