Define my problem

2020-10-06T14:16:15+00:00

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oikmule · 2020-10-06T09:20:22+00:00

I have the same problem bro, but I don’t know exactly what the root cause is. Might be because we haven’t had enough experience. The more experience you have, the more you realise human beings are diverse and better for just bang.

oikmule · 2020-10-06T09:23:42+00:00

I think to fix this problem you gotta find a girlfriend that you really like. Then when you have female friends you won’t start thinking romantically uncontrollably.

But to find a girl friend, you need female friends for social proofing, so it just ends up in a loop lol.

ggweep · 2020-10-06T11:58:29+00:00

Just value another human being for his own humanity first. You’ll have much more meaningful sexual interactions that way, even if it’s just a fling.

Banging is a one sided, self centred view on intercourse.

Having a intimate relationship with someone is much more fulfilling if it’s a dialogue, instead of just a lust for auto satisfaction. (I.e. don’t think about women as sex bots)

If that dialogue involves some body parts and fluid exchanges in various permutations that is pleasurable for both parties, the better ;)

theforgeproject · 2020-10-06T13:13:58+00:00

Nope. Actually I think you might be trolling for a pat on the back.

Your mindset is where it should be. There is no honest logic to being friends with a girl that you want to date or fuck.

Most guys here are dishonest with themselves and think it’s fine to be buddies with a girl they are secretly interested in so eventually “when the time is right” they will “make a move” lol. They are scared and want to take the safest road possible.

They literally invite themselves into the friendzone

You’re doing it right.

stampyvanhalen · 2020-10-06T09:09:05+00:00

You can chill and bang and be friends. You can eat a banana upside down in a tree. The first one will require a partner though. So just in general be less creepy.

tibles20 · 2020-10-06T10:20:27+00:00

I would they can be valuable i have loads of friends who are girls what is like to have girls flirt with you

Title	Define my problem
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	0
Comments	11
Date	October 6, 2020 9:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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