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[–]divoyal 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (19 children) | Copy Link
Learn from the fact that she might have clearly stated her boundaries but you did not respect them. Even though she might have told you she was open to having sex, she did not feel any attraction which is what most women need before they want to. Once you let this sink in, forget about her (don't invest in people who don't invest in you)
[–]lolothe2nd 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link
Thats the point i did respected her boundaries.. but maybe she thought that was the only reason i came, and got upset for being treated in a one way street..
[–]divoyal 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
I don't know what happened exactly but if you are sure you respected her, just move on. Sounds like she wasn't sure about what she wanted and you are. Would be better to connect with like-minded people
[–]lolothe2nd 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
The thing that It happened years ago.. looking at the situation now its a new page
[–]divoyal 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
The situation isn't different from what you mentioned. She still seems upset and isn't willing to talk about it, so moving on is the only advice I could give you. Like I said, don't invest in people who aren't willing to give back. Dating is supposed to feel effortless and relationships require mutual effort
[–]lolothe2nd 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
Well she didn't mention it every time we talked like i said.. I agree that is supposed. But life is not a walk in the park
[–]divoyal 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
You seem hopeless for her attention to be honest. Show some self respect and leave her until she reaches out to you, and then only accept her willingness to talk to you if she wants to work on the issues you have together. Personally I would just leave everything as-is
[–]lolothe2nd 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
Hopless? Why hopless?
What do you think of my responses in my last exchange with her? Does it seam hopless/week. Or maybe im calm and above as i think
Because if i am. I think she will reply herself with giving time
[–]divoyal 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Hopeless because you seem to be willing to do a lot just to make sure everything is good between you two, but she is making it very clear she isn't willing to. Your last exchange does seem hopeless / weak yes. You dismiss her from debt, what does that mean? She won't have to pay you anymore for whatever if she agrees on talking with you again? That does seem hopeless
[–]lolothe2nd 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
She sad i was thinking women owes me sex. So i said i dismissing her from debt jokingly because i dont think she owes me sex.. How do you know what im willing or not to do anything? I didn't do anything beside saying that im not mad at her and think she's overeacting
[–]divoyal2 points 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
You're saying you didn't do anything but you:
Seriously, take her silence as an answer and move on
[–]lolothe2nd1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Dude so much time went by. Reaching out is not a big deal
[–]divoyal1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
So much time went by, yet you think radio silence for 3 months gets you any closer to her? The opposite happened, you lost her by starting off very insecure by asking if it's fine to react to her FB messages, then confronting her by the fact she's mad and then left a very poor joke. I get it's hard to see when emotions are involved but I hope I open your eyes now and you can see that you are just in no way compatible with her and it would be better to focus on other people
Neh. I didn't confront her man. And also didn't ask permission. read it again man. Its the 2nd time that you quoted wrong. She was the one who reacted unrationaly and i was calm as a frozen lake being super peacefully to her wierd mood
Sure, you did nothing wrong. Makes no sense she left you on read, obviously you do everything right and she needs to talk to you because you are so peaceful and calm and she is weird. Why did you make this post again? Given you're that sure about yourself and your decisions
Listen.. maybe im wrong its possible. But you're saying im all over her and desperate for attention. You misquoted me twice. And said i disrespect her boundaries. You did nothing but gave me false accusations. Maybe you're right with you conclusions.. but also a disfunctional clock is right twice a day
I'm not denying I misquoted you but I did reply to your clarifications so it does not matter if you relate more to what I said or to what you clarified. I think we broke down everything that was mentioned and how you can improve, just make sure you do it for yourself and not for her. Silence is an answer
I appreciate the help and the advice. And i take it right now since i don't have better one (the no reply). But if you state something that is wrong. Back it up with out of the blue assumptions and stay with you opinion after been clarify. It's not very believable.. where if you could break down yourself right away why came to what you thought
To be honest I don't really like these "forum" type kind of conversations so that's on me. I prefer to have more natural chats for mutual understanding so apologize it took some time. Any way, good luck and hope you find somebody who is willing to put the same amount of effort into your communication
Thanks man appreciate it
[–]amazingbrotherpopoff 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
this girl isn’t still attracted to you, she’s not reaching out or investing much in you, she replied to your messages and left you on read.
seems like you really want this situation to go a certain way and that’s affecting your reading of the situation, just leave her be and move on to the next one, that’s the best thing for both of y’all
[–]Creepy-Storage-1786 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Agree and amplify
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