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[–]futuremo 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like you got some one-itus. You got to deal with that man, read up on it and having an abundance mentality. She's allowed to entertain other guys, you went on one date and it sounds like you didn't make a move at all, there's nothing to complain about, no need to get upset and block her.
There's nothing special you need to do.. Relax, hang out with her again (no need to bring up other guys), and in the meantime, be on the lookout for other women
[–]Serafal 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
ofc she is allowed to entertain other guys.she can do as she pleases, i wouldn‘t block her because i‘m upset it‘s more of a i‘m not really interested in only being her friend thing. if the road doesn‘t lead to where i want it to better of saving the energy and focusing on other stuff. if that makes sense
[–]futuremo 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I understand what you're saying, but what's the point in blocking her? I just don't think it's the best mindset - what if she changes her mind and wants to give you another shot in the future? Sounds like your ego is a bit too involved. Just do you and if you hang out with her again make a move this time. Or, if you're done bc she hung out with some other guy, just keep it moving and on to the next one.
Keep it simple.
[–]Serafal 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Thanks mate i appreciate the advice. It‘s just blocking her gives me closure. Done topic and next. I like to live by a quote. „Life is simple you make choices and don‘t look back“. Reason i made this post is i‘m unsure what to choose and what i want. If by your example later on she changes her mind and wants to give it a shot i‘d like to think i‘d be completely uninterested and wouldn‘t care. I say i‘d like to think because i‘m not 100% sure. Never happend to me at least not that i know of because as you might have guessed i blocked em all. Currently reevaluating if this has been the right move so far. I like to focus on myself do whats best for me. Might seem egoistical but it‘s the truth.
[–]futuremo 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That's fine man, it's your life. But, if you're not getting the results you want, sometimes it's worth considering switching things up.
Best of luck.
[–]Serafal 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah maybe i should switch things up… solid advice got some thinking to do. Thanks for your help. Was actually helpful and gave me a new perspective to consider.
[–]Serafal 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
fair point didnt make a move because we went for drinks and at a certain point, i felt like she was too drunk.
[–]TimGreen_1888 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Mate, you’ve mentioned blocking twice in this. Let’s chill a little
If she has time next Saturday- set a date and then totally disengage until then. If the situation with the other guy is too much, next her.
solid advice. thanks she already said she has time next saturday. i‘m still unsure if the situation with the other guy is in your words too much. i was hoping if seeing other viewpoints on this and seeing what they would do or would have done gives me a better idea of what i want
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