I'm starting a site with friends to help give feedback for texting / tinder / dating app conversations, and we really could use some content, and we don't want to just steal it! I love the posts shown on this sub, I know you guys are out there texting, and looking to you for help.

The idea is giving an annotation style interface so anyone (including verified dating experts) can give feedback like THIS.

We'll blur out any personal information (names, numbers, cities, schools), and the top 40 submissions will get their conversations graded and annotated by dating experts. The 3 best submissions (voted by company founders) will get 30 minutes of free personal dating advice on hermes.social.

Please send screenshots of full conversations to [email protected] (or can PM me here) They will go public in a week or so as the site goes live.

And now as promised, a tip on texting:

Value Velocity

Say you get this text:

Them: “So what did you think of The Martian??”

You could send a short low-value reply:

  • (1) You: “It was great.”

Or a long high-value reply:

  • (2) You: “It was a very enjoyable movie, I was entertained pretty much the whole time. I thought Matt Damon’s performance was really good… I’m sure critics are gonna be writing about that… and I might be starting to develop a crush on him cause he’s just so likable on screen. Lol”

Or a short high-value reply:

  • (3) You: “Loved it. Also I have a crush on Matt Damon now lol”

For each option (1)-(3), we can divide the emotional value by the size and get the average value per word of your text. We call that your value velocity.

  • (1) low-value / short = medium value velocity
  • (2) high-value / long = medium value velocity
  • (3) high-value / short = high value velocity

Your value velocity is the rate at which you deliver emotional value in a social interaction. High-social-status people, like celebrities and politicians, tend to speak (and text) with high value velocity. You should strive to always have high value velocity in your texts.

To keep your value velocity high, just follow these two tips:

  • Always give emotional value.
  • Make every word count.

Keeping your value velocity high isn’t just a texting tip, it’s a way of being. It’s a critical factor in virtually every social interaction – whether it’s a date, a long-term relationship, a business lunch, or a speech to congress.