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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.
Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?
As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.
[–]boneyjoaniemacaroni 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If she’s wearing headphones, I can assure you she does not want to be approached.
[–]BL00DINMYEYES 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s not always true. If she’s giving ioi’s then she wants to be approached. Headphones or not. Of course if they’re in the gym, everyone will have headphones in.
[–]Spirited_Sink5266 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I think you have a chance with the French woman, forget America.
Just approach her politely. Be yourself and never lie/make up stories. She can find two things from you, the first option you are a stranger the second option is that she may find you cool. If she thinks you're a nice guy, it's your lucky day, otherwise she's a part of it.
[–]kyuuvy -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
tbh, I like the americans more because of her looks that is why I am not giving up just yet. When I asked her on borrowing the weights, she looked at me straight in the eye with a welcoming look. So i feel like I wasn't able to get her attention enough when I tried talking to her when she was done working out. I was at that time, sitting on an equipment and she wasn't looking in my direction.
I'll try again one last time and flex some muscles in front of her before forgeting her.
[–]Pinhunted31 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Come on buddy, "she looked at me with a welcoming look" that's wishful thinking at best and reading too much in a normal behaviour, most people will look you in the eye and say yes you can borrow some weight . Heck I would do the same with a big smile on my face, and engage a conversation about what muscle you are working today, cause I love talking to strangers.
[–]lesterleone 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
My cold approach is.. Walk up to um, headphones in or not. Start looking around the gym till theyre like wtf? They usually take their earbud out if not I gesture for them to then I say something like.. I can't help it, I gotta shoot my shot, ur bfs not close by ready to beat me up is he? I say that n state my intentions cuz she don't wanna waste time at the gym n neither do i.. and alotta girls come with a dude, n it could end up bad.. At that point they either have a dude or make up having a bf which then I reply, ur not allowed to have friends?, If neither happens, prolly means u have a shot. Then I go from there. Lol that might sound off the wall but it works for me. If anything, hopefully it sparks an idea
[–]Pinhunted31 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wow! you really don't mess around do you🤣, I actually go to the gym for my work out 4 times a week, so I would never attempt something like that haha, but hey if it works, it works
[–]lesterleone 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol I dont understand how 4 times a week would prevent you from attempting it? Cuz you gotta go there again n it'll be embarrassing? Haha yeah, u kinda develop a style after a while. But rlly a big part of it is me just not giving af about embarassment or rejection. Once u reach that point, ur golden!
[–]Pinhunted31 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she wears headphones don't try, it's a pretty common "not interested" sign, if she wanted to meet people like you want she wouldn't come with headphones on. That French girl doesn't think anything about you, hell no your not her friend you just met her but that's a good thing just keep it light, fun and a little bit flirty. Compliment her shoes, ask about the exercice she's doing, ask about her goals, say that you are "working on my performances" with a suggestive tone, come close to her while she's doing an exercise ( make eye contact and smile before moving toward her) and say "slower" in a baritone suave voice, don't treat it like a job meeting, Remember you don't care what her job is, what she's studying, her age etc. You are here to work your body and joke with her And no matter what, don't talk about her body if she doesn't start this conversation herself!!! that would make you a creep in her eye.
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