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ORIONFULL23 · 2021-08-11T23:03:24+00:00

Naa, you gotta practice, start small, when you got close to a woman just say hi, then when you feel confident enough, start making small talk, and then when you feel confident enough, start asking for numbers (even if you're not planning on texting them) and just like that, it's a process to become confident.

Also, one thing that can help your self confidence is your body language, you should be walking with good posture, look people in their eyes, and don't be afraid of people.

Mr_Dudemeister_ · 2021-08-12T14:26:33+00:00

For some it's natural but most people her it's not and you have to train it. It's the reason this sub exists. You're lucky you're still only 17. I'd say dont go talk to a girl with intention of getting their number, but ask like where they got their top from for example. Or ask for directions

Devolution20 · 2021-08-12T04:08:52+00:00

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Embarrassed-Drink-47 · 2021-08-12T16:40:43+00:00

Just go up to her and say hi - introduce yourself - make small talk - touch a little ( shoulder / arm) no too much - chilll and be cool - ask to exchange numbers and don't be pushy if she hesitates, suggest to give her your number and she can reach out if she wants to. Don't think much of it, she is just another person and let me tell you, most women are nervous more than men because they don't have to go through these things...

humptyone · 2021-08-12T21:44:25+00:00

Realize we've all been there. The first thing you should know is you'll get one of two answers. Be good with either. Somethings are not meant to be. Walk up and tell her youd like to take her to ...... It's no sin to be shy about it. Start slow, remember nice beats bold. Treat her like shes a gift.

raspberrybarette · 2021-08-13T00:34:22+00:00

At 17 we feel so insecure about everything. A lot of stuff is still so new to us at 17 so everything feels intimidating. When I was 17 I felt insecure when guys would hit on me. Especially overtly confident ones. I didn’t match that confidence so I felt even more insecure about it. But I felt less anxiety and awkward in low pressure situations; when I didn’t feel like someone was actively hitting on me but more interested in just hanging out in the moment. So maybe you can think of it that way too. Maybe it’s less stressful to just connect with someone as a person first and let the scenario end with you asking for a number or asking to hang out another time. To be specific, for me at 17 that was maybe having a cigarette with someone outside (ew) and just chatting, asking for someone to be my partner game, inviting someone to hang out after school with other friends. Any shared experience is enough to open that door. As a girl, I was much less inclined to interact w someone who hit on me at first interaction as opposed to someone asking for my number after we had been friendly for a little while. What do 17 year olds do now? When you picture approaching a girl where would this take place? At school? Parties? Or just anywhere you see someone in public you want to approach?

sisilego · 2021-08-12T22:01:47+00:00

Well since covid is lifting bit by bit you'll be allowed to go to social gatherings. Once you do, just walk up to a lady and say hi, ask if shes enjoying whatever event you're at. Keep it simple, every interaction with a women doesn't have to end with you going home together

lightmightisright · 2021-08-12T22:13:21+00:00

Break the ice and build your confidence by asking people for information. It will lower the other person’s guard and most people like helping and giving advice. You can then transition to saying something you notice about them.

Here’s a list of openers, these are just examples. Use one or more or come up with your own. The key is to genuinely ask something you are curious about “where did you get those shoes from, they look really cool? How do you like them?” Basically be extremely curious about things that other people are holding, wearing, looking at. Basically ask for information or advice constantly from people. As long as you say “hey excuse me. I have a question real quick” and then give a very brief reason why you are asking the question …most people will engage in a conversation. Just practice keeping the conversation alive.

“Hey, excuse me …do you know of a good restaurant around here? I’m new to the area.”
Notice something about what the person is wearing, like if a girl is wearing an iWatch you can say “Hey, excuse me …I have a question for you real quick, I noticed you’re wearing an iwatch, been thinking of getting one …how do you like it?” Let her answer fully. When shes done talking ask one or two other questions about the watch (what model iwatch is it?)
If you’re in the grocery store and you notice a girl looking at cereal, pick up a box of cereal and walk up to her and say “do you know if this cereal is any good? I’ve never tried it before” …again keep the conversation alive by asking her what her favorite cereal is. You can then go into a mini-story about your favorite cereal and explain why you like it, then ask her why she likes hers.

At some point transition the conversation into something more personal by introducing yourself and then follow up with questions about her: “By the way my name is _______” shake hands and say something like: “Did you grow up in [name of city you are in]?” Try to keep the conversation going by alternating between asking questions, listening to her answer, commenting on what she said, and then asking another question. Don’t just ask one question after another. It’s okay to ask a few questions back to back, but at some point you need to make comments or statements about what she said or about yourself.

Close (again this is just an example of how to soft close)

Say, “what’s your favorite dessert?” Based on her answer say something like, “I know a place that sells really good [name of dessert] …we should grab it sometime, do you text? “ she will say yes, then pull out your phone and simultaneously say “cool, well put in your number and we’ll grab it together” as she’s entering it say “what’s your schedule usually like?” Figure out when the best day and time is to meet.

At this point just text normally with her back and forth. Don’t try to be clever or game-y. Pretend you’re texting your best friend. Then confirm the day and time to meet the day before or a few hours before.

AlexanderA14 · 2021-10-27T21:39:44+00:00

Solid advice.

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