What’s up guys, I (16 m) have been a long time lurker on r/seduction, and this is my first post. So yesterday, I went on first dates in a while, so i expected to be kinda rusty. But this is what went down... I planned to meet up with this really cute girl at a bowling alley and then grab some food from a drive in fast food joint, when she shows up at the alley we say stuff like “What’s up?! Hey!” (I should have gone in with the hug) and then we walk over to our bowling lane. We really enjoyed bowling, we were high fiving and we hugged out of excitement when someone got a strike, and I was giving her tips on how to bowl and doing some kino. At some point I remember complimenting her royal blue shirt she had on because I actually thought it was stunning, and all she said was, “Thank you! Thank you.” (I can’t tell if I’m overthinking but I felt like this was a really platonic reply?) So we finish bowling and we head over to Sonic and get some slushees and sit down in a dark secluded benched area. We start talking and making direct eye contact and we are facing each other but I DID NOT GO IN FOR THE KISS. But, I have my reasons, she seems to be attached somewhat to her ex and refers to him and admits that she has trouble letting go, so I felt like I should have given her time and not make any moves. (Also, I don’t know if this is important but I remember my dad saying that when you are going to kiss someone it would/should feel like you two just go in without any tension, like someone is pushing you two together. Should I just throw this out? It tends to clash with seduction imo and I didn’t feel this way even though I would definitely kissed her given the actual chance) So we are just there making contact and talking and then she says she needs to go back to the alley because her mom is gonna be there and doesn’t her going anywhere other than the bowling alley. So we stand outside next to a trash can and I feel like I might be able to go for the kiss if I see the hints. However, she ended up angling herself on the opposite side of a trash can and legitimately could not make eye contact with me. So we stand there and talk about herself and whatever. THEN her mom pulls up and offers me a ride. So, I accept and we both sit in the back of her minivan (the third row) and I start talking to her mom and at the same time laying my hands on the girl’s thigh , and the girl does not seem to mind it at all, however whenever she talks, she looks straight ahead and wouldn’t make eye contact with me even though I was looking at her. But, she did invite me to her church. So we get to my house and she’s willing to come to my front steps and then my parents are there and they all start talking blah blah blah. She leaves (no hug) probably because of all the parents talking? And says see ya. 

 I then get a text saying “I had a lot of fun tonite :))” and she also says “My Mom was wondering if it was a date, and I just said it was hanging out but between you and me it’s a date;)” I then said alright, and tell her if she was okay with the flow of things because I want to give her time to get her ex out of her mind. She then replies something about how she respects me for that and she agrees how she does need to be alone for a little bit longer so she doesn’t lead me on and decide she doesn’t like me (she did this with another dude) and how she doesn’t really want me and her to be “talking” (her kind of talking is basically dating and fucking) and she said, “I’m not friendzoning you, but” and finishes the text. She then says I am really fun to be around, and I asked could you see us as being more than friends? And she said, “You’re a wonderful guy and I could definitely see us as being more than friends.”

Long ass post I know.. TLDR: Did not make any moves, possibly friendzoned myself, however she seems to be into me based off the post date texts, but her calling me wonderful but then saying she could see us as more than friends confuses me. All in all, I might be overthinking ffs. I need help