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[–]ShallowWebIntel 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
“Need” is bad. I went through the same thing a few months ago, I constantly was looking up flirting tips, ways to make her want me.
The second you act indifferent to whether she is there or not it’s 10x easier.
[–]aashkk 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
How do you that tho? Also I appreciate the comment :)
[–]ShallowWebIntel 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Work on self confidence. Once you are completely satisfied and happy with how you are, NOT on how to act to keep her attention, you will not care if she cares, and that might lure her in.
And even if it doesn’t, you’re still a handsome self confident man that KNOWS there are plenty of girls out there! Self confidence is such an attractive feature. You don’t NEED her.
[–]aashkk 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Facts bro, thanks for that! But I know the love your self thing and I did a lot of inner work to make my self happy and make me love my self for who I am and to always strive to be better. Literally after time accepting my self and loving my self and my feelings for who and how they are, my life completely changed and I literally let go of wanting a gf or love bc I was happy w me. And then I messed up last night. Oh well I’m just gonna hopefully show her I am better than last night
[–]throwthestrawberry 6 years ago* [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
brooooo slow down. I can FEEL your neediness just reading your post. told her about your feelings? afraid of losing her? researching how to make her want you? surprised shes still talking to you? bro just relax and let things come naturally. keep living your life. keep working out, hanging out with friends, and talking to other women. this experience should be showing you that you are capable of getting girls. it should NOT be showing you that you need her to be validated. everything youre doing (projecting your neediness, rushing things, wanting her to feel the same) WILL SCARE HER OFF. just chill. its not like shes gonna marry you tomorrow anyway. just go with the flow, dont be thirsty.
Preach 🙏 I totally get that. After like researching I realized I was stupid haha, but I did let it go and I am living my life doing what makes me happy, working a lot. Also I am gonna hang out w her tonight so I’m pretty excited 😏 I know she’s about me but I know I was too emotional last night. Other than that I feel like I rocked her world.
[–]throwthestrawberry 6 years ago* [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
when you first meet a girl, you as a man are responsible for showing the initial attraction. youre into her and you have to let her know. thats why men are the ones commonly approaching
after that, you keep your interest level slightly below hers. make her do the chasing, but dont push her away unnecessarily.
[–]aashkk 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I feel like I told her about my feelings a lil and now I’m gonna show little effort. But I literally at that. Like how do I show little effort
[–]quinnmcd[M] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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