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[–]rightlywrongfull 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Struggled with this myself in the past year. The moment my sexual life became abundant the girl I liked started inviting me to activity's, opened up etc...
Abundance is key all the way up until the relationship has officially started. People like a challenge and for her "winning you over" is that much more rewarding when she has competition.
Just make sure your subtle about it. Don't overshare and keep the comments vague. Let her mind attempt to fill in the blanks.
[–]froze_gold 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So true. This girl in my post found a hair in my bed and talked herself into believing it was some other girls. I just smirked. Its probably why she was acting out, according to her she "Is worth more than I think" and I'm a narcissist. Now I never set a value on her to her face, but I never let her know I was vetting her for relationship material either. What a.. fun game
[–]CrystalBlueEyes8 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What is abundance about?
[–]froze_gold 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Abundance is about having available dating opportunities. Think of it as a safety net for when plans inevitably fall through with someone
[–]CrystalBlueEyes8 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh, ok. Thought you meant like abundance of wealth. I’m new to the sub.
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Just another date with someone you’re seeing (assuming you have regular sex since the 1-2nd meetup, otherwise the rest of my text doesn’t make sense..meaning ur situation is worse)
She has late af (i mean af), but you were there, still met her
You bought her dinner (rewarded her shitty behavior)
She didn’t apologize. And u didn’t call her out.
She started teasing (actually way worse) and you swallowed bs.
Instead of her, you started “having that talk”. Even tolerated her texting other dude.. iow u just let her disrespecting ya all the way
And ur not even mad. Cuz “its ok, no big deal”. Even u said srry. Well..
In short- she walked all over you. YOU LET IT HAPPEN, i won’t blame her.
Dude, its not about abundance. Having 100women won’t make u any better. Its about growing balls and not letting them disrespect you, your time and your resources
Learn to me man. Treat urself the way u want others to treat ya. The way u behaved urself is totally lame, dont let it happen again.
When she’s late up to 15min, thats ok. For 1-2 times. 15+ min call her out and playfully verbalize that she’s gona have to get a dinner for you/ you’ll punish her (spanks or etc..). 25-30min - YOU’RE GHOSTING HER until you hear proper apologize, and she’s gona have to make it to your place. Not that day tho, that nite you ALREADY got another plans, and she’s cancelled..
Ps: she got another dude and you’re just beta orbiter here. Ghost her right away (everywhere) and move on.
[–]froze_gold 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Well no, I bought the dinner hours prior. Some rice, dumplings, easy shit for my air fryer.
When it reached 45 minutes beyond my expectations I put them away. An hour later I ate them for myself.
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Bruh. That food prob was the least important part of what u should pay attention to..
Lets do this. Next time 30min passes (and she doesnt text to warn ya with apologies), you invite someone else to the table and have fun time. And when that entitled ass arrives/ riches out, u tell her “Your time is expired, have a sweet nite, love ya byee”
[–]froze_gold 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
The food was important to me, dammit! It was my post workout!
Lol. I'll try out that idea with the next one to flake. I definitely shouldve been more direct like "I'm not tolerating this shit". Which I did in a way, she said "Im here" and I said "Oh you were still coming? I already started my plans"
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Say str8forward “u know that i gotta punish u, right?”
She’ll make that entitled pikachu face ofc and talk some bs
Then u add “later tonite. I’ll spank u enough.. but rn, make sure u buy me a dinner/my fav pasta”
Most likely she’ll head back, but with respect that you’re not just another loser..tolerating her bs (not just making verbal statements)
[–]froze_gold 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I could do that but I don't know if I want her now. To be honest I was sort of hoping her frame would just cave and she would spin her hamster into coming back to apologize with some sloppy.
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In order to make that happen, you should act completely opposite of the way u did act..
Like, taking ur order and having sweet nite with someone else. And completely ignoring her texts..
I definitely see your point. But I think it's better to give no fuck's and slide it off your shoulder (as well as ghosting, which I am doing) rather than be mad. I'm not that emotional.
Theres big difference between being mad and not letting her disrespect you.
Screaming, showing that you’re affected - is lame
But showing that what she did is very, very wrong move towards you - is what u need
Alright that's a good point. I was too passive and there's no going back from that.
Yep. Having abundance mindset isn’t about having 15 options
Its all about not tolerating any bs & disrespect
0% fear of losing
Put your golden self in first place always. You’ll see the magic
[–]LeftinthePnW 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Put her in her place dude. Fucking just say you know what you’re worth and that you won’t tolerate that bs.
I'm just breaking things off and moving on. I believe her place is implied/has been implied since I met. She says "I'm worth more than you think lol". That was her last text and I didn't respond.
[–]TheTruth221 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
didnt maintain frame and had no abundance
thought this was gon be u telling us that one chick didnt show up but u had another that u can call up
[–]bee_eazsy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t be a simp
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