dealing with insecurities

Hello everyone

i have question about dealing with my insecurities.

I have developed physical condition where my muscles get weak faster than normal peopleand it's progressive. so right now i cannot lift "heavy" stuff and my legs get tired after walking for about 3~4 hours and i also limp when i walk. i used to think dating was over for me. and part of me still thinks that way. i mean i never heard any girls saying "I love dating guy with physical disability" say no girls ever. fyi this condtion does not hinder my sexual performance haha i give my girl orgasm at least 3 times per week and i know she loves it cuz she basically becomes animal when we are in bed haha

anyway the problm is that my gf somes worries alot about my conditoin. i mean i understand cuz she sees it whenever we meet. and when i see her worrying about me, i honest feel really bad.. it makes me feel like i am not good enough for her and i get inscure about it. she said she worries cuz she cares for me which i understand but i start feel bad that i am not as healthy as normal people and have more fun with her. if there something i can do to cure this condtion then i would no matter what it takes but unfortunately there are no cures yet. i still hit the gym every day and try to clean...

how do you deal with your inscurities like that?

[–]aFalseSlimShady 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This isn't the same thing you're dealing with, but it's the closest thing I have to relate.

I used to be a bouncer at a bar. I often had to confront people, and these interactions always had the potential to go sideways and turn violent. In these standoffs, one of my best deterrents was my stoicism and confidence. The problem was that when the adrenaline hit, I would start to shake. My voice and hands would start to tremble. What was adrenaline and anxiety looked like nervousness and fear, and betrayed the air of confidence I was trying to put forward.

Then one day, I got a job where we had cameras facing the entrances. I got to watch these confrontations on video. I realized that my nervousness was completely indiscernable to anyone watching. I was a stone cold statue. Eerily stoic.

That's when I realized that no one had ever been able to tell. I could feel the shake and assumed everyone else could hear and see it, but they couldn't. From then on, I handled these confrontations knowing I looked fearless to the other guy. I stopped doubting myself.

Insecurities are in your head. Yes you have a disability and yes it may be visible. However, the degree to which others notice it and dwell on it is wildly inflated in your own mind. You constantly think about it so you assume everyone else is. They are not.

Title	dealing with insecurities
Author	KindlyBeginning72
Upvotes	1
Comments	1
Date	November 13, 2024 8:28 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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