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[–]CompetitionFair7686 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
If your conversations go like this, you are doing it wrong:
She: “So what do you do for a living?
You: I’m a journalist working at the Herald News and you?
She: I’m a nurse working at Santa Monica hospital
You: Oh cool you like it?
She: Yeah, it’s fun
You: Nice, is it close to your hometown i imagine?
She: Not exactly, i grew up in Candem town which kinda far from here.
You: Oh, yeah, i visited that place once, they have some nice food in there
She: Oh yeah, definitely, that’s one of the best things, but i had to leave cuz i don’t like staying in one place
You: Oh so you like travelling a lot dont you?
She: Oh yeah, i went to japan recently”
You: Oh i wanna go there, did you like it?”
She: Yes it’s very different from here
You: Oh i bet
If this is more or less how your conversations go with girls, then this is the problem. It’s all logical, predictable, dull, forgettable, conversations that do not trigger any emotions, any sexual tension, or anything…
And if she doesn’t feel turned on or emotionally invested in any way with you, then the conversation isn’t really seductive and it was a waste of time.
So, below is how you could improve this same conversation by spicing things up.
Let’s put an example:
She: What do you do for a living?
You: I sell pictures of my feet to gay men in onlyfans.
She: hahahahaha, no way, you for real?
You: I am indeed
She: Wow, that was so unexpected. Does it pay well?
You: Nah, i’m just fucking around with you, i’m actually a journalist.
She: Omg, you are such an ass, i actually believed you for one sec.
You: Haha, couldn’t resist, just wanted to see how innocent you are.
She: Asshole 🤣
You: So what about you, what do you do?
She: I am a nurse at Santa Monica Hospital
You: If i ever get sent there, i’m gonna sue the hospital if I don’t get you as my nurse
She: Haha, is that so?
You: “Yeah, i only trust innocent pretty nurses with my life”
She: Sure, sure… I bet you say that to all the pretty nurses.
You: Well, as long as they make me feel the way you do, then yes.
She: Oh yeah? And how do I make you feel exactly?
You: Well when you smile at me like that, i feel like my heart is gonna explode, and it’s your fault for being so cute.
She: Hahaha, you are making me blush.
You: We barely know each other and you are already blushing. Girl we’ve got some chemistry”
More or less this is how you can make it more flirty, more fun, and more unpredictable by answering absurd things to her questions.
Most women want to laugh, and have fun. They don’t want to over analyse shit, or think logical when they are flirting.
It’s all about being humorous, observant, commenting on things you observe about the environment, heck even if you to all about topics, let’s say religion you can make it funny and light by simply joking:
• She: So what do you think about religion?”
• You: That me and the devil would get along great, i’m sure you could be our succubus and join our plans for world domination”
or
• You: “Well i’m going to hell for sure, unless someone saves me in less than 24 hours… That’s why i came for your help”
See what i did there?
Rather than talking about religion, whether I believe in god, or which religion is the real one, or getting into a debate about the big bang or evolution, or any boring crap like that… I switched it something more humorous and more light.…
Another example:
• She: “What do you think about science”
• You: “Well girl, I think you and me have some chemistry together😏”
You take the opportunity to flirt, while avoiding any deep convos.
Let’s put one last made up example of a playful conversation just to help you see an ideal fun conversation:
• She: What’s your sign?
• You: Libra and you
• She: Oh same
• You: Well, let’s just get married then
• She: Haha, for sure, where is our wedding?
• You: Las vegas baby, but this has to be our secret, or we might get in trouble”
• She: Why would we get in trouble?
• You: Because my parents are christian and i’m not, and they want a catholic weddings.
• She: i’d like a catholic wedding too”
• You: Well darling, then i’m afraid we can’t be together anymore, i want a divorce
• She: Hahaha, but we aren’t even married yet, how can there be a divorce?
• You: Doesn’t matter, you keep the children, I keep the dog. Tell them I’ll miss them, but not as much as the dog.
• She: Wow, and why shouldn’t i be the one to keep the dog instead?
• You: Really? are you really gonna abandon your children to a guy like me? What kinda of mother are you?
• She: Oh! Says the guy who misses the dog more than OUR children?
• You: I mean they don’t call a dog a man’s best friend for nothing… Besides, the dog loves me more
• She: 😂That’s not true, the dog loves mommy more.
• You: “Don’t make our dog choose who he loves most, it’s not fair to them
• She: I don’t need to, coz he is a good boy, and good boys love mommy more
• You: - There is only one way to make this divorce deal.
• She: - What way?
• You: - Rock paper scissors. Whoever wins gets to keep the dog, and whoever loses owes the other a drink
• She: - Haha ok, 1 2 3
• You: - (I win) Piña colada for me and my dog thank you
• You: - (She wins) “I’ll miss you buddy, (talking to an imaginary dog) I wish i’d marry you instead”.
That’s more or less how to be playful and fun.
[–]TemperatureNo477 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Good examples, but how do I have such conversations ? So how do I trigger emotions, how do I make a conversation unforgettable? How do I get to respond to such absurdities? And could the absurdities become at some point exaggerated ?
[–]CompetitionFair7686 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can exaggerate, or give unexpected answers to her questions, or express how you feel, and flirt to create sexual tension, that’s how you trigger emotions, and you have examples of how in the previous comment above.
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[–]TemperatureNo477 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
And how do I manage to think of such absurdities during a conversation? I had such good conversations, but unfortunately I can't always think of such things. Sometimes I'm afraid that the person I’m talking to will find me ridiculous or that the conversation is not entertaining or good enough
[–]CompetitionFair7686 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You need to practice by talking to people, observe how other people do it, and copy them.
You can observe comedies or comedians, or even study improv and just copy their lines or study how they structure the humour so you can create your own lines.
You can take the examples above as inspiration to sit at home and create similar conversations.
So if she says she's a teacher, how do I quickly come up with a funny answer?
You can flirt: “If i had a teacher like you in high school, i would have failed on purpose just so you can punish me over and over”
[–]Creepyunclexd 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Its easy. Ask questions not like interview but questions about experiences. When the person answers you add a little bit of your experience in the end. Keep it going until you find out if the person want to talk to you or not. Also when a person is telling you something you look into the eyes and confidently listen to them while saying hmm hmm hmm
[–]TemperatureNo477 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What do you mean with ask about experiences ? Can you give an example ? Sometimes when I’m talking to somebody about what I think experiences it still feels a little bit like an interview. And how can you make people want to talk to you ?
[–]Creepyunclexd 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ask about their studies or their jobs. Then ask something controversial thing about that job but in a mature and positive way. When you ask something controversial then the person most of the times will care to explain it to you. About making people want to talk to you.... Then you gotta be good looking or rich or something doing interesting. You can't expect people to come talk to you if you're just another normal guy.
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