The following is a formatted version of an old RSD article that was posted on the RSD forums a couple years back. Due to the sheer length of the original post (It was extremely long), I've done my best to format and condense all the parts that you need to know to successfully create and maintain multiple friends with benefits relationships. This will still be very long (there's no way I could condense it even more without leaving out important info), but there is a tremendous amount of value to be picked up from it if you take the the time to read it. Credit goes to ninjasdf, the original user from the rsd forum who posted the original guide. This formatted guide will be separated into different parts that will continue down on the comments section.

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BEGINNING OF GUIDE

PART 1

"Don’t you want some deep connection with a girl instead? Sex is better when you love the other person!"

I don’t know, sex is pretty damn fun either way. I was in a relationship and didn’t find the sex any better. And I found things fell into routine once we both learned what the other person liked. Having a variety of FBs means always running into new stuff, and that’s exciting to me!

This is the biggest reason most guys can’t handle fuckbuddy situations. They get jealous when they see or hear about their FB fucking other guys. I’m not jealous at all, because I’m all for people hooking up with whoever they’re attracted to, as long as they’re safe about it. We’re human, we like to fuck, that’s just how it goes.

I used to regularly be in situations where a fuckbuddy and I would finish fucking and be laying there sweaty and cuddling, and she’d talk about some guy she wishes would notice her and I’d give her advice on how to land him…so I’m pretty far to the extreme non-jealous side of the scale haha

2 steps to avoid and handle your jealousy

1) Whatever I expect her to allow me to do, logically I can’t get upset if she does the same.

2) If I choose not to provide her with something she wants, then logically I can’t get upset if she seeks out a guy who can

Setting the Groundwork

So how do you set the groundwork early on? You can't just TELL her you only want sex, it'll make you look shallow and like you're a player and no girl would willingly get into that kind of relationship because she'll feel like a slut, right? Well actually, you CAN just flat out tell her…long as you do it in a fun way.

Humor, future projection, roleplaying and misinterpretation are about to be your best friends.

If you joke about something, she will start thinking about that thing and be more open to it when it presents itself. Like when you've just met, you joke about how you two are going to have hot passionate sex, and now in her mind she's got that possibility there and she slowly begins to accept your frame and understand that's what's going to happen and you get less last minute resistance.

Or to start down the three-some path you joke about your GF and you going out and seducing a girl together, and then as she gets comfortable with that joke, next time you're at a club you start pointing out girls together, and eventually she accepts the seducing a girl together concept and you eventually do exactly that.

So I tend to drop this at some point early on:

First the ever classic "You and I would never get along, we're way too similar." but then followed up with "We're going to have to keep our relationship completely shallow and based on nothing but using eachother for wild crazy sex and making up excuses to leave in the morning. :D" said with a bigass cheeky smile and said in a sarcastic joking voice. It must be super super clear that you are joking around, so that she can laugh and go "oh totally" which tells you she's open to the concept.

When you get her number, again said with a grin, yes it's all good old cocky/funny: "no calling me drunk at 3am confessing your love for me, I need my beauty sleep." This puts the idea in her head to call you when she's out drinking because you've already joked about it so she knows you wouldn't be like "wtf don't call people after 11pm it's rude!". It even gives her an excuse to call, you've put the idea in her head that it'd be funny to bug you by calling you and saying a drunken "I looooove youuuuu" which she'll backwards rationalize as she must dig you otherwise why would she be calling. I've waken up to txts and voicemails leaving messages like that with the chicks cackling away when I scold them, which of course encourages them to do it again. These are easy to escalate into telling her to come over or if you're out, finding out what bar she's at, so you can spank her for breaking your rules etc

Random stuff again said jokingly...you're setting the groundwork for these jokes to end up being true eventually. Future projection. Like starting a rumour that, repeated enough times and for long enough, eventually everyone believes really happened.

"I'm not just a piece of meat at your beck and call! ...unless, you know, we're drunk." - This lets her know that you guys can play hard to get, but if you’re out partying or have had a drink at all, you’ve provided her with an excuse she’s welcome to use to call you up for a booty call.

"no, I'm terrible with remembering names. But names are only important in the morning when you can't remember them anyway haha" - again said jokingly, but it shows that you don’t take sex very seriously (what you feel, she feels) and that it’s just setting a fun frame to randomly hooking up…you are not the guy to go to for romantic boyfriend sex. This also lets her know that you hook up with other girls and she can assume you probably will in the future.

"haha thanks, I AM funny. Girls are always laughing…soon as my pants come down, they just burst out laughing." - always gets a laugh, and now she’s thinking about girls taking my pants down, again no romantic stuff.

"I don’t know why we took each other’s numbers, with all this crazy sexual tension we have going on you’re just going to end up booty calling me at 2am when your standards are low and some dude at the bar barfed on your shoe. I’ll be out getting my beer goggles on and get your txt and we’ll end up drunk and groping each other on a public bench somewhere haha" - again I’m joking about something but planting the suggestion so that eventually this will happen and she knows I’m open to it. It also gives her an excuse to txt me something like "Some dude barfed on my shoe!! Lol" that I can lead toward us hooking up, instead of her not txting me because she’s not smooth and all she can come up with is "I’m horny and slutty, let’s have sex!"

"ya my ex was super needy, she'd call me every day and not even for anything important. Just like "so how's your day? I had a salad for lunch..." haha girls are nuts." - This lets her know not to call you girlfriend-style every day, because you’re not her boyfriend. She might WANT to call you, but she’ll know that that might fuck things up so she’ll settle for just thinking about you 24/7 and being super happy when you DO give her a shout, which is a great position to be in.

"nighty night, try not to dream about me." - I usually txt her this when I know she’s curled up in bed about to go to sleep. Again just keeping me in her head as the guy to have sexy dreams about.

"I thought I recognized you, you were hiding outside my bedroom window last night weren‘t you." - Setting the frame of her chasing you, bedroom window makes it more sexual than just "window", and again it’s fun sexual fling antics where she can have a mental image of herself creeping around your bushes planning to jump your bones VS boring romantic stuff.

"haha well I wouldn’t say I’m a player…to me a player is a guy who just fucks and runs and will tell a girl he loves her just to get her into bed. I know guys that do that and I don’t respect that shit, it just ends up with the girl getting hurt. I’m just a guy chick’s like hanging out with and I’m not afraid to make a move on a girl if I dig her, you know?" - This lets her know she can trust you to escalate on her, and also trust you not to lead her on and break her heart.