Body language when sitting down?

Live_it_up_321 · 2017-05-25T18:36:10+00:00

Forward in your seat, back straight and arched. That's what's best for you in terms of physiology and also neuro-feedback to your mind.

Alternatively, if you're more interested in projecting confidence/dominance than strictly good seated posture, you should lean back, chest open, arms out (to whatever degree is appropriate to the situation). In other words, you should take up space and make your body as open as possible. Don't fold your arms or put your hand to your neck or upper torso. This latter body language especially communicates weakness, borderline femininity.

In any case, keep your head up, chin raised. Don't look down (except to read documents, etc., obviously). Another form of powerful body language you can adopt while sitting is "steepling" – that's when you make a triangle (steeple) with your fingertips, hands in front of you. Studies have shown that this gesture is stronger the higher it is on your body, so steepling up near your sternum or chin will come across as more powerful than steepling down by your waist. In a seated situation, this can be done with elbows on the desk or table, but be mindful that this can come across as combative. Otherwise, you can steeple with your hands on the table in front of you, elbows at your sides. By the way, steepling isn't great for date situations. It's a more formal communication of power rather than seductive. Also, steepling is distinct from folding your hands or interlacing your fingers, both of which communicate weakness.

Putting your hands behind your head, elbows out, while leaning back in your chair is a power pose, but it can sometimes be excessive. Don't do it around people who are unambiguously more powerful/important than you and might feel threatened by your openly dominant body language.

Don't fidget or put your hands near your face, except perhaps in an intentional display of thought (hand on chin). Definitely don't put your hand over your eyes or brow – that communicates concealment/defensiveness.

Lots of other body language stuff, but this should cover most of the types appropriate to sitting.

Title	Body language when sitting down?
Author	FineBonsai
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	May 25, 2017 2:59 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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