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[–]bestialvigour 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It differs from girl to girl, because women are unique and all have different likes and personalities.
If she's outgoing and spontaneous, chances are she wants a partner with similar high energy. But you'll never know unless you actually talk to people to gauge if you share a level of baseline compatibility.
[–]sincere_blasphemy 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
No disrespect meant here, but just because someone is very feminine doesn’t mean that they are interested in super masculine! It just depends on the person. :)
Good for you for knowing what you want; it may help narrow down who you want to go for. Just remember that you might find someone wonderful who doesn’t fully match those qualities and may still be great for you.
I think that this type of women is a very broad category since your qualifications are basically fun, happy-go-lucky, slim, pale skin, big booty. There’s all sorts of people that might fit within that role. You’ll really have to find someone that fits that and gauge your approach based on her and her interests.
For example, maybe she is giggly and confident, but (surprise!) she doesn’t like going out to party and prefers intimate gatherings like a book club or something like that.
My only advice would be to not mention to her that you love her ass/figure/etc until you’re already in a romantic or sexual relationship. GENERALLY… women don’t like those things pointed out unless they already consent to the sexy/flirty talk (meaning you’re already getting down and dirty). It just comes off as creepy.
Instead, I would compliment her on her personality or things she chose, like her outfit. “You’re so confident, I love your laugh!” Etc
TLDR: Everyone is different, gauge approach based on who she is as a person, and don’t mention that hot ass until you are more intimate with her and she consents to sexy talk (otherwise we usually find that creepy as hell)
Good luck!
[–]Extension_Ad2683 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You're a very nice person I could tell, thank you.
[–]sincere_blasphemy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Gee, thanks! Just trying to help you out. Good luck in your romantic endeavors
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[–]sincere_blasphemy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
There’s plenty of women out there that would be super into you! Good luck on courting them :)
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[–]sincere_blasphemy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
There was a guy at my work who was super attractive, definitely my type. Dark skinned Chicano (race doesn’t matter to me, just giving context since you said you’re darker), very thin, shorter (5’3”) super nice fade. We wore uniforms so I idk his personal style; I think dark t-shirts and jeans. Laid back basically.
To be clear, I am in a long-term serious relationship so I would never approach him or anything, but I can acknowledge that he was attractive. One of my coworkers had a big crush on him; she asked me to ask him for his number LOL! And she was hella cute haha.
You’ll find your people.
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Man that really sucks. I don’t have a lot of experience with that personally since most of the people in my community are Latinx or Chicano specifically and often date within their own race. Like there’s a lot of social pressure for Latino guys to be super masculine and machismo, dominant in relationships, and not emotional, like playing it cool all the time.
Idk man, racism is no joke. It sucks how pervasive it is in our daily lives
And PS, a nice fade is 👌👌👌 Especially if it’s always fresh. Very suave!
[–]MistyMaisel 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Honestly, speaking as that girl, I never quite had a type.
You've got to understand: warm, friendly, confident, bubbly, fun, giggly, and hot basically fits in everywhere with all types of guys. We're essentially the perfect chameleon. So it mostly comes down to individual preferences and opportunities, and stories. All guys like us and generally speaking, we tend to enjoy most people and like most guys.
So typically speaking, it isn't a type we are after. We're usually after essentially a hot play mate. Someone else who also wants to be joyful and fun as their core.
[–]Extension_Ad2683 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Ugh she was soooooo into me at one point. Now she ghosts me cuz I guess I didn't make a move fast enough & was insecure to her extremely confident advances.
I'm good looking, very funny, tall, charismatic but didn't respond to her attraction signs because I'm inexperienced.
So oneday I told her I was interested and got her snap. Left me on opened. I'm assuming she lost attraction or found someone that's confident enough sigh.
Basically just venting but have you ever have issues getting over somebody? Uggghhh.
[–]sincere_blasphemy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
We all want to be liked, desired, and for our advances to be reciprocated. I’m sorry man 😔
don’t give up hope, maybe she’s just busy. I would try again, but please be careful to respect her boundaries if she tells you she’s not interested.
[–]Extension_Ad2683 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Nooppe. She's not interested. We work together. Didn't even say she wasn't interested, left me on opened. Felt a little disrespected tbh.
[–]sincere_blasphemy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Ah I’m sorry about that; that’s a bummer :(
I hope you find a lovely lady somewhere else
[–]Extension_Ad2683 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
All good. I overthink things though. Like I see her still looking at me but she's always on her phone. If somebody told you you liked them and they shoot their shot through snap would you atleast have the decency to tell them their not interested?
Like, I have self respect im not going to snap her back and I keep all interactions logical.
But is that normal??
You know… it really depends. For me, I am in a long term relationship and make that very upfront, so if someone asked me knowing I was taken, that’s quite a different situation. In the past, I have had this happen twice and both times I gently said that I’m taken, but I’m sorry, and I hope they find someone elsewhere.
However, if that was not the case, I generally would be polite and tell them upfront (the dreaded, I see you as a FRIEND! Haha). If this person gave me a weird feeling or was violating my boundaries by being a creep or messaging me too much or something, I’d probably block their number and ghost them. That’s for safety reasons and also because I really don’t owe someone my attention, especially if they are obviously making me really uncomfortable.
[–]Extension_Ad2683 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
A f-f-fRIEND??
It's not like I'm a dick or anything but it really really ticks me off how she just leaves me on opened after being coworkers for so long and laughing at my jokes for so fucking long.
I'm not a creep and I didn't spam her. She would say I'm her best friend all the time.
It just ticks me off how I don't know wtf she's thinking I've lost a lot of attraction for her because of how rude she is.
Still attracted to her though tbh and I love everything about her even her personality It's just that's an asshole move and I just UGGGGGGHHHHHHH. I NEED TO TALK TO MORE FKIN WOMAN.
Yeah, she’s probably not worth your time if she’s not at all reciprocating your attention. Still a big letdown though tbh. I wish I had some advice in how to go find sexy women to talk to, but if I did, I’m sure all of Reddit would be hounding after me!
[–]Extension_Ad2683 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Haha yknow man thank you a lot for your time helping some random college guy out. I really appreciate it, honestly. I needed somebody to talk to. Karma my guy karma. I hope all the best to you.
Plus I'm in college sexy girls all around. But personality is what drives me wild.
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Hot rich successful dudes
[–]CocoBabeNYC 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They like men who ignore them.
I guess most girls fall for guys from these four categories:
Sometimes it may really depend on the circumstances and stage in her life. Anyway, you should still be the best version of yourself, it is really troublesome to keep the frame that you don't really like, and girl often doesn't exactly realise what is turning her on anyway.
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