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[–]hunterpua 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
It depends on how good you are at actively leading a conversation and also on how engaged and talkative each individual girl gets.
Actively leading as in you know exactly what to do to keep it going and how to control the direction of it.
If you're good at that then you can choose what kinda conversation you wanna have.
The way the girl factors into that is, the more talkative and engaged she is, the faster you can move things in the direction you want.
Of the 2 choices you mentioned though, a more intimate conversation would be the better option. Is that what you mean when you say your conversations are more rapport based?
[–]mousecop78 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Rapport as in like just getting to know them and establishing common interests or disagreements. I guess I would need to work on driving the conversation into more relationship based talking points, but to me that seems weird when first meeting.
[–]hunterpua 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Oh, I thought when you said "intimate" you meant connecting deeply on a certain topic.
You really don't need to have more relationship based conversations in the beginning unless you're just talking about relationships in general like, "What's the craziest thing you've done in a relationship?"
That kinda talk is alright but if its about your relationship with her, that would come later, like after a having sex a few times later.
But maybe there's something you feel you need to talk about in the early stages. Is there?
[–]mousecop78 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I would have to get more experience before I have an answer to that question. Still a beginner in all this.
[–]hunterpua 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Well alright then. Just build rapport for now and talk about relationship stuff after having sex a few times.
If you're wondering how to move things forward, its very easy to transition from rapport to that.
Since you'll find your commonalities, you'll learn of the things you like that she likes too so just suggest doing something with her related to one of your commonalities. That'll serve as your date.
[–]mousecop78 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Appreciate the advice, makes me feel like I am on the right track.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
It depends but if were talking standard approach for her it probably feels like I am being super intimate with her with me asking super interesting questions about her life, really getting to know her. For me it feels mechanical.
[–]mousecop78 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn it feels mechanical for me too. Tough to tell if its working or not I guess until you get a phone number or something similar.
[–]Outside_Protection31 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
For me, I’ve noticed that most conversations tend to be rapport based too. I find it hard to continue a conversation past small talk without some basic information about the person first. That really gives you the lead that you can take into more in depth conversation in my opinion so I feel like it’s pretty normal. The one problem that I haven’t been able to solve is the girls that respond very basically, giving you little to work with beyond more questions. I just end up calling it quits with most of them.
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