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[–]FrankenBeanTheGreat 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Dude, guys are turned on by visuals, women are typically more turned on by emotional connection and like having that emotional spark. Whether you want to date this woman or just hookup, a week is a long time. When/if you see her next, you're still gonna be like "damn she's hot!" And be interested/more interested. Whereas for her you showed initial interest and then had absolutely no communication for a week and expect her interest to still be there. Sure for some girls it might be, but not for everyone.
Think about it like this: if you interviewed for a job and they seemed interested in hiring you but then you didn't hear from them for a week, you would assume they moved on and then if they did eventually get in touch, you would be like: "nah, you're playing".
Couple of days maximum after getting details check in, ask how they are. Show interest without it being about reassuring yourself they are attending your planned date/meetup. Trust me, she gave you her number cause she was interested. She is aware of who you are in that you are on her contacts as that dude she is meeting up with in a week's time.
I once had a guy ask me out so we exchanged deets. He then forgot he had already asked me out and asked me out in my dms. I lost interest and respect instantly. She doesn't need a reminder that you have a date/meet up, she needs a reminder taste about why she agreed to date/meetup.
[–]inawlaah 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Agree with every word of yours, and now I thinking how to fix shit, coz it’s tmrw😂 I think imma give up on this
[–]FrankenBeanTheGreat 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn dude. You live and learn. At least you didn't forget and ask her out again XD.
Is cool tho just drop her a message like: "we still on for tomorrow? Depending on what you were planning to do maybe note something you think she would like. Like if you are getting food mention a menu item you think she'd like or whaevs. If she ignores then you have your answer. But speaking as a person in an HR job a seriously good rule of thumb is "If an job recruiter would show more interest, there is something wrong" XD
[–]inawlaah 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just that I saw it from a guys perspective, added the date to calendar and back to work;(
[–]inawlaah 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
“Hey, I had a busy week and couldn’t be in touch, but will see ya tmrw:)”
[–]FrankenBeanTheGreat 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Hmmm it's a slightly negative tone. Like "too busy to even message" gives off uninterested vibes but like "oh yeah, just remembered this girl was an option. Maybe try more "damn, hope your week has been less hectic than mine. Been a madhouse. Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow, I really think you'll like xyz date/meetup thing" It appeals to emotional connectivity and sensitivity rather than logistical thinking. It's kind of " oh damn, he works so hard but seems real sweet and thoughtful"
Yeah I agree it could give that vibe (which was the case) but explaining too much may come off girly i believe
But thanks a lot for your advice. I combined our responses. Blew up. So post is closed. But yeah a learning point indeed. Have realised girls need constant reminder of the fact that they were attracted to a man for a reason. Kind of a bummer, coz I mean, we are busy, can’t realy do that lol, but ig for the special one makes sense. Thanks again Franken, truly appreciate it!
[–]FrankenBeanTheGreat 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's not a constant reminder that is needed. It's literally just acknowledging that attraction for men and women stem from different things. If you don't have the time to make contact once or twice during a whole week of time, then the seduction and dating game isn't going to be difficult.
Seduction is either the really fast paced game of people who go out looking for someone for that night or else it's knowing how to talk to women to keep them interested and that's at the very least a little more contact than a recruiter.
[–]iceking123 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How did it go my guy?
[–]inawlaah 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I texted her, "okay, I'll let you know" and then never let her know.
I would have loved the have her (for sex only, considering the amount of sex I get is less) but also I have realised there is no point in running behind girls to get them. After you realise the amount of options you have and the fact that girls are ready to run behind you if you be a man, the world changes. Not that I have achieved that state in its permanency, but have been there so I know it's possible and leads to being relaxed in life about girls lol
Sorry for the extra bullshit, but thanks for asking. How was your last pursuit?
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