This post is for you if you are an intermediate. You’ve reached a certain level of game and your beginner sticking points are behind you. Approach anxiety doesn’t cripple you any more, you get girls attracted to you regularly and you are not afraid to get physical. You’ve slept with quite a few girls and your friends all think you are ‘good with chicks’. But you’re not quite there yet. You don’t get laid as much as you would like and you would like to date and sleep with higher quality girls. Furthermore you might have some other issues around dating that you would like to resolve. This is the place I currently find myself in. If you can relate to this description I think you will find this blog post useful. This post is pretty much me thinking out loud about what these sticking points are and how I will to fix them. I will talk about the sticking points one by one. Enjoy!

Motivation

This has been a big sticking point for me the last two months. When you go from newbie to intermediate your old motivations go away. You are no longer pushed by the feeling of anxiety in your stomach of not having slept with a girl in months. You don’t feel the need to prove to yourself you can do this pick up thing. You are not desperate any more to show your friends you can get laid. I certainly have been noticing lately that my motivation is not what it used to be. This did make room for me to start some other endeavours so that is definitely positive but it is crucial to keep doing Game. New motivations should be. 1. It is fun! I love talking to girls most of the time. It takes a some energy to get started on any given day but once you are over that threshold it’s a good time! 2. Get girls who are hotter, more intelligent, funnier and more inspiring. The more you talk to girls and the more you keep developing yourself in this area the more chance you have of running into really really cool girls. Being with these kind of girls is what I want and is what you want. Now that you have some ‘pick up skills’ you would be crazy not to go for this. I will. 3. You will grow. If you are an intermediate you have probably changed massively since when you started. You are most likely much better off in many area’s of your life. I think this also applies to the journey of going from intermediate to expert. If you keep challenging yourself and keep doing the things in pick up that are out of your comfort zone, I think you will see a lot of growth again.

Getting girls back to your house

This is definitely currently one of my sticking points and there is a good chance this is one of your sticking points too. The things we get to do the least often are usually the things we are least good at. I’ve gotten very good at striking up a conversation with a girls on the street or in a club. However I am not where I want to be with getting girls back to my house. It is has happened to my twice in the last month that I was getting really sexual with a girl at a party but I did not even get close to getting her home that night. This can happen ofcourse, not all girls are into sleeping with guys they have just met, but I just know I was not being smooth or natural at all. If you are intermediate there is a good chance you have this problem too. My solutions to this one is quite straight forward. Watch some video’s on this stuff and I will try to get myself in these situations as much as possible.

Negative thoughts and believes

I think this is a sticking point for people on any level of Game. Unless maybe some enlightened dude from India would start doing Game. But consider yourself a little bit lucky on this one. Because your negative thoughts are much less destructive when you are an Intermediate than when you are a beginner. When you are a beginner you get thoughts like: ‘Game doesn’t work’, ‘I am too weird/shy/ugly/small/poor/awkward for girls to ever like me’ ‘I am creepy for trying this’ and ‘I am annoying people’. These thoughts suck and I am very happy they are gone. But a series of new negative thoughts and believes have taken their place. And they have exactly the same function as the old ones. Protecting your ego and making sure you stay where you are. The new ones are something in the line of: ‘there are so little girls I actually have chemistry with, why bother?’, ‘I have reached my potential in game, no use in trying to get better’, ‘It is better for my attractiveness to put my focus on other area’s’ and ‘Some girl will come along, I don’t need to do the work’. The way we get over this sticking point is to realise, in the moment, that these thoughts are designed to keep us in our box. Then we should proceed to do the thing anyway.

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