I’ve recently had a small epiphany that “boringness” can actually be a help, as opposed to holding me back as I used to think.

I’ve had a good amount of success on dates where it feels fairly awkward. I am typically called “calm” and get comments that I “ask a lot of questions”.

Basically my theory is that the tension that is created by a little awkwardness increases attraction on both ends because that is often how people feel around people they find highly attractive anyways. You’re both trying to impress the other person, to lessen the awkwardness and prove you can get past it.

It also helps for me because I’m much more comfortable when things get physical. That basically means that both of us soon realize the best way to be less awkward is to escalate physically.

NOTE: this does not work well in loud environments or groups, unless you already know the girl.

These environments will cause the girl to become distracted easily.